need opinion about visitors while you are sick

[Iamqueenofeverything]

i always have a question about this..

how often do you "expect" people to visit you when you are in the hospital?

i am usually doing the hospital/ivs at home twice a year and each time i do this it is for 18 days.

it is nice for people to visit but should i ask people to visit or give me a phone call. a text is just the same as a visit.

friends and family do call and text and visit me but when i dont have people come to visit me should i get upset or offended?

sometimes i get a lot of people to visit me one round of ivs and then the next time i am on a round of ivs i only get a few people to visit.

how do you view people visiting people while you are on ivs or in the hospital?

do you ask people come while you are sick? are you offended if you dont a handleful of people one time and then a ton of people the next round of ivs?

 

[Iamqueenofeverything]

i always have a question about this..

how often do you "expect" people to visit you when you are in the hospital?

i am usually doing the hospital/ivs at home twice a year and each time i do this it is for 18 days.

it is nice for people to visit but should i ask people to visit or give me a phone call. a text is just the same as a visit.

friends and family do call and text and visit me but when i dont have people come to visit me should i get upset or offended?

sometimes i get a lot of people to visit me one round of ivs and then the next time i am on a round of ivs i only get a few people to visit.

how do you view people visiting people while you are on ivs or in the hospital?

do you ask people come while you are sick? are you offended if you dont a handleful of people one time and then a ton of people the next round of ivs?

 

[Iamqueenofeverything]

i always have a question about this..
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<br />how often do you "expect" people to visit you when you are in the hospital?
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<br />i am usually doing the hospital/ivs at home twice a year and each time i do this it is for 18 days.
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<br />it is nice for people to visit but should i ask people to visit or give me a phone call. a text is just the same as a visit.
<br />
<br />friends and family do call and text and visit me but when i dont have people come to visit me should i get upset or offended?
<br />
<br />sometimes i get a lot of people to visit me one round of ivs and then the next time i am on a round of ivs i only get a few people to visit.
<br />
<br />how do you view people visiting people while you are on ivs or in the hospital?
<br />
<br />do you ask people come while you are sick? are you offended if you dont a handleful of people one time and then a ton of people the next round of ivs?

 

[entropy]

I don't like to be visited by anybody but my immediate family, or the ones I'm closest too, ones that I feel comfortable showing my vulnerabilities and weaknesses around. For me, I like it when my parents and grandparents visit and they can visit me as often as they want to. I don't like estranged aunts and uncles coming to visit me unless they've asked and I've had time to think about it, agree or disagree, then prepare myself. I don't know about you, but I have some aunts and uncles that I never see or hear from unless I'm in the hospital. It's especially awkward when they show up unexpected. It's sometimes hard for me not to be rude; they could at least give the courtesy of a phone call. I appreciate that they take the time to come see me but they should acknowledge a persons right to privacy in a situation like that.

The family members I'm closest to visit me without having me to prompt them. If they don't show up I'm not offended because I know they would most likely be there if they could.

I guess, to answer your original question, whether or not you want to be visited in person or called/sent a text msg would depend what kind of person you are. At times when I'm very sick and vulnerable, I don't like anyone but my closest family members to see me. I suppose everyone is different, though.

 

[entropy]

I don't like to be visited by anybody but my immediate family, or the ones I'm closest too, ones that I feel comfortable showing my vulnerabilities and weaknesses around. For me, I like it when my parents and grandparents visit and they can visit me as often as they want to. I don't like estranged aunts and uncles coming to visit me unless they've asked and I've had time to think about it, agree or disagree, then prepare myself. I don't know about you, but I have some aunts and uncles that I never see or hear from unless I'm in the hospital. It's especially awkward when they show up unexpected. It's sometimes hard for me not to be rude; they could at least give the courtesy of a phone call. I appreciate that they take the time to come see me but they should acknowledge a persons right to privacy in a situation like that.

