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Stressed
- Thread starter anonymous
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Sorry I hit enter to quickly. I have a 14 year old sister with CF and a 2 year old daughter w/o CF. I recently bought my daughter the book. Mallories 65 Roses. I thought that is would be a good way to introduce her to the disease. My daughter sees my sister taking treatments and pills and doing her vest so she knows that there is something different about my sister. When my sister saw the book yesterday she got really mad at me. She says that she doesn't want her neice to remember her as someone with CF but just as her aunt. I understand what she means to a point but I also want my daughter to know whats going on and why. My daughter loves the book because the pictures remind her of what she sees her aunt doing. Do I put the book away for awhile or get rid of it all together to make my sister happy and just try to explain to my daughter what is going on on my own? Or do I let my daughter keep the book even though it makes my sister mad?
Beth
Beth
I would talk to your sister some more about it. I can understand that she just wants to be seen as the Aunt, not the "sick" Aunt. I also think its important that your daughter understand why your sister does everything. If you daughter hasnt already asked, questions, she would eventually..........would your sister be receptive to that? It also helps your daughter to be more compassionate to others who might have health problems.
Try talking to your sister and letting her know that your daughter will remember her for so many wonderful reasons, the book isn't for that puprose, it is just so the child will understand better. Teen years are difficult enough, and when you add in CF, it is even harder. Try to help your sister understand that CF is just one thing, one part of her. It isn't her whole life. Maybe tell her some things that your daughter loves about her, and tell her that is how she will be remembered. "As the aunt who loved me" or the "aunt who read to me and played with me" who just also happened to have CF. I hope this helped. It is hard to put my thoughts into words. I think she will come to understand the reason you got the book. I would keep it. It seems to help your daughter. Maybe just not get it out in front of your sis for a while.
Good luck.
Good luck.