Staying Positive

PeterC

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clinging2faith:


When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

When I look in the mirror I see a 58 year old man who has lived and continues to live an interesting life!

My Dad passed away nearly three weeks ago, he was 86. I am sad about his passing but it does not stop me from enjoying life. He was a good father who treated me the same way he treated all of my brothers and sisters. There was never any pitty or sorrow coming from him, just his best effort to do the right thing as a father. He was not a crutch, but he was always there to help if I genuinely needed it.

I look at my having CF like I look at the fact that I have brown eyes. It is just another thing that helps make me the person I am. I do what I need to do to take care of my eyesight and I do what I need to do to take care of my CF. CF does not have me, I have it, just like I have brown eyes. It does not define me!

Having CF is an opportunity to be the best you can be at life. It just requires a certain kind of dedication to life that is a little unlike that of someone who does not have CF. Every human being has to do the best they can with what they have. Even those that are wealthy and without illness of any sort have to work at it. Many wealthy, healthy people have terrible lives.

If I was to dwell on all the times I was sick and all the times I missed out on something, I am sure I would get depressed. There have been occasions I have done just that and did get depressed. I have learned that when this happens it is time to seek professional help, because all the positive thinking I do will not get me out of the mess <u>I think I am in</u>. The operative words here are "<u>I think I am in".</u>

With professional help and a mild antidepressant I soon realize that my thinking plays more of a roll than my circumstances do. It will take time but you will feel better with professional help!

A great philosopher once said "its not the circumstances that count, its what you do with them that makes the difference". This is how I deal with all my problems!
If it is a situation that is unwelcome, I ask myself the question, "what can I do right now to help make things a little better", and by asking that question and taking even the slightest action to improve the situation, I find myself feeling better about things.

Your thinking and lack of positive action has got you in the mess you now find yourself in! It is a common problem. There are steps you can take right now to improve your situation.

First of all, make a list of all the things you are greatful for today and do this each day for a month. It will shift your thoughts away from all the unhappy and unwanted feelings to thoughts and feelings that make you happy. You can start this right now!!

Secondly, if you think you may be depressed or if family and friends have suggested you may be depressed, it is time to seek out professional help! If your state of mind is of great saddness and feelings of hopelessness, then start the process <u>now</u> to make contact with those who are professionally trained to help someone in distress. The steps you take now can be as simple as looking in the phone book for a psychotherapist or psychiatrist in your area, and writing their name and phone number down. Then start making calls until you find someone that can see you as soon as possible. It is important!!

Thirdly, do something good for yourself! Go somewhere or do something that always makes you happy. It is important to change your thought patterns away from sadness and towards happiness.

Fourthly, take decisive action to shift your thinking permanently! Go to the library or search on line for inspirational readings you can do on a daily basis. Buy a book by someone who has overcome adversity. Enroll in a class on forgiveness. My suspicion is that you need to not only learn to forgive others in your life who may have done you wrong, you may also have to forgive <u>yourself</u> for all the ways your life has disapointed you. I have written you earlier on how forgiveness works. Take decisive action to improve your life! Being overly dependant on others for your happiness and wellbeing can only lead to disappointment.

You can't leave your happiness up to someone or something else!

I hope these ideas help! You are wasting your life dwelling on all the negatives!
Concentrate on the positives, take positive action and I promiss you, how you feel about your life will improve. I am not saying your physical health will improve, although it may. I am saying, how you feel about yourself and the circumstances you find yourself in will improve. Take decisive action to improve your situation now!!

Your life can be better from now on, its up to you!!

Sincerely:

PeterC 58/cf
 

PeterC

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clinging2faith:


When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

When I look in the mirror I see a 58 year old man who has lived and continues to live an interesting life!

My Dad passed away nearly three weeks ago, he was 86. I am sad about his passing but it does not stop me from enjoying life. He was a good father who treated me the same way he treated all of my brothers and sisters. There was never any pitty or sorrow coming from him, just his best effort to do the right thing as a father. He was not a crutch, but he was always there to help if I genuinely needed it.

I look at my having CF like I look at the fact that I have brown eyes. It is just another thing that helps make me the person I am. I do what I need to do to take care of my eyesight and I do what I need to do to take care of my CF. CF does not have me, I have it, just like I have brown eyes. It does not define me!

