Be Nice

Simba15

Member
On a recent Great Strides walk I was approached by a mother of a CFer. Because I was wearing a green shirt, she knew I was a CFer. At first I thought it was nice she approached me to say hello. She then began telling me how wonderful her CF clinic is and she could not "get through it without them." I told her that was great. She asked me if I went to the same clinic and I said, " I have and I don't have the same experience you do. My experience was not good." Her attitude changed, her body language changed and her demeanor changed. She ended up walking away. Really?!

We all deal with CF in some way. We have different forms, mutations, symptoms, illnesses and level of functioning. One person is not better or worse than the other. We all suffer. I don't have any family to support me emotionally. Her son has her. I have no one. Did she think about that while she saw me standing there alone? Each person has their own battles.
Acting snippy b/c one person's experience is different than another's is immature, in my opinion.

We all have our battles. Be nice. None of need any more negativity.
 

azdesertrat

New member
Well said.
Yea, regardless of one's personal battles, we ARE all in this together.
CF sucks, period.
Our best to you all, fighting The Fight.
 

Simba15

Member
Well said.
Yea, regardless of one's personal battles, we ARE all in this together.
CF sucks, period.
Our best to you all, fighting The Fight.

Thanks Az. CF is invisible but so are the emotional costs of the disease and then just life issues in general. Someone on my team also said to me (the same day), "Oh I heard you are coming with us because you have no friends." What? Is this just my state where people are so rude?! I have friends - they don't live near me because they moved away. And here this person is on a CF walk to raise $ for CF and I am standing there in a green shirt. It was not a good Great Strides experience this year.
 
Sorry you guys had to deal with that. It amazes me how people can be so rude to others ESPECIALLY when they're wearing a NEON GREEN shirt saying they have CF! AT a CF Walk. Boggles my brain. I've run into idiots in most walks of life and try to not let it get to me. Usually our CF Walk is a very positive environment for my kid and family. It's supposed to be not just a fundraiser, but a celebration of people working together to help people with CF breathe easier, live better and find a cure. Know that most of the people out there are helping for those reasons. Wish we had a mute button to use on people sometimes.

Hugs to you both!!
 
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welshwitch

Guest
I think the emotional costs of CF are higher than the physical. Sorry to hear about your experience. As a side note, was it awkward to have to be in a green shirt? Did it make you feel singled out? I'd like to go to a CF walk, but feel hesitant because I don't like the idea of being singled out and have my health status public.
 

Simba15

Member
I think the emotional costs of CF are higher than the physical. Sorry to hear about your experience. As a side note, was it awkward to have to be in a green shirt? Did it make you feel singled out? I'd like to go to a CF walk, but feel hesitant because I don't like the idea of being singled out and have my health status public.

It is not a requirement to wear the green. I agree with you - you can run into people at a walk you never expected and bam they know you have CF. That part almost feels like a civil rights violation or something. Since it isn't a requirement it isn't a violation tho. Wear a regular shirt and go. :D

I switched venues and teams this year. I think I'll go back where I was, where the people have some tact and class.
 

Simba15

Member
Sorry you guys had to deal with that. It amazes me how people can be so rude to others ESPECIALLY when they're wearing a NEON GREEN shirt saying they have CF! AT a CF Walk. Boggles my brain. I've run into idiots in most walks of life and try to not let it get to me. Usually our CF Walk is a very positive environment for my kid and family. It's supposed to be not just a fundraiser, but a celebration of people working together to help people with CF breathe easier, live better and find a cure. Know that most of the people out there are helping for those reasons. Wish we had a mute button to use on people sometimes.

Hugs to you both!!

I know, right????!!! It isn't though. I find people very competitive. What I mean is many people are walking "only" for "their" CF person. They could care less about the rest of us. Just my feeling.
 

becabee

New member
Join us!

Thanks Az. CF is invisible but so are the emotional costs of the disease and then just life issues in general. Someone on my team also said to me (the same day), "Oh I heard you are coming with us because you have no friends." What? Is this just my state where people are so rude?! I have friends - they don't live near me because they moved away. And here this person is on a CF walk to raise $ for CF and I am standing there in a green shirt. It was not a good Great Strides experience this year.

Hi Simba! No not all of us Arizonans are rude. You are MORE THAN WELCOME to join our team at our great strides walk! We would have no problem to walk for you as well as our Bug! We are all walking for the cure for ALL of our CF warriors after all!
 
I was a bit concerned at the green HERO shirts at first, felt like my son was being isolated and pointed out.... we talked it over and he said, he thought he WAS a hero and wanted people to know they were walking for kids just like him. I think it's just personal choice. I actually really liked it, as during the event I could spot kids and adults that I saw wearing their green shirts and it just felt like my donation and my being there meant so much more than just me and my little family or little team. I was walking for HER, and for HIM, and for Her, and Him and so on. It was inspiring after all. We're in the midwest (KC) and have had nothing but positive feedback and smiles and encouragement at our events. Don't let a few people spoil it for you. It's a fundraiser, but it's also a joining together of people that DO want to make a difference.
 
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windex125

Guest
I have to admit I've never done a walk just not enough air but I think they put you all in the same shirt to show people we come in al lwalks of life and we are showing our strength for amajor casue in our lives. Some people will always be rude and stupid to a point that you of you have to dismiss their comments. We are strong fighters. We look good on the outside but the inside is another story. I praise all of you for making the effort to walk for the casue and raise awareness and $ God Bless Pat 59/CF
 

Simba15

Member
Hi Simba! No not all of us Arizonans are rude. You are MORE THAN WELCOME to join our team at our great strides walk! We would have no problem to walk for you as well as our Bug! We are all walking for the cure for ALL of our CF warriors after all!

Thank you. I don't live in AZ or anywhere near it.
 

