whats the point?

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soccerkels2010

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ok i know this is gonna sound really depressing, and that is totaly not me, but I have just been thinking a little too much lately and if we're just going to die in a few years anyway then what is the point of doing things like going to college, because it is just going to take up time that we dont really have. And what about getting married? Why would someone even want to get married if they know it isn't going to last that long anyway? I don't think i would be able to handle marring someone if i know that i am not going to be there to have kids or whatever. I would feel like i was holding him back and just setting him up to loose something.
Idk maybe this just sounds really dumb but I just dont see the point right now
 
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soccerkels2010

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ok i know this is gonna sound really depressing, and that is totaly not me, but I have just been thinking a little too much lately and if we're just going to die in a few years anyway then what is the point of doing things like going to college, because it is just going to take up time that we dont really have. And what about getting married? Why would someone even want to get married if they know it isn't going to last that long anyway? I don't think i would be able to handle marring someone if i know that i am not going to be there to have kids or whatever. I would feel like i was holding him back and just setting him up to loose something.
Idk maybe this just sounds really dumb but I just dont see the point right now
 
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soccerkels2010

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ok i know this is gonna sound really depressing, and that is totaly not me, but I have just been thinking a little too much lately and if we're just going to die in a few years anyway then what is the point of doing things like going to college, because it is just going to take up time that we dont really have. And what about getting married? Why would someone even want to get married if they know it isn't going to last that long anyway? I don't think i would be able to handle marring someone if i know that i am not going to be there to have kids or whatever. I would feel like i was holding him back and just setting him up to loose something.
Idk maybe this just sounds really dumb but I just dont see the point right now
 
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soccerkels2010

New member
ok i know this is gonna sound really depressing, and that is totaly not me, but I have just been thinking a little too much lately and if we're just going to die in a few years anyway then what is the point of doing things like going to college, because it is just going to take up time that we dont really have. And what about getting married? Why would someone even want to get married if they know it isn't going to last that long anyway? I don't think i would be able to handle marring someone if i know that i am not going to be there to have kids or whatever. I would feel like i was holding him back and just setting him up to loose something.
Idk maybe this just sounds really dumb but I just dont see the point right now
 
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soccerkels2010

New member
ok i know this is gonna sound really depressing, and that is totaly not me, but I have just been thinking a little too much lately and if we're just going to die in a few years anyway then what is the point of doing things like going to college, because it is just going to take up time that we dont really have. And what about getting married? Why would someone even want to get married if they know it isn't going to last that long anyway? I don't think i would be able to handle marring someone if i know that i am not going to be there to have kids or whatever. I would feel like i was holding him back and just setting him up to loose something.
<br />Idk maybe this just sounds really dumb but I just dont see the point right now
 
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chrissyd

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My name is Chrissy and I'm 31 with CF. I saw your post and although I'm not a teen I figured I'd give answering this a shot.
I have a husband and a beautiful daughter and thanks to the Boomer Esiason Foundation I just started college! I take online classes with the University of Pheonix, I won a scholarship from them. The Boomer Esiason Foundation awards so many to people with CF every year. I do my classes online, and am moving at my own pace!
Anyhow earlier this link was posted in the adult forum <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cfvoice.com/info/adults/organize.jsp">CFvoice.com</a>
Click on the "Living Uninsured" Link and then play the video. Sarah is a member of this site and if you then check out the "Rock CF" link you can watch another video about Emily, another CFer on this site!

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

PS- sometimes I feel the way you do. I hope that these videos can pick you up...we all need it every now and then!
 
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chrissyd

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My name is Chrissy and I'm 31 with CF. I saw your post and although I'm not a teen I figured I'd give answering this a shot.
I have a husband and a beautiful daughter and thanks to the Boomer Esiason Foundation I just started college! I take online classes with the University of Pheonix, I won a scholarship from them. The Boomer Esiason Foundation awards so many to people with CF every year. I do my classes online, and am moving at my own pace!
Anyhow earlier this link was posted in the adult forum <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cfvoice.com/info/adults/organize.jsp">CFvoice.com</a>
Click on the "Living Uninsured" Link and then play the video. Sarah is a member of this site and if you then check out the "Rock CF" link you can watch another video about Emily, another CFer on this site!

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

PS- sometimes I feel the way you do. I hope that these videos can pick you up...we all need it every now and then!
 
