What to leave behind with loved one

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duke1234

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My grandad had a ring that he wore and after he died my dad got the ring and when I was a little boy and I'd see it on my dads dresser I would put it on my finger and imagine getting to own it one day, not in a greedy way but In a loving way since passing the ring down to the son in the family was a tradition and a symbol of love and respect. now that I'm older and the reality of cf has hit me I realize unless there is a freak accident I'm going to die before my dad. And I was wondering what to leave behind. I want my dad and brothers to each have something that meant a lot to me ad I want to give my bestfriend something before I go. But I'm 17 and I don't really have anything to give them. Like most teenagers my most prized possession is probably my cell phone haha. But that would be outdated and meaningless in a year or two anyway. I don't wear a watch or have any special jewelry.

I was wondering if any of you all have special things that are passed from generation to generation and what if anything you plan to pass down to your children or pass along to a parent. I'm interested in hearing and hopefully I'll get some ideas from it.
 
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duke1234

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My grandad had a ring that he wore and after he died my dad got the ring and when I was a little boy and I'd see it on my dads dresser I would put it on my finger and imagine getting to own it one day, not in a greedy way but In a loving way since passing the ring down to the son in the family was a tradition and a symbol of love and respect. now that I'm older and the reality of cf has hit me I realize unless there is a freak accident I'm going to die before my dad. And I was wondering what to leave behind. I want my dad and brothers to each have something that meant a lot to me ad I want to give my bestfriend something before I go. But I'm 17 and I don't really have anything to give them. Like most teenagers my most prized possession is probably my cell phone haha. But that would be outdated and meaningless in a year or two anyway. I don't wear a watch or have any special jewelry.

I was wondering if any of you all have special things that are passed from generation to generation and what if anything you plan to pass down to your children or pass along to a parent. I'm interested in hearing and hopefully I'll get some ideas from it.
 
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duke1234

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My grandad had a ring that he wore and after he died my dad got the ring and when I was a little boy and I'd see it on my dads dresser I would put it on my finger and imagine getting to own it one day, not in a greedy way but In a loving way since passing the ring down to the son in the family was a tradition and a symbol of love and respect. now that I'm older and the reality of cf has hit me I realize unless there is a freak accident I'm going to die before my dad. And I was wondering what to leave behind. I want my dad and brothers to each have something that meant a lot to me ad I want to give my bestfriend something before I go. But I'm 17 and I don't really have anything to give them. Like most teenagers my most prized possession is probably my cell phone haha. But that would be outdated and meaningless in a year or two anyway. I don't wear a watch or have any special jewelry.

I was wondering if any of you all have special things that are passed from generation to generation and what if anything you plan to pass down to your children or pass along to a parent. I'm interested in hearing and hopefully I'll get some ideas from it.
 
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TleighsHusband

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I too have a ring from my grandfather that means a lot. Usually what is important to people is that which reminds them of the person. It doesn't have to be something of great value financially but something that helps them to remember. For me with Tiffany it is her flip-flops, an anniversary ring that replaced the wedding ring, pictures, diaries, little collectibles that meant something to her, her hymnal that she played from, her piano, her boots -- it is that stuff that reminds me of certain things about her. You could write a letter and leave it in your dresser telling them of your love and appreciation. Rarely is it that which is monetarily valuable but rather that which reminds us.
 
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TleighsHusband

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I too have a ring from my grandfather that means a lot. Usually what is important to people is that which reminds them of the person. It doesn't have to be something of great value financially but something that helps them to remember. For me with Tiffany it is her flip-flops, an anniversary ring that replaced the wedding ring, pictures, diaries, little collectibles that meant something to her, her hymnal that she played from, her piano, her boots -- it is that stuff that reminds me of certain things about her. You could write a letter and leave it in your dresser telling them of your love and appreciation. Rarely is it that which is monetarily valuable but rather that which reminds us.
 
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TleighsHusband

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I too have a ring from my grandfather that means a lot. Usually what is important to people is that which reminds them of the person. It doesn't have to be something of great value financially but something that helps them to remember. For me with Tiffany it is her flip-flops, an anniversary ring that replaced the wedding ring, pictures, diaries, little collectibles that meant something to her, her hymnal that she played from, her piano, her boots -- it is that stuff that reminds me of certain things about her. You could write a letter and leave it in your dresser telling them of your love and appreciation. Rarely is it that which is monetarily valuable but rather that which reminds us.
 
