Have any adult CFers/tx patients on this site adopted a baby?

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Shoshanna

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Jennifer,

Wow, that's really odd because we have a 15 month-old son which I conceived in no time (maybe a month or two) when with an FEV1 of 45%...much lower than you (it's now 29%) and my weight was only 98 (I'm 5'1). My CF doc was really on the fence about it when we decided to move fwd and I had a terrible pregnancy...lots of hospitalizations, lost weight, couldn't breathe. Since i'm now at 29% I know it affected my lung function, too ( I don't regret having my son except that maybe I should've used a surrogate and avoided being pregnanct) I


I find it ironic that here you are so healthy when you want to conceive and yet you can't and I wasn't healthy and had no problem having Samuel.

Do you have any other options? You mentioned maybe IVF?? I know lots of healthy women that go that route. It's a 2 week process and insurance may pick it up. Definitely try to have a child now while you are so healthy...now is the time!!! If I had gotten pregnant at 25 I would've done much better...I was so healthy then, but I wasn't married...didn't meet my husband and get married til I was 30...timing wasn't on my side, but you can't always control that stuff!!!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Shoshanna

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Jennifer,

Wow, that's really odd because we have a 15 month-old son which I conceived in no time (maybe a month or two) when with an FEV1 of 45%...much lower than you (it's now 29%) and my weight was only 98 (I'm 5'1). My CF doc was really on the fence about it when we decided to move fwd and I had a terrible pregnancy...lots of hospitalizations, lost weight, couldn't breathe. Since i'm now at 29% I know it affected my lung function, too ( I don't regret having my son except that maybe I should've used a surrogate and avoided being pregnanct) I


I find it ironic that here you are so healthy when you want to conceive and yet you can't and I wasn't healthy and had no problem having Samuel.

Do you have any other options? You mentioned maybe IVF?? I know lots of healthy women that go that route. It's a 2 week process and insurance may pick it up. Definitely try to have a child now while you are so healthy...now is the time!!! If I had gotten pregnant at 25 I would've done much better...I was so healthy then, but I wasn't married...didn't meet my husband and get married til I was 30...timing wasn't on my side, but you can't always control that stuff!!!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Shoshanna

Guest
Jennifer,

Wow, that's really odd because we have a 15 month-old son which I conceived in no time (maybe a month or two) when with an FEV1 of 45%...much lower than you (it's now 29%) and my weight was only 98 (I'm 5'1). My CF doc was really on the fence about it when we decided to move fwd and I had a terrible pregnancy...lots of hospitalizations, lost weight, couldn't breathe. Since i'm now at 29% I know it affected my lung function, too ( I don't regret having my son except that maybe I should've used a surrogate and avoided being pregnanct) I


I find it ironic that here you are so healthy when you want to conceive and yet you can't and I wasn't healthy and had no problem having Samuel.

Do you have any other options? You mentioned maybe IVF?? I know lots of healthy women that go that route. It's a 2 week process and insurance may pick it up. Definitely try to have a child now while you are so healthy...now is the time!!! If I had gotten pregnant at 25 I would've done much better...I was so healthy then, but I wasn't married...didn't meet my husband and get married til I was 30...timing wasn't on my side, but you can't always control that stuff!!!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Allie

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I feel like this has degenerated into "why adoption sucks" and I am too emotionally tired right now to fight. IVf has an 80% average failure rate, last I read. Everything has its own way of sucking.

Affording adoption is possible, but you have to be a little more resourceful than just thinking you have to pull it out of your rear. There's a VERY generous adoption tax credit, grants avaliable, possible low cost loans, fundraisers, etc. A good resource is here : <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=679">financing adoption</a>

Guatemala is where I would go if Ry and I were to go again, and where we were going to. OUr first adoption was a stroke of luck, and all the right people knowing each other at the right time, but Guatemala, as far as everything I have read and heard, has NO MEDICAL DISQUALIFIERS. This makes it good for Cfers who don't want to fight the issue. <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/guatemala_adoption.php">Guatemala stats. </a>
 
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Allie

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I feel like this has degenerated into "why adoption sucks" and I am too emotionally tired right now to fight. IVf has an 80% average failure rate, last I read. Everything has its own way of sucking.

Affording adoption is possible, but you have to be a little more resourceful than just thinking you have to pull it out of your rear. There's a VERY generous adoption tax credit, grants avaliable, possible low cost loans, fundraisers, etc. A good resource is here : <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=679">financing adoption</a>

Guatemala is where I would go if Ry and I were to go again, and where we were going to. OUr first adoption was a stroke of luck, and all the right people knowing each other at the right time, but Guatemala, as far as everything I have read and heard, has NO MEDICAL DISQUALIFIERS. This makes it good for Cfers who don't want to fight the issue. <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/guatemala_adoption.php">Guatemala stats. </a>
 
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Allie

New member
I feel like this has degenerated into "why adoption sucks" and I am too emotionally tired right now to fight. IVf has an 80% average failure rate, last I read. Everything has its own way of sucking.

