Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

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blindhearted

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Okay, it has taken me a long time to get the courage up to post this on the forms. I dont really like put my personal problems out there but I honestly have no where else to turn and ask for help.

I need advice on sex. Between not feeling well, pain associated with fibromyalgia, and SOB/coughing with CF...sex has become a problem. DH has been great in understanding, but fustration begins to creep in on understanding in a 26 yr old male.

Okay, here is the problem. DH and I have no sex life right now. I wont say how long it's been, but long enough for it to become a problem. I have no sex drive. I am on BCP and an antidepressant. I know those two things can kill a sex drive. I also have a huge problem with dryness. My low lung functions dont help either, I get short of breath/coughing when we do have sex which kinda messes up the pleasure part when you are worried about that. Out of the 3 problems, the biggest issues are dryness and no/low sex drive. I have no desire to have sex, which has nothing to do with my DH, I find him very attractive and I love him very much. I know my low/no desire is genetic, but when I started Lexapro...what little bit of sex drive I did have went bye-bye. As far as dryness, we have spent a lot of money on lubericants and I'm still very dry and it makes sex very painful. I have asked my GYN about it and she really didnt know what to tell me. I was hoping you guys could help since you live and deal with CF and problems related to it each day.

So basically I am asking, do you have any advice to deal with these problems - Dryness, low/no sex drive, dealing with problems that come from low lung fuctions?

Any advice you can give me will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
 
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blindhearted

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Okay, it has taken me a long time to get the courage up to post this on the forms. I dont really like put my personal problems out there but I honestly have no where else to turn and ask for help.

I need advice on sex. Between not feeling well, pain associated with fibromyalgia, and SOB/coughing with CF...sex has become a problem. DH has been great in understanding, but fustration begins to creep in on understanding in a 26 yr old male.

Okay, here is the problem. DH and I have no sex life right now. I wont say how long it's been, but long enough for it to become a problem. I have no sex drive. I am on BCP and an antidepressant. I know those two things can kill a sex drive. I also have a huge problem with dryness. My low lung functions dont help either, I get short of breath/coughing when we do have sex which kinda messes up the pleasure part when you are worried about that. Out of the 3 problems, the biggest issues are dryness and no/low sex drive. I have no desire to have sex, which has nothing to do with my DH, I find him very attractive and I love him very much. I know my low/no desire is genetic, but when I started Lexapro...what little bit of sex drive I did have went bye-bye. As far as dryness, we have spent a lot of money on lubericants and I'm still very dry and it makes sex very painful. I have asked my GYN about it and she really didnt know what to tell me. I was hoping you guys could help since you live and deal with CF and problems related to it each day.

So basically I am asking, do you have any advice to deal with these problems - Dryness, low/no sex drive, dealing with problems that come from low lung fuctions?

Any advice you can give me will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
 
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blindhearted

New member
Okay, it has taken me a long time to get the courage up to post this on the forms. I dont really like put my personal problems out there but I honestly have no where else to turn and ask for help.

I need advice on sex. Between not feeling well, pain associated with fibromyalgia, and SOB/coughing with CF...sex has become a problem. DH has been great in understanding, but fustration begins to creep in on understanding in a 26 yr old male.

Okay, here is the problem. DH and I have no sex life right now. I wont say how long it's been, but long enough for it to become a problem. I have no sex drive. I am on BCP and an antidepressant. I know those two things can kill a sex drive. I also have a huge problem with dryness. My low lung functions dont help either, I get short of breath/coughing when we do have sex which kinda messes up the pleasure part when you are worried about that. Out of the 3 problems, the biggest issues are dryness and no/low sex drive. I have no desire to have sex, which has nothing to do with my DH, I find him very attractive and I love him very much. I know my low/no desire is genetic, but when I started Lexapro...what little bit of sex drive I did have went bye-bye. As far as dryness, we have spent a lot of money on lubericants and I'm still very dry and it makes sex very painful. I have asked my GYN about it and she really didnt know what to tell me. I was hoping you guys could help since you live and deal with CF and problems related to it each day.

So basically I am asking, do you have any advice to deal with these problems - Dryness, low/no sex drive, dealing with problems that come from low lung fuctions?

Any advice you can give me will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
 
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blindhearted

New member
Okay, it has taken me a long time to get the courage up to post this on the forms. I dont really like put my personal problems out there but I honestly have no where else to turn and ask for help.

I need advice on sex. Between not feeling well, pain associated with fibromyalgia, and SOB/coughing with CF...sex has become a problem. DH has been great in understanding, but fustration begins to creep in on understanding in a 26 yr old male.

Okay, here is the problem. DH and I have no sex life right now. I wont say how long it's been, but long enough for it to become a problem. I have no sex drive. I am on BCP and an antidepressant. I know those two things can kill a sex drive. I also have a huge problem with dryness. My low lung functions dont help either, I get short of breath/coughing when we do have sex which kinda messes up the pleasure part when you are worried about that. Out of the 3 problems, the biggest issues are dryness and no/low sex drive. I have no desire to have sex, which has nothing to do with my DH, I find him very attractive and I love him very much. I know my low/no desire is genetic, but when I started Lexapro...what little bit of sex drive I did have went bye-bye. As far as dryness, we have spent a lot of money on lubericants and I'm still very dry and it makes sex very painful. I have asked my GYN about it and she really didnt know what to tell me. I was hoping you guys could help since you live and deal with CF and problems related to it each day.