Angelo

New member
I have quit supporting the CFF altogether because of rudeness in general toward the actual CF patients. And the realization that they really do not care about the patients. they care about the money they raise. They are a fund raising arm of the drug companies, and I have learned that reality every time I have tried to get involved.

About 15 years ago, I decided to do a 10K walk in Nashville. I was the only CF patient on the walk and I wanted all to know that I was living with CF. I met some wonderful people who also were walking. In fact, I am still friends today with one of them. But the CFF officials running the Great Strides walk gave me a very cold response when I and my wife showed up. They really did not care that I was there. The media was there, and they too did not care much.

Many people either finished the walk way earlier than I did, and most did not even finish the entire 10K. I know this because I kept up a good pace, and very few people passed me. But I walked the entire 10K, and sprinted the last 100 yards. When I crossed the finish line, most of the CFF people had already left, and they actually tried to take down the Finish Line banner and leave before I finished the last lap, but wife told them, "over my dead body". This was a big deal to my wife that I could do this walk, and she was not letting them take this away from me.

Again, last year, I tried to get involved in S. FL. (where we live now). I shared the success of my adult stem cell treatments and how it brought me back from the dead, and has been reversing CF in my lungs. The director of the Palm Beach and Ft. Lauderdale chapters were excited to hear about the success and meeting me. I even met the woman who created the 65 Roses campaign (her son was not able to say Cystic Fibrosis, and it sounded more like "sixty-five roses"). I thought they would want to support anything to bring healing for CF patients. SO NOT TRUE. One of them went up the ladder of HQ, and was completely shut down in supporting anything but research for drugs. So their motto about finding a cure should really be "find another drug".

Then they tried to recruit me to get involved with the CFF. I agreed with one of the chapters, and I and my wife were named a "Couple of the Year". After seeing the promotion efforts, I felt like I was being used just to get more money from people, so I backed out. The CFF will use a small number of CF patients to get their message across, but other than that, they don't seem to care. I have asked for assistance from the foundation several times over the past 30 years, and not once has the foundation every helped with anything. They actually said their mission is not to help patients, it is only to raise money for research.

So now you know that my mission is not to help the CFF. Thanks for letting me rant and rave on this forum, but I am burned up by the lack of caring on such a grand scale. I have researched treatments other than the mainstream, especially when my own CF doctors have given up on me several times, and said they have no other treatments. They actually told my wife to get over it and learn to deal with it because I was at end stages and would not live more than a few months. That was 3 years ago. They said the "Stem cells absolutely do not work." When I asked "How do you know that, have you seen any clinical trial results?" The one doc (name withheld to protect the guilty) at Vanderbilt, said "No." Then I said, "If you have not seen clinical trials, the best you can possible say as a scientific person is, "We do not know." But you are saying they "absolutely do not work." She got pissed off at me, turned around in her rolling seat, and refused to talk to me.

We have to leave Nashville for my health. And 3 years later after pursuing adult stem cell treatments, I am healthier and breathing easier. The normal tuneup option was no longer working. Good thing the stem cells "ABSOLUTELY" worked, because I have not even needed a tune up in 3 years. Praise the Lord for creating those wonderful little cells in our bodies that we call stem cells.
 

Simba15

Member
Wow Angelo. Good for you for pushing forward! I could not agree with you more. The feeling you have about CFF is the exact feeling I have about the CF center. They want to pontificate about their greatness but did nothing to help me or my health. They want to charge my insurance $500 a pop for their research study. Really? They should pay me (us) to participate! Every other study does that!! They gave me horrible advice and said I didn't need enzymes and made me suffer for several years without them. They did nothing, and I mean nothing to help me! I stopped going. The people who get tons of support are children, IMO. Adult patients don't get much. Who will help us pay our bills and live when we can't work but aren't sick enough for ssi? Why isn't their a fund for that? They give money for kids to go to college. Why not help me pay my student loans? I wasn't ex til age 50 so I get gyped. I truly feel adults with this disease get ignored or screwed. I have found specialists to help me. I am in far better hands with them than a cf center. The cf center exist for drugs too. If u are in a study they use you (us) as a lab rat to see what works - for the drug companies! Congrats on proving them wrong!
 

MamaCaring4CF

New member
If you go to a GreatStrides walk, it is YOUR day!! Wear that green shirt in peace, and know that you are loved and honored that day! It is supposed to be a safe place (as can be) for you to be and have CF!

And I guess, there are rude people everywhere. Lord Bless you, and may you not run into them that day.
I was HAPPY to have our 7.5yo to wear his green shirt; in the past we've worn leis. Helpful--very--just to keep that 6ft safe distance from each other.
I told him calmly to watch and give each other space (in green shirts).

Ignoring the exceptions---The people whose lives are touched by Cystic Fibrosis are touched forever, and they come to GreatStrides in love and support. They are a loyal group with big hearts, so wear that green shirt and enjoy your day!!!!
 

Simba15

Member
If you go to a GreatStrides walk, it is YOUR day!! Wear that green shirt in peace, and know that you are loved and honored that day! It is supposed to be a safe place (as can be) for you to be and have CF!

And I guess, there are rude people everywhere. Lord Bless you, and may you not run into them that day.
I was HAPPY to have our 7.5yo to wear his green shirt; in the past we've worn leis. Helpful--very--just to keep that 6ft safe distance from each other.
I told him calmly to watch and give each other space (in green shirts).

Ignoring the exceptions---The people whose lives are touched by Cystic Fibrosis are touched forever, and they come to GreatStrides in love and support. They are a loyal group with big hearts, so wear that green shirt and enjoy your day!!!!

Glad you have had a good experience. Again. This is the difference between the children's and adults experience. No one on a walk has been supportive of me or even said a kind word
 
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