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Drea

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Hi,I find this all quite disturbing. While I agree with many of you that having CF and HIV and a boyfriend withCF too, Cindy should have been more careful and not gotten pregnant. We can't turn back the clock and the fact is, she did get pregnant. That doesn't mean that she doesn't care for her child or take proper care of him now that he is here (after all who else would know about dealing with both diseases but someone with both of them?). I do not think it is child abuse to have a child with multiple medical conditions. And since it is not absolutely certain that a child will have HIV even if the parents do, If he didn't have it wouldn't he be just like many of us here on this site (or our kids)? We do not know her currant living situation or anything about her other than what she has posted. There have been some strong opinions (we all have those) but I can't stand the name calling. I would hate to see this forum deteriorate into a place to take out our aggressions on eachother. Who ever it is who is calling her retarded, grow up!About the paternity issue, Yes most CF males are infertle for either a blockage of or absence of the vas differens, but as we all know not everyone with CF is the same. Some CF males are able to father children and since Cindy says that Zachary Sr. was the father who are we to question it?Do I think that it was a good Idea to have a child when she had CF and HIV with a CF boyfriend (who ended up overdosing)? No, I would think that she would have wanted to prevent pregnancy,but consider this: maybe they didn't think they COULD have a child together. Lets put 2 and 2 together here. Isn't it possible that both of them were under the same mistaken impression that most of you were about CF males and absolute infertility? Maybe it was quite a surprise to them to have a pregnancy and they saw it as a miracle, maybe they do not believe in abortion. Anyway, she didn't ask for our opinions about her decision to have a child, she asked for help to keep her baby.Andrea
 

anonymous

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Thank you for making that post Andrea... i am sure Cindy is going through a hard enough time already and doesn't need the people that she has turned to for help bashing her down... i agree with a couple of posts saying that she woudn't love her child any less just cause of his sickness... and about this accusing her of not knowing if Zach Sr. is the father, give me a break... just because it is a slim chance of having a ababy from a male CFer, doesn't make it impossible... I have not read any posts saying how prominent his CF was, he died of an over dose NOT cf.... think about it, do any of you wish your mother had had an abortion, just to stop you from having CF, i doubt it... i would be willing to bet a lot of you have made Cindy cry when she tried to read posts to find out how to keep her baby... cause all she gets is a lot of nasty comments to her... whats done is done, the baby is here, no sense in talking about what she COULD have done.... If you knew because of family genetics that a baby would have CF and a Cleft Pallet/Lip... would you still have the same opinion... think about your own children, and if you don't have any, you shouldn't have spat out your opinion...Love Julie18wcf, 3 sisters nocf... non-biological mother to Shae... on home IV antibiotics right now!PS, when they get sick i am sure there will be someone there to help... there has always been for me!
 
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