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fondreflections

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The boys left by 2:00 this afternoon.

Honestly, it was a disturbing situation yet I knew I had done the right thing. I was not equipped to handle the issues that those poor boys had.

I finally told them at about 11:30 with about 2 hours left. D put on a whining and cry act for about 5 minutes then couldn't wait to go. He was constantly harassing me for the remainder of the time. N was ready to go from the moment I told him. Both boys actually picked out all the toys that they wanted to take with them. It was scary, actually. I explained to them that they are going to have a new Mommy and Daddy. I really don't think it ever registered.

They ended up going to a fellow couple in their 40's that Jake and I attended our training with. THEY AREN'T PREPARED EITHER!!! They have two kids that have just left the house and are 'looking to fill their empty nest'. They are in for a shock. Marie, the new foster Mom, did work with ADHD children before so she may have somewhat of an edge on me, but I still don't think the outlook is too good.

The kids were thrilled to see her and started calling her 'Mom' right away. As I was going over things with her, they were running around endlessly and giving my Mom a very hard time. Our second caseworker, Mark, was present and was watching and taking everything in. The kids were very hyper...

At first, Marie seemed like it would be a piece of cake. However by the end of the hour, I could see that she wasn't as confident.

The boys were overly excited to leave with someone that they didn't even know. This is their second foster care placement. I can honestly say, though, that they were the same way with Jake and I. We were Mommy and Daddy from Day 1. We also thought it would be a 'piece of cake'.

I helped Marie get the boys in their car seats and kissed their little foreheads goodbye. I do have Marie's number, and she also has mine to keep in contact. D kissed and hugged me back. He is 5. However, N pushed me away and said that he didn't love me, and that I wasn't his Mommy anymore. He had a new Mommy. It was so erie and sad...That was my final, lasting memory...

I won't be forgetting that memory anytime soon. Even my Mom, who always spoils them, was snubbed, mostly by N.

I venture out to the hospital tomorrow for 1:00. We will see what happens. I talked to the head nurse, and she said that they want to do a PFT and x-ray first. We will then 'take it from there' so we'll see. Regardless of being admitted or not, I still think I made the right decision for the boys. I wasn't equipped enough for their needs...
 

fondreflections

New member
The boys left by 2:00 this afternoon.

Honestly, it was a disturbing situation yet I knew I had done the right thing. I was not equipped to handle the issues that those poor boys had.

I finally told them at about 11:30 with about 2 hours left. D put on a whining and cry act for about 5 minutes then couldn't wait to go. He was constantly harassing me for the remainder of the time. N was ready to go from the moment I told him. Both boys actually picked out all the toys that they wanted to take with them. It was scary, actually. I explained to them that they are going to have a new Mommy and Daddy. I really don't think it ever registered.

They ended up going to a fellow couple in their 40's that Jake and I attended our training with. THEY AREN'T PREPARED EITHER!!! They have two kids that have just left the house and are 'looking to fill their empty nest'. They are in for a shock. Marie, the new foster Mom, did work with ADHD children before so she may have somewhat of an edge on me, but I still don't think the outlook is too good.

The kids were thrilled to see her and started calling her 'Mom' right away. As I was going over things with her, they were running around endlessly and giving my Mom a very hard time. Our second caseworker, Mark, was present and was watching and taking everything in. The kids were very hyper...

At first, Marie seemed like it would be a piece of cake. However by the end of the hour, I could see that she wasn't as confident.

The boys were overly excited to leave with someone that they didn't even know. This is their second foster care placement. I can honestly say, though, that they were the same way with Jake and I. We were Mommy and Daddy from Day 1. We also thought it would be a 'piece of cake'.

I helped Marie get the boys in their car seats and kissed their little foreheads goodbye. I do have Marie's number, and she also has mine to keep in contact. D kissed and hugged me back. He is 5. However, N pushed me away and said that he didn't love me, and that I wasn't his Mommy anymore. He had a new Mommy. It was so erie and sad...That was my final, lasting memory...

I won't be forgetting that memory anytime soon. Even my Mom, who always spoils them, was snubbed, mostly by N.

I venture out to the hospital tomorrow for 1:00. We will see what happens. I talked to the head nurse, and she said that they want to do a PFT and x-ray first. We will then 'take it from there' so we'll see. Regardless of being admitted or not, I still think I made the right decision for the boys. I wasn't equipped enough for their needs...
 

fondreflections

New member
The boys left by 2:00 this afternoon.

Honestly, it was a disturbing situation yet I knew I had done the right thing. I was not equipped to handle the issues that those poor boys had.

I finally told them at about 11:30 with about 2 hours left. D put on a whining and cry act for about 5 minutes then couldn't wait to go. He was constantly harassing me for the remainder of the time. N was ready to go from the moment I told him. Both boys actually picked out all the toys that they wanted to take with them. It was scary, actually. I explained to them that they are going to have a new Mommy and Daddy. I really don't think it ever registered.

