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HOW CAN U TELL?
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Purplelungs
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depends on what you mean by like and how long you have been dating. a guy can like anyone. but i would think the same as the others. and he would put her first. just as she would put him first. he wouldnt dump her to go out with the guys (unless he asked and it was ok) ..you would start talking about the future together whether it be months in advance or years into the future. all that is if you have been dating like a month or more.......
if a person has been dating for more than a year and a half (this is according to my husband so this is coming from a man) and this dude has made no real commitment...not talked about marriage (whether or not you can do it finacially doesnt count)....doesnt like talking about the your future together...then he probably isnt that serious and is just in it to date and to get some and is to lazy to go find someone else.
if a person has been dating for more than a year and a half (this is according to my husband so this is coming from a man) and this dude has made no real commitment...not talked about marriage (whether or not you can do it finacially doesnt count)....doesnt like talking about the your future together...then he probably isnt that serious and is just in it to date and to get some and is to lazy to go find someone else.
THANKS FOR THE INFO, WE HAVE BEEN SEEING EACH OTHER SINCE APRIL, SO WHAT IS THAT 5 MONTHS OR SO, SO SINCE I WROTE THE LAST POST HE SEEMS TO BE CALLING MORE AND MORE AND OUR VISITS ARE BECOMING MORE FREQUENT, SO I GUESS THAT IS A GOOD SIGN I SUPPOSE AND I AM NOTICING AND I HOPE THAT I DON'T JINX MYSELF BY SAYING THIS BUT I AM NOTICING THAT HE CALLS ME A LOT MORE NOW SO WE WILL SEE, BESIDES HE IS GETTING OUT OF AN 18 YEAR MARRIAGE, YES I SAID 18 YEARS, AND HE HAS AN 5 YEAR OLD SON WHOM LIVES WITH MOM WHOM HE SEES 2OR 3 TIMES A WEEK, SO I DON'T THINK MARRIAGE IS IN THE NEAR FUTURE OR FUTURE FOR HIM AT ALL, AS LONG AS HE TREATS ME GOOD, AND WE ENJOY EACH OTHERS COMPANY THEN THAT'S ALL THAT COUNTS RIGHT...........................................
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65rosessamurai
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I can tell it is a female asking the question, I'm wondering is it all females replying?
Had any formerly divorced men replied, or am I the first?
First point, If he's willing to talk about it, it would be pertinent to find out his relationship regarding his ex-wife. Maybe she broke up and he hasn't gotten over her, or he broke up and may, or may not, be looking for a second wife.
It mostly depends on the individual, but if the man approached the woman and she responds in the interest in him, he may like her more because of the attention she gives him. If his previous marriage did not indicate the ex's initiation to giving him attention, he may be searching elsewhere.
18 years of marriage is a long time, to divorce after that, it would be highly suggested that the new partner knows a little bit about why the breakdown.
I was divorced after 10 years, and suddenly re-married. I think it was God's blessing, for the second marriage, though!
Three major factors in a marriage, love, trust and communication, and they all had broken down in mine. The love may had gone first--I didn't think I was sterile, but she (we) were shocked when the news broke. I don't think she ever forgave me. Then the trust was breaking down. After several more years, I knew less about her private live (communication breakdown) and I felt like I had a room-mate sponging off of my income. She'd "Stay at a friends" too frequent, (whom I've never met), and I'd never see her on the weekend.
Needless to say, the man's former relationship is pertinent to what relationship he's looking for in the future.
My current marriage is happy. I laid the groud for my new wife, holding nothing back about my health, sterility, etc. (previous marriage), and this gave indication as to what my ideal marriage and partner was in my image.
I hope sharing this is very helpful in your endeavor.
Had any formerly divorced men replied, or am I the first?
First point, If he's willing to talk about it, it would be pertinent to find out his relationship regarding his ex-wife. Maybe she broke up and he hasn't gotten over her, or he broke up and may, or may not, be looking for a second wife.
It mostly depends on the individual, but if the man approached the woman and she responds in the interest in him, he may like her more because of the attention she gives him. If his previous marriage did not indicate the ex's initiation to giving him attention, he may be searching elsewhere.
18 years of marriage is a long time, to divorce after that, it would be highly suggested that the new partner knows a little bit about why the breakdown.
I was divorced after 10 years, and suddenly re-married. I think it was God's blessing, for the second marriage, though!
Three major factors in a marriage, love, trust and communication, and they all had broken down in mine. The love may had gone first--I didn't think I was sterile, but she (we) were shocked when the news broke. I don't think she ever forgave me. Then the trust was breaking down. After several more years, I knew less about her private live (communication breakdown) and I felt like I had a room-mate sponging off of my income. She'd "Stay at a friends" too frequent, (whom I've never met), and I'd never see her on the weekend.
