Teacher 'outed' my daughter!

[janddburke]

Jess was hospitalized last November. this wasn't a secret. several of her classmates live on our street. What we came to find out after she returned to school was that her 6th grade homeroom teacher informed the class that Jess was in the hospital because she had CF.
We're not sure of the actual language or context it was delivered in. but a boy in her class was able to 'google' it. what did she do? spell it out for them? Cystic Fibosis is not exactly phonetically spelled, right?
the next day he was allowed to share what he learned with the class.

how obscene is this? Jess didn't want me to do anything because it would embarrass her further.

I did ask the teacher how the kids could have found out? to which she responded, 'oh, I might have said something' and then changed the subject.

What can I do about this? I thought that with all the new HIPAA rules this wasn't supposed to happen.

any feedback is greatfully appreciated.

 

[janddburke]

Jess was hospitalized last November. this wasn't a secret. several of her classmates live on our street. What we came to find out after she returned to school was that her 6th grade homeroom teacher informed the class that Jess was in the hospital because she had CF.
We're not sure of the actual language or context it was delivered in. but a boy in her class was able to 'google' it. what did she do? spell it out for them? Cystic Fibosis is not exactly phonetically spelled, right?
the next day he was allowed to share what he learned with the class.

how obscene is this? Jess didn't want me to do anything because it would embarrass her further.

I did ask the teacher how the kids could have found out? to which she responded, 'oh, I might have said something' and then changed the subject.

What can I do about this? I thought that with all the new HIPAA rules this wasn't supposed to happen.

any feedback is greatfully appreciated.

 

[janddburke]

Jess was hospitalized last November. this wasn't a secret. several of her classmates live on our street. What we came to find out after she returned to school was that her 6th grade homeroom teacher informed the class that Jess was in the hospital because she had CF.
We're not sure of the actual language or context it was delivered in. but a boy in her class was able to 'google' it. what did she do? spell it out for them? Cystic Fibosis is not exactly phonetically spelled, right?
the next day he was allowed to share what he learned with the class.

how obscene is this? Jess didn't want me to do anything because it would embarrass her further.

I did ask the teacher how the kids could have found out? to which she responded, 'oh, I might have said something' and then changed the subject.

What can I do about this? I thought that with all the new HIPAA rules this wasn't supposed to happen.

any feedback is greatfully appreciated.

 

[Audz]

This is strange, EXACTLY the same thing happened to me when I was grade 6 and had my first hospitilization. My teacher had told my whole class when I had said I didn't want anyone to know. I wrote a letter from the hospital and asked for it to be given to my friends but the teacher decided to read it to the whole class. He also made everyone right me a get well thing on a piece of paper, this was really embarrasing for me especially when I got back to school. Everyone treated me differently and I felt so out of place.
I'm not sure what you can do because all the students know now, I guess you could just explain to the teacher you weren't happy with what she did but thats about all you can do.

 

[Audz]

This is strange, EXACTLY the same thing happened to me when I was grade 6 and had my first hospitilization. My teacher had told my whole class when I had said I didn't want anyone to know. I wrote a letter from the hospital and asked for it to be given to my friends but the teacher decided to read it to the whole class. He also made everyone right me a get well thing on a piece of paper, this was really embarrasing for me especially when I got back to school. Everyone treated me differently and I felt so out of place.
I'm not sure what you can do because all the students know now, I guess you could just explain to the teacher you weren't happy with what she did but thats about all you can do.

 

[Audz]

This is strange, EXACTLY the same thing happened to me when I was grade 6 and had my first hospitilization. My teacher had told my whole class when I had said I didn't want anyone to know. I wrote a letter from the hospital and asked for it to be given to my friends but the teacher decided to read it to the whole class. He also made everyone right me a get well thing on a piece of paper, this was really embarrasing for me especially when I got back to school. Everyone treated me differently and I felt so out of place.
I'm not sure what you can do because all the students know now, I guess you could just explain to the teacher you weren't happy with what she did but thats about all you can do.

