unsure, getting nervous, too many questions, ugH!!

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lolita

New member
hello everyone
Monday is my RE appt. ive already met with the doc ( hes my gyn- just has 2 offices one for re, one for regular 'stuff').
Hes a good doctor.
On monday we make up a plan.
Im nervous.
Monday is also suppose to be cycle day 1- so itll be like a brand new start for everything.
my doc has already said he wants clomid and IUI's.
I have so many thoughts in my head.
Doubts, questions, other peoples opinions, worries, anxiety, good feelings, exciting,...

i keep going around in my head- should i try clomid? should i not? what if i dont and its just what i need? what if i dont do it this year and next year im too sick?
then i start hearing everyone else say "why are you doing this (trying)? do you know your chances of having a sick baby ( only one friend said this and i cant find any studies to back her up). other people say "well i have my opinion and you do what you want ( but they wont tell me their opinion they just say dont worry about it).
then i have another issue i think about. I have chronic appendicitis ( it means it comes and goes). im waiting for surgery which is suppose to be may 22nd or before depending on a cancelation list. Well my thoughts about that are
1- i cant get anyone to take out my appendix (which is a serious thing) how am i going to get a doctor to take care of me if im pregnant
2- what if i get pregnant, then i need appendix surgery ( on top of having cf/diabetes)

then im worried about my cervical mucus- that ill never get it how it needs to be.
Yes i can have IUI. but my hunny doesnt want to...

then i have to deal with that! and not be mad at him bc he does have a say in all this anyways.

agh!!! I KNOW this is all just bugging me bc monday is my appt.

anyone else deal with this stuff though?

how do you deal with friends who dont support you in your pregnancy choices? what if their family members?

im not surprised my family/friends dont support me, they havent in anything ive done ( school, my current partner, my hobbies, even learning to drive...)
 
L

lolita

New member
hello everyone
Monday is my RE appt. ive already met with the doc ( hes my gyn- just has 2 offices one for re, one for regular 'stuff').
Hes a good doctor.
On monday we make up a plan.
Im nervous.
Monday is also suppose to be cycle day 1- so itll be like a brand new start for everything.
my doc has already said he wants clomid and IUI's.
I have so many thoughts in my head.
Doubts, questions, other peoples opinions, worries, anxiety, good feelings, exciting,...

i keep going around in my head- should i try clomid? should i not? what if i dont and its just what i need? what if i dont do it this year and next year im too sick?
then i start hearing everyone else say "why are you doing this (trying)? do you know your chances of having a sick baby ( only one friend said this and i cant find any studies to back her up). other people say "well i have my opinion and you do what you want ( but they wont tell me their opinion they just say dont worry about it).
then i have another issue i think about. I have chronic appendicitis ( it means it comes and goes). im waiting for surgery which is suppose to be may 22nd or before depending on a cancelation list. Well my thoughts about that are
1- i cant get anyone to take out my appendix (which is a serious thing) how am i going to get a doctor to take care of me if im pregnant
2- what if i get pregnant, then i need appendix surgery ( on top of having cf/diabetes)

then im worried about my cervical mucus- that ill never get it how it needs to be.
Yes i can have IUI. but my hunny doesnt want to...

then i have to deal with that! and not be mad at him bc he does have a say in all this anyways.

agh!!! I KNOW this is all just bugging me bc monday is my appt.

anyone else deal with this stuff though?

how do you deal with friends who dont support you in your pregnancy choices? what if their family members?

im not surprised my family/friends dont support me, they havent in anything ive done ( school, my current partner, my hobbies, even learning to drive...)
 