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chrissyd

New member
My name is Chrissy and I'm 31 with CF. I saw your post and although I'm not a teen I figured I'd give answering this a shot.
I have a husband and a beautiful daughter and thanks to the Boomer Esiason Foundation I just started college! I take online classes with the University of Pheonix, I won a scholarship from them. The Boomer Esiason Foundation awards so many to people with CF every year. I do my classes online, and am moving at my own pace!
Anyhow earlier this link was posted in the adult forum <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cfvoice.com/info/adults/organize.jsp">CFvoice.com</a>
Click on the "Living Uninsured" Link and then play the video. Sarah is a member of this site and if you then check out the "Rock CF" link you can watch another video about Emily, another CFer on this site!

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

PS- sometimes I feel the way you do. I hope that these videos can pick you up...we all need it every now and then!
 
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chrissyd

New member
My name is Chrissy and I'm 31 with CF. I saw your post and although I'm not a teen I figured I'd give answering this a shot.
I have a husband and a beautiful daughter and thanks to the Boomer Esiason Foundation I just started college! I take online classes with the University of Pheonix, I won a scholarship from them. The Boomer Esiason Foundation awards so many to people with CF every year. I do my classes online, and am moving at my own pace!
Anyhow earlier this link was posted in the adult forum <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cfvoice.com/info/adults/organize.jsp">CFvoice.com</a>
Click on the "Living Uninsured" Link and then play the video. Sarah is a member of this site and if you then check out the "Rock CF" link you can watch another video about Emily, another CFer on this site!

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

PS- sometimes I feel the way you do. I hope that these videos can pick you up...we all need it every now and then!
 
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chrissyd

New member
My name is Chrissy and I'm 31 with CF. I saw your post and although I'm not a teen I figured I'd give answering this a shot.
<br />I have a husband and a beautiful daughter and thanks to the Boomer Esiason Foundation I just started college! I take online classes with the University of Pheonix, I won a scholarship from them. The Boomer Esiason Foundation awards so many to people with CF every year. I do my classes online, and am moving at my own pace!
<br />Anyhow earlier this link was posted in the adult forum <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cfvoice.com/info/adults/organize.jsp">CFvoice.com</a>
<br />Click on the "Living Uninsured" Link and then play the video. Sarah is a member of this site and if you then check out the "Rock CF" link you can watch another video about Emily, another CFer on this site!
<br />
<br /><img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
<br />
<br />PS- sometimes I feel the way you do. I hope that these videos can pick you up...we all need it every now and then!
 
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Tigrastic

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I have felt a lot like you many times. Sometimes I feel really depressed and can't see the point to it all, other times I imagine myself doing something really awesome for God with the long life He's given me! But slowly I am learning that it doesn't have to be one or the other.
I don't know how much longer I will live, neither do you. But then neither does anyone else on earth! The solution is to make the most of the time we have. Think: If you were to die next week, would you be satisfied with what you've done with your life so far?
I know I wouldn't. But I'm trying to change that.
I am almost 16. I have two more years of "High school" left. I am hoping to do them in one. There are many options, both in the States and the UK for online studies, part time studies, scolarships, partnerships or apprenticeships. I would look into these options near you. Image if you would live to 70, but all your life you thought you shouldn't study, or get married or have children, all because you let fear stop you from doing the best with all the time you had!

I, for one, want to make the most of my time on earth. I want God to use me for His will, whether I die at 30 or live to 80.

One more thing, when you're feeling down, go to those people you know can cheer you up, those friends that understand what you're going through. We for one, in this forum, understand fully well the hardships, troubles, doubts, fears, anger and injustice you might be feeling. We're here to help, so is God.

I'm praying for you,
*Mitchie*
 
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Tigrastic

Guest
I have felt a lot like you many times. Sometimes I feel really depressed and can't see the point to it all, other times I imagine myself doing something really awesome for God with the long life He's given me! But slowly I am learning that it doesn't have to be one or the other.
I don't know how much longer I will live, neither do you. But then neither does anyone else on earth! The solution is to make the most of the time we have. Think: If you were to die next week, would you be satisfied with what you've done with your life so far?
I know I wouldn't. But I'm trying to change that.
I am almost 16. I have two more years of "High school" left. I am hoping to do them in one. There are many options, both in the States and the UK for online studies, part time studies, scolarships, partnerships or apprenticeships. I would look into these options near you. Image if you would live to 70, but all your life you thought you shouldn't study, or get married or have children, all because you let fear stop you from doing the best with all the time you had!

