How old is too old?

sunshine5637 · May 18, 2009

I turn 30 in July and my hubby and I do not have children. I would like to have 1 someday and my hubby's sort of in between, I think he will eventually....but I was wondering, how old is too old to either have a child on your own, or to even adopt? I guess I'm afraid that by the time we decide to have one, I may feel that I'm too old...even though I know lots of women nowadays have children well into their 40s, but I feel like I'm "different".

Does any of this make sense???

sunshine5637 · May 18, 2009

I turn 30 in July and my hubby and I do not have children. I would like to have 1 someday and my hubby's sort of in between, I think he will eventually....but I was wondering, how old is too old to either have a child on your own, or to even adopt? I guess I'm afraid that by the time we decide to have one, I may feel that I'm too old...even though I know lots of women nowadays have children well into their 40s, but I feel like I'm "different".

Does any of this make sense???

sunshine5637 · May 18, 2009

I turn 30 in July and my hubby and I do not have children. I would like to have 1 someday and my hubby's sort of in between, I think he will eventually....but I was wondering, how old is too old to either have a child on your own, or to even adopt? I guess I'm afraid that by the time we decide to have one, I may feel that I'm too old...even though I know lots of women nowadays have children well into their 40s, but I feel like I'm "different".

Does any of this make sense???

sunshine5637 · May 18, 2009

I turn 30 in July and my hubby and I do not have children. I would like to have 1 someday and my hubby's sort of in between, I think he will eventually....but I was wondering, how old is too old to either have a child on your own, or to even adopt? I guess I'm afraid that by the time we decide to have one, I may feel that I'm too old...even though I know lots of women nowadays have children well into their 40s, but I feel like I'm "different".

Does any of this make sense???

sunshine5637 · May 18, 2009

I turn 30 in July and my hubby and I do not have children. I would like to have 1 someday and my hubby's sort of in between, I think he will eventually....but I was wondering, how old is too old to either have a child on your own, or to even adopt? I guess I'm afraid that by the time we decide to have one, I may feel that I'm too old...even though I know lots of women nowadays have children well into their 40s, but I feel like I'm "different".
 
 Does any of this make sense???

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Certainly it makes sense. In fact, I think the biological clock ticking feeling comes sooner for people with cf. Rightly so since we realize our time on earth might not be as long as other mothers. So that begs the question...how is your health? Do you have any cf complications? How does your doc feel about you persueing pregnancy? I don't think there is an age limit on getting pregnant (naturally) with cf but most docs will agree that it is not a good idea with an FEV1 below 50% and many feel more comfortable with 75% or higher. One needs to have normal weight to become pregnant.

In terms of reproductive help and or adoption. I'm sure there are age limits on those but I can't speak to it. I hope this helped.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Certainly it makes sense. In fact, I think the biological clock ticking feeling comes sooner for people with cf. Rightly so since we realize our time on earth might not be as long as other mothers. So that begs the question...how is your health? Do you have any cf complications? How does your doc feel about you persueing pregnancy? I don't think there is an age limit on getting pregnant (naturally) with cf but most docs will agree that it is not a good idea with an FEV1 below 50% and many feel more comfortable with 75% or higher. One needs to have normal weight to become pregnant.

In terms of reproductive help and or adoption. I'm sure there are age limits on those but I can't speak to it. I hope this helped.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Certainly it makes sense. In fact, I think the biological clock ticking feeling comes sooner for people with cf. Rightly so since we realize our time on earth might not be as long as other mothers. So that begs the question...how is your health? Do you have any cf complications? How does your doc feel about you persueing pregnancy? I don't think there is an age limit on getting pregnant (naturally) with cf but most docs will agree that it is not a good idea with an FEV1 below 50% and many feel more comfortable with 75% or higher. One needs to have normal weight to become pregnant.

In terms of reproductive help and or adoption. I'm sure there are age limits on those but I can't speak to it. I hope this helped.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Certainly it makes sense. In fact, I think the biological clock ticking feeling comes sooner for people with cf. Rightly so since we realize our time on earth might not be as long as other mothers. So that begs the question...how is your health? Do you have any cf complications? How does your doc feel about you persueing pregnancy? I don't think there is an age limit on getting pregnant (naturally) with cf but most docs will agree that it is not a good idea with an FEV1 below 50% and many feel more comfortable with 75% or higher. One needs to have normal weight to become pregnant.