L

lolita

New member
hello everyone
Monday is my RE appt. ive already met with the doc ( hes my gyn- just has 2 offices one for re, one for regular 'stuff').
Hes a good doctor.
On monday we make up a plan.
Im nervous.
Monday is also suppose to be cycle day 1- so itll be like a brand new start for everything.
my doc has already said he wants clomid and IUI's.
I have so many thoughts in my head.
Doubts, questions, other peoples opinions, worries, anxiety, good feelings, exciting,...

i keep going around in my head- should i try clomid? should i not? what if i dont and its just what i need? what if i dont do it this year and next year im too sick?
then i start hearing everyone else say "why are you doing this (trying)? do you know your chances of having a sick baby ( only one friend said this and i cant find any studies to back her up). other people say "well i have my opinion and you do what you want ( but they wont tell me their opinion they just say dont worry about it).
then i have another issue i think about. I have chronic appendicitis ( it means it comes and goes). im waiting for surgery which is suppose to be may 22nd or before depending on a cancelation list. Well my thoughts about that are
1- i cant get anyone to take out my appendix (which is a serious thing) how am i going to get a doctor to take care of me if im pregnant
2- what if i get pregnant, then i need appendix surgery ( on top of having cf/diabetes)

then im worried about my cervical mucus- that ill never get it how it needs to be.
Yes i can have IUI. but my hunny doesnt want to...

then i have to deal with that! and not be mad at him bc he does have a say in all this anyways.

agh!!! I KNOW this is all just bugging me bc monday is my appt.

anyone else deal with this stuff though?

how do you deal with friends who dont support you in your pregnancy choices? what if their family members?

im not surprised my family/friends dont support me, they havent in anything ive done ( school, my current partner, my hobbies, even learning to drive...)
 
L

lolita

New member
hello everyone
Monday is my RE appt. ive already met with the doc ( hes my gyn- just has 2 offices one for re, one for regular 'stuff').
Hes a good doctor.
On monday we make up a plan.
Im nervous.
Monday is also suppose to be cycle day 1- so itll be like a brand new start for everything.
my doc has already said he wants clomid and IUI's.
I have so many thoughts in my head.
Doubts, questions, other peoples opinions, worries, anxiety, good feelings, exciting,...

i keep going around in my head- should i try clomid? should i not? what if i dont and its just what i need? what if i dont do it this year and next year im too sick?
then i start hearing everyone else say "why are you doing this (trying)? do you know your chances of having a sick baby ( only one friend said this and i cant find any studies to back her up). other people say "well i have my opinion and you do what you want ( but they wont tell me their opinion they just say dont worry about it).
then i have another issue i think about. I have chronic appendicitis ( it means it comes and goes). im waiting for surgery which is suppose to be may 22nd or before depending on a cancelation list. Well my thoughts about that are
1- i cant get anyone to take out my appendix (which is a serious thing) how am i going to get a doctor to take care of me if im pregnant
2- what if i get pregnant, then i need appendix surgery ( on top of having cf/diabetes)

then im worried about my cervical mucus- that ill never get it how it needs to be.
Yes i can have IUI. but my hunny doesnt want to...

then i have to deal with that! and not be mad at him bc he does have a say in all this anyways.

agh!!! I KNOW this is all just bugging me bc monday is my appt.

anyone else deal with this stuff though?

how do you deal with friends who dont support you in your pregnancy choices? what if their family members?

im not surprised my family/friends dont support me, they havent in anything ive done ( school, my current partner, my hobbies, even learning to drive...)
 
