It's a boy

[cfmomma]

I just found out yesterday that I am having another boy! I really wanted a girl and I thought that I would be upset if I found out it was another boy, but I am thrilled. Harrison is bouncing off the walls with excitement. The ultrasound showed that everything looked great, no problems yet. Toward the end of pregnancy I will get weekly ultrasounds to check for meconium ileus, we don't know if this baby has CF and will not know until a few weeks after the birth. His cord blood will sent off and tested for CF.

My son has been asking if this baby will have CF. People are already commenting "..well as long as this one doesn't have CF.", "we don't care, as long as the baby is healthy". This really upsets my son and makes him feel alienated and worthless. Insensitive people suck. Nobody wants this baby to have CF, but don't make my son feel like crap and don't talk about how CF is the worst thing in the world right in front of him!! How do I respond to those comments? How do I let my son know that he's loved by others, despite the CF?

 

[cfmomma]

I just found out yesterday that I am having another boy! I really wanted a girl and I thought that I would be upset if I found out it was another boy, but I am thrilled. Harrison is bouncing off the walls with excitement. The ultrasound showed that everything looked great, no problems yet. Toward the end of pregnancy I will get weekly ultrasounds to check for meconium ileus, we don't know if this baby has CF and will not know until a few weeks after the birth. His cord blood will sent off and tested for CF.

My son has been asking if this baby will have CF. People are already commenting "..well as long as this one doesn't have CF.", "we don't care, as long as the baby is healthy". This really upsets my son and makes him feel alienated and worthless. Insensitive people suck. Nobody wants this baby to have CF, but don't make my son feel like crap and don't talk about how CF is the worst thing in the world right in front of him!! How do I respond to those comments? How do I let my son know that he's loved by others, despite the CF?

 

[cfmomma]

I just found out yesterday that I am having another boy! I really wanted a girl and I thought that I would be upset if I found out it was another boy, but I am thrilled. Harrison is bouncing off the walls with excitement. The ultrasound showed that everything looked great, no problems yet. Toward the end of pregnancy I will get weekly ultrasounds to check for meconium ileus, we don't know if this baby has CF and will not know until a few weeks after the birth. His cord blood will sent off and tested for CF.

My son has been asking if this baby will have CF. People are already commenting "..well as long as this one doesn't have CF.", "we don't care, as long as the baby is healthy". This really upsets my son and makes him feel alienated and worthless. Insensitive people suck. Nobody wants this baby to have CF, but don't make my son feel like crap and don't talk about how CF is the worst thing in the world right in front of him!! How do I respond to those comments? How do I let my son know that he's loved by others, despite the CF?

 

[blopunky]

hello cfmomma!<br>
I am also a mom-a 17year old no cf, 13year old no cf, 10year
old(borderline-don't know yet), and an 8year old with cf. He was
diagnosed when he was about 20 months give or take a few. I always
have gotten the "but he looks so healthy" statement and
it almost feels like I have to defend him. It makes him feel weird.
All along I have told him that it wasn't anything he did by having
cf. He used to ask if it would go away and I hated telling him no,
but that it didn't matter to me-he is special. Of course then I
told him all the reasons he is special. As much as we could we have
tried not to make cf the main focus of his day. It's a huge part of
it-things like meds,breathing and beating(this is what we call his
cpt!) Coughing it up and spitting it out, and washing hands. It's
alot I know but it's usually just reminders and  I try to
emphasize other aspects of his day. Just some things that I do for
him, it doesn't seem like it's enough, but I try. <br>
As for other people and their comments-Ask them point
blank-"you mean you wouldn't want his baby brother to be as
special as his big brother? If they don't get the hint, well you
can't fix stupid!<br>
<br>
CONGRATULATIONS on your news!!!<br>
Blopunky's mom

 

[blopunky]

hello cfmomma!<br>
I am also a mom-a 17year old no cf, 13year old no cf, 10year
old(borderline-don't know yet), and an 8year old with cf. He was
diagnosed when he was about 20 months give or take a few. I always
have gotten the "but he looks so healthy" statement and
it almost feels like I have to defend him. It makes him feel weird.
All along I have told him that it wasn't anything he did by having
cf. He used to ask if it would go away and I hated telling him no,
but that it didn't matter to me-he is special. Of course then I
told him all the reasons he is special. As much as we could we have
tried not to make cf the main focus of his day. It's a huge part of
it-things like meds,breathing and beating(this is what we call his
cpt!) Coughing it up and spitting it out, and washing hands. It's
alot I know but it's usually just reminders and  I try to
emphasize other aspects of his day. Just some things that I do for
him, it doesn't seem like it's enough, but I try. <br>
As for other people and their comments-Ask them point
blank-"you mean you wouldn't want his baby brother to be as
special as his big brother? If they don't get the hint, well you
can't fix stupid!<br>
<br>
CONGRATULATIONS on your news!!!<br>
Blopunky's mom

 

[blopunky]

hello cfmomma!<br>
I am also a mom-a 17year old no cf, 13year old no cf, 10year
old(borderline-don't know yet), and an 8year old with cf. He was
diagnosed when he was about 20 months give or take a few. I always
have gotten the "but he looks so healthy" statement and
it almost feels like I have to defend him. It makes him feel weird.
All along I have told him that it wasn't anything he did by having
cf. He used to ask if it would go away and I hated telling him no,
but that it didn't matter to me-he is special. Of course then I
told him all the reasons he is special. As much as we could we have
tried not to make cf the main focus of his day. It's a huge part of
it-things like meds,breathing and beating(this is what we call his
cpt!) Coughing it up and spitting it out, and washing hands. It's
alot I know but it's usually just reminders and  I try to
emphasize other aspects of his day. Just some things that I do for
him, it doesn't seem like it's enough, but I try. <br>
As for other people and their comments-Ask them point
blank-"you mean you wouldn't want his baby brother to be as
special as his big brother? If they don't get the hint, well you
can't fix stupid!<br>
<br>
CONGRATULATIONS on your news!!!<br>
Blopunky's mom

 

[Mommafirst]

Congratulations!!!  I have two boys, and I was mildly
disappointed upon learning the second was a boy; but I wouldn't
change a thing today.  They will be wonderful friends!!
 There is no greater joy than watching your children interact
and love each other.    I just love my boys!!<br>
<br>
As for stupid people who say stupid things, try to use it as a
chance to enlighten them a little -- or chalk it up to their
stupidity.  I'm sorry!!!  I sure hope I was never so
insensitive, but I probably was at one point -- having CF in my
life has change a great deal of how I see everything and everyone!!

