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Not Exactly Baby Fever...
I haven't had any pregnancies or miscarriages, so I am unable to relate in that sense, but I know how you feel about the other. Kurt and I have decided that we are not going to have kids. We talked about it and he feels oddly about adopting and I do not want to have children naturally. I feel odd when I talk to my friends and family that are my age and see them marrying and becoming pregnant and having kids. It almost makes me feel "behind", like something is wrong with me for not pursuing parenthood, even though we are not ever going to have kids.
Sometimes it make me doubt our decision, but I always sit and think about it and decide that I would rather be surrounded by friends and family and share in the joy of their kids - and be able to give them back lol - rather than have my own.
Kind of funny you posted this cause I was just thinking of this a few days ago when I found out yet another friend of mine from high school was pregnant. That discovery came at the end of several months of births and announcements like you mentioned you have experienced.
Lindsey
I haven't had any pregnancies or miscarriages, so I am unable to relate in that sense, but I know how you feel about the other. Kurt and I have decided that we are not going to have kids. We talked about it and he feels oddly about adopting and I do not want to have children naturally. I feel odd when I talk to my friends and family that are my age and see them marrying and becoming pregnant and having kids. It almost makes me feel "behind", like something is wrong with me for not pursuing parenthood, even though we are not ever going to have kids.
Sometimes it make me doubt our decision, but I always sit and think about it and decide that I would rather be surrounded by friends and family and share in the joy of their kids - and be able to give them back lol - rather than have my own.
Kind of funny you posted this cause I was just thinking of this a few days ago when I found out yet another friend of mine from high school was pregnant. That discovery came at the end of several months of births and announcements like you mentioned you have experienced.
Lindsey
Not Exactly Baby Fever...
Regrets can be painful. I would not think about them for too long. I think your thoughts are very valid and I would be feeling very similarly to you. Try and focus on your future. It sounds like you have made a decision that is right for you and that is wonderful. Focus on the positive. Sounds like you have a husband that is perfect for you.
When most of my friends had children, I was so happy that I was out living it up in life. They lived through me in my crazy days while their responsibilties shifted. They were at home tied down. I hardly got to see my friends kids because they were always getting many colds. Maybe you might consider adoption if that is what you really want.
I am happy that I did not have children but there are times I wonder but I spend very little time on the wondering moments.
If someones CF is mild then having children can be a blessing. I have a friend with CF who has Six of her own children. OMG I say to that. She is an amazing lady too.
Regrets can be painful. I would not think about them for too long. I think your thoughts are very valid and I would be feeling very similarly to you. Try and focus on your future. It sounds like you have made a decision that is right for you and that is wonderful. Focus on the positive. Sounds like you have a husband that is perfect for you.
When most of my friends had children, I was so happy that I was out living it up in life. They lived through me in my crazy days while their responsibilties shifted. They were at home tied down. I hardly got to see my friends kids because they were always getting many colds. Maybe you might consider adoption if that is what you really want.
I am happy that I did not have children but there are times I wonder but I spend very little time on the wondering moments.
If someones CF is mild then having children can be a blessing. I have a friend with CF who has Six of her own children. OMG I say to that. She is an amazing lady too.
Not Exactly Baby Fever...
we are a minority it seems in the CF world - those who chose not to have children. it's very strong CF cultural thing to have children by any means possible and at all costs. but you are not alone.
i am not married but i'm in a long term relationship and my boyfriend and i have decided that children isn't the right path for me or him.
i feel that society and CF culture can make us feel like we're different or behind or odd or just bizarre. But it's important to remind youself why you've made this decision. whatever the reason. your health. the baby's health. the baby's future without their CF parent.
being selfless isn't always the easy way to go. but having kids becuase of the pressure of the CF culture or society would just be silly.
i admire all those who make principled decisions. you should admire yourself for that too.
we are a minority it seems in the CF world - those who chose not to have children. it's very strong CF cultural thing to have children by any means possible and at all costs. but you are not alone.
i am not married but i'm in a long term relationship and my boyfriend and i have decided that children isn't the right path for me or him.
i feel that society and CF culture can make us feel like we're different or behind or odd or just bizarre. But it's important to remind youself why you've made this decision. whatever the reason. your health. the baby's health. the baby's future without their CF parent.
being selfless isn't always the easy way to go. but having kids becuase of the pressure of the CF culture or society would just be silly.
i admire all those who make principled decisions. you should admire yourself for that too.