The family members I'm closest to visit me without having me to prompt them. If they don't show up I'm not offended because I know they would most likely be there if they could.

I guess, to answer your original question, whether or not you want to be visited in person or called/sent a text msg would depend what kind of person you are. At times when I'm very sick and vulnerable, I don't like anyone but my closest family members to see me. I suppose everyone is different, though.

 

[entropy]

I don't like to be visited by anybody but my immediate family, or the ones I'm closest too, ones that I feel comfortable showing my vulnerabilities and weaknesses around. For me, I like it when my parents and grandparents visit and they can visit me as often as they want to. I don't like estranged aunts and uncles coming to visit me unless they've asked and I've had time to think about it, agree or disagree, then prepare myself. I don't know about you, but I have some aunts and uncles that I never see or hear from unless I'm in the hospital. It's especially awkward when they show up unexpected. It's sometimes hard for me not to be rude; they could at least give the courtesy of a phone call. I appreciate that they take the time to come see me but they should acknowledge a persons right to privacy in a situation like that.
<br />
<br />The family members I'm closest to visit me without having me to prompt them. If they don't show up I'm not offended because I know they would most likely be there if they could.
<br />
<br />I guess, to answer your original question, whether or not you want to be visited in person or called/sent a text msg would depend what kind of person you are. At times when I'm very sick and vulnerable, I don't like anyone but my closest family members to see me. I suppose everyone is different, though.

 

[MCGrad2006]

I used to be the kind of person who wanted visitors often when in house. I was not necessarily angry, but just bummed when people didn't visit.

A few years ago, I was having trouble getting a PICC placed and needed some anxiety meds and whatnot. The same day I got the PICC placed a few friends came to visit...and they were very close friends of mine, so I didnt mind...BUT...one of them, shall we say "V" sent a text msg right when she got to the hospital room, supposedly to her mom (I was close to the family at the time, not just V). WELL, I got the text instead...it read "Wow, Cait looks like Hell." Hmmm...thanks V, I kinda knew that after the day I've had.

Since then, I don't even tell those two that I am in the hospital. I don't need that crap and I know it was meant out of the goodness of her heart, but be careful who you text! I mean really, I am in the hospital for God's sake, do you want me to dress in a ***** ball gown and prance around.

So, in essence, there are certain people I expect to visit...my parents, fiancee, Nana. I would like my sister but the last few times she has been at college, so I didn't expect it. A few of my aunts and uncles have visited me and I totally appreciate it, but don't EXPECT it (because my hospital is an hour or more away from them). I am pretty close to most of my family, and yea it would be nice of them to visit, but its out of their way. A lot of times my cousins and a few aunts call me when I am in and I love that. I know they can't be with me, but talking to them lets me know they are thinking of me

 

[MCGrad2006]

I used to be the kind of person who wanted visitors often when in house. I was not necessarily angry, but just bummed when people didn't visit.

A few years ago, I was having trouble getting a PICC placed and needed some anxiety meds and whatnot. The same day I got the PICC placed a few friends came to visit...and they were very close friends of mine, so I didnt mind...BUT...one of them, shall we say "V" sent a text msg right when she got to the hospital room, supposedly to her mom (I was close to the family at the time, not just V). WELL, I got the text instead...it read "Wow, Cait looks like Hell." Hmmm...thanks V, I kinda knew that after the day I've had.

Since then, I don't even tell those two that I am in the hospital. I don't need that crap and I know it was meant out of the goodness of her heart, but be careful who you text! I mean really, I am in the hospital for God's sake, do you want me to dress in a ***** ball gown and prance around.