I, for one, want to make the most of my time on earth. I want God to use me for His will, whether I die at 30 or live to 80.

One more thing, when you're feeling down, go to those people you know can cheer you up, those friends that understand what you're going through. We for one, in this forum, understand fully well the hardships, troubles, doubts, fears, anger and injustice you might be feeling. We're here to help, so is God.

I'm praying for you,
*Mitchie*
 
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Tigrastic

Guest
I have felt a lot like you many times. Sometimes I feel really depressed and can't see the point to it all, other times I imagine myself doing something really awesome for God with the long life He's given me! But slowly I am learning that it doesn't have to be one or the other.
I don't know how much longer I will live, neither do you. But then neither does anyone else on earth! The solution is to make the most of the time we have. Think: If you were to die next week, would you be satisfied with what you've done with your life so far?
I know I wouldn't. But I'm trying to change that.
I am almost 16. I have two more years of "High school" left. I am hoping to do them in one. There are many options, both in the States and the UK for online studies, part time studies, scolarships, partnerships or apprenticeships. I would look into these options near you. Image if you would live to 70, but all your life you thought you shouldn't study, or get married or have children, all because you let fear stop you from doing the best with all the time you had!

I, for one, want to make the most of my time on earth. I want God to use me for His will, whether I die at 30 or live to 80.

One more thing, when you're feeling down, go to those people you know can cheer you up, those friends that understand what you're going through. We for one, in this forum, understand fully well the hardships, troubles, doubts, fears, anger and injustice you might be feeling. We're here to help, so is God.

I'm praying for you,
*Mitchie*
 
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Tigrastic

Guest
I have felt a lot like you many times. Sometimes I feel really depressed and can't see the point to it all, other times I imagine myself doing something really awesome for God with the long life He's given me! But slowly I am learning that it doesn't have to be one or the other.
I don't know how much longer I will live, neither do you. But then neither does anyone else on earth! The solution is to make the most of the time we have. Think: If you were to die next week, would you be satisfied with what you've done with your life so far?
I know I wouldn't. But I'm trying to change that.
I am almost 16. I have two more years of "High school" left. I am hoping to do them in one. There are many options, both in the States and the UK for online studies, part time studies, scolarships, partnerships or apprenticeships. I would look into these options near you. Image if you would live to 70, but all your life you thought you shouldn't study, or get married or have children, all because you let fear stop you from doing the best with all the time you had!

I, for one, want to make the most of my time on earth. I want God to use me for His will, whether I die at 30 or live to 80.

One more thing, when you're feeling down, go to those people you know can cheer you up, those friends that understand what you're going through. We for one, in this forum, understand fully well the hardships, troubles, doubts, fears, anger and injustice you might be feeling. We're here to help, so is God.

I'm praying for you,
*Mitchie*
 
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Tigrastic

Guest
I have felt a lot like you many times. Sometimes I feel really depressed and can't see the point to it all, other times I imagine myself doing something really awesome for God with the long life He's given me! But slowly I am learning that it doesn't have to be one or the other.
<br />I don't know how much longer I will live, neither do you. But then neither does anyone else on earth! The solution is to make the most of the time we have. Think: If you were to die next week, would you be satisfied with what you've done with your life so far?
<br />I know I wouldn't. But I'm trying to change that.
<br />I am almost 16. I have two more years of "High school" left. I am hoping to do them in one. There are many options, both in the States and the UK for online studies, part time studies, scolarships, partnerships or apprenticeships. I would look into these options near you. Image if you would live to 70, but all your life you thought you shouldn't study, or get married or have children, all because you let fear stop you from doing the best with all the time you had!
<br />
<br />I, for one, want to make the most of my time on earth. I want God to use me for His will, whether I die at 30 or live to 80.
<br />
<br />One more thing, when you're feeling down, go to those people you know can cheer you up, those friends that understand what you're going through. We for one, in this forum, understand fully well the hardships, troubles, doubts, fears, anger and injustice you might be feeling. We're here to help, so is God.
<br />
<br />I'm praying for you,
<br />*Mitchie*
 
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NYCLawGirl

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I'm not a teen either, but I hope you don't mind my weighing in on your question. I think I can relate, b/c I did go to college, and then grad school, and now a few years later (much earlier than I would have hoped for or liked), I'm facing some pretty serious health issues. The thing is, even though I would have loved to have more time to enjoy the fruits of my effort, I can say really honestly that I DO NOT in ANY way regret going to college or law school. I think for me it boils down to a few points:

