I like a guy...should I tell him I have CF?

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PoetGirl18

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Hi, my name is Leslie and I'm a senior in high school...My senior prom is coming up soon and I have a guy in mind I want to take, but the only thing that's keeping me from asking him is my CF, what should I do? If he comes over and pickes me up I don't want him to see anything that deals with my CF. HE doesn't know that I have, he thinks I'm just a normal person with a bad cough all the time.
 
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Emily65Roses

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My opinion? Two things:

1). Since you're not involved with the guy and he's just taking you to prom... you don't really have an obligation to tell him.
2). Why are you so afraid of telling him? Because right now he thinks you're a "normal" person? If the guy has any integrity at all, he won't stop talking to you based on the CF. Besides, being normal is boring. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">
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IG

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Lol, Being normal is boring. I agree with all that Emily has said. There are plenty of great guys out there who don't care about the CF thing at all. Go for it and ask him, the worst he could say is no.
 
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PoetGirl18

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I'm afraid of telling him because he may think of me differently and not want anything to do with me, or worse he'll stop talking to me and wont come around me, even though CF can't be passed person-to-person.
 
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anonymous

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CF is a part of who you are though. So if he does't want to accept that then maybe he isn't worth it. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but people should accept you for all of you, including cf and believe me guys will too.
Margaret
Double lung tx 11/11/04 Cf
 
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Joblazer86

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I say if he is just taking you to prom you don't have to but if it is more than just that then I would if I were you. I didn't have a problem in high school with telling people b/c most of the time they were ignorant about it and just accepted it. If I was you I wouldn't tell him if it's just a prom date.
 
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anonymous

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Poet Girl 18,
I think you should tell him you have CF because you shouldn't be scared to tell him because if he likes u then he won't care that you have CF. My cousin is 22 and has CF he was also scared to tell girls he had CF because he was afraid they would think they would think it's contagious. I think you should just tell Him that you have CF and explain to him that its not a contagious that most kids are born with.
 
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anonymous

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Remember that if you're around him a lot, he'll see you take medications plenty of times. So my advice is to tell him.
 
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MerryBerryFairy

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Hey Poet,

Personally, I think you should tell him. Just make it so he understands that its not contagious, and that its just genetic. If you go to prom and you start coughing hard, he may think that your sick, and therefore not wanting to be around you much. But, thats just my point of view, do what you wish!

Good Luck!
Merritt
 
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anonymous

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Hi, my thought is tell him. I've been personally able to tell all of my firiends, and sure they are more cautious of wether i've taken my medicine. but they treat me the same. Even my prom dates have known... and they didnt care what so ever. If he does care, he's not worth it... just remember... be yourself.

-Suzanne.
 
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anonymous

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Hi, my name is Ryan, my gf... well she's not my gf anymore, but she was for 7months this year, she has cf, i knew when i first met her she had cf. her friend told me. Didn't bother me, well didn't actually know to much about it back then. now i know quite a bit about cf. If u like someone you like someone and thats that. she broke up with me about 3 months ago, i still really love her. If he doesn't want to go out with you cuz u have cf then he is not worth it.
 
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anonymous

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">DON'T TELL HIM TILL YOUR COMFORTABLE IN DOING SO ,YOUR ONLY GOING ON A DATE W/HIM.HE DOES'NT NEED TO KNOW YOUR LIFE HISTORY.ALSO DON'T BE ASHAMED OF HAVING CF,WE ALL CAN'T BE PERFECT AND ARE'NT!!!
 
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wuffles

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Maybe you could just tell him if the topic comes up. If he comes into your house and sees a nebulizer or you taking enzymes for example, then casually explain that you have cystic fibrosis. No need to go into the gritty details unless he asks <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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anonymous

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I like a guy to but I think he might not like me because of my disease. I't kind of puts me in a posision were I cant really do anythinh about it.
 
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purpleangel28282

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To be honest there are some people out there that will look at you weird or avoid you knowing that you have a disease, however they do it because they are ignorant. In Disney's "Beauty and the Beast" near the end when Gaston and the village people are going to kill the Beast and they sing that song, "Kill the Beast" some of the lyrics are, "We don't like what we don't understand." Sadly enough it's true, however there are so many people out there that are willing to look beyond the disease and just at who the person is. If you can't tell a guy that you have CF because you think they wont like you because of it, then they don't deserve to be liked by you.
 
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anonymous

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if he really likes u it wont matter if u have CF or not cuz if u really like him tell him to see if he fells the same!!<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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EmilysMini

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my advice for people that cant accept the cf. F*ck them. they are no where even close to worth your time. these are the same ignorant people that will provide much entertainment for us all later on in life.(you know, those people that will undoubtedly destroy the earth or something.) So sit back, and laugh at them and their ignorant ways.
 
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