So, in essence, there are certain people I expect to visit...my parents, fiancee, Nana. I would like my sister but the last few times she has been at college, so I didn't expect it. A few of my aunts and uncles have visited me and I totally appreciate it, but don't EXPECT it (because my hospital is an hour or more away from them). I am pretty close to most of my family, and yea it would be nice of them to visit, but its out of their way. A lot of times my cousins and a few aunts call me when I am in and I love that. I know they can't be with me, but talking to them lets me know they are thinking of me

 

[MCGrad2006]

I used to be the kind of person who wanted visitors often when in house. I was not necessarily angry, but just bummed when people didn't visit.
<br />
<br />A few years ago, I was having trouble getting a PICC placed and needed some anxiety meds and whatnot. The same day I got the PICC placed a few friends came to visit...and they were very close friends of mine, so I didnt mind...BUT...one of them, shall we say "V" sent a text msg right when she got to the hospital room, supposedly to her mom (I was close to the family at the time, not just V). WELL, I got the text instead...it read "Wow, Cait looks like Hell." Hmmm...thanks V, I kinda knew that after the day I've had.
<br />
<br />Since then, I don't even tell those two that I am in the hospital. I don't need that crap and I know it was meant out of the goodness of her heart, but be careful who you text! I mean really, I am in the hospital for God's sake, do you want me to dress in a ***** ball gown and prance around.
<br />
<br />So, in essence, there are certain people I expect to visit...my parents, fiancee, Nana. I would like my sister but the last few times she has been at college, so I didn't expect it. A few of my aunts and uncles have visited me and I totally appreciate it, but don't EXPECT it (because my hospital is an hour or more away from them). I am pretty close to most of my family, and yea it would be nice of them to visit, but its out of their way. A lot of times my cousins and a few aunts call me when I am in and I love that. I know they can't be with me, but talking to them lets me know they are thinking of me

 

[Proxy]

The first time I had a 2 week stay was when I was around 11, I had piles of visitors and to me I thought that was great <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
But as time went on I get less and less people come to see me when im in,I dont care that the ppl I barely know dont see me but when its your immediate family and friends that stop dropping by I admit I can get a bit sad, feeling that I have been forgotton.
Now I realise that other people have lives and I cant expect them to drop everything to come and see me, but sometimes when in there for weeks it can get lonely.
Your question really depends on each individual, some people like to be alone when ill and others like to be surrounded, if you are bothered that your not getting calls or visits perhaps you can let your friends or family know how your feeling.
When my dad hadnt visited me or called while I was in hospital it rly hurt me,when I talked to him about it and he heard how I really felt he realised that him being there to support me was important to me so now he has tried harder to be there <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
Also when I do have visitors I very much prefer they call or text me first before they drop by or decide to come because sometimes you just dont feel up to having visitors or you wanna have a shower and clean up yourself lol

 

[Proxy]

The first time I had a 2 week stay was when I was around 11, I had piles of visitors and to me I thought that was great <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
But as time went on I get less and less people come to see me when im in,I dont care that the ppl I barely know dont see me but when its your immediate family and friends that stop dropping by I admit I can get a bit sad, feeling that I have been forgotton.
Now I realise that other people have lives and I cant expect them to drop everything to come and see me, but sometimes when in there for weeks it can get lonely.
Your question really depends on each individual, some people like to be alone when ill and others like to be surrounded, if you are bothered that your not getting calls or visits perhaps you can let your friends or family know how your feeling.
When my dad hadnt visited me or called while I was in hospital it rly hurt me,when I talked to him about it and he heard how I really felt he realised that him being there to support me was important to me so now he has tried harder to be there <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
Also when I do have visitors I very much prefer they call or text me first before they drop by or decide to come because sometimes you just dont feel up to having visitors or you wanna have a shower and clean up yourself lol

 

[Proxy]

