My Parents Smoke

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Audz

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My whole life my parents have smoked. Over the past few years when I have finally found out what cf actually does to you and how it affects your life I have got more and more upset with the fact they smoke. I have on many, many occasions asked them to try quitting in the nicest possible way but they basically shut me down every time and get annoyed that I even mentioned it. Also, when someone in the house has a cold they aren't very hygenic either and they think that I'm being a germaphobe when I try stay away from them when they are sick. I don't think they understand what cf is like and how sick I feel on a day to day basis. The other night when I was in a terrible mood I explained why I hate it how they smoke, and they still didn't get it they just told me to put away my hormones or some other stupid comment. After I explained to them why I hated them smoking, they go and light up.
Am I over reacting to this? What can I do?
It feels like they are "rubbing it in" my face that they keep smoking even after having a lung dieseased child.
 
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Audz

New member
My whole life my parents have smoked. Over the past few years when I have finally found out what cf actually does to you and how it affects your life I have got more and more upset with the fact they smoke. I have on many, many occasions asked them to try quitting in the nicest possible way but they basically shut me down every time and get annoyed that I even mentioned it. Also, when someone in the house has a cold they aren't very hygenic either and they think that I'm being a germaphobe when I try stay away from them when they are sick. I don't think they understand what cf is like and how sick I feel on a day to day basis. The other night when I was in a terrible mood I explained why I hate it how they smoke, and they still didn't get it they just told me to put away my hormones or some other stupid comment. After I explained to them why I hated them smoking, they go and light up.
Am I over reacting to this? What can I do?
It feels like they are "rubbing it in" my face that they keep smoking even after having a lung dieseased child.
 
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Audz

New member
My whole life my parents have smoked. Over the past few years when I have finally found out what cf actually does to you and how it affects your life I have got more and more upset with the fact they smoke. I have on many, many occasions asked them to try quitting in the nicest possible way but they basically shut me down every time and get annoyed that I even mentioned it. Also, when someone in the house has a cold they aren't very hygenic either and they think that I'm being a germaphobe when I try stay away from them when they are sick. I don't think they understand what cf is like and how sick I feel on a day to day basis. The other night when I was in a terrible mood I explained why I hate it how they smoke, and they still didn't get it they just told me to put away my hormones or some other stupid comment. After I explained to them why I hated them smoking, they go and light up.
Am I over reacting to this? What can I do?
It feels like they are "rubbing it in" my face that they keep smoking even after having a lung dieseased child.
 
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Audz

New member
My whole life my parents have smoked. Over the past few years when I have finally found out what cf actually does to you and how it affects your life I have got more and more upset with the fact they smoke. I have on many, many occasions asked them to try quitting in the nicest possible way but they basically shut me down every time and get annoyed that I even mentioned it. Also, when someone in the house has a cold they aren't very hygenic either and they think that I'm being a germaphobe when I try stay away from them when they are sick. I don't think they understand what cf is like and how sick I feel on a day to day basis. The other night when I was in a terrible mood I explained why I hate it how they smoke, and they still didn't get it they just told me to put away my hormones or some other stupid comment. After I explained to them why I hated them smoking, they go and light up.
Am I over reacting to this? What can I do?
It feels like they are "rubbing it in" my face that they keep smoking even after having a lung dieseased child.
 
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Audz

New member
My whole life my parents have smoked. Over the past few years when I have finally found out what cf actually does to you and how it affects your life I have got more and more upset with the fact they smoke. I have on many, many occasions asked them to try quitting in the nicest possible way but they basically shut me down every time and get annoyed that I even mentioned it. Also, when someone in the house has a cold they aren't very hygenic either and they think that I'm being a germaphobe when I try stay away from them when they are sick. I don't think they understand what cf is like and how sick I feel on a day to day basis. The other night when I was in a terrible mood I explained why I hate it how they smoke, and they still didn't get it they just told me to put away my hormones or some other stupid comment. After I explained to them why I hated them smoking, they go and light up.
Am I over reacting to this? What can I do?
It feels like they are "rubbing it in" my face that they keep smoking even after having a lung dieseased child.
 