 

[kybert]

everyone knew i had cf in primary school and everyone knew when i was in hospital. nothing bad came from it. i dont see why people knowing would be embarassing. i think its kind of sweet that she informed the class and the boy actually cared enough to research it. the problem here is why your daughter is so embarassed about it. instead of talking to the school about a non issue you should be talking to your daughter about why she feels this way. i dont see any problem with what the teacher did.

 

[kybert]

everyone knew i had cf in primary school and everyone knew when i was in hospital. nothing bad came from it. i dont see why people knowing would be embarassing. i think its kind of sweet that she informed the class and the boy actually cared enough to research it. the problem here is why your daughter is so embarassed about it. instead of talking to the school about a non issue you should be talking to your daughter about why she feels this way. i dont see any problem with what the teacher did.

 

[kybert]

everyone knew i had cf in primary school and everyone knew when i was in hospital. nothing bad came from it. i dont see why people knowing would be embarassing. i think its kind of sweet that she informed the class and the boy actually cared enough to research it. the problem here is why your daughter is so embarassed about it. instead of talking to the school about a non issue you should be talking to your daughter about why she feels this way. i dont see any problem with what the teacher did.

 

[AnD]

If you have had cf problems all your life, and everyone knows and has known since you were little, that's one thing. If you haven't had any/many problems, and/or were diagnosed later, and therefore, it has never come up before, that's something else, and it should be your decision about who knows and who needs to know it. Not everyone is kind in this world nor has the best intentions. A well intentioned gesture is not always the appropriate gesture.

Humor me for a moment, please:

Translate it to the adult world: You are diagnosed as an adult. You go in the hospital. Your manager gathers the whole office together and, without your or your family's knowledge, tells the entire office why you are gone and your medical condition. Then, somebody googles it and tells everyone else what they read, and that the median age is 37, and since you are 36, it's not looking good. Nevermind the fact that you are (for example) presently healthy as a horse except for this flare up, and most of what they googled may have nothing to do with the present situation. And you go back to work and you notice a few people looking at you out of the corner of their eyes and you see people whisper as you go by. Then you find out what happened. That's uncomfortable, even as a well grounded adult.

First, there's the decision about the lawsuit <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

Then there are the coworkers who will want to be educated, and will try not to breathe on you when they come to work sick. Then there are the ones who will go "Oh." and treat you no differently. Then there are the ones who will try to use it to undermine you for their own advantage. Then there are the ones who will unconciously undermine you. Now you have to deal with them all, when you really were comfortable with your work life and the people you chose to share with, and the only reason it changed is because someone shared something that was none of their business to share. School is no different, just often more blatent and cruel (real or perceived).

Yes, the first thing that most of us would do is call a meeting and meet this problem head on. But she is a CHILD, and maybe she doesn't want to be the spokesperson for cf this year, or maybe she feels that her hair is too red, or her feet are too big, or whatever, (insert your own adolecent insecurity here <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ), and doesn't want to be put on the spot. The teacher invaded her privacy, both mentally and legally, and it was wrong.

Sure it's not a perfect world; sure this won't be the only instance where a kid with cf will have to deal with being different, but there are rules for a reason, and the teacher broke the rules, and then compounded it by <b><i>having someone else, a classmate! share with the class about what <u>her</u> condition entails.</i></b> That was wrong, whether it was about cf or any other medical condition.

 

[AnD]

If you have had cf problems all your life, and everyone knows and has known since you were little, that's one thing. If you haven't had any/many problems, and/or were diagnosed later, and therefore, it has never come up before, that's something else, and it should be your decision about who knows and who needs to know it. Not everyone is kind in this world nor has the best intentions. A well intentioned gesture is not always the appropriate gesture.

