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dnr/advance directive
- Thread starter anonymous
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My husband and I both have one in place, he has CF and I don't- but I don't think it really matters. I am a nurse in a hospital and I have seen too much turmoil not to have one for myself. We both have eachother as medical power of attorneys, then I have my mom as my secondary and he has his brother as his secondary (In case we are both in a car accident...or anything where we go together). A medical Power of Attorney gives the person that we give the "power" to, to make our decisions if we are unable to. You have to choose someone who you know is going to respect your final wishes.
It is difficult to find someone to do that somtimes, so with an advance directive you can put in writing and make it clear as to what you want to happen if for certain situations, like if you code during surgery versus if you code in a normal hospitilization situation (a "tune up") you can choose what you do want done and what you don't.
This is a very touchy situation, but I would rather have people know what I want in certain situations than fight over what might be my last days. That is just my position though.
Julie
It is difficult to find someone to do that somtimes, so with an advance directive you can put in writing and make it clear as to what you want to happen if for certain situations, like if you code during surgery versus if you code in a normal hospitilization situation (a "tune up") you can choose what you do want done and what you don't.
This is a very touchy situation, but I would rather have people know what I want in certain situations than fight over what might be my last days. That is just my position though.
Julie
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luke
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I believe it is very important to have our wishes clearly, legally documented. This does a couple things, but first and foremost will hopefully assure that "our" wishes are carried out. By having everything in writing it kinda lets your medical POA off the hook on the difficult choices because they are already made. As Julie stated it is important that you have a trustworthy person be your POA, an example is my brother. My brother loves me so much he would not be able to let me go and would leave me lingering on a machine. My wife however loves me enough to honor my wishes and let me go if needed. At least, I hope love is why she would let me go! Anyway, advanced directives are a MUST
Luke
Luke
Our whole family has stated over and over our wishes....donate whatever organs can be used...then let us go...My brother was killed in a horrible on the job accident and his organs were wasted because he had to saty at the accident site until OSHA got there...What a waste! He would have been furious!!
I have told my family that as soon as my child is old enough to understand that we were going to go along with his wishes. As far as wanting a drn or refusal of some treatments. My mother said that if my child wanted those and we allowed it she would try to fight us. It angers me on many levels. I have stated my wishes many times. There are some things I do not want done it makes me wonder if I she would try to do the same about my wishes. Also what makes her think she has that right.
she has no right to go against you or childs wishes. I understand why she would want to do whatever possible to keep you alive, but prolonging life just to satisfy her own needs is very selfish. Having control over one's own death can be empowering and comforting; not having control and the uncertainty of what decisions will be made for you is frightning. You should definitly get an advanced directive to prevent your mom from making the wrong decison for you. She'll be pissed, but if she accepts your choice now it will be easier for her to deal with it if and when the time comes.