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Audz

New member
My whole life my parents have smoked. Over the past few years when I have finally found out what cf actually does to you and how it affects your life I have got more and more upset with the fact they smoke. I have on many, many occasions asked them to try quitting in the nicest possible way but they basically shut me down every time and get annoyed that I even mentioned it. Also, when someone in the house has a cold they aren't very hygenic either and they think that I'm being a germaphobe when I try stay away from them when they are sick. I don't think they understand what cf is like and how sick I feel on a day to day basis. The other night when I was in a terrible mood I explained why I hate it how they smoke, and they still didn't get it they just told me to put away my hormones or some other stupid comment. After I explained to them why I hated them smoking, they go and light up.
Am I over reacting to this? What can I do?
It feels like they are "rubbing it in" my face that they keep smoking even after having a lung dieseased child.
 
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Niamh

Guest
Hi Audrey,
both my parents smoke so i very much understand where youre coming from. It can be quite upseting to be so sick and tired of struggling to breathe everyday and then you see your parents stupidly ruin their own, perfectly healthy lungs. Such a waste! Im presuming that your parents don't smoke in the same room as you so that they are at least limiting the damage to their own lungs. With my own parents, ive had a talk with them several times over the years and they have tried to give up cigs millions of times with no success (yet).

My best suggestion, and this is coming from a person who has yet to suceed with her own folks, is to write them a letter from the heart. Tell them honestly and with no anger how upset their smoking makes you. This at least will show them that this issue is no teenage tantrum. In fact I'd say they know this and are already ashamed of their smoking but are buring their heads in the sand. Hope this helps some.
Niamh 27 y/o with cf in Ireland
 
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Niamh

Guest
Hi Audrey,
both my parents smoke so i very much understand where youre coming from. It can be quite upseting to be so sick and tired of struggling to breathe everyday and then you see your parents stupidly ruin their own, perfectly healthy lungs. Such a waste! Im presuming that your parents don't smoke in the same room as you so that they are at least limiting the damage to their own lungs. With my own parents, ive had a talk with them several times over the years and they have tried to give up cigs millions of times with no success (yet).

My best suggestion, and this is coming from a person who has yet to suceed with her own folks, is to write them a letter from the heart. Tell them honestly and with no anger how upset their smoking makes you. This at least will show them that this issue is no teenage tantrum. In fact I'd say they know this and are already ashamed of their smoking but are buring their heads in the sand. Hope this helps some.
Niamh 27 y/o with cf in Ireland
 
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Niamh

Guest
Hi Audrey,
both my parents smoke so i very much understand where youre coming from. It can be quite upseting to be so sick and tired of struggling to breathe everyday and then you see your parents stupidly ruin their own, perfectly healthy lungs. Such a waste! Im presuming that your parents don't smoke in the same room as you so that they are at least limiting the damage to their own lungs. With my own parents, ive had a talk with them several times over the years and they have tried to give up cigs millions of times with no success (yet).

My best suggestion, and this is coming from a person who has yet to suceed with her own folks, is to write them a letter from the heart. Tell them honestly and with no anger how upset their smoking makes you. This at least will show them that this issue is no teenage tantrum. In fact I'd say they know this and are already ashamed of their smoking but are buring their heads in the sand. Hope this helps some.
Niamh 27 y/o with cf in Ireland
 
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Niamh

Guest
Hi Audrey,
both my parents smoke so i very much understand where youre coming from. It can be quite upseting to be so sick and tired of struggling to breathe everyday and then you see your parents stupidly ruin their own, perfectly healthy lungs. Such a waste! Im presuming that your parents don't smoke in the same room as you so that they are at least limiting the damage to their own lungs. With my own parents, ive had a talk with them several times over the years and they have tried to give up cigs millions of times with no success (yet).