Humor me for a moment, please:

Translate it to the adult world: You are diagnosed as an adult. You go in the hospital. Your manager gathers the whole office together and, without your or your family's knowledge, tells the entire office why you are gone and your medical condition. Then, somebody googles it and tells everyone else what they read, and that the median age is 37, and since you are 36, it's not looking good. Nevermind the fact that you are (for example) presently healthy as a horse except for this flare up, and most of what they googled may have nothing to do with the present situation. And you go back to work and you notice a few people looking at you out of the corner of their eyes and you see people whisper as you go by. Then you find out what happened. That's uncomfortable, even as a well grounded adult.

First, there's the decision about the lawsuit <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

Then there are the coworkers who will want to be educated, and will try not to breathe on you when they come to work sick. Then there are the ones who will go "Oh." and treat you no differently. Then there are the ones who will try to use it to undermine you for their own advantage. Then there are the ones who will unconciously undermine you. Now you have to deal with them all, when you really were comfortable with your work life and the people you chose to share with, and the only reason it changed is because someone shared something that was none of their business to share. School is no different, just often more blatent and cruel (real or perceived).

Yes, the first thing that most of us would do is call a meeting and meet this problem head on. But she is a CHILD, and maybe she doesn't want to be the spokesperson for cf this year, or maybe she feels that her hair is too red, or her feet are too big, or whatever, (insert your own adolecent insecurity here <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ), and doesn't want to be put on the spot. The teacher invaded her privacy, both mentally and legally, and it was wrong.

Sure it's not a perfect world; sure this won't be the only instance where a kid with cf will have to deal with being different, but there are rules for a reason, and the teacher broke the rules, and then compounded it by <b><i>having someone else, a classmate! share with the class about what <u>her</u> condition entails.</i></b> That was wrong, whether it was about cf or any other medical condition.

 

[AnD]

If you have had cf problems all your life, and everyone knows and has known since you were little, that's one thing. If you haven't had any/many problems, and/or were diagnosed later, and therefore, it has never come up before, that's something else, and it should be your decision about who knows and who needs to know it. Not everyone is kind in this world nor has the best intentions. A well intentioned gesture is not always the appropriate gesture.

Humor me for a moment, please:

Translate it to the adult world: You are diagnosed as an adult. You go in the hospital. Your manager gathers the whole office together and, without your or your family's knowledge, tells the entire office why you are gone and your medical condition. Then, somebody googles it and tells everyone else what they read, and that the median age is 37, and since you are 36, it's not looking good. Nevermind the fact that you are (for example) presently healthy as a horse except for this flare up, and most of what they googled may have nothing to do with the present situation. And you go back to work and you notice a few people looking at you out of the corner of their eyes and you see people whisper as you go by. Then you find out what happened. That's uncomfortable, even as a well grounded adult.

First, there's the decision about the lawsuit <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

Then there are the coworkers who will want to be educated, and will try not to breathe on you when they come to work sick. Then there are the ones who will go "Oh." and treat you no differently. Then there are the ones who will try to use it to undermine you for their own advantage. Then there are the ones who will unconciously undermine you. Now you have to deal with them all, when you really were comfortable with your work life and the people you chose to share with, and the only reason it changed is because someone shared something that was none of their business to share. School is no different, just often more blatent and cruel (real or perceived).

Yes, the first thing that most of us would do is call a meeting and meet this problem head on. But she is a CHILD, and maybe she doesn't want to be the spokesperson for cf this year, or maybe she feels that her hair is too red, or her feet are too big, or whatever, (insert your own adolecent insecurity here <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ), and doesn't want to be put on the spot. The teacher invaded her privacy, both mentally and legally, and it was wrong.

Sure it's not a perfect world; sure this won't be the only instance where a kid with cf will have to deal with being different, but there are rules for a reason, and the teacher broke the rules, and then compounded it by <b><i>having someone else, a classmate! share with the class about what <u>her</u> condition entails.</i></b> That was wrong, whether it was about cf or any other medical condition.