They ended up going to a fellow couple in their 40's that Jake and I attended our training with. THEY AREN'T PREPARED EITHER!!! They have two kids that have just left the house and are 'looking to fill their empty nest'. They are in for a shock. Marie, the new foster Mom, did work with ADHD children before so she may have somewhat of an edge on me, but I still don't think the outlook is too good.

The kids were thrilled to see her and started calling her 'Mom' right away. As I was going over things with her, they were running around endlessly and giving my Mom a very hard time. Our second caseworker, Mark, was present and was watching and taking everything in. The kids were very hyper...

At first, Marie seemed like it would be a piece of cake. However by the end of the hour, I could see that she wasn't as confident.

The boys were overly excited to leave with someone that they didn't even know. This is their second foster care placement. I can honestly say, though, that they were the same way with Jake and I. We were Mommy and Daddy from Day 1. We also thought it would be a 'piece of cake'.

I helped Marie get the boys in their car seats and kissed their little foreheads goodbye. I do have Marie's number, and she also has mine to keep in contact. D kissed and hugged me back. He is 5. However, N pushed me away and said that he didn't love me, and that I wasn't his Mommy anymore. He had a new Mommy. It was so erie and sad...That was my final, lasting memory...

I won't be forgetting that memory anytime soon. Even my Mom, who always spoils them, was snubbed, mostly by N.

I venture out to the hospital tomorrow for 1:00. We will see what happens. I talked to the head nurse, and she said that they want to do a PFT and x-ray first. We will then 'take it from there' so we'll see. Regardless of being admitted or not, I still think I made the right decision for the boys. I wasn't equipped enough for their needs...
 

fondreflections

New member
The boys left by 2:00 this afternoon.

Honestly, it was a disturbing situation yet I knew I had done the right thing. I was not equipped to handle the issues that those poor boys had.

I finally told them at about 11:30 with about 2 hours left. D put on a whining and cry act for about 5 minutes then couldn't wait to go. He was constantly harassing me for the remainder of the time. N was ready to go from the moment I told him. Both boys actually picked out all the toys that they wanted to take with them. It was scary, actually. I explained to them that they are going to have a new Mommy and Daddy. I really don't think it ever registered.

They ended up going to a fellow couple in their 40's that Jake and I attended our training with. THEY AREN'T PREPARED EITHER!!! They have two kids that have just left the house and are 'looking to fill their empty nest'. They are in for a shock. Marie, the new foster Mom, did work with ADHD children before so she may have somewhat of an edge on me, but I still don't think the outlook is too good.

The kids were thrilled to see her and started calling her 'Mom' right away. As I was going over things with her, they were running around endlessly and giving my Mom a very hard time. Our second caseworker, Mark, was present and was watching and taking everything in. The kids were very hyper...

At first, Marie seemed like it would be a piece of cake. However by the end of the hour, I could see that she wasn't as confident.

The boys were overly excited to leave with someone that they didn't even know. This is their second foster care placement. I can honestly say, though, that they were the same way with Jake and I. We were Mommy and Daddy from Day 1. We also thought it would be a 'piece of cake'.

I helped Marie get the boys in their car seats and kissed their little foreheads goodbye. I do have Marie's number, and she also has mine to keep in contact. D kissed and hugged me back. He is 5. However, N pushed me away and said that he didn't love me, and that I wasn't his Mommy anymore. He had a new Mommy. It was so erie and sad...That was my final, lasting memory...

I won't be forgetting that memory anytime soon. Even my Mom, who always spoils them, was snubbed, mostly by N.

I venture out to the hospital tomorrow for 1:00. We will see what happens. I talked to the head nurse, and she said that they want to do a PFT and x-ray first. We will then 'take it from there' so we'll see. Regardless of being admitted or not, I still think I made the right decision for the boys. I wasn't equipped enough for their needs...
 

fondreflections

New member
The boys left by 2:00 this afternoon.
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<br />Honestly, it was a disturbing situation yet I knew I had done the right thing. I was not equipped to handle the issues that those poor boys had.
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<br />I finally told them at about 11:30 with about 2 hours left. D put on a whining and cry act for about 5 minutes then couldn't wait to go. He was constantly harassing me for the remainder of the time. N was ready to go from the moment I told him. Both boys actually picked out all the toys that they wanted to take with them. It was scary, actually. I explained to them that they are going to have a new Mommy and Daddy. I really don't think it ever registered.
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<br />They ended up going to a fellow couple in their 40's that Jake and I attended our training with. THEY AREN'T PREPARED EITHER!!! They have two kids that have just left the house and are 'looking to fill their empty nest'. They are in for a shock. Marie, the new foster Mom, did work with ADHD children before so she may have somewhat of an edge on me, but I still don't think the outlook is too good.
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<br />The kids were thrilled to see her and started calling her 'Mom' right away. As I was going over things with her, they were running around endlessly and giving my Mom a very hard time. Our second caseworker, Mark, was present and was watching and taking everything in. The kids were very hyper...
<br />
<br />At first, Marie seemed like it would be a piece of cake. However by the end of the hour, I could see that she wasn't as confident.
<br />
<br />The boys were overly excited to leave with someone that they didn't even know. This is their second foster care placement. I can honestly say, though, that they were the same way with Jake and I. We were Mommy and Daddy from Day 1. We also thought it would be a 'piece of cake'.
<br />
<br />I helped Marie get the boys in their car seats and kissed their little foreheads goodbye. I do have Marie's number, and she also has mine to keep in contact. D kissed and hugged me back. He is 5. However, N pushed me away and said that he didn't love me, and that I wasn't his Mommy anymore. He had a new Mommy. It was so erie and sad...That was my final, lasting memory...
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<br />I won't be forgetting that memory anytime soon. Even my Mom, who always spoils them, was snubbed, mostly by N.
<br />
<br />I venture out to the hospital tomorrow for 1:00. We will see what happens. I talked to the head nurse, and she said that they want to do a PFT and x-ray first. We will then 'take it from there' so we'll see. Regardless of being admitted or not, I still think I made the right decision for the boys. I wasn't equipped enough for their needs...
 
