Hi Stacy,
I have 2 kids that go to the U of A. My daughter is a jr. and doesn't have CF, but my son, who is a freshman does. He is also diabetic. Since you are young, I was hoping you could give me some advice or whatever. My son was always soooo good about everything and had such a great attitude. THen is high school this all changed. Drinking, etc. and I know he tried some drugs. Anyway, we had 1 problem after another. He has been hospitalized a few times. The last was about a month before school started. he had torn his meniscus in his knee in May so stopped exercising. He had been doing a lot of exercise and taking supplements and lifting weights & looked the best ever and had gained weight, etc. Then when he messed up his knee and stopped working out, he started losing some weight, etc. He had not been that consistent with his treatments but I think the exercise was saving him. Then he went to Cancun and when he got back was sick - what a suprise!! We had warned him about going, but he had saved money for it and both his older brother and sister went, so it was hard to say no because of his CF. Anyway, after his summer he had lost 23 lbs and had a big lung infection and went in the hospital. He said it was his fault that he had not taken care of himself and he had blown it, etc. His cf doc had warned him that about 50% of her cf patients that go away to college ended up dropping out their first semester because they don't take care of themselves. (We are from Calif) He acted like he really knew what could happen if he didn't put his health first.
WELL, he is partying up a storm and not doing his treatments very regularly. We just got back from Family Weekend and he looked so thin and pale - like he did after Cancun. He just doesn't seem to get it. I don't know what to do. He claims if we gave him more money he could buy more food and wouldn't be so thin. We are trying to get him to spend his money smartly, since he has not been very careful in the past - I know he was buying alcohol, etc. I feel I'm stuck in the middle between him and my husband who wants him to be responsible and think before he just spends money on the most expensive fast food all the time as opposed to going to the store and picking up cheaper stuff. He joined a fraternity and eats there for a lot of meals, but says he doesn't like the food that much. It is perfect for him to gain weight on. He is on dorm probation because they found some kids drinking in his room. He just doesn't seem to get it! He is such a great kid, or at least was. He shouldn't be drinking much if at all. It is like he has forgotten his 2 wks in the hospital in July.
I don't think you have answers for me, but I guess I just wanted to vent. I have been crying off and on since leaving him. I was so hoping he would have grown up a little and started taking care of himself like he used to, but now I am afraid he is going to get sick again and school will be over for him. Is this typical? He just got an insulin pump and I think he is taking better care of his diabetes, but when we were there last weekend - twice he forgot his enzymes when we went to eat! Help!
Thanks for listening - or rather reading!
Susie