Needless to say, the man's former relationship is pertinent to what relationship he's looking for in the future.
My current marriage is happy. I laid the groud for my new wife, holding nothing back about my health, sterility, etc. (previous marriage), and this gave indication as to what my ideal marriage and partner was in my image.
I hope sharing this is very helpful in your endeavor.
hello, i am the woman who wrote the post. gosh, i feel as not sure what to do. we had plans , but nothing set in stone for this thursdsay evening. well, let me back up. yesterday while at work, ( i do graffitti removal for the city) we were plowed by a car who ran a red light, and i was a little jolted so i get off at noon, 4am -12p, and i called his cell phone. now mind you this guy always has his phone on incase his boy calls or whatever i dont know and i know he was at work but he usually always answers, but if he doesnt and i leave a message he is good to call me back. well, i left him a message explaining my accident and that noone got hurt and really expected him to call me.... boy was i wrong. no call from him! say what!damn is all i can say.. so today he called this afternoon and left me a message explaining that when i called him yesterday he was on the other line with his mom and he didn't realize he had a message till last night which ok i give him the benefit of the doubt but last night when he saw his message why didn't he call me then? so many questions..... so then he also says he has been busy( doesn't say what busy is, just busy) and that thursday won't be so good afterall and how about saturday? what!!!!! so i feel bad as i am writing this but i got the message and calmly called his house phone and left a message. i said no , saturday is not good for me and wow your just a busy man, and to call me when he has time for me. gosh part of me wishes i hadn't of left a message, and part of me is glad..... i just feel like he is hiding something, but i'm not sure...of course he hasn't called mem since the message i left today, but all i want him to do is instead of telling me that he has been busy, to let me know whats going on in his world, and the fact that he is just telling me he has been busy seems fishy to me, what do you guys think? i am busy too, but there is always time darnit!!!!!!!please give me advice, feeling wierd in california.....
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65rosessamurai
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Dear feeling weird in California,
I'm sorry to hear the news turned things sour, but one advantage is that you didn't allow yourself to be dragged into something longer than you would wish, so you can learn, and live on...."It's better to love and to have lost, than to never love at all..."
From your description, I would conclude that someone who is busy, will make time for you. I already have a special woman--yes--I made time for her in my hectic life!!
I know you have some special qualities--but there is always someone out there waiting for you.
My mom told me one time, after I went so long without a girlfriend, or marriage; She's just preparing herself for when you meet, and you are preparing yourself for when you meet her (make any sense?)
If you are one like me, who has CF, it may take patience, because the one who will accept your health condition is the one who will take the time for YOU!
The healthy way to go through such a heartbreak is feelings of rejection, then acceptance, and last to move on...I recommend being near close friends, until you feel confident to go at it again.
Good luck in your endeavors, and God Bless.
(P.S. I hope, and I'm sure everyone else reading this hopes, from the little jolt you took from the car accident, you are ok)
I'm sorry to hear the news turned things sour, but one advantage is that you didn't allow yourself to be dragged into something longer than you would wish, so you can learn, and live on...."It's better to love and to have lost, than to never love at all..."
From your description, I would conclude that someone who is busy, will make time for you. I already have a special woman--yes--I made time for her in my hectic life!!
I know you have some special qualities--but there is always someone out there waiting for you.
My mom told me one time, after I went so long without a girlfriend, or marriage; She's just preparing herself for when you meet, and you are preparing yourself for when you meet her (make any sense?)
If you are one like me, who has CF, it may take patience, because the one who will accept your health condition is the one who will take the time for YOU!
The healthy way to go through such a heartbreak is feelings of rejection, then acceptance, and last to move on...I recommend being near close friends, until you feel confident to go at it again.
Good luck in your endeavors, and God Bless.
(P.S. I hope, and I'm sure everyone else reading this hopes, from the little jolt you took from the car accident, you are ok)
hello, i am the one who wrote this post..... yes, my grafitti partner and i are fine because when we saw the lady comming towards us my partner whom was driving acclerated the truck and the lady ran the red loight and plowed right into our trailer that we tow with all the paint and generator and crap......anyways the more amazing thing is the lady who hit us got out of the car immediately and was ok. by the looks of her toyota sienna it looked like who ever was driving would of been seriously injured. the front end was buckled in like an accordian and all the coolant and oil and fluids were spuing out....horrible. anyways about my friend he hasn't called me since the
message he left me yesterday about wanting to change our date from thursday to saturday. i am sure he did not appreciate my bratty message but my gut instinct was to leave a message and if he is a true man he can take it and call me back and talk to me because obviously i am upset, but he could care less apparently about how i feel.... and of course my cell phone officially broke this morning, it was cracked before, but this morning it snapped apart, but people can stilll leave messages, and i can still retrieve them.... any ways, that was a mouth full.....ttfn.