So basically I am asking, do you have any advice to deal with these problems - Dryness, low/no sex drive, dealing with problems that come from low lung fuctions?

Any advice you can give me will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
 
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blindhearted

New member
Okay, it has taken me a long time to get the courage up to post this on the forms. I dont really like put my personal problems out there but I honestly have no where else to turn and ask for help.

I need advice on sex. Between not feeling well, pain associated with fibromyalgia, and SOB/coughing with CF...sex has become a problem. DH has been great in understanding, but fustration begins to creep in on understanding in a 26 yr old male.

Okay, here is the problem. DH and I have no sex life right now. I wont say how long it's been, but long enough for it to become a problem. I have no sex drive. I am on BCP and an antidepressant. I know those two things can kill a sex drive. I also have a huge problem with dryness. My low lung functions dont help either, I get short of breath/coughing when we do have sex which kinda messes up the pleasure part when you are worried about that. Out of the 3 problems, the biggest issues are dryness and no/low sex drive. I have no desire to have sex, which has nothing to do with my DH, I find him very attractive and I love him very much. I know my low/no desire is genetic, but when I started Lexapro...what little bit of sex drive I did have went bye-bye. As far as dryness, we have spent a lot of money on lubericants and I'm still very dry and it makes sex very painful. I have asked my GYN about it and she really didnt know what to tell me. I was hoping you guys could help since you live and deal with CF and problems related to it each day.

So basically I am asking, do you have any advice to deal with these problems - Dryness, low/no sex drive, dealing with problems that come from low lung fuctions?

Any advice you can give me will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
 
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thefrogprincess

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

As far as low lung function goes I can't help as I haven't had to deal with that yet.

But the other two, maybe I can help. There are antidepressants out there that don't have so much effect on your sex drive. I can't think of specific ones off the top of my head, but for me Zoloft didn't effect my sex drive in the least.

What birth control are you on? When I was on depo pervera I had no sex drive what so ever. It was bad. I switched to the patch and haven't looked back! You have to have highs and lows in your hormone levels to have a normal sex drive so if you are on something that constantly delivers hormones to your system that could kill it.

Dryness: I know you said that you have tried lots of lubricants but have you tried Slippery Stuff Gel lubricant? Yes, that's what its called! I love this stuff. Its almost the consistancy of hair gel, but slippery of course. Its not as messy and has more "staying" power than the liquid ones. Its also used in a lot of doctors offices. You should be able to get it at any adult store or online.

I hope some of this helps a little.
 
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thefrogprincess

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

As far as low lung function goes I can't help as I haven't had to deal with that yet.

But the other two, maybe I can help. There are antidepressants out there that don't have so much effect on your sex drive. I can't think of specific ones off the top of my head, but for me Zoloft didn't effect my sex drive in the least.

What birth control are you on? When I was on depo pervera I had no sex drive what so ever. It was bad. I switched to the patch and haven't looked back! You have to have highs and lows in your hormone levels to have a normal sex drive so if you are on something that constantly delivers hormones to your system that could kill it.

Dryness: I know you said that you have tried lots of lubricants but have you tried Slippery Stuff Gel lubricant? Yes, that's what its called! I love this stuff. Its almost the consistancy of hair gel, but slippery of course. Its not as messy and has more "staying" power than the liquid ones. Its also used in a lot of doctors offices. You should be able to get it at any adult store or online.

I hope some of this helps a little.
 
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thefrogprincess

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

As far as low lung function goes I can't help as I haven't had to deal with that yet.

But the other two, maybe I can help. There are antidepressants out there that don't have so much effect on your sex drive. I can't think of specific ones off the top of my head, but for me Zoloft didn't effect my sex drive in the least.

What birth control are you on? When I was on depo pervera I had no sex drive what so ever. It was bad. I switched to the patch and haven't looked back! You have to have highs and lows in your hormone levels to have a normal sex drive so if you are on something that constantly delivers hormones to your system that could kill it.

Dryness: I know you said that you have tried lots of lubricants but have you tried Slippery Stuff Gel lubricant? Yes, that's what its called! I love this stuff. Its almost the consistancy of hair gel, but slippery of course. Its not as messy and has more "staying" power than the liquid ones. Its also used in a lot of doctors offices. You should be able to get it at any adult store or online.

I hope some of this helps a little.
 
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thefrogprincess

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

As far as low lung function goes I can't help as I haven't had to deal with that yet.

But the other two, maybe I can help. There are antidepressants out there that don't have so much effect on your sex drive. I can't think of specific ones off the top of my head, but for me Zoloft didn't effect my sex drive in the least.

What birth control are you on? When I was on depo pervera I had no sex drive what so ever. It was bad. I switched to the patch and haven't looked back! You have to have highs and lows in your hormone levels to have a normal sex drive so if you are on something that constantly delivers hormones to your system that could kill it.