Having CF is an opportunity to be the best you can be at life. It just requires a certain kind of dedication to life that is a little unlike that of someone who does not have CF. Every human being has to do the best they can with what they have. Even those that are wealthy and without illness of any sort have to work at it. Many wealthy, healthy people have terrible lives.

If I was to dwell on all the times I was sick and all the times I missed out on something, I am sure I would get depressed. There have been occasions I have done just that and did get depressed. I have learned that when this happens it is time to seek professional help, because all the positive thinking I do will not get me out of the mess <u>I think I am in</u>. The operative words here are "<u>I think I am in".</u>

With professional help and a mild antidepressant I soon realize that my thinking plays more of a roll than my circumstances do. It will take time but you will feel better with professional help!

A great philosopher once said "its not the circumstances that count, its what you do with them that makes the difference". This is how I deal with all my problems!
If it is a situation that is unwelcome, I ask myself the question, "what can I do right now to help make things a little better", and by asking that question and taking even the slightest action to improve the situation, I find myself feeling better about things.

Your thinking and lack of positive action has got you in the mess you now find yourself in! It is a common problem. There are steps you can take right now to improve your situation.

First of all, make a list of all the things you are greatful for today and do this each day for a month. It will shift your thoughts away from all the unhappy and unwanted feelings to thoughts and feelings that make you happy. You can start this right now!!

Secondly, if you think you may be depressed or if family and friends have suggested you may be depressed, it is time to seek out professional help! If your state of mind is of great saddness and feelings of hopelessness, then start the process <u>now</u> to make contact with those who are professionally trained to help someone in distress. The steps you take now can be as simple as looking in the phone book for a psychotherapist or psychiatrist in your area, and writing their name and phone number down. Then start making calls until you find someone that can see you as soon as possible. It is important!!

Thirdly, do something good for yourself! Go somewhere or do something that always makes you happy. It is important to change your thought patterns away from sadness and towards happiness.

Fourthly, take decisive action to shift your thinking permanently! Go to the library or search on line for inspirational readings you can do on a daily basis. Buy a book by someone who has overcome adversity. Enroll in a class on forgiveness. My suspicion is that you need to not only learn to forgive others in your life who may have done you wrong, you may also have to forgive <u>yourself</u> for all the ways your life has disapointed you. I have written you earlier on how forgiveness works. Take decisive action to improve your life! Being overly dependant on others for your happiness and wellbeing can only lead to disappointment.

You can't leave your happiness up to someone or something else!

I hope these ideas help! You are wasting your life dwelling on all the negatives!
Concentrate on the positives, take positive action and I promiss you, how you feel about your life will improve. I am not saying your physical health will improve, although it may. I am saying, how you feel about yourself and the circumstances you find yourself in will improve. Take decisive action to improve your situation now!!

Your life can be better from now on, its up to you!!

Sincerely:

PeterC 58/cf
 

PeterC

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a thank you to all those who are kindly responding

clinging2faith:


When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

When I look in the mirror I see a 58 year old man who has lived and continues to live an interesting life!

My Dad passed away nearly three weeks ago, he was 86. I am sad about his passing but it does not stop me from enjoying life. He was a good father who treated me the same way he treated all of my brothers and sisters. There was never any pitty or sorrow coming from him, just his best effort to do the right thing as a father. He was not a crutch, but he was always there to help if I genuinely needed it.

I look at my having CF like I look at the fact that I have brown eyes. It is just another thing that helps make me the person I am. I do what I need to do to take care of my eyesight and I do what I need to do to take care of my CF. CF does not have me, I have it, just like I have brown eyes. It does not define me!

Having CF is an opportunity to be the best you can be at life. It just requires a certain kind of dedication to life that is a little unlike that of someone who does not have CF. Every human being has to do the best they can with what they have. Even those that are wealthy and without illness of any sort have to work at it. Many wealthy, healthy people have terrible lives.

If I was to dwell on all the times I was sick and all the times I missed out on something, I am sure I would get depressed. There have been occasions I have done just that and did get depressed. I have learned that when this happens it is time to seek professional help, because all the positive thinking I do will not get me out of the mess <u>I think I am in</u>. The operative words here are "<u>I think I am in".</u>

With professional help and a mild antidepressant I soon realize that my thinking plays more of a roll than my circumstances do. It will take time but you will feel better with professional help!

