getting irritated by people who say this to me

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Iamqueenofeverything

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i know my loved ones mean well but what gets on my nerves is when people say to me "you can not do that because it will be too hard on your health".
what irritates me more is when they say that when i offer to help them move or tell them one of my dreams which is to travel around the usa in a rv so i can explore, have fun adventures, and see the historical sites.
the people who say these things are more "unhealthy" than me. my lung functions are in the low 30s but i can do 3 miles in 25 minutes plus walk a mile in 20 minutes. this is more than what the people can do who say to me "you can notdo that because it will be too hard on your health". really folks? when someone who has 2 diseases, allergies, so close to being considered to a double lung transplant can excerise better than someone who has no medical issues, the person cant say something is too hard on my health because i am in much better shape.
now i feel better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
now it is your turn to vent :-D
 
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Iamqueenofeverything

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i know my loved ones mean well but what gets on my nerves is when people say to me "you can not do that because it will be too hard on your health".
what irritates me more is when they say that when i offer to help them move or tell them one of my dreams which is to travel around the usa in a rv so i can explore, have fun adventures, and see the historical sites.
the people who say these things are more "unhealthy" than me. my lung functions are in the low 30s but i can do 3 miles in 25 minutes plus walk a mile in 20 minutes. this is more than what the people can do who say to me "you can notdo that because it will be too hard on your health". really folks? when someone who has 2 diseases, allergies, so close to being considered to a double lung transplant can excerise better than someone who has no medical issues, the person cant say something is too hard on my health because i am in much better shape.
now i feel better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
now it is your turn to vent :-D
 
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beleache

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Glad u feel better now lol .. It's great what a little venting can do for ya <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I think you have ppl in your life that love u & are concerned for u , there are many ppl who dont have that love & support. Having said that, If you think you can do it , I say go for it !! As long as your drs are on board w/ you , why not ??
One thing that bugs me is when ppl say "You look so good/& or Healthy" While I realize this is a compliment , there are times that I'm just like , grrrrrr, yeah well thank you but I feel like crap lol
OK now we both feel better lol <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> joni
 
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beleache

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Glad u feel better now lol .. It's great what a little venting can do for ya <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I think you have ppl in your life that love u & are concerned for u , there are many ppl who dont have that love & support. Having said that, If you think you can do it , I say go for it !! As long as your drs are on board w/ you , why not ??
One thing that bugs me is when ppl say "You look so good/& or Healthy" While I realize this is a compliment , there are times that I'm just like , grrrrrr, yeah well thank you but I feel like crap lol
OK now we both feel better lol <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> joni
 
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Cherylwithone

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Joni, I get that a lot about Malora. I got to the point that I ask the people saying this if they would like me to turn her inside out. Plus I have come to realize that people do not understand that when you are sick more times then not, you learn to cope with it.
Which is more then what I can say for most healty people.
 
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Cherylwithone

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Joni, I get that a lot about Malora. I got to the point that I ask the people saying this if they would like me to turn her inside out. Plus I have come to realize that people do not understand that when you are sick more times then not, you learn to cope with it.
Which is more then what I can say for most healty people.
 
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katethekid

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I'm with Joni on this one... I get the "You look fine to me" or "You don't look sick" all the time. What's the worst is when you get it from doctors, especially at the ER... Gee thanks guys, I'll just go suffocate in the corner while you discuss how good I look.. LOL... Well, that made me feel better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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katethekid

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I'm with Joni on this one... I get the "You look fine to me" or "You don't look sick" all the time. What's the worst is when you get it from doctors, especially at the ER... Gee thanks guys, I'll just go suffocate in the corner while you discuss how good I look.. LOL... Well, that made me feel better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Printer

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Queen:

Simply reply "I know more about the condition of my health that you do...I know that you mean well but I can take it from here"

Bill
 
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Printer

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Queen:

Simply reply "I know more about the condition of my health that you do...I know that you mean well but I can take it from here"

Bill
 
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lexymarie04

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I get this alot too!!! I sometimes just let these people talk, you are the only person who knows what your mind and body allow you to do. Live your life to the fullest is what I believe and always try something once.
 
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lexymarie04

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I get this alot too!!! I sometimes just let these people talk, you are the only person who knows what your mind and body allow you to do. Live your life to the fullest is what I believe and always try something once.
 
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cindylou

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I hear you guys on the "you look so good" thing! I get that one all the time too. It makes me most frustrated when I'm in the hospital and doctors assume that since I "look good" or act cheerfully, I'm feeling good as well. That's usually not the case - I'm just a person who prefers to smile than to whine, especially to people I don't know very well. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
 
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cindylou

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I hear you guys on the "you look so good" thing! I get that one all the time too. It makes me most frustrated when I'm in the hospital and doctors assume that since I "look good" or act cheerfully, I'm feeling good as well. That's usually not the case - I'm just a person who prefers to smile than to whine, especially to people I don't know very well. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
 
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Iamqueenofeverything

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Momto2- I can do 3 miles on a bike in 25 minutes and a mile on a walking treadmill.

Bill- i do tell them things like " i went on a road trip to alabama and i did half of the driving" and i thank them for caring.

what gets me is that these same people who tell me not to do something get ticked off if i tell them not to do something as well.
 
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Iamqueenofeverything

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Momto2- I can do 3 miles on a bike in 25 minutes and a mile on a walking treadmill.

Bill- i do tell them things like " i went on a road trip to alabama and i did half of the driving" and i thank them for caring.

what gets me is that these same people who tell me not to do something get ticked off if i tell them not to do something as well.
 
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katethekid

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My family knows better than to tell me I can't do something... They know they will get what they refer to as "The look of death" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> It must be one evil look to earn that name... Friends who don't know better soon learn... Attitude is everything for me....
 
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katethekid

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My family knows better than to tell me I can't do something... They know they will get what they refer to as "The look of death" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> It must be one evil look to earn that name... Friends who don't know better soon learn... Attitude is everything for me....
 
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