 

[Mommafirst]

Congratulations!!!  I have two boys, and I was mildly
disappointed upon learning the second was a boy; but I wouldn't
change a thing today.  They will be wonderful friends!!
 There is no greater joy than watching your children interact
and love each other.    I just love my boys!!<br>
<br>
As for stupid people who say stupid things, try to use it as a
chance to enlighten them a little -- or chalk it up to their
stupidity.  I'm sorry!!!  I sure hope I was never so
insensitive, but I probably was at one point -- having CF in my
life has change a great deal of how I see everything and everyone!!

 

[Mommafirst]

Congratulations!!!  I have two boys, and I was mildly
disappointed upon learning the second was a boy; but I wouldn't
change a thing today.  They will be wonderful friends!!
 There is no greater joy than watching your children interact
and love each other.    I just love my boys!!<br>
<br>
As for stupid people who say stupid things, try to use it as a
chance to enlighten them a little -- or chalk it up to their
stupidity.  I'm sorry!!!  I sure hope I was never so
insensitive, but I probably was at one point -- having CF in my
life has change a great deal of how I see everything and everyone!!

 

[DietRootBeer]

First off Congratulations on your new baby boy!!!!!!!!!!

Secondly people suck...I mean really suck sometimes! Saying comments like that infront of your son is absolutely insensitive and irresponsable....But unfortunately there are alot of ignorant people out there so just be the best role model you can to your boys and hopefully they will grow up to be well raised,kind and sensitive men.

Good luck with your baby boy!

 

[DietRootBeer]

First off Congratulations on your new baby boy!!!!!!!!!!

Secondly people suck...I mean really suck sometimes! Saying comments like that infront of your son is absolutely insensitive and irresponsable....But unfortunately there are alot of ignorant people out there so just be the best role model you can to your boys and hopefully they will grow up to be well raised,kind and sensitive men.

Good luck with your baby boy!

 

[DietRootBeer]

First off Congratulations on your new baby boy!!!!!!!!!!

Secondly people suck...I mean really suck sometimes! Saying comments like that infront of your son is absolutely insensitive and irresponsable....But unfortunately there are alot of ignorant people out there so just be the best role model you can to your boys and hopefully they will grow up to be well raised,kind and sensitive men.

Good luck with your baby boy!

 

[sweetwhite30]

Yes i have to agree people do suck!!!!! Such comments are distasteful in front of the little one i will add. Some people it comes to them as a shock and sometimes i think thats why they react stupidily,well some anyway.... and congrats on the second boy!!!! i have 2 sons one 7 tested out 59 but has to be tested every yr for it and my angel baby 4 yrs old he has c.f but we call his chest pt pitty pat..... i try to keep things kid friendly and tell him hes special....extra love to all with these special angels

 

[sweetwhite30]

Yes i have to agree people do suck!!!!! Such comments are distasteful in front of the little one i will add. Some people it comes to them as a shock and sometimes i think thats why they react stupidily,well some anyway.... and congrats on the second boy!!!! i have 2 sons one 7 tested out 59 but has to be tested every yr for it and my angel baby 4 yrs old he has c.f but we call his chest pt pitty pat..... i try to keep things kid friendly and tell him hes special....extra love to all with these special angels

 

[sweetwhite30]

Yes i have to agree people do suck!!!!! Such comments are distasteful in front of the little one i will add. Some people it comes to them as a shock and sometimes i think thats why they react stupidily,well some anyway.... and congrats on the second boy!!!! i have 2 sons one 7 tested out 59 but has to be tested every yr for it and my angel baby 4 yrs old he has c.f but we call his chest pt pitty pat..... i try to keep things kid friendly and tell him hes special....extra love to all with these special angels

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Dear Sheli, congrats on the baby boy, and he's going to be born in my birth month! I think blopunky's answer is great, make those insensitive duffus's squirm! They better not say anything like that after the baby is born! Good luck with the pregnancy and the baby, and I hope both he, and older brother are surrounded by love.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Dear Sheli, congrats on the baby boy, and he's going to be born in my birth month! I think blopunky's answer is great, make those insensitive duffus's squirm! They better not say anything like that after the baby is born! Good luck with the pregnancy and the baby, and I hope both he, and older brother are surrounded by love.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Dear Sheli, congrats on the baby boy, and he's going to be born in my birth month! I think blopunky's answer is great, make those insensitive duffus's squirm! They better not say anything like that after the baby is born! Good luck with the pregnancy and the baby, and I hope both he, and older brother are surrounded by love.

 

[sweetwhite30]

yeah people will say things that will test you beyond believe.I think i is nice you are going to have a second little boy and no matter what he is your miracle and the gift god gave to you despite what all others say......congrats

 

[sweetwhite30]

yeah people will say things that will test you beyond believe.I think i is nice you are going to have a second little boy and no matter what he is your miracle and the gift god gave to you despite what all others say......congrats