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Keepercjr

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Jenny! Hi! I haven't been on the site in a while since I hardly have any computer time anymore. I wanted to say I'm sorry for everything you've been through but I hope that these challenging kids don't make you want to give up. Yes raising kids (especially preschoolers!) is hard but these boys weren't what I would consider typical as I'm sure you know. You did them such a good thing by being their mom and dad even if just for a short while.

And about the snubbing - it is VERY typical behavior for N's age. Logan does it all the time to his grandparents. He never wants to say bye to them or give them hugs when it is time to leave (and I'm not about to force him). Children that age have a hard time with transitions and they don't always know how to deal with it. So what he said to you and your mom is just his way of dealing with a situation he can't possibly even begin to understand.

I need to run - scarlett is done laying on the floor <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Take care!
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
Jenny! Hi! I haven't been on the site in a while since I hardly have any computer time anymore. I wanted to say I'm sorry for everything you've been through but I hope that these challenging kids don't make you want to give up. Yes raising kids (especially preschoolers!) is hard but these boys weren't what I would consider typical as I'm sure you know. You did them such a good thing by being their mom and dad even if just for a short while.

And about the snubbing - it is VERY typical behavior for N's age. Logan does it all the time to his grandparents. He never wants to say bye to them or give them hugs when it is time to leave (and I'm not about to force him). Children that age have a hard time with transitions and they don't always know how to deal with it. So what he said to you and your mom is just his way of dealing with a situation he can't possibly even begin to understand.

I need to run - scarlett is done laying on the floor <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Take care!
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
Jenny! Hi! I haven't been on the site in a while since I hardly have any computer time anymore. I wanted to say I'm sorry for everything you've been through but I hope that these challenging kids don't make you want to give up. Yes raising kids (especially preschoolers!) is hard but these boys weren't what I would consider typical as I'm sure you know. You did them such a good thing by being their mom and dad even if just for a short while.

And about the snubbing - it is VERY typical behavior for N's age. Logan does it all the time to his grandparents. He never wants to say bye to them or give them hugs when it is time to leave (and I'm not about to force him). Children that age have a hard time with transitions and they don't always know how to deal with it. So what he said to you and your mom is just his way of dealing with a situation he can't possibly even begin to understand.

I need to run - scarlett is done laying on the floor <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Take care!
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
Jenny! Hi! I haven't been on the site in a while since I hardly have any computer time anymore. I wanted to say I'm sorry for everything you've been through but I hope that these challenging kids don't make you want to give up. Yes raising kids (especially preschoolers!) is hard but these boys weren't what I would consider typical as I'm sure you know. You did them such a good thing by being their mom and dad even if just for a short while.

And about the snubbing - it is VERY typical behavior for N's age. Logan does it all the time to his grandparents. He never wants to say bye to them or give them hugs when it is time to leave (and I'm not about to force him). Children that age have a hard time with transitions and they don't always know how to deal with it. So what he said to you and your mom is just his way of dealing with a situation he can't possibly even begin to understand.

I need to run - scarlett is done laying on the floor <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Take care!
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
Jenny! Hi! I haven't been on the site in a while since I hardly have any computer time anymore. I wanted to say I'm sorry for everything you've been through but I hope that these challenging kids don't make you want to give up. Yes raising kids (especially preschoolers!) is hard but these boys weren't what I would consider typical as I'm sure you know. You did them such a good thing by being their mom and dad even if just for a short while.
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<br />And about the snubbing - it is VERY typical behavior for N's age. Logan does it all the time to his grandparents. He never wants to say bye to them or give them hugs when it is time to leave (and I'm not about to force him). Children that age have a hard time with transitions and they don't always know how to deal with it. So what he said to you and your mom is just his way of dealing with a situation he can't possibly even begin to understand.
<br />
<br />I need to run - scarlett is done laying on the floor <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Take care!
 
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