In terms of reproductive help and or adoption. I'm sure there are age limits on those but I can't speak to it. I hope this helped.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Certainly it makes sense. In fact, I think the biological clock ticking feeling comes sooner for people with cf. Rightly so since we realize our time on earth might not be as long as other mothers. So that begs the question...how is your health? Do you have any cf complications? How does your doc feel about you persueing pregnancy? I don't think there is an age limit on getting pregnant (naturally) with cf but most docs will agree that it is not a good idea with an FEV1 below 50% and many feel more comfortable with 75% or higher. One needs to have normal weight to become pregnant.
 
 In terms of reproductive help and or adoption. I'm sure there are age limits on those but I can't speak to it. I hope this helped.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Oh and most of us at more thorough clinics have had the discussion or should I say have been asked by our doc if we've discussed single parenthood with our spouse. I was glad my husband and I had already discussed this when put on the spot so take it as a tip to discuss if you haven't. Personally I felt whether or not we had a child was ultimately my husbands decision bc he totally has to be prepared to parent our child without me.

My FEV1 is 67% and I have no plan to go anywhere anytime soon. In fact I plan to live to a ripe, old age. It's just purely logical and fair to the child to discuss this stuff beforehand. Also, something to think about is the possible phsych effects on child seeing their mother decline.

Lots to consider but congrats on giving it some more thought. I hope you and your spouse find clarity to the subject.

And that you get him genetically SEQUENCED not panel SCREENED. ie. more than 1000 mutations not a small test of <100 mutations.

Also your health stability (ie how often you exacerbate), weight (like I mentioned), compliance to treatments (it will only get harder once you're a mom), and support system should be taken into consideration along with FEV1 like I mentioned.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Oh and most of us at more thorough clinics have had the discussion or should I say have been asked by our doc if we've discussed single parenthood with our spouse. I was glad my husband and I had already discussed this when put on the spot so take it as a tip to discuss if you haven't. Personally I felt whether or not we had a child was ultimately my husbands decision bc he totally has to be prepared to parent our child without me.

My FEV1 is 67% and I have no plan to go anywhere anytime soon. In fact I plan to live to a ripe, old age. It's just purely logical and fair to the child to discuss this stuff beforehand. Also, something to think about is the possible phsych effects on child seeing their mother decline.

Lots to consider but congrats on giving it some more thought. I hope you and your spouse find clarity to the subject.

And that you get him genetically SEQUENCED not panel SCREENED. ie. more than 1000 mutations not a small test of <100 mutations.

Also your health stability (ie how often you exacerbate), weight (like I mentioned), compliance to treatments (it will only get harder once you're a mom), and support system should be taken into consideration along with FEV1 like I mentioned.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Oh and most of us at more thorough clinics have had the discussion or should I say have been asked by our doc if we've discussed single parenthood with our spouse. I was glad my husband and I had already discussed this when put on the spot so take it as a tip to discuss if you haven't. Personally I felt whether or not we had a child was ultimately my husbands decision bc he totally has to be prepared to parent our child without me.

My FEV1 is 67% and I have no plan to go anywhere anytime soon. In fact I plan to live to a ripe, old age. It's just purely logical and fair to the child to discuss this stuff beforehand. Also, something to think about is the possible phsych effects on child seeing their mother decline.

Lots to consider but congrats on giving it some more thought. I hope you and your spouse find clarity to the subject.

And that you get him genetically SEQUENCED not panel SCREENED. ie. more than 1000 mutations not a small test of <100 mutations.

Also your health stability (ie how often you exacerbate), weight (like I mentioned), compliance to treatments (it will only get harder once you're a mom), and support system should be taken into consideration along with FEV1 like I mentioned.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Oh and most of us at more thorough clinics have had the discussion or should I say have been asked by our doc if we've discussed single parenthood with our spouse. I was glad my husband and I had already discussed this when put on the spot so take it as a tip to discuss if you haven't. Personally I felt whether or not we had a child was ultimately my husbands decision bc he totally has to be prepared to parent our child without me.

