Bill,
I had a lung tx 8 years ago and my sister 4 years ago.
It is normal and expected to be scared, fearful, reluctant to put yourself through such surgery... not too many people would just do it for the fun of it.. I guess none would.
There are support groups, maybe even at the closest tx center to your nephew, and the pre and post tx folks share their feelings, expereinces and a great learning opportunity.
I was scared and did not want a tx right up to the time they rolled me into OR, and then they knocked me out.
I also have a support group, we have chat, email and also many resources, you are welcome to join, your nephew, family, friends.
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I also wrote a book which has 265 stories of success with lung transplant, from people around the world. They wrote their story and submitted it and I got them published. If that is of interest to you, let me know.
Happy to help however I can
luckylungsforjo@aol.com
Joanne Schum