Hi y'all!
I am 25, almost 26, a woman with a MILD FORM of cystic fibrosis.
all my family and friends know i have the disease, and in my experience it was harder to tell them later rather than earlier...anyway, these people "have my back" and i know that they'll be around to support me forever!
anyways, this guy and i have only been dating for about a week, but i've liked him for a long time! i feel like i'm totally falling for him! i'm not so good at telling people about cf because i always expect a totally negative reaction: "you're gonna die," "wow, you're soo brave" and, the worst: "why didn't you tell me before? you lied to me!" most likely these reactions won't happen, but you never know.
so....my question is: WHEN and HOW is the best time to mention that you have this disease? it's hard because i have virtually no symptoms but this has almost been hindering in that it hasn't really forced me to be more upfront with people and myself about it. should i wait longer till we're more "serious" before telling him? or should i tell him ASAP and risk scaring him off? i don't want to hurt his feelings, but i also want to be honest and realistic. plus if i end up having to get hospitalized in the upcoming years....
i would also like to hear from spouses and/or boyfriends and girlfriends of people with cf. were you hurt when your lover told you because you felt betrayed? or was it not such a big deal? what is the best way to phrase it? i don't want to sugarcoat it, but i also want to be as honest as possible, because this is a guy that i could see myself with!
any help would be great! life's great when you're falling in love....
thanks!
--lovely young lady on a whirlwind romance
I am 25, almost 26, a woman with a MILD FORM of cystic fibrosis.
all my family and friends know i have the disease, and in my experience it was harder to tell them later rather than earlier...anyway, these people "have my back" and i know that they'll be around to support me forever!
anyways, this guy and i have only been dating for about a week, but i've liked him for a long time! i feel like i'm totally falling for him! i'm not so good at telling people about cf because i always expect a totally negative reaction: "you're gonna die," "wow, you're soo brave" and, the worst: "why didn't you tell me before? you lied to me!" most likely these reactions won't happen, but you never know.
so....my question is: WHEN and HOW is the best time to mention that you have this disease? it's hard because i have virtually no symptoms but this has almost been hindering in that it hasn't really forced me to be more upfront with people and myself about it. should i wait longer till we're more "serious" before telling him? or should i tell him ASAP and risk scaring him off? i don't want to hurt his feelings, but i also want to be honest and realistic. plus if i end up having to get hospitalized in the upcoming years....
i would also like to hear from spouses and/or boyfriends and girlfriends of people with cf. were you hurt when your lover told you because you felt betrayed? or was it not such a big deal? what is the best way to phrase it? i don't want to sugarcoat it, but i also want to be as honest as possible, because this is a guy that i could see myself with!
any help would be great! life's great when you're falling in love....
thanks!
--lovely young lady on a whirlwind romance