Hi: Just curoius if anyone has ever been with someone who had trouble handling the whole CF situation and you guys just kept breaking up and getting back. Does anyone have any pointers on how to just walk away or how to maybe works things out (this was a long term relationship). Thanks!
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Trying to get over someone!
- Thread starter eggshell
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Hi eggshell,
My Bf has CF and he has bad times when he can't handle his CF like I am sure a lot of people do we have broken up many times and gotten back together there has been plenty of times where I wanted to just walk away but I just couldn't do it I love him too much I tell him all the time that I love him for who he is and I don't care about the CF it is hard because I don't know what it is like to have CF so I can't say I understand how you feel because I don't. Are you together at the moment??
Cheers
Sami
My Bf has CF and he has bad times when he can't handle his CF like I am sure a lot of people do we have broken up many times and gotten back together there has been plenty of times where I wanted to just walk away but I just couldn't do it I love him too much I tell him all the time that I love him for who he is and I don't care about the CF it is hard because I don't know what it is like to have CF so I can't say I understand how you feel because I don't. Are you together at the moment??
Cheers
Sami
I have a similar situation going on with an ex of mine who has CF. We were together before I found out about his CF, and I found out about it when he got really sick and wanted to break off the relationship because of it. Almost a year went by when we didn't have as much contact, but recently we've been hanging out as friends a lot more. We both still care about each other as if we never fell out of touch, but he's so scared of getting into a relationship again, getting sick, and hurting someone because he might flip out about it. I want to respect his wishes, but at the same time I cannot seem to shake those feelings I have for him.
I honestly don't know what to do...I've heard how those with CF can push people away when things get really bad, which is exactly what happened with us when we broke up. And I've heard how sometimes you just need to give the person some space, but remind him/her that you're there. It's a toughie, since he doesn't think he can handle being sick and being in a relationship I don't want to push him. But that doesn't mean I don't care about him just the same. I wish there was a way we could work through it, but right now I just don't know. I don't want to give up on him either.
well i am in the opposite situation i am the one with Cf and he has a tough time handling it all. I was completely honest from the get go but of course you know how it is in the beginning nothing sinks in until you start falling in love with the person. Anyway i don't know what to do. We still stay in touch because i do love him and i know he loves me but i think that he thinks that he is not strong enough to be there for me. i just don't know what to do.
Cold hard facts.... Its not easy dealing with a chronic illness of any kind & sometimes no matter how much a person cares for you they just dont have what it takes to stay in it for the long haul. Even tho it is hard now try to look at the big picture. There are other people out there for both of you. You probably dont want to hear that now or even believe it, but its true. Win Ace is an example of how love finds you suddenly & makes the world a new place.
HELLO, I DO NOT HAVE CF, BUT MY BROTHER DOES, SO I AM ALWAYS ON THE SIGHT GETTING FEEDBACK AND WHAT NOT.... GETTING OVER A RELATIONSHIP REGARDLESS OF C/F IS ALWAYS HARD FOR ME BECAUSE I ALWAYS GET TOOOOOO ATTACHED TOOOOOO QUICK I THINK AND I KNOW THE FEELINGS AREN'T ALWAYS MUTUAL. THE COMFORTING THING FOR ME IS RIDING MY BIKE. WHEN I RIDE, A LOT OF STRESS IS RELIEVED AND BY THE END OF THE RIDE I AM SO TIRED, I DON'T HAVE ANY MORE ENERGY TO THINK ABOUT THE NEGATIVE AT THAT MOMENT.SO I GUESS WHAT I AM SAYING IS TO TRY AND KEEP BUSY, JOIN A BIKE CLUB, OR DO SOMETHING THAT U ENJOY DOING. IT COULD BE ANYTHING IE;CROCHETING, HELP THE HOMELESS, ANOTHER THING THAT I TRY TO DO IS WHEN EVER I AM FEELING DOWN I TRY TO HELP SOMEONE AND IT ALWAYS MAKES ME FEEL BETTER.... KEEP UR HEAD UP, AND REMEMBER THIS.....TOMORROW WILL COME, AND WILL BE BETTER!!!