Child feeling sad

Fran · Mar 25, 2009

Hi all

My son with cf is 13 and I can tell from our google history today that he has been googling "cf deaths" and "my baby died from cf". So, I guess he is thinking about things a little more now he is growing up. He has been a little unwell the last few days too, so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
He has been really well for the last 4 years, I don't think he even has much recollection of being in hospital at all. He is usually satisfied with me telling him that he is doing well, and worry about it when he gets sick and not now while he is doing great.
Do any of you have any ideas about how I can help him get through this. I want him to stay happy, I'm sure it helps with his overall health.
thanks

Fran · Mar 25, 2009

Hi all

My son with cf is 13 and I can tell from our google history today that he has been googling "cf deaths" and "my baby died from cf". So, I guess he is thinking about things a little more now he is growing up. He has been a little unwell the last few days too, so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
He has been really well for the last 4 years, I don't think he even has much recollection of being in hospital at all. He is usually satisfied with me telling him that he is doing well, and worry about it when he gets sick and not now while he is doing great.
Do any of you have any ideas about how I can help him get through this. I want him to stay happy, I'm sure it helps with his overall health.
thanks

Fran · Mar 25, 2009

Hi all

My son with cf is 13 and I can tell from our google history today that he has been googling "cf deaths" and "my baby died from cf". So, I guess he is thinking about things a little more now he is growing up. He has been a little unwell the last few days too, so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
He has been really well for the last 4 years, I don't think he even has much recollection of being in hospital at all. He is usually satisfied with me telling him that he is doing well, and worry about it when he gets sick and not now while he is doing great.
Do any of you have any ideas about how I can help him get through this. I want him to stay happy, I'm sure it helps with his overall health.
thanks

Fran · Mar 25, 2009

Hi all

My son with cf is 13 and I can tell from our google history today that he has been googling "cf deaths" and "my baby died from cf". So, I guess he is thinking about things a little more now he is growing up. He has been a little unwell the last few days too, so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
He has been really well for the last 4 years, I don't think he even has much recollection of being in hospital at all. He is usually satisfied with me telling him that he is doing well, and worry about it when he gets sick and not now while he is doing great.
Do any of you have any ideas about how I can help him get through this. I want him to stay happy, I'm sure it helps with his overall health.
thanks

Fran · Mar 25, 2009

Hi all
 
 My son with cf is 13 and I can tell from our google history today that he has been googling "cf deaths" and "my baby died from cf". So, I guess he is thinking about things a little more now he is growing up. He has been a little unwell the last few days too, so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
 He has been really well for the last 4 years, I don't think he even has much recollection of being in hospital at all. He is usually satisfied with me telling him that he is doing well, and worry about it when he gets sick and not now while he is doing great.
 Do any of you have any ideas about how I can help him get through this. I want him to stay happy, I'm sure it helps with his overall health.
 thanks

JazzysMom · Mar 25, 2009

Just because he has googled CF deaths doesnt mean its anything to worry about. I think (as a rule) its natural to ??? death. My daughter went through a stage a few years ago asking SOOOOO many ?? about it.

It really made her Dad uncomfortable, but I answered the best that I could. We have lost loved ones young & old for all kinds of reasons.

Maybe mention to him that while on the computer you saw cf deaths was googled & ask him if he needs anything clarified or has ??.

Death is a natural part of life (CF or not) & although some people like to pretend that if they dont acknowledge death maybe it wont happen....we all know that doesnt work.

Is he showing others signs of being sad/depressed besides this sign of curiosity? I think when anyone is sick they tend to get down. The problem lies when they are down too long & how far down.

If you have any type of open relationship with him it would be easy to strike up a conversation. If you dont then its up to you to start it & not make it "doom & gloom" so that he will be more willing to talk.

Its such a hit/miss thing with kids....

Good Luck!

PS ANOTHER THOUGHT

If you havent "talked" about different aspects of CF such as death & he has heard it from someone else (you know how kids are) that might be why he is googling. Just another reason to open that dialogue with him!

JazzysMom · Mar 25, 2009

Just because he has googled CF deaths doesnt mean its anything to worry about. I think (as a rule) its natural to ??? death. My daughter went through a stage a few years ago asking SOOOOO many ?? about it.

It really made her Dad uncomfortable, but I answered the best that I could. We have lost loved ones young & old for all kinds of reasons.

Maybe mention to him that while on the computer you saw cf deaths was googled & ask him if he needs anything clarified or has ??.

Death is a natural part of life (CF or not) & although some people like to pretend that if they dont acknowledge death maybe it wont happen....we all know that doesnt work.

Is he showing others signs of being sad/depressed besides this sign of curiosity? I think when anyone is sick they tend to get down. The problem lies when they are down too long & how far down.