My best suggestion, and this is coming from a person who has yet to suceed with her own folks, is to write them a letter from the heart. Tell them honestly and with no anger how upset their smoking makes you. This at least will show them that this issue is no teenage tantrum. In fact I'd say they know this and are already ashamed of their smoking but are buring their heads in the sand. Hope this helps some.
Niamh 27 y/o with cf in Ireland
 
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Niamh

Guest
Hi Audrey,
both my parents smoke so i very much understand where youre coming from. It can be quite upseting to be so sick and tired of struggling to breathe everyday and then you see your parents stupidly ruin their own, perfectly healthy lungs. Such a waste! Im presuming that your parents don't smoke in the same room as you so that they are at least limiting the damage to their own lungs. With my own parents, ive had a talk with them several times over the years and they have tried to give up cigs millions of times with no success (yet).

My best suggestion, and this is coming from a person who has yet to suceed with her own folks, is to write them a letter from the heart. Tell them honestly and with no anger how upset their smoking makes you. This at least will show them that this issue is no teenage tantrum. In fact I'd say they know this and are already ashamed of their smoking but are buring their heads in the sand. Hope this helps some.
Niamh 27 y/o with cf in Ireland
 
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Niamh

Guest
Hi Audrey,
both my parents smoke so i very much understand where youre coming from. It can be quite upseting to be so sick and tired of struggling to breathe everyday and then you see your parents stupidly ruin their own, perfectly healthy lungs. Such a waste! Im presuming that your parents don't smoke in the same room as you so that they are at least limiting the damage to their own lungs. With my own parents, ive had a talk with them several times over the years and they have tried to give up cigs millions of times with no success (yet).

My best suggestion, and this is coming from a person who has yet to suceed with her own folks, is to write them a letter from the heart. Tell them honestly and with no anger how upset their smoking makes you. This at least will show them that this issue is no teenage tantrum. In fact I'd say they know this and are already ashamed of their smoking but are buring their heads in the sand. Hope this helps some.
Niamh 27 y/o with cf in Ireland
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Hi Audrey,

First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Hi Audrey,

First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Hi Audrey,

First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Hi Audrey,

First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Hi Audrey,

First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Hi Audrey,

First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!
 
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Audz

New member
I go to the hospital every 8 weeks for a check up, PFT's and everything. I take cf medicines, go to tune ups and all of that. When I go for a checkup My mum comes with me, and the doc always asks 'are you still smoking?' and she just makes a big joke out of it like its no big deal. No matter how I say to my parents that I don't like them smoking they always just take it as me trying to be a nasty adolescent girl. I think I'll try writing it in letter form, that was a good idea. Maybe they will take it more seriously.

It's not like they try and keep the smoke away from me either. They smoke in the car, which makes car trips very uncomfortable. I don't think reality has really hit them of what cf does because I was so healthy when I was younger (130% lung function) and now I feel sick nearly everyday and my lung function barley goes above 80%. They dont see any of it, just because I don't exactly look physically sick, they just think I'm being a sooky teenager.

Thanks for all your help.

edit: Just wanted to say 80% is not a BAD lung function, but it is a major drop from what it used to be.
 
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Audz

New member
I go to the hospital every 8 weeks for a check up, PFT's and everything. I take cf medicines, go to tune ups and all of that. When I go for a checkup My mum comes with me, and the doc always asks 'are you still smoking?' and she just makes a big joke out of it like its no big deal. No matter how I say to my parents that I don't like them smoking they always just take it as me trying to be a nasty adolescent girl. I think I'll try writing it in letter form, that was a good idea. Maybe they will take it more seriously.

It's not like they try and keep the smoke away from me either. They smoke in the car, which makes car trips very uncomfortable. I don't think reality has really hit them of what cf does because I was so healthy when I was younger (130% lung function) and now I feel sick nearly everyday and my lung function barley goes above 80%. They dont see any of it, just because I don't exactly look physically sick, they just think I'm being a sooky teenager.

Thanks for all your help.

edit: Just wanted to say 80% is not a BAD lung function, but it is a major drop from what it used to be.
 
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