Affording adoption is possible, but you have to be a little more resourceful than just thinking you have to pull it out of your rear. There's a VERY generous adoption tax credit, grants avaliable, possible low cost loans, fundraisers, etc. A good resource is here : <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=679">financing adoption</a>

Guatemala is where I would go if Ry and I were to go again, and where we were going to. OUr first adoption was a stroke of luck, and all the right people knowing each other at the right time, but Guatemala, as far as everything I have read and heard, has NO MEDICAL DISQUALIFIERS. This makes it good for Cfers who don't want to fight the issue. <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/guatemala_adoption.php">Guatemala stats. </a>
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
OMG...Risa...Dottie is an amazing person. I had forgotten about how she adopted her son...who is adorable btw. She is such an inspiration...Try and talk to her if you can!
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
OMG...Risa...Dottie is an amazing person. I had forgotten about how she adopted her son...who is adorable btw. She is such an inspiration...Try and talk to her if you can!
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
OMG...Risa...Dottie is an amazing person. I had forgotten about how she adopted her son...who is adorable btw. She is such an inspiration...Try and talk to her if you can!
 
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Jennifer1981

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I want to clarify something.

My husband and I wish to pursue natural birth (pregnancy) first.

If that fails, we choose to adopt. Many people on this forum know that is where I stand of motherhood. I believe that if I don't conceive naturally, then it wasn't meant to be. I will not push the issue. I only mentioned IVF from a financial standpoint. But it really isn't something I want to pursue. I don't even intend on seeing a fertility specialist to see why I can't conceive.

I wish to have one child naturally, which doesn't look like it's going to happen. However, I want to adopt future children. I DO NOT intend on having more than one child naturally. I want to experience pregnancy, but above all, want to experience motherhood.

I just wanted to clarify that. Adoption does not suck. It is beautiful and the people that adopt children are beautiful. Yes, I question the interest of the people "behind the scenes" and excessive expenses, but the children and adoptive parents are wonderful. I would still do it.
 
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Jennifer1981

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I want to clarify something.

My husband and I wish to pursue natural birth (pregnancy) first.

If that fails, we choose to adopt. Many people on this forum know that is where I stand of motherhood. I believe that if I don't conceive naturally, then it wasn't meant to be. I will not push the issue. I only mentioned IVF from a financial standpoint. But it really isn't something I want to pursue. I don't even intend on seeing a fertility specialist to see why I can't conceive.

I wish to have one child naturally, which doesn't look like it's going to happen. However, I want to adopt future children. I DO NOT intend on having more than one child naturally. I want to experience pregnancy, but above all, want to experience motherhood.

I just wanted to clarify that. Adoption does not suck. It is beautiful and the people that adopt children are beautiful. Yes, I question the interest of the people "behind the scenes" and excessive expenses, but the children and adoptive parents are wonderful. I would still do it.
 
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Jennifer1981

New member
I want to clarify something.

My husband and I wish to pursue natural birth (pregnancy) first.

If that fails, we choose to adopt. Many people on this forum know that is where I stand of motherhood. I believe that if I don't conceive naturally, then it wasn't meant to be. I will not push the issue. I only mentioned IVF from a financial standpoint. But it really isn't something I want to pursue. I don't even intend on seeing a fertility specialist to see why I can't conceive.

I wish to have one child naturally, which doesn't look like it's going to happen. However, I want to adopt future children. I DO NOT intend on having more than one child naturally. I want to experience pregnancy, but above all, want to experience motherhood.

I just wanted to clarify that. Adoption does not suck. It is beautiful and the people that adopt children are beautiful. Yes, I question the interest of the people "behind the scenes" and excessive expenses, but the children and adoptive parents are wonderful. I would still do it.
 
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Shoshanna

Guest
No, No, No...adoption doesn't suck. Sorry if we've been giving it a bad rap...wasn't intentional...just venting out loud some frustration with having children in general.
 
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Shoshanna

Guest
No, No, No...adoption doesn't suck. Sorry if we've been giving it a bad rap...wasn't intentional...just venting out loud some frustration with having children in general.
 
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Shoshanna

Guest
No, No, No...adoption doesn't suck. Sorry if we've been giving it a bad rap...wasn't intentional...just venting out loud some frustration with having children in general.
 
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julie

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Surrogacy might not be "as" expensive as you think, I'm coinsidering being a surrogate for a family, for about $6000 including life/hospital indemnity insurance for the duration of the pregnancy and for 5 months afterwards. In the state of WA I cannot be financially compensated for being a surrogate, however, if we go through with this, the family has agreed to pay $6000 directly to our student loan account balance with sallie Mae, thus the $$ never touches our hands.

If you/your husband are not set on having your own biological child (and I understand either way, I really do), then you can always adopt embryos (this is fee, and usually you have to pay ONLY to have them tested, and the cost of transfering them to wherever you are living/your clinic) and have them implanted into a surrogate who would be willing to do it in a situation like I am.

We are not using an agency (too expensive) and I have reasons, other than financial (although it is a factor) for doing something like this.

maybe you could look into it. Just some ideas......
 
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julie

New member
Surrogacy might not be "as" expensive as you think, I'm coinsidering being a surrogate for a family, for about $6000 including life/hospital indemnity insurance for the duration of the pregnancy and for 5 months afterwards. In the state of WA I cannot be financially compensated for being a surrogate, however, if we go through with this, the family has agreed to pay $6000 directly to our student loan account balance with sallie Mae, thus the $$ never touches our hands.

If you/your husband are not set on having your own biological child (and I understand either way, I really do), then you can always adopt embryos (this is fee, and usually you have to pay ONLY to have them tested, and the cost of transfering them to wherever you are living/your clinic) and have them implanted into a surrogate who would be willing to do it in a situation like I am.

We are not using an agency (too expensive) and I have reasons, other than financial (although it is a factor) for doing something like this.

maybe you could look into it. Just some ideas......
 
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