L

lolita

New member
hello everyone
<br />Monday is my RE appt. ive already met with the doc ( hes my gyn- just has 2 offices one for re, one for regular 'stuff').
<br />Hes a good doctor.
<br />On monday we make up a plan.
<br />Im nervous.
<br />Monday is also suppose to be cycle day 1- so itll be like a brand new start for everything.
<br />my doc has already said he wants clomid and IUI's.
<br />I have so many thoughts in my head.
<br />Doubts, questions, other peoples opinions, worries, anxiety, good feelings, exciting,...
<br />
<br />i keep going around in my head- should i try clomid? should i not? what if i dont and its just what i need? what if i dont do it this year and next year im too sick?
<br />then i start hearing everyone else say "why are you doing this (trying)? do you know your chances of having a sick baby ( only one friend said this and i cant find any studies to back her up). other people say "well i have my opinion and you do what you want ( but they wont tell me their opinion they just say dont worry about it).
<br />then i have another issue i think about. I have chronic appendicitis ( it means it comes and goes). im waiting for surgery which is suppose to be may 22nd or before depending on a cancelation list. Well my thoughts about that are
<br />1- i cant get anyone to take out my appendix (which is a serious thing) how am i going to get a doctor to take care of me if im pregnant
<br />2- what if i get pregnant, then i need appendix surgery ( on top of having cf/diabetes)
<br />
<br />then im worried about my cervical mucus- that ill never get it how it needs to be.
<br />Yes i can have IUI. but my hunny doesnt want to...
<br />
<br />then i have to deal with that! and not be mad at him bc he does have a say in all this anyways.
<br />
<br />agh!!! I KNOW this is all just bugging me bc monday is my appt.
<br />
<br />anyone else deal with this stuff though?
<br />
<br />how do you deal with friends who dont support you in your pregnancy choices? what if their family members?
<br />
<br />im not surprised my family/friends dont support me, they havent in anything ive done ( school, my current partner, my hobbies, even learning to drive...)
 
K

Keepercjr

Guest
Sorry you're feeling nervous. Remember that you are in the driver's seat when it comes to your fertility treatments. How much is a cycle of IUI (unmedicated)? If it isn't too much, why not try a few cycles w/o clomid. If you do clomid will they be monitoring your ovaries to make sure you don't produce too many eggs?

As far as the appendix surgery - just don't do any fertility treatments till after the surgery. And trust me, you'll find a doc to care for you while you're pregnant. A regular OB will probably do just fine but if you want you can be followed by a high risk doctor as well. A perinatologist won't turn you away.

Why doesn't your partner want to do IUI? What is the difference between getting pregnant "naturally" vs IUI for him? If you aren't getting pregnant the old fashioned way then something else needs to be done. I think you're due for some serious talks with him to get to the bottom of the issue.

Has your partner been screened to see if he is a carrier of any CF mutations? If he isn't a carrier (or the donor you might use isn't a carrier) then your chance of having a child w/ CF is almost non existent. Sure things happen sometimes but if he does a full panel screening then I'd feel safe saying he isn't a carrier.

As far as non supportive friends or family - we've been lucky in that regard but honestly there isn't much you can do to change their mind or opinion. You just need to surround yourself with people who are supportive. If you have to be around unsupportive people, let them know that you won't tolerate any negative feedback from them and that you won't be discussing your choices with them. If they can't respect those boundaries then you may have to limit contact.

Good luck on monday
 
K

Keepercjr

Guest
Sorry you're feeling nervous. Remember that you are in the driver's seat when it comes to your fertility treatments. How much is a cycle of IUI (unmedicated)? If it isn't too much, why not try a few cycles w/o clomid. If you do clomid will they be monitoring your ovaries to make sure you don't produce too many eggs?

As far as the appendix surgery - just don't do any fertility treatments till after the surgery. And trust me, you'll find a doc to care for you while you're pregnant. A regular OB will probably do just fine but if you want you can be followed by a high risk doctor as well. A perinatologist won't turn you away.

Why doesn't your partner want to do IUI? What is the difference between getting pregnant "naturally" vs IUI for him? If you aren't getting pregnant the old fashioned way then something else needs to be done. I think you're due for some serious talks with him to get to the bottom of the issue.

Has your partner been screened to see if he is a carrier of any CF mutations? If he isn't a carrier (or the donor you might use isn't a carrier) then your chance of having a child w/ CF is almost non existent. Sure things happen sometimes but if he does a full panel screening then I'd feel safe saying he isn't a carrier.

As far as non supportive friends or family - we've been lucky in that regard but honestly there isn't much you can do to change their mind or opinion. You just need to surround yourself with people who are supportive. If you have to be around unsupportive people, let them know that you won't tolerate any negative feedback from them and that you won't be discussing your choices with them. If they can't respect those boundaries then you may have to limit contact.

Good luck on monday
 
K

Keepercjr

Guest
Sorry you're feeling nervous. Remember that you are in the driver's seat when it comes to your fertility treatments. How much is a cycle of IUI (unmedicated)? If it isn't too much, why not try a few cycles w/o clomid. If you do clomid will they be monitoring your ovaries to make sure you don't produce too many eggs?