1) I loved college. LOVED IT. I met great people, had a lot of fun, and learned some really interesting things. I used college as a chance to explore parts of myself I might not have ever even noticed. Most of the closest friends in my life come from my years in school (college and law).
2) I love the opportunities college gave me. Okay, yes, in the interest of honesty I should admit that I am in the process of scaling back my hours at my law firm. But I'm still a lawyer. I have better benefits and salary even at reduced hours than I would if I worked full time without college. I also love my job. It's challenging and rewarding - and most important, it's what I wanted to do.
3) I can honestly look back and say that as much as CF has taken from me, I still didn't let it determine everything about my life. I made the choices I made because I WANTED to, not because of the maybes associated with having a deadly lung disease. This applies to so much more than school or marriage: it's about trusting yourself enough to believe it's worth pursuing your goals, even if you might not be able to enjoy them for as long as you'd like.

I don't want to sound like a Hallmark card, particularly since I understand that it's rough. CF makes "ordinary" life stuff kind of seem ridiculous sometimes - why spend time thinking about those sorts of things when we're up against such a gross disease? But at the same time those smaller things are a large part of what makes up living, in my opinion.

You don't have to go to college. You don't have to get married. Plenty of people live awesome, fulfilled, and productive lives without those things. The thing I would encourage is making those decisions based on your own goals and needs, not based on some medical textbook.
 
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NYCLawGirl

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I'm not a teen either, but I hope you don't mind my weighing in on your question. I think I can relate, b/c I did go to college, and then grad school, and now a few years later (much earlier than I would have hoped for or liked), I'm facing some pretty serious health issues. The thing is, even though I would have loved to have more time to enjoy the fruits of my effort, I can say really honestly that I DO NOT in ANY way regret going to college or law school. I think for me it boils down to a few points:

1) I loved college. LOVED IT. I met great people, had a lot of fun, and learned some really interesting things. I used college as a chance to explore parts of myself I might not have ever even noticed. Most of the closest friends in my life come from my years in school (college and law).
2) I love the opportunities college gave me. Okay, yes, in the interest of honesty I should admit that I am in the process of scaling back my hours at my law firm. But I'm still a lawyer. I have better benefits and salary even at reduced hours than I would if I worked full time without college. I also love my job. It's challenging and rewarding - and most important, it's what I wanted to do.
3) I can honestly look back and say that as much as CF has taken from me, I still didn't let it determine everything about my life. I made the choices I made because I WANTED to, not because of the maybes associated with having a deadly lung disease. This applies to so much more than school or marriage: it's about trusting yourself enough to believe it's worth pursuing your goals, even if you might not be able to enjoy them for as long as you'd like.

I don't want to sound like a Hallmark card, particularly since I understand that it's rough. CF makes "ordinary" life stuff kind of seem ridiculous sometimes - why spend time thinking about those sorts of things when we're up against such a gross disease? But at the same time those smaller things are a large part of what makes up living, in my opinion.

You don't have to go to college. You don't have to get married. Plenty of people live awesome, fulfilled, and productive lives without those things. The thing I would encourage is making those decisions based on your own goals and needs, not based on some medical textbook.
 
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NYCLawGirl

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I'm not a teen either, but I hope you don't mind my weighing in on your question. I think I can relate, b/c I did go to college, and then grad school, and now a few years later (much earlier than I would have hoped for or liked), I'm facing some pretty serious health issues. The thing is, even though I would have loved to have more time to enjoy the fruits of my effort, I can say really honestly that I DO NOT in ANY way regret going to college or law school. I think for me it boils down to a few points:

1) I loved college. LOVED IT. I met great people, had a lot of fun, and learned some really interesting things. I used college as a chance to explore parts of myself I might not have ever even noticed. Most of the closest friends in my life come from my years in school (college and law).
2) I love the opportunities college gave me. Okay, yes, in the interest of honesty I should admit that I am in the process of scaling back my hours at my law firm. But I'm still a lawyer. I have better benefits and salary even at reduced hours than I would if I worked full time without college. I also love my job. It's challenging and rewarding - and most important, it's what I wanted to do.
3) I can honestly look back and say that as much as CF has taken from me, I still didn't let it determine everything about my life. I made the choices I made because I WANTED to, not because of the maybes associated with having a deadly lung disease. This applies to so much more than school or marriage: it's about trusting yourself enough to believe it's worth pursuing your goals, even if you might not be able to enjoy them for as long as you'd like.