Dryness: I know you said that you have tried lots of lubricants but have you tried Slippery Stuff Gel lubricant? Yes, that's what its called! I love this stuff. Its almost the consistancy of hair gel, but slippery of course. Its not as messy and has more "staying" power than the liquid ones. Its also used in a lot of doctors offices. You should be able to get it at any adult store or online.

I hope some of this helps a little.
 
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thefrogprincess

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

As far as low lung function goes I can't help as I haven't had to deal with that yet.

But the other two, maybe I can help. There are antidepressants out there that don't have so much effect on your sex drive. I can't think of specific ones off the top of my head, but for me Zoloft didn't effect my sex drive in the least.

What birth control are you on? When I was on depo pervera I had no sex drive what so ever. It was bad. I switched to the patch and haven't looked back! You have to have highs and lows in your hormone levels to have a normal sex drive so if you are on something that constantly delivers hormones to your system that could kill it.

Dryness: I know you said that you have tried lots of lubricants but have you tried Slippery Stuff Gel lubricant? Yes, that's what its called! I love this stuff. Its almost the consistancy of hair gel, but slippery of course. Its not as messy and has more "staying" power than the liquid ones. Its also used in a lot of doctors offices. You should be able to get it at any adult store or online.

I hope some of this helps a little.
 
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OperaMama

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Low drive is a physiological thing, of course, but does tasteful lingerie or reasonable porno help the mood at all? Otherwise, I'm serious, give him a handjob-- doesn't irritate your parts, minimal mess (depending!), and, well, guys do have testosterone, after all...
 
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OperaMama

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

Low drive is a physiological thing, of course, but does tasteful lingerie or reasonable porno help the mood at all? Otherwise, I'm serious, give him a handjob-- doesn't irritate your parts, minimal mess (depending!), and, well, guys do have testosterone, after all...
 
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OperaMama

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

Low drive is a physiological thing, of course, but does tasteful lingerie or reasonable porno help the mood at all? Otherwise, I'm serious, give him a handjob-- doesn't irritate your parts, minimal mess (depending!), and, well, guys do have testosterone, after all...
 
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OperaMama

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

Low drive is a physiological thing, of course, but does tasteful lingerie or reasonable porno help the mood at all? Otherwise, I'm serious, give him a handjob-- doesn't irritate your parts, minimal mess (depending!), and, well, guys do have testosterone, after all...
 
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OperaMama

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In Huge Need of Advice - Please Help ** WOMEN ONLY**

Low drive is a physiological thing, of course, but does tasteful lingerie or reasonable porno help the mood at all? Otherwise, I'm serious, give him a handjob-- doesn't irritate your parts, minimal mess (depending!), and, well, guys do have testosterone, after all...
 
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princessjdc

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For the coughing fit have you guys tried different positions to where it wont make you sob/cough. Find a position that doesnt allow you to move so much so you dont go into a coughing fit. As for dryness Jessi made a good suggestion, my suggestion is to use a vibrator while having sex. Also Opera Mama had a good point, if your not in the mood at least you could do for your man is give him a blow/hand job. Any guy would take that any ol day. Hope you are able to come up with a good solution to get you back on track with your sex life.
 
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princessjdc

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For the coughing fit have you guys tried different positions to where it wont make you sob/cough. Find a position that doesnt allow you to move so much so you dont go into a coughing fit. As for dryness Jessi made a good suggestion, my suggestion is to use a vibrator while having sex. Also Opera Mama had a good point, if your not in the mood at least you could do for your man is give him a blow/hand job. Any guy would take that any ol day. Hope you are able to come up with a good solution to get you back on track with your sex life.
 
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princessjdc

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For the coughing fit have you guys tried different positions to where it wont make you sob/cough. Find a position that doesnt allow you to move so much so you dont go into a coughing fit. As for dryness Jessi made a good suggestion, my suggestion is to use a vibrator while having sex. Also Opera Mama had a good point, if your not in the mood at least you could do for your man is give him a blow/hand job. Any guy would take that any ol day. Hope you are able to come up with a good solution to get you back on track with your sex life.
 
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princessjdc

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For the coughing fit have you guys tried different positions to where it wont make you sob/cough. Find a position that doesnt allow you to move so much so you dont go into a coughing fit. As for dryness Jessi made a good suggestion, my suggestion is to use a vibrator while having sex. Also Opera Mama had a good point, if your not in the mood at least you could do for your man is give him a blow/hand job. Any guy would take that any ol day. Hope you are able to come up with a good solution to get you back on track with your sex life.
 
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princessjdc

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For the coughing fit have you guys tried different positions to where it wont make you sob/cough. Find a position that doesnt allow you to move so much so you dont go into a coughing fit. As for dryness Jessi made a good suggestion, my suggestion is to use a vibrator while having sex. Also Opera Mama had a good point, if your not in the mood at least you could do for your man is give him a blow/hand job. Any guy would take that any ol day. Hope you are able to come up with a good solution to get you back on track with your sex life.
 
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