As far as the appendix surgery - just don't do any fertility treatments till after the surgery. And trust me, you'll find a doc to care for you while you're pregnant. A regular OB will probably do just fine but if you want you can be followed by a high risk doctor as well. A perinatologist won't turn you away.

Why doesn't your partner want to do IUI? What is the difference between getting pregnant "naturally" vs IUI for him? If you aren't getting pregnant the old fashioned way then something else needs to be done. I think you're due for some serious talks with him to get to the bottom of the issue.

Has your partner been screened to see if he is a carrier of any CF mutations? If he isn't a carrier (or the donor you might use isn't a carrier) then your chance of having a child w/ CF is almost non existent. Sure things happen sometimes but if he does a full panel screening then I'd feel safe saying he isn't a carrier.

As far as non supportive friends or family - we've been lucky in that regard but honestly there isn't much you can do to change their mind or opinion. You just need to surround yourself with people who are supportive. If you have to be around unsupportive people, let them know that you won't tolerate any negative feedback from them and that you won't be discussing your choices with them. If they can't respect those boundaries then you may have to limit contact.

Good luck on monday
 
K

Keepercjr

Guest
Sorry you're feeling nervous. Remember that you are in the driver's seat when it comes to your fertility treatments. How much is a cycle of IUI (unmedicated)? If it isn't too much, why not try a few cycles w/o clomid. If you do clomid will they be monitoring your ovaries to make sure you don't produce too many eggs?

As far as the appendix surgery - just don't do any fertility treatments till after the surgery. And trust me, you'll find a doc to care for you while you're pregnant. A regular OB will probably do just fine but if you want you can be followed by a high risk doctor as well. A perinatologist won't turn you away.

Why doesn't your partner want to do IUI? What is the difference between getting pregnant "naturally" vs IUI for him? If you aren't getting pregnant the old fashioned way then something else needs to be done. I think you're due for some serious talks with him to get to the bottom of the issue.

Has your partner been screened to see if he is a carrier of any CF mutations? If he isn't a carrier (or the donor you might use isn't a carrier) then your chance of having a child w/ CF is almost non existent. Sure things happen sometimes but if he does a full panel screening then I'd feel safe saying he isn't a carrier.

As far as non supportive friends or family - we've been lucky in that regard but honestly there isn't much you can do to change their mind or opinion. You just need to surround yourself with people who are supportive. If you have to be around unsupportive people, let them know that you won't tolerate any negative feedback from them and that you won't be discussing your choices with them. If they can't respect those boundaries then you may have to limit contact.

Good luck on monday
 
K

Keepercjr

Guest
Sorry you're feeling nervous. Remember that you are in the driver's seat when it comes to your fertility treatments. How much is a cycle of IUI (unmedicated)? If it isn't too much, why not try a few cycles w/o clomid. If you do clomid will they be monitoring your ovaries to make sure you don't produce too many eggs?
<br />
<br />As far as the appendix surgery - just don't do any fertility treatments till after the surgery. And trust me, you'll find a doc to care for you while you're pregnant. A regular OB will probably do just fine but if you want you can be followed by a high risk doctor as well. A perinatologist won't turn you away.
<br />
<br />Why doesn't your partner want to do IUI? What is the difference between getting pregnant "naturally" vs IUI for him? If you aren't getting pregnant the old fashioned way then something else needs to be done. I think you're due for some serious talks with him to get to the bottom of the issue.
<br />
<br />Has your partner been screened to see if he is a carrier of any CF mutations? If he isn't a carrier (or the donor you might use isn't a carrier) then your chance of having a child w/ CF is almost non existent. Sure things happen sometimes but if he does a full panel screening then I'd feel safe saying he isn't a carrier.
<br />
<br />As far as non supportive friends or family - we've been lucky in that regard but honestly there isn't much you can do to change their mind or opinion. You just need to surround yourself with people who are supportive. If you have to be around unsupportive people, let them know that you won't tolerate any negative feedback from them and that you won't be discussing your choices with them. If they can't respect those boundaries then you may have to limit contact.
<br />
<br />Good luck on monday
 
