Hi I am a 24 year old male with CF. I have been in a realtionship with my girlfriend for 3 years now. At the moment I just can't seem to stop thinking of my CF and it is affecting my relationship not that my girlfriend has changed I am just thinking of my future with my CF if I get sick what will happen I am very depressed and I can't seem to get out of it I love my girlfriend so much and I don't want to lose her but I don't think that I can handle my CF plus a relationship has anyone been in the same situation and what outcomes happened
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hey- i've definitely been through this. i've been seriously dating someone for a while, and i did try to break up with him at one point b/c i just thought that he deserved a normal life with a healthy girl that was going to live a full life. luckily for me, he didn't want that. if your girlfriend really loves you (which i'm guessing she does since you've been together 3 years!), then you should believe that she wants to be with you no matter what happens. this is how i think of it : you never know what can happen, whether you have cf or not. maybe they will find a cure and it won't be an issue. maybe if you broke up with her and she started seeing someone else, that person could get cancer or be killed in a car wreck and die before you. i'm not trying to be morbid, but my point is you never ever know what could happen, so instead of getting depressed about the future, you should enjoy your life now and be grateful that you have a girl that loves you!
i agree with jenhum...you never know what can happen
having CF is a depressing thing and everyone deals with it differently..
but having someone who cares and loves you and wants to be there for you through everything is a great gift!
obviously she loves you very much, dont push her away because that could end up hurting you more than the CF ever would...
Take care...
having CF is a depressing thing and everyone deals with it differently..
but having someone who cares and loves you and wants to be there for you through everything is a great gift!
obviously she loves you very much, dont push her away because that could end up hurting you more than the CF ever would...
Take care...
I understand you're in a funk about what the future may hold, but you mustn't underestimate the power of a loving relationship. What I mean is, you don't have to choose between coping with your CF and having a relationship. In fact, there have been a few times in my life where my wife- and our relationship- has been my sole motivation to do what I must do to remain as healthy as I can. She reminds me that CF isn't just my issue, it's our issue... just one of many we'll face throughout our marriage.
The only thing worse than having to deal with life (including CF) is dealing with life by yourself. Your having Cf is just another obstacle on the way to achieving happiness. If you have found someone that you truly love, and who truly loves you, count yourself lucky. Not everyone is as blessed as you are.
Just my two bits-
-Rich
The only thing worse than having to deal with life (including CF) is dealing with life by yourself. Your having Cf is just another obstacle on the way to achieving happiness. If you have found someone that you truly love, and who truly loves you, count yourself lucky. Not everyone is as blessed as you are.
Just my two bits-
-Rich
Hi everyone im Nicole and im 22 and have CF. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and its sometimes difficult because I do think wow why would he wanna be witth me when he could marry a normal girl and be able to have lots of kids. I have told him how I have felt before and he just says why would I leave you I love you your the best and then I think wow how could I get rid of a guy as great as him. Its really tough to deal with everything but I am so glad I found a guy who is so loving and doesnt care that I have Cf. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
Hi. I am on the other side of this issue so to speak. I don't have CF but my boyfriend does. We are both 22 years old and have every intentions of making this relationship works. I know that at times he feels a bit guilty for wanting to spend his life with me and kind of asking the same of me in return. Altough it is not as bad, it does get worse when he gets sick or an operation is coming up. My answer to him is that I love him and that I do know what CF is and the possible implications, not to say it is going to be easy, but that I know what I am getting into. I would rather spend ten years with him than break this off right now and wonder for the rest of my life. I have always made it clear that if for some reason it 'wouldn't work' anymore, that I would be honest and not stay with him because I pity him.
Maybe your girlfrind feels the same way, she is with you because she loves you and would rather be with someone she loves (even with CF) than be with someone else she might learn to love but not as much as she loves you.
Maybe your girlfrind feels the same way, she is with you because she loves you and would rather be with someone she loves (even with CF) than be with someone else she might learn to love but not as much as she loves you.