My FEV1 is 67% and I have no plan to go anywhere anytime soon. In fact I plan to live to a ripe, old age. It's just purely logical and fair to the child to discuss this stuff beforehand. Also, something to think about is the possible phsych effects on child seeing their mother decline.

Lots to consider but congrats on giving it some more thought. I hope you and your spouse find clarity to the subject.

And that you get him genetically SEQUENCED not panel SCREENED. ie. more than 1000 mutations not a small test of <100 mutations.

Also your health stability (ie how often you exacerbate), weight (like I mentioned), compliance to treatments (it will only get harder once you're a mom), and support system should be taken into consideration along with FEV1 like I mentioned.

LouLou · May 18, 2009

Oh and most of us at more thorough clinics have had the discussion or should I say have been asked by our doc if we've discussed single parenthood with our spouse. I was glad my husband and I had already discussed this when put on the spot so take it as a tip to discuss if you haven't. Personally I felt whether or not we had a child was ultimately my husbands decision bc he totally has to be prepared to parent our child without me.
 
 My FEV1 is 67% and I have no plan to go anywhere anytime soon. In fact I plan to live to a ripe, old age. It's just purely logical and fair to the child to discuss this stuff beforehand. Also, something to think about is the possible phsych effects on child seeing their mother decline.
 
 Lots to consider but congrats on giving it some more thought. I hope you and your spouse find clarity to the subject.
 
 And that you get him genetically SEQUENCED not panel SCREENED. ie. more than 1000 mutations not a small test of <100 mutations.
 
 Also your health stability (ie how often you exacerbate), weight (like I mentioned), compliance to treatments (it will only get harder once you're a mom), and support system should be taken into consideration along with FEV1 like I mentioned.

Jeana · May 19, 2009

Amazingly, since becoming a mom, I am more compliant than I've ever been in my life. The kiddos are worth living for--and not just living, but living a quality life. Anyhow, I just wanted to add that I once decided that if I didn't get pregnant by age 30, I was going to get my tubes tied. I had my son Alex at age 32, so it's a good thing I didn't do it. Also, when you're done having kids, have the hubby get the vasectomy. It's so easy for them. My hubby gladly volunteered over me having major surgery. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Jeana · May 19, 2009

Amazingly, since becoming a mom, I am more compliant than I've ever been in my life. The kiddos are worth living for--and not just living, but living a quality life. Anyhow, I just wanted to add that I once decided that if I didn't get pregnant by age 30, I was going to get my tubes tied. I had my son Alex at age 32, so it's a good thing I didn't do it. Also, when you're done having kids, have the hubby get the vasectomy. It's so easy for them. My hubby gladly volunteered over me having major surgery. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Jeana · May 19, 2009

Amazingly, since becoming a mom, I am more compliant than I've ever been in my life. The kiddos are worth living for--and not just living, but living a quality life. Anyhow, I just wanted to add that I once decided that if I didn't get pregnant by age 30, I was going to get my tubes tied. I had my son Alex at age 32, so it's a good thing I didn't do it. Also, when you're done having kids, have the hubby get the vasectomy. It's so easy for them. My hubby gladly volunteered over me having major surgery. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Jeana · May 19, 2009

Amazingly, since becoming a mom, I am more compliant than I've ever been in my life. The kiddos are worth living for--and not just living, but living a quality life. Anyhow, I just wanted to add that I once decided that if I didn't get pregnant by age 30, I was going to get my tubes tied. I had my son Alex at age 32, so it's a good thing I didn't do it. Also, when you're done having kids, have the hubby get the vasectomy. It's so easy for them. My hubby gladly volunteered over me having major surgery. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Jeana · May 19, 2009

Amazingly, since becoming a mom, I am more compliant than I've ever been in my life. The kiddos are worth living for--and not just living, but living a quality life. Anyhow, I just wanted to add that I once decided that if I didn't get pregnant by age 30, I was going to get my tubes tied. I had my son Alex at age 32, so it's a good thing I didn't do it. Also, when you're done having kids, have the hubby get the vasectomy. It's so easy for them. My hubby gladly volunteered over me having major surgery. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

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