A great philosopher once said "its not the circumstances that count, its what you do with them that makes the difference". This is how I deal with all my problems!
If it is a situation that is unwelcome, I ask myself the question, "what can I do right now to help make things a little better", and by asking that question and taking even the slightest action to improve the situation, I find myself feeling better about things.

Your thinking and lack of positive action has got you in the mess you now find yourself in! It is a common problem. There are steps you can take right now to improve your situation.

First of all, make a list of all the things you are greatful for today and do this each day for a month. It will shift your thoughts away from all the unhappy and unwanted feelings to thoughts and feelings that make you happy. You can start this right now!!

Secondly, if you think you may be depressed or if family and friends have suggested you may be depressed, it is time to seek out professional help! If your state of mind is of great saddness and feelings of hopelessness, then start the process <u>now</u> to make contact with those who are professionally trained to help someone in distress. The steps you take now can be as simple as looking in the phone book for a psychotherapist or psychiatrist in your area, and writing their name and phone number down. Then start making calls until you find someone that can see you as soon as possible. It is important!!

Thirdly, do something good for yourself! Go somewhere or do something that always makes you happy. It is important to change your thought patterns away from sadness and towards happiness.

Fourthly, take decisive action to shift your thinking permanently! Go to the library or search on line for inspirational readings you can do on a daily basis. Buy a book by someone who has overcome adversity. Enroll in a class on forgiveness. My suspicion is that you need to not only learn to forgive others in your life who may have done you wrong, you may also have to forgive <u>yourself</u> for all the ways your life has disapointed you. I have written you earlier on how forgiveness works. Take decisive action to improve your life! Being overly dependant on others for your happiness and wellbeing can only lead to disappointment.

You can't leave your happiness up to someone or something else!

I hope these ideas help! You are wasting your life dwelling on all the negatives!
Concentrate on the positives, take positive action and I promiss you, how you feel about your life will improve. I am not saying your physical health will improve, although it may. I am saying, how you feel about yourself and the circumstances you find yourself in will improve. Take decisive action to improve your situation now!!

Your life can be better from now on, its up to you!!

Sincerely:

PeterC 58/cf
 

CowTown

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Hi Mary,

I read your message before it was deleted and just wanted to add that I too hope you find your way out of the funk you may be going through. I know it can be so difficult if you're clouded by depression. It's just not an easy thing to deal with. I'll be thinking of you and hope you find your way! My only suggestions would be to maybe take some time out from your regular schedule and dedicate a week or more (or less.....) to some of the things you truly enjoy, a past time of some sort. Spend time for yourself by focusing on personal interests, music, painting, crafts, reading those novels you never find time for, etc. This is what i try to do when I hot a low spell. I desperatley try to find inspiration which I know can be difficult to do. Just a few thoughts to share. I'll be thinking of you.
 

CowTown

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Hi Mary,

I read your message before it was deleted and just wanted to add that I too hope you find your way out of the funk you may be going through. I know it can be so difficult if you're clouded by depression. It's just not an easy thing to deal with. I'll be thinking of you and hope you find your way! My only suggestions would be to maybe take some time out from your regular schedule and dedicate a week or more (or less.....) to some of the things you truly enjoy, a past time of some sort. Spend time for yourself by focusing on personal interests, music, painting, crafts, reading those novels you never find time for, etc. This is what i try to do when I hot a low spell. I desperatley try to find inspiration which I know can be difficult to do. Just a few thoughts to share. I'll be thinking of you.
 

CowTown

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Hi Mary,

I read your message before it was deleted and just wanted to add that I too hope you find your way out of the funk you may be going through. I know it can be so difficult if you're clouded by depression. It's just not an easy thing to deal with. I'll be thinking of you and hope you find your way! My only suggestions would be to maybe take some time out from your regular schedule and dedicate a week or more (or less.....) to some of the things you truly enjoy, a past time of some sort. Spend time for yourself by focusing on personal interests, music, painting, crafts, reading those novels you never find time for, etc. This is what i try to do when I hot a low spell. I desperatley try to find inspiration which I know can be difficult to do. Just a few thoughts to share. I'll be thinking of you.
 