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Tammy15

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For our family my daughter had 2 good rings we gave hr for xmas, we were instructed to give them to her son when he turns 18. For myself it was her coat, and her comfy jamma pants and a pair of sneakers . She had an Ipod her brother has and a cell phone yes we still have that handy and her brother and sister have activated it and use it once in a while. Her sister has a sweatshirt that was one of her favorites.
We have our pictures. Our most cherished things were not things of value but things that were her.

Tammy
 
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Tammy15

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For our family my daughter had 2 good rings we gave hr for xmas, we were instructed to give them to her son when he turns 18. For myself it was her coat, and her comfy jamma pants and a pair of sneakers . She had an Ipod her brother has and a cell phone yes we still have that handy and her brother and sister have activated it and use it once in a while. Her sister has a sweatshirt that was one of her favorites.
We have our pictures. Our most cherished things were not things of value but things that were her.

Tammy
 
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Tammy15

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For our family my daughter had 2 good rings we gave hr for xmas, we were instructed to give them to her son when he turns 18. For myself it was her coat, and her comfy jamma pants and a pair of sneakers . She had an Ipod her brother has and a cell phone yes we still have that handy and her brother and sister have activated it and use it once in a while. Her sister has a sweatshirt that was one of her favorites.
We have our pictures. Our most cherished things were not things of value but things that were her.

Tammy
 
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CysticlyFunny

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Hi there,-

I couldn't help but feel a"morbidity" to your life/post.... Your only 17, you need to get out there, ***do your treatments***PLEASE!!!!***, do what the docs tell you, get out and exercise!!! EXERCISE!!!! RUN! WEIGHT TRAIN,!!! Do everything and anything in your power,....you CAN control CF but its a commitment and a LIFESYTLE..., Learn all you can and don't stop learning!!!

Who says your NOT going to out live you dad? !

Just the other day my Doc was telling me about a 80 year old with CF... 80! He has classic CF and he still made it..., all with Delta, and another mutation....

I think there are a few special people that can make it with CF...but only a few and the strong unfortunately.

Anyway, of topic, its the memories we have with people that we love, not the value of things to pass on...!
 
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CysticlyFunny

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Hi there,-

I couldn't help but feel a"morbidity" to your life/post.... Your only 17, you need to get out there, ***do your treatments***PLEASE!!!!***, do what the docs tell you, get out and exercise!!! EXERCISE!!!! RUN! WEIGHT TRAIN,!!! Do everything and anything in your power,....you CAN control CF but its a commitment and a LIFESYTLE..., Learn all you can and don't stop learning!!!

Who says your NOT going to out live you dad? !

Just the other day my Doc was telling me about a 80 year old with CF... 80! He has classic CF and he still made it..., all with Delta, and another mutation....

I think there are a few special people that can make it with CF...but only a few and the strong unfortunately.

Anyway, of topic, its the memories we have with people that we love, not the value of things to pass on...!
 
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CysticlyFunny

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Hi there,-
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<br />I couldn't help but feel a"morbidity" to your life/post.... Your only 17, you need to get out there, ***do your treatments***PLEASE!!!!***, do what the docs tell you, get out and exercise!!! EXERCISE!!!! RUN! WEIGHT TRAIN,!!! Do everything and anything in your power,....you CAN control CF but its a commitment and a LIFESYTLE..., Learn all you can and don't stop learning!!!
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<br />Who says your NOT going to out live you dad? !
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<br />Just the other day my Doc was telling me about a 80 year old with CF... 80! He has classic CF and he still made it..., all with Delta, and another mutation....
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<br />I think there are a few special people that can make it with CF...but only a few and the strong unfortunately.
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<br />Anyway, of topic, its the memories we have with people that we love, not the value of things to pass on...!
 
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duke1234

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@ Cysticly funny, No there's nothing morbid or depressing about my life. And I do all my treatments and I do exercise, but my dad is a healthy 50 year old man and my fev1 is 18 % and I'm on 5lpm oxygen 24/7 and have chosen not to go on the transplant list. so I'm just being realistic. So thanks for the pep talk but I don't need it. I was just wanting to get ideas about leaving something meaningful and full of memories behind with friends and loved ones.

Everybody else thanks for the info so far, I'd love to hear more. And I live with my parents so I'm sure they'll have tons of special things that remind them of me left lying around. My favorite jacket, pictures,etc etc. and I do plan on leaving all of my loved ones a personal letter.
 
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duke1234

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@ Cysticly funny, No there's nothing morbid or depressing about my life. And I do all my treatments and I do exercise, but my dad is a healthy 50 year old man and my fev1 is 18 % and I'm on 5lpm oxygen 24/7 and have chosen not to go on the transplant list. so I'm just being realistic. So thanks for the pep talk but I don't need it. I was just wanting to get ideas about leaving something meaningful and full of memories behind with friends and loved ones.