Hi. I am on the other side of this issue so to speak. I don't have CF but my boyfriend does. We are both 22 years old and have every intentions of making this relationship works. I know that at times he feels a bit guilty for wanting to spend his life with me and kind of asking the same of me in return. Altough it is not as bad, it does get worse when he gets sick or an operation is coming up. My answer to him is that I love him and that I do know what CF is and the possible implications, not to say it is going to be easy, but that I know what I am getting into. I would rather spend ten years with him than break this off right now and wonder for the rest of my life. I have always made it clear that if for some reason it 'wouldn't work' anymore, that I would be honest and not stay with him because I pity him.
Maybe your girlfrind feels the same way, she is with you because she loves you and would rather be with someone she loves (even with CF) than be with someone else she might learn to love but not as much as she loves you.
Maybe your girlfrind feels the same way, she is with you because she loves you and would rather be with someone she loves (even with CF) than be with someone else she might learn to love but not as much as she loves you.
i am from the other side as well... my husband who had cf passed away on the 13th of this month. you guys are going to make me cry because we had the same issues even after being together for 8 years. He wanted me to leave him so that I could have a "normal" life. But, I would never take back the 8 years that I had with him and I have no regrets for loving him as much as I did. Im a widow at 26, but I had the best husband who loved me very much. And yes, no matter if its CF or not... stuff happens to people, gods will is done. Live for the moment. If you'd like to talk to me... please email me at ariel042200@yahoo.com.
i am from the other side as well... my husband who had cf passed away on the 13th of this month. you guys are going to make me cry because we had the same issues even after being together for 8 years. He wanted me to leave him so that I could have a "normal" life. But, I would never take back the 8 years that I had with him and I have no regrets for loving him as much as I did. Im a widow at 26, but I had the best husband who loved me very much. And yes, no matter if its CF or not... stuff happens to people, gods will is done. Live for the moment. If you'd like to talk to me... please email me at ariel042200@yahoo.com.
I agree with the last post. Life is what you make of it. My husband passed away this year. I never once thought about not marrying him despite the 'chances'. We had a great life together. While the pain of losing him is awful, it will never equal my happiness or love for him. He adored me and I adored him. I would do it again in a minute.
I agree with the last post. Life is what you make of it. My husband passed away this year. I never once thought about not marrying him despite the 'chances'. We had a great life together. While the pain of losing him is awful, it will never equal my happiness or love for him. He adored me and I adored him. I would do it again in a minute.
Hi there,
I just want to say how deeply sorry i am that you lost your husbands. I am soon to be 30 and have CF. I have been with my BF on and off for 4 years now. He has the difficult time with Cf and the uncertanity of it all-but yet he can't walk away. Sometimes my head is so wrecked and i worry that he is worrying. but i guess we all go through these things some way or another. I just don't know what is the right thing to do.
Hope you are all well!
Take care,
Denise
I just want to say how deeply sorry i am that you lost your husbands. I am soon to be 30 and have CF. I have been with my BF on and off for 4 years now. He has the difficult time with Cf and the uncertanity of it all-but yet he can't walk away. Sometimes my head is so wrecked and i worry that he is worrying. but i guess we all go through these things some way or another. I just don't know what is the right thing to do.
Hope you are all well!
Take care,
Denise
Hi there,
I just want to say how deeply sorry i am that you lost your husbands. I am soon to be 30 and have CF. I have been with my BF on and off for 4 years now. He has the difficult time with Cf and the uncertanity of it all-but yet he can't walk away. Sometimes my head is so wrecked and i worry that he is worrying. but i guess we all go through these things some way or another. I just don't know what is the right thing to do.
Hope you are all well!
Take care,
Denise
I just want to say how deeply sorry i am that you lost your husbands. I am soon to be 30 and have CF. I have been with my BF on and off for 4 years now. He has the difficult time with Cf and the uncertanity of it all-but yet he can't walk away. Sometimes my head is so wrecked and i worry that he is worrying. but i guess we all go through these things some way or another. I just don't know what is the right thing to do.
Hope you are all well!
Take care,
Denise