Emily65Roses

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If it really is depression, your best bet is meds. I understand meds are scary and you can have huge complications (I think you said your sister had problems with Prozac?). But ANY med can give you big complications.

And trying just one anti-depressant isn't going to do anything. What works for one person won't necessarily work for another. Like... underwear or anything personal, it changes from one to the next. And it's very specific. You often need to try many before you find one that works. The thong doesn't fit, the bikini doesn't fit, the boy shorts don't fit... but the cotton ones work great! You see what I'm saying? Anti-depressants are very much the same. If you really want help with it, your best bet is going to be to try drugs. It'll be annoying for a while until you find one that works properly, but once you do, it's very helpful. *shrug*
 

Emily65Roses

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If it really is depression, your best bet is meds. I understand meds are scary and you can have huge complications (I think you said your sister had problems with Prozac?). But ANY med can give you big complications.

And trying just one anti-depressant isn't going to do anything. What works for one person won't necessarily work for another. Like... underwear or anything personal, it changes from one to the next. And it's very specific. You often need to try many before you find one that works. The thong doesn't fit, the bikini doesn't fit, the boy shorts don't fit... but the cotton ones work great! You see what I'm saying? Anti-depressants are very much the same. If you really want help with it, your best bet is going to be to try drugs. It'll be annoying for a while until you find one that works properly, but once you do, it's very helpful. *shrug*
 

Emily65Roses

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If it really is depression, your best bet is meds. I understand meds are scary and you can have huge complications (I think you said your sister had problems with Prozac?). But ANY med can give you big complications.

And trying just one anti-depressant isn't going to do anything. What works for one person won't necessarily work for another. Like... underwear or anything personal, it changes from one to the next. And it's very specific. You often need to try many before you find one that works. The thong doesn't fit, the bikini doesn't fit, the boy shorts don't fit... but the cotton ones work great! You see what I'm saying? Anti-depressants are very much the same. If you really want help with it, your best bet is going to be to try drugs. It'll be annoying for a while until you find one that works properly, but once you do, it's very helpful. *shrug*
 

Diane

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I never saw your post before it was deleted but from the responses i see you are very depressed and down. The only option really might be medication like Emily said. Sounds like you have gone thru some real hard times and having cf isnt a picnic either at times. If you are unable to pick yourself back up , you may need something to make the chemical balance right for you. This board is the best place to come for support, but like a basket of apples theres always gonna be one rotten one to spoil the bunch. Dont even pay attention to anyone who tries to take you down when you are already there. I hope you are feeling better soon <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

Diane

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I never saw your post before it was deleted but from the responses i see you are very depressed and down. The only option really might be medication like Emily said. Sounds like you have gone thru some real hard times and having cf isnt a picnic either at times. If you are unable to pick yourself back up , you may need something to make the chemical balance right for you. This board is the best place to come for support, but like a basket of apples theres always gonna be one rotten one to spoil the bunch. Dont even pay attention to anyone who tries to take you down when you are already there. I hope you are feeling better soon <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

Diane

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I never saw your post before it was deleted but from the responses i see you are very depressed and down. The only option really might be medication like Emily said. Sounds like you have gone thru some real hard times and having cf isnt a picnic either at times. If you are unable to pick yourself back up , you may need something to make the chemical balance right for you. This board is the best place to come for support, but like a basket of apples theres always gonna be one rotten one to spoil the bunch. Dont even pay attention to anyone who tries to take you down when you are already there. I hope you are feeling better soon <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

Jem

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Mary, I do hope that you always feel comfortable in expressing your true feelings. That is why so many come here. To share the truth of what life is like living with Cf (which can vary greatly for each person) and to help each other to be the best we can be through sharing our own individual experiences and giving hope. I have learned from each person who posts here. I do not judge their responses because I do not walk in their shoes but I take what I believe can help me and use that information to do just that. As a result I am a healthier and happier person today than I was when stumbled across this forum last April. As a bonus I have made some good friendships here. I can honestly say that I am grateful to have this forum available and I hope that you will feel that way one day too.
God Bless you.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 