Everybody else thanks for the info so far, I'd love to hear more. And I live with my parents so I'm sure they'll have tons of special things that remind them of me left lying around. My favorite jacket, pictures,etc etc. and I do plan on leaving all of my loved ones a personal letter.
 
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duke1234

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@ Cysticly funny, No there's nothing morbid or depressing about my life. And I do all my treatments and I do exercise, but my dad is a healthy 50 year old man and my fev1 is 18 % and I'm on 5lpm oxygen 24/7 and have chosen not to go on the transplant list. so I'm just being realistic. So thanks for the pep talk but I don't need it. I was just wanting to get ideas about leaving something meaningful and full of memories behind with friends and loved ones.
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<br />Everybody else thanks for the info so far, I'd love to hear more. And I live with my parents so I'm sure they'll have tons of special things that remind them of me left lying around. My favorite jacket, pictures,etc etc. and I do plan on leaving all of my loved ones a personal letter.
 
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CysticlyFunny

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@ duke1234, Hi, -I didn't mean to sound insensitive or egoistic, and I was not aware of your current health status,.

When you said you'd have either a 'freak accident' , or when you said ' the reality of CF has set in, " I assumed you were thinking to the future as a typical CF teen, - one who is still very healthy, yet they still have a very dim view of the future and give a hoots about doing treatments..I have seen and *use to be one* and I was only trying to inspire you- not offend you,....and that for the other CFers who have gotten to this point...

As for my 'pep talk', you sound slightly bitter, -and I understand ALOT-, but, you can choose to be angry about CF, or choose to face CF and its realities, with all of it nastiness with bravery..., even while with a low FEV1 and oxygen 24hrs...

Whats the point in that you ask REALLY?!....Well, you kept saying of how you wanted to leave something behind for your love ones, friends ect, -you can leave them with knowing that you didn't buckle under CF, - NOTHING DID,....
 
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CysticlyFunny

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@ duke1234, Hi, -I didn't mean to sound insensitive or egoistic, and I was not aware of your current health status,.

When you said you'd have either a 'freak accident' , or when you said ' the reality of CF has set in, " I assumed you were thinking to the future as a typical CF teen, - one who is still very healthy, yet they still have a very dim view of the future and give a hoots about doing treatments..I have seen and *use to be one* and I was only trying to inspire you- not offend you,....and that for the other CFers who have gotten to this point...

As for my 'pep talk', you sound slightly bitter, -and I understand ALOT-, but, you can choose to be angry about CF, or choose to face CF and its realities, with all of it nastiness with bravery..., even while with a low FEV1 and oxygen 24hrs...

Whats the point in that you ask REALLY?!....Well, you kept saying of how you wanted to leave something behind for your love ones, friends ect, -you can leave them with knowing that you didn't buckle under CF, - NOTHING DID,....
 
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CysticlyFunny

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@ duke1234, Hi, -I didn't mean to sound insensitive or egoistic, and I was not aware of your current health status,.
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<br />When you said you'd have either a 'freak accident' , or when you said ' the reality of CF has set in, " I assumed you were thinking to the future as a typical CF teen, - one who is still very healthy, yet they still have a very dim view of the future and give a hoots about doing treatments..I have seen and *use to be one* and I was only trying to inspire you- not offend you,....and that for the other CFers who have gotten to this point...
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<br />As for my 'pep talk', you sound slightly bitter, -and I understand ALOT-, but, you can choose to be angry about CF, or choose to face CF and its realities, with all of it nastiness with bravery..., even while with a low FEV1 and oxygen 24hrs...
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<br />Whats the point in that you ask REALLY?!....Well, you kept saying of how you wanted to leave something behind for your love ones, friends ect, -you can leave them with knowing that you didn't buckle under CF, - NOTHING DID,....
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duke1234

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No Im not bitter at all, I'm a pretty happy person, and I didn't mean to sound hostile, it's hard to read tones and intentions though typed words. And about the pep talk I just meant that I know it helps a lot of people with grave outlooks but I'm pretty positive and optomistic about life. No sadness or anger over here. But its also good to be realistic and prepared. So yeah no hard feelings between us, and I'm perfectly aware of and happy with my current situation and future.
 
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duke1234

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No Im not bitter at all, I'm a pretty happy person, and I didn't mean to sound hostile, it's hard to read tones and intentions though typed words. And about the pep talk I just meant that I know it helps a lot of people with grave outlooks but I'm pretty positive and optomistic about life. No sadness or anger over here. But its also good to be realistic and prepared. So yeah no hard feelings between us, and I'm perfectly aware of and happy with my current situation and future.
 
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