L

lolita

New member
well. today is monday. i went to the docs.

he decided he wouldnt put me on clomid, feeling it wouldnt be any good to me- and just a waste of time. he said even if he did iui he wouldnt put me on clomid.

he had no other options or opinions.. except to tell me that my right tube was blocked when he did the laprascope. Ive seen him 2 other times since the surgery and both times he told me it wasnt blocked but just slow.

i feel he gave me false hope. i mean i had a feeling clomid wouldnt do me any good bc i know i ovulate. but at the same time he said we would try it and that i had no phsyical issues (other than mucus).

so... i guess thats it.

do i try robitusin, evening primrose, start the charting, timing all that or do i say ok this is it, i had my try ( for 7 +/- yrs).

ugh....
 
L

lolita

New member
well. today is monday. i went to the docs.

he decided he wouldnt put me on clomid, feeling it wouldnt be any good to me- and just a waste of time. he said even if he did iui he wouldnt put me on clomid.

he had no other options or opinions.. except to tell me that my right tube was blocked when he did the laprascope. Ive seen him 2 other times since the surgery and both times he told me it wasnt blocked but just slow.

i feel he gave me false hope. i mean i had a feeling clomid wouldnt do me any good bc i know i ovulate. but at the same time he said we would try it and that i had no phsyical issues (other than mucus).

so... i guess thats it.

do i try robitusin, evening primrose, start the charting, timing all that or do i say ok this is it, i had my try ( for 7 +/- yrs).

ugh....
 
L

lolita

New member
well. today is monday. i went to the docs.

he decided he wouldnt put me on clomid, feeling it wouldnt be any good to me- and just a waste of time. he said even if he did iui he wouldnt put me on clomid.

he had no other options or opinions.. except to tell me that my right tube was blocked when he did the laprascope. Ive seen him 2 other times since the surgery and both times he told me it wasnt blocked but just slow.

i feel he gave me false hope. i mean i had a feeling clomid wouldnt do me any good bc i know i ovulate. but at the same time he said we would try it and that i had no phsyical issues (other than mucus).

so... i guess thats it.

do i try robitusin, evening primrose, start the charting, timing all that or do i say ok this is it, i had my try ( for 7 +/- yrs).

ugh....
 
L

lolita

New member
well. today is monday. i went to the docs.

he decided he wouldnt put me on clomid, feeling it wouldnt be any good to me- and just a waste of time. he said even if he did iui he wouldnt put me on clomid.

he had no other options or opinions.. except to tell me that my right tube was blocked when he did the laprascope. Ive seen him 2 other times since the surgery and both times he told me it wasnt blocked but just slow.

i feel he gave me false hope. i mean i had a feeling clomid wouldnt do me any good bc i know i ovulate. but at the same time he said we would try it and that i had no phsyical issues (other than mucus).

so... i guess thats it.

do i try robitusin, evening primrose, start the charting, timing all that or do i say ok this is it, i had my try ( for 7 +/- yrs).

ugh....
 
L

lolita

New member
well. today is monday. i went to the docs.
<br />
<br />he decided he wouldnt put me on clomid, feeling it wouldnt be any good to me- and just a waste of time. he said even if he did iui he wouldnt put me on clomid.
<br />
<br />he had no other options or opinions.. except to tell me that my right tube was blocked when he did the laprascope. Ive seen him 2 other times since the surgery and both times he told me it wasnt blocked but just slow.
<br />
<br />i feel he gave me false hope. i mean i had a feeling clomid wouldnt do me any good bc i know i ovulate. but at the same time he said we would try it and that i had no phsyical issues (other than mucus).
<br />
<br />so... i guess thats it.
<br />
<br />do i try robitusin, evening primrose, start the charting, timing all that or do i say ok this is it, i had my try ( for 7 +/- yrs).
<br />
<br />ugh....
 
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