Jem

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Mary, I do hope that you always feel comfortable in expressing your true feelings. That is why so many come here. To share the truth of what life is like living with Cf (which can vary greatly for each person) and to help each other to be the best we can be through sharing our own individual experiences and giving hope. I have learned from each person who posts here. I do not judge their responses because I do not walk in their shoes but I take what I believe can help me and use that information to do just that. As a result I am a healthier and happier person today than I was when stumbled across this forum last April. As a bonus I have made some good friendships here. I can honestly say that I am grateful to have this forum available and I hope that you will feel that way one day too.
God Bless you.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 

Jem

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Mary, I do hope that you always feel comfortable in expressing your true feelings. That is why so many come here. To share the truth of what life is like living with Cf (which can vary greatly for each person) and to help each other to be the best we can be through sharing our own individual experiences and giving hope. I have learned from each person who posts here. I do not judge their responses because I do not walk in their shoes but I take what I believe can help me and use that information to do just that. As a result I am a healthier and happier person today than I was when stumbled across this forum last April. As a bonus I have made some good friendships here. I can honestly say that I am grateful to have this forum available and I hope that you will feel that way one day too.
God Bless you.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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2perfectboys

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I'm confused....is there a preditor on here? If so who is it? This thread is all over the place with depression, all about what a great family someone has, and even third world countries...

I'm not familiar with clinging2faith....so if u posted a thread and was blasted for being positive? how can u be depressed. Or if u r depressed, they realize, accept it and deal with it. If someone hurt your feelings, why can't u just bite back or ignore it and shrug it off. Words, especially typed ones from someone u don't even know can't be that painful, can they? I will say this site def has a lot of ney sayers, but I do not let them rain on my optomisim.


Lori
 
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2perfectboys

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I'm confused....is there a preditor on here? If so who is it? This thread is all over the place with depression, all about what a great family someone has, and even third world countries...

I'm not familiar with clinging2faith....so if u posted a thread and was blasted for being positive? how can u be depressed. Or if u r depressed, they realize, accept it and deal with it. If someone hurt your feelings, why can't u just bite back or ignore it and shrug it off. Words, especially typed ones from someone u don't even know can't be that painful, can they? I will say this site def has a lot of ney sayers, but I do not let them rain on my optomisim.


Lori
 
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2perfectboys

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I'm confused....is there a preditor on here? If so who is it? This thread is all over the place with depression, all about what a great family someone has, and even third world countries...

I'm not familiar with clinging2faith....so if u posted a thread and was blasted for being positive? how can u be depressed. Or if u r depressed, they realize, accept it and deal with it. If someone hurt your feelings, why can't u just bite back or ignore it and shrug it off. Words, especially typed ones from someone u don't even know can't be that painful, can they? I will say this site def has a lot of ney sayers, but I do not let them rain on my optomisim.


Lori
 

sue35

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I am pretty sure I know what clingingtofaith is talking about and I think it is horrible that she is making this known to everyone. If you have a problem with someone, then block them. Don't go acting like a child and throwing the word predator around 10 TIMES in one post. You say you are an adult and yet the adult way to handle someone you don't like is to either ignore them or PM them to tell them personally. You asked what other people do to stay positive and the other person answered you honestly. it was blunt but if you want someone to dance around the topic and tell you what you want to hear then you should say it. You brought this upon yourself.


P.S.-Amy I LOVE your new signiture!!! At least on my computer it is a pug with a light saber right? I have a pug and I love the picture!!<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Or else I have totally lost it if that isn't it.
 

sue35

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I am pretty sure I know what clingingtofaith is talking about and I think it is horrible that she is making this known to everyone. If you have a problem with someone, then block them. Don't go acting like a child and throwing the word predator around 10 TIMES in one post. You say you are an adult and yet the adult way to handle someone you don't like is to either ignore them or PM them to tell them personally. You asked what other people do to stay positive and the other person answered you honestly. it was blunt but if you want someone to dance around the topic and tell you what you want to hear then you should say it. You brought this upon yourself.


P.S.-Amy I LOVE your new signiture!!! At least on my computer it is a pug with a light saber right? I have a pug and I love the picture!!<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Or else I have totally lost it if that isn't it.
 
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