If you have any type of open relationship with him it would be easy to strike up a conversation. If you dont then its up to you to start it & not make it "doom & gloom" so that he will be more willing to talk.

Its such a hit/miss thing with kids....

Good Luck!

PS ANOTHER THOUGHT

If you havent "talked" about different aspects of CF such as death & he has heard it from someone else (you know how kids are) that might be why he is googling. Just another reason to open that dialogue with him!

JazzysMom · Mar 25, 2009

Just because he has googled CF deaths doesnt mean its anything to worry about. I think (as a rule) its natural to ??? death. My daughter went through a stage a few years ago asking SOOOOO many ?? about it.

It really made her Dad uncomfortable, but I answered the best that I could. We have lost loved ones young & old for all kinds of reasons.

Maybe mention to him that while on the computer you saw cf deaths was googled & ask him if he needs anything clarified or has ??.

Death is a natural part of life (CF or not) & although some people like to pretend that if they dont acknowledge death maybe it wont happen....we all know that doesnt work.

Is he showing others signs of being sad/depressed besides this sign of curiosity? I think when anyone is sick they tend to get down. The problem lies when they are down too long & how far down.

If you have any type of open relationship with him it would be easy to strike up a conversation. If you dont then its up to you to start it & not make it "doom & gloom" so that he will be more willing to talk.

Its such a hit/miss thing with kids....

Good Luck!

PS ANOTHER THOUGHT

If you havent "talked" about different aspects of CF such as death & he has heard it from someone else (you know how kids are) that might be why he is googling. Just another reason to open that dialogue with him!

JazzysMom · Mar 25, 2009

Just because he has googled CF deaths doesnt mean its anything to worry about. I think (as a rule) its natural to ??? death. My daughter went through a stage a few years ago asking SOOOOO many ?? about it.

It really made her Dad uncomfortable, but I answered the best that I could. We have lost loved ones young & old for all kinds of reasons.

Maybe mention to him that while on the computer you saw cf deaths was googled & ask him if he needs anything clarified or has ??.

Death is a natural part of life (CF or not) & although some people like to pretend that if they dont acknowledge death maybe it wont happen....we all know that doesnt work.

Is he showing others signs of being sad/depressed besides this sign of curiosity? I think when anyone is sick they tend to get down. The problem lies when they are down too long & how far down.

If you have any type of open relationship with him it would be easy to strike up a conversation. If you dont then its up to you to start it & not make it "doom & gloom" so that he will be more willing to talk.

Its such a hit/miss thing with kids....

Good Luck!

PS ANOTHER THOUGHT

If you havent "talked" about different aspects of CF such as death & he has heard it from someone else (you know how kids are) that might be why he is googling. Just another reason to open that dialogue with him!

JazzysMom · Mar 25, 2009

Just because he has googled CF deaths doesnt mean its anything to worry about. I think (as a rule) its natural to ??? death. My daughter went through a stage a few years ago asking SOOOOO many ?? about it.
 
 It really made her Dad uncomfortable, but I answered the best that I could. We have lost loved ones young & old for all kinds of reasons.
 
 Maybe mention to him that while on the computer you saw cf deaths was googled & ask him if he needs anything clarified or has ??.
 
 Death is a natural part of life (CF or not) & although some people like to pretend that if they dont acknowledge death maybe it wont happen....we all know that doesnt work.
 
 Is he showing others signs of being sad/depressed besides this sign of curiosity? I think when anyone is sick they tend to get down. The problem lies when they are down too long & how far down.
 
 If you have any type of open relationship with him it would be easy to strike up a conversation. If you dont then its up to you to start it & not make it "doom & gloom" so that he will be more willing to talk.
 
 Its such a hit/miss thing with kids....
 
 Good Luck!
 
 PS ANOTHER THOUGHT
 
 If you havent "talked" about different aspects of CF such as death & he has heard it from someone else (you know how kids are) that might be why he is googling. Just another reason to open that dialogue with him!

NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting · Mar 25, 2009

I think JazzysMom has a good point. My granddaughters, even at 5 ask about death and heaven. I think it is a natural question that children reach at different ages. I would keep my eye on his behavior and attitude to see if there are any changes. This might be an opportunity for you to talk to him about what he is feeling and why he looked up those sites in the first place. As a teenager, I think you have to walk a fine line because you don't want to let him think that you are spying on him and he might feel like he may have to hide things from you. At that age you should know what they are surfing on the internet for, my youngest googled a naked woman site......WE TALKED!!LOL

NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting · Mar 25, 2009

I think JazzysMom has a good point. My granddaughters, even at 5 ask about death and heaven. I think it is a natural question that children reach at different ages. I would keep my eye on his behavior and attitude to see if there are any changes. This might be an opportunity for you to talk to him about what he is feeling and why he looked up those sites in the first place. As a teenager, I think you have to walk a fine line because you don't want to let him think that you are spying on him and he might feel like he may have to hide things from you. At that age you should know what they are surfing on the internet for, my youngest googled a naked woman site......WE TALKED!!LOL

NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting · Mar 25, 2009

I think JazzysMom has a good point. My granddaughters, even at 5 ask about death and heaven. I think it is a natural question that children reach at different ages. I would keep my eye on his behavior and attitude to see if there are any changes. This might be an opportunity for you to talk to him about what he is feeling and why he looked up those sites in the first place. As a teenager, I think you have to walk a fine line because you don't want to let him think that you are spying on him and he might feel like he may have to hide things from you. At that age you should know what they are surfing on the internet for, my youngest googled a naked woman site......WE TALKED!!LOL

NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting · Mar 25, 2009

I think JazzysMom has a good point. My granddaughters, even at 5 ask about death and heaven. I think it is a natural question that children reach at different ages. I would keep my eye on his behavior and attitude to see if there are any changes. This might be an opportunity for you to talk to him about what he is feeling and why he looked up those sites in the first place. As a teenager, I think you have to walk a fine line because you don't want to let him think that you are spying on him and he might feel like he may have to hide things from you. At that age you should know what they are surfing on the internet for, my youngest googled a naked woman site......WE TALKED!!LOL

NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting · Mar 25, 2009

I think JazzysMom has a good point. My granddaughters, even at 5 ask about death and heaven. I think it is a natural question that children reach at different ages. I would keep my eye on his behavior and attitude to see if there are any changes. This might be an opportunity for you to talk to him about what he is feeling and why he looked up those sites in the first place. As a teenager, I think you have to walk a fine line because you don't want to let him think that you are spying on him and he might feel like he may have to hide things from you. At that age you should know what they are surfing on the internet for, my youngest googled a naked woman site......WE TALKED!!LOL

JORDYSMOM · Mar 25, 2009

Hi Fran. Your son is at a tough age right now. My youngest is almost 14, and he has started taking things so seriously. He's not the one with CF; that's my 18 year old. Still, this age is when they start questioning everything, and start realizing their independence.

I think it's mostly good that your son is looking for answers, but as we all know, a lot of the info about CF on the internet is outdated and down right scary. You might guide him to the right info, give him some reading material, and talk about it.

It might help your son to talk to someone outside his family too. Maybe your social worker at clinic could give you some ideas.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM · Mar 25, 2009

Hi Fran. Your son is at a tough age right now. My youngest is almost 14, and he has started taking things so seriously. He's not the one with CF; that's my 18 year old. Still, this age is when they start questioning everything, and start realizing their independence.

I think it's mostly good that your son is looking for answers, but as we all know, a lot of the info about CF on the internet is outdated and down right scary. You might guide him to the right info, give him some reading material, and talk about it.

It might help your son to talk to someone outside his family too. Maybe your social worker at clinic could give you some ideas.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM · Mar 25, 2009

Hi Fran. Your son is at a tough age right now. My youngest is almost 14, and he has started taking things so seriously. He's not the one with CF; that's my 18 year old. Still, this age is when they start questioning everything, and start realizing their independence.

I think it's mostly good that your son is looking for answers, but as we all know, a lot of the info about CF on the internet is outdated and down right scary. You might guide him to the right info, give him some reading material, and talk about it.

It might help your son to talk to someone outside his family too. Maybe your social worker at clinic could give you some ideas.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM · Mar 25, 2009

Hi Fran. Your son is at a tough age right now. My youngest is almost 14, and he has started taking things so seriously. He's not the one with CF; that's my 18 year old. Still, this age is when they start questioning everything, and start realizing their independence.

I think it's mostly good that your son is looking for answers, but as we all know, a lot of the info about CF on the internet is outdated and down right scary. You might guide him to the right info, give him some reading material, and talk about it.

It might help your son to talk to someone outside his family too. Maybe your social worker at clinic could give you some ideas.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM · Mar 25, 2009

Hi Fran. Your son is at a tough age right now. My youngest is almost 14, and he has started taking things so seriously. He's not the one with CF; that's my 18 year old. Still, this age is when they start questioning everything, and start realizing their independence.
 
 I think it's mostly good that your son is looking for answers, but as we all know, a lot of the info about CF on the internet is outdated and down right scary. You might guide him to the right info, give him some reading material, and talk about it.
 
 It might help your son to talk to someone outside his family too. Maybe your social worker at clinic could give you some ideas.
 
 Stacey

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