The first time I had a 2 week stay was when I was around 11, I had piles of visitors and to me I thought that was great <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
<br />But as time went on I get less and less people come to see me when im in,I dont care that the ppl I barely know dont see me but when its your immediate family and friends that stop dropping by I admit I can get a bit sad, feeling that I have been forgotton.
<br />Now I realise that other people have lives and I cant expect them to drop everything to come and see me, but sometimes when in there for weeks it can get lonely.
<br />Your question really depends on each individual, some people like to be alone when ill and others like to be surrounded, if you are bothered that your not getting calls or visits perhaps you can let your friends or family know how your feeling.
<br />When my dad hadnt visited me or called while I was in hospital it rly hurt me,when I talked to him about it and he heard how I really felt he realised that him being there to support me was important to me so now he has tried harder to be there <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
<br />Also when I do have visitors I very much prefer they call or text me first before they drop by or decide to come because sometimes you just dont feel up to having visitors or you wanna have a shower and clean up yourself lol

 

[Proxy]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>MCGrad2006</b></i>

I used to be the kind of person who wanted visitors often when in house. I was not necessarily angry, but just bummed when people didn't visit.



A few years ago, I was having trouble getting a PICC placed and needed some anxiety meds and whatnot. The same day I got the PICC placed a few friends came to visit...and they were very close friends of mine, so I didnt mind...BUT...one of them, shall we say "V" sent a text msg right when she got to the hospital room, supposedly to her mom (I was close to the family at the time, not just V). WELL, I got the text instead...it read "Wow, Cait looks like Hell." Hmmm...thanks V, I kinda knew that after the day I've had.



Since then, I don't even tell those two that I am in the hospital. I don't need that crap and I know it was meant out of the goodness of her heart, but be careful who you text! I mean really, I am in the hospital for God's sake, do you want me to dress in a ***** ball gown and prance around.



So, in essence, there are certain people I expect to visit...my parents, fiancee, Nana. I would like my sister but the last few times she has been at college, so I didn't expect it. A few of my aunts and uncles have visited me and I totally appreciate it, but don't EXPECT it (because my hospital is an hour or more away from them). I am pretty close to most of my family, and yea it would be nice of them to visit, but its out of their way. A lot of times my cousins and a few aunts call me when I am in and I love that. I know they can't be with me, but talking to them lets me know they are thinking of me</end quote></div>

wow that text was harsh

 

[Proxy]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>MCGrad2006</b></i>

I used to be the kind of person who wanted visitors often when in house. I was not necessarily angry, but just bummed when people didn't visit.



A few years ago, I was having trouble getting a PICC placed and needed some anxiety meds and whatnot. The same day I got the PICC placed a few friends came to visit...and they were very close friends of mine, so I didnt mind...BUT...one of them, shall we say "V" sent a text msg right when she got to the hospital room, supposedly to her mom (I was close to the family at the time, not just V). WELL, I got the text instead...it read "Wow, Cait looks like Hell." Hmmm...thanks V, I kinda knew that after the day I've had.



Since then, I don't even tell those two that I am in the hospital. I don't need that crap and I know it was meant out of the goodness of her heart, but be careful who you text! I mean really, I am in the hospital for God's sake, do you want me to dress in a ***** ball gown and prance around.



So, in essence, there are certain people I expect to visit...my parents, fiancee, Nana. I would like my sister but the last few times she has been at college, so I didn't expect it. A few of my aunts and uncles have visited me and I totally appreciate it, but don't EXPECT it (because my hospital is an hour or more away from them). I am pretty close to most of my family, and yea it would be nice of them to visit, but its out of their way. A lot of times my cousins and a few aunts call me when I am in and I love that. I know they can't be with me, but talking to them lets me know they are thinking of me</end quote>

wow that text was harsh

 