I don't want to sound like a Hallmark card, particularly since I understand that it's rough. CF makes "ordinary" life stuff kind of seem ridiculous sometimes - why spend time thinking about those sorts of things when we're up against such a gross disease? But at the same time those smaller things are a large part of what makes up living, in my opinion.

You don't have to go to college. You don't have to get married. Plenty of people live awesome, fulfilled, and productive lives without those things. The thing I would encourage is making those decisions based on your own goals and needs, not based on some medical textbook.
 
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NYCLawGirl

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I'm not a teen either, but I hope you don't mind my weighing in on your question. I think I can relate, b/c I did go to college, and then grad school, and now a few years later (much earlier than I would have hoped for or liked), I'm facing some pretty serious health issues. The thing is, even though I would have loved to have more time to enjoy the fruits of my effort, I can say really honestly that I DO NOT in ANY way regret going to college or law school. I think for me it boils down to a few points:

1) I loved college. LOVED IT. I met great people, had a lot of fun, and learned some really interesting things. I used college as a chance to explore parts of myself I might not have ever even noticed. Most of the closest friends in my life come from my years in school (college and law).
2) I love the opportunities college gave me. Okay, yes, in the interest of honesty I should admit that I am in the process of scaling back my hours at my law firm. But I'm still a lawyer. I have better benefits and salary even at reduced hours than I would if I worked full time without college. I also love my job. It's challenging and rewarding - and most important, it's what I wanted to do.
3) I can honestly look back and say that as much as CF has taken from me, I still didn't let it determine everything about my life. I made the choices I made because I WANTED to, not because of the maybes associated with having a deadly lung disease. This applies to so much more than school or marriage: it's about trusting yourself enough to believe it's worth pursuing your goals, even if you might not be able to enjoy them for as long as you'd like.

I don't want to sound like a Hallmark card, particularly since I understand that it's rough. CF makes "ordinary" life stuff kind of seem ridiculous sometimes - why spend time thinking about those sorts of things when we're up against such a gross disease? But at the same time those smaller things are a large part of what makes up living, in my opinion.

You don't have to go to college. You don't have to get married. Plenty of people live awesome, fulfilled, and productive lives without those things. The thing I would encourage is making those decisions based on your own goals and needs, not based on some medical textbook.
 
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NYCLawGirl

New member
I'm not a teen either, but I hope you don't mind my weighing in on your question. I think I can relate, b/c I did go to college, and then grad school, and now a few years later (much earlier than I would have hoped for or liked), I'm facing some pretty serious health issues. The thing is, even though I would have loved to have more time to enjoy the fruits of my effort, I can say really honestly that I DO NOT in ANY way regret going to college or law school. I think for me it boils down to a few points:
<br />
<br />1) I loved college. LOVED IT. I met great people, had a lot of fun, and learned some really interesting things. I used college as a chance to explore parts of myself I might not have ever even noticed. Most of the closest friends in my life come from my years in school (college and law).
<br />2) I love the opportunities college gave me. Okay, yes, in the interest of honesty I should admit that I am in the process of scaling back my hours at my law firm. But I'm still a lawyer. I have better benefits and salary even at reduced hours than I would if I worked full time without college. I also love my job. It's challenging and rewarding - and most important, it's what I wanted to do.
<br />3) I can honestly look back and say that as much as CF has taken from me, I still didn't let it determine everything about my life. I made the choices I made because I WANTED to, not because of the maybes associated with having a deadly lung disease. This applies to so much more than school or marriage: it's about trusting yourself enough to believe it's worth pursuing your goals, even if you might not be able to enjoy them for as long as you'd like.
<br />
<br />I don't want to sound like a Hallmark card, particularly since I understand that it's rough. CF makes "ordinary" life stuff kind of seem ridiculous sometimes - why spend time thinking about those sorts of things when we're up against such a gross disease? But at the same time those smaller things are a large part of what makes up living, in my opinion.
<br />
<br />You don't have to go to college. You don't have to get married. Plenty of people live awesome, fulfilled, and productive lives without those things. The thing I would encourage is making those decisions based on your own goals and needs, not based on some medical textbook.
 
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