[Proxy]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>MCGrad2006</b></i>
<br />
<br />I used to be the kind of person who wanted visitors often when in house. I was not necessarily angry, but just bummed when people didn't visit.
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />A few years ago, I was having trouble getting a PICC placed and needed some anxiety meds and whatnot. The same day I got the PICC placed a few friends came to visit...and they were very close friends of mine, so I didnt mind...BUT...one of them, shall we say "V" sent a text msg right when she got to the hospital room, supposedly to her mom (I was close to the family at the time, not just V). WELL, I got the text instead...it read "Wow, Cait looks like Hell." Hmmm...thanks V, I kinda knew that after the day I've had.
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />Since then, I don't even tell those two that I am in the hospital. I don't need that crap and I know it was meant out of the goodness of her heart, but be careful who you text! I mean really, I am in the hospital for God's sake, do you want me to dress in a ***** ball gown and prance around.
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />So, in essence, there are certain people I expect to visit...my parents, fiancee, Nana. I would like my sister but the last few times she has been at college, so I didn't expect it. A few of my aunts and uncles have visited me and I totally appreciate it, but don't EXPECT it (because my hospital is an hour or more away from them). I am pretty close to most of my family, and yea it would be nice of them to visit, but its out of their way. A lot of times my cousins and a few aunts call me when I am in and I love that. I know they can't be with me, but talking to them lets me know they are thinking of me</end quote>
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<br />wow that text was harsh

 

[Ratatosk]

It depends. In our case we're with DS. During his last hospitalization, it was due to a bowel obstruction and for three weeks they were trying to figure things out. Was very stressful and I was kind of relieved that my inlaws were out of the country because DS was in tough shape and we just didn't know from day to day if he'd need another surgery, when we'd get to go home. We just weren't up to questions we couldn't answer, constant xrays, iv meds, vest & nebs every 4 hours, stuff going down the ng tube....

When he was in the NICU, it was nice to have people stop by because we were pretty much in a holding pattern. DS recovering from his surgery, then a few weeks on IV abx due to culturing a couple different things. Total of 4 weeks at the nicu and 2 weeks a the local hospital.

 

[Ratatosk]

It depends. In our case we're with DS. During his last hospitalization, it was due to a bowel obstruction and for three weeks they were trying to figure things out. Was very stressful and I was kind of relieved that my inlaws were out of the country because DS was in tough shape and we just didn't know from day to day if he'd need another surgery, when we'd get to go home. We just weren't up to questions we couldn't answer, constant xrays, iv meds, vest & nebs every 4 hours, stuff going down the ng tube....

When he was in the NICU, it was nice to have people stop by because we were pretty much in a holding pattern. DS recovering from his surgery, then a few weeks on IV abx due to culturing a couple different things. Total of 4 weeks at the nicu and 2 weeks a the local hospital.

 

[Ratatosk]

It depends. In our case we're with DS. During his last hospitalization, it was due to a bowel obstruction and for three weeks they were trying to figure things out. Was very stressful and I was kind of relieved that my inlaws were out of the country because DS was in tough shape and we just didn't know from day to day if he'd need another surgery, when we'd get to go home. We just weren't up to questions we couldn't answer, constant xrays, iv meds, vest & nebs every 4 hours, stuff going down the ng tube....
<br />
<br />When he was in the NICU, it was nice to have people stop by because we were pretty much in a holding pattern. DS recovering from his surgery, then a few weeks on IV abx due to culturing a couple different things. Total of 4 weeks at the nicu and 2 weeks a the local hospital.

 

[Iamqueenofeverything]

i guess i can look at it this way. the people who truely care and love me visit me. i know that ppl dont have to visit me every sticking time i am on ivs because i am sick too much and dont wont to be just another burden to add to other's life.

i dont expect people to visit but deep down inside of me there is a need to be acknowledge that i havent been around at church or school and missed. i just dont want to be a high maintence person and demand that people see me. does that make sense?

 

[Iamqueenofeverything]

i guess i can look at it this way. the people who truely care and love me visit me. i know that ppl dont have to visit me every sticking time i am on ivs because i am sick too much and dont wont to be just another burden to add to other's life.

i dont expect people to visit but deep down inside of me there is a need to be acknowledge that i havent been around at church or school and missed. i just dont want to be a high maintence person and demand that people see me. does that make sense?