MY 23 YEAR OLD BROTHER HAS C/F. HE WAS DIAGANOSED AT THE AGE OF 3. ANYWAYS, HE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME OR OUR MOM, EVERYTIME THAT I CALL HIM HE HANGS UP ON ME, AND EVERY NOW AND THEN I GET AN OCCASIONAL I HATE YOU. I AM SURE HE IS JEALOUS THAT I AM "HEALTHY" AND HE IS NOT.... HE IS MY ONLY SIBLING AND IT IS KILLING ME THAT HE IS SO ANGRY. HE LIVES 2 AND A HALF HOURS FROM ME, HE WON'T VISIT ME, AND HE TOLD ME NEVER TO GO SEE HIM....I AM HEARTBROKEN, AND MAD HOW MEAN HE IS......ANY SUGGESTIONS????
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Is it completely CF related??? Sounds like everyone needs counseling, but that won't help if he doesn't want to make things better. My family, especially my Mother's side, has always been disfunctional and someone was always 'hating' someone for something. It's really no way to live. You need to get to the core of the real problem and go from there.
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Emily65Roses
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I have to ask the same thing the last person did... are you sure he's angry because you're healthy and he's not? Unlss he's said so, it's really less than smart for you to assume so. I have never been angry at my sister for being healthy. Maybe he has some other reason for not being happy with your family. Unless he's actually said to you "I HATE YOU BECAUSE I'M SICK AND YOU'RE NOT" I wouldn't assume so. Find out what it is that's bothering him. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
He sounds excatly like my BF my BF has 2 brothers and a sister and he is the only one that has CF and he too is very jealous that they are healthy and he is not he tells me that he feels like the black sheep in the family. His brothers always asks him to go to the movies and catch up for dinner etc etc but he thinks that they are being told by his parents and that they are only doing it because they pity him which is not true but he does push them away and it is really hurting them and I am very worried that they more he keeps pushing them away they will just give up on him and when the time comes that he really needs them they are not going to be there for him.
YEAH..... MABY YOU GUYS ARE RIGHT, IT MIGHT HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING JEALOUS...I DON'T KNOW...HE REFUSES TO TALK TO ME AND I KNOW MOST PEOPLE WOULD HAVE GIVEN UP A LONG TIME AGO ON HIM, BUT AS MUCH AS I WANT TO MOST OF THE TIME, I STILL TRY TO GET A HOLD OF HIM......HE WOULD NEVER DO COUNSELING(HE IS VERY..... STUBBORN)! WELL, I GUESS EVERYBODY HAS PROBLEMS RIGHT.... I AM JUST WORRIED ABOUT HIM AND MAD....THX
Don't ever give up. That will prove him right. Call and say i love you as quick as you can every time. he will eventually listen. Does he have friends that you know? Anyone that you can talk to that can give you any idea what is wrong?
Keep trying. believe it or not he likely appreciates all the calls. if they stopped coming, it would let him know that you are no longer there for him. when push comes to shove, he knows he can call. you are doing the right thing.
Keep trying. believe it or not he likely appreciates all the calls. if they stopped coming, it would let him know that you are no longer there for him. when push comes to shove, he knows he can call. you are doing the right thing.
Mockingbird
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Yeah, the above post may be right. You might try sending a letter, exept don't put a return adress, then he'll read it just to see who it's from. He might still ignore it, but at least he'll have read it. =-)
Mockingbird
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<blockquote>Quote<br><hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>Anonymous</b></i><br>I AM A USER OF ESSENTIAL OILS, I CAN'T STAND PILLS, AND DON'T BELIEVE IN POISIONING THE BODY THE WAY PEOPLE DO ON A DAILY BASIS,,,,, MY BROTHER HAS C/F, HE DOESN'T LIVE WITH ME BUT EUCALYPTUS OIL, CLOVE OIL, CINNAMON OIL, AND FRANKENCENSE OILS ARE REALLY AMAZING FOR LUNG CONGESTION, SPASMS, AND SO FORTH, TIGHTNESS, AND A TON OF STUFF.......DON'T JUST BUY ANY OIL THOUGH BECAUSE MORE THAN LIKELY THE QUALITY IS EXTREMELY POOR!! <hr></blockquote>
Um.... Actually, i think I might see the problem. I got this from another thread, but this is you, isn't it? This really is just a stab in the dark, so I'm probably comepletely wrong, but if you say stuff like this to your brother, it might be the reason he doesn't talk to you. I mean the part about you can't stand pills and don't believe in poisoning the body. The thing is, most CFers have a bit of a different perspective on this sort of thing, since for a lot of us medicine is the only reason why we're alive. I don't want to start a debate about homeopathic medicine, since that would get messy really quickly. I'm just saying maybe that is why your brother won't speak to you. *cautious smile and then slink away*
Um.... Actually, i think I might see the problem. I got this from another thread, but this is you, isn't it? This really is just a stab in the dark, so I'm probably comepletely wrong, but if you say stuff like this to your brother, it might be the reason he doesn't talk to you. I mean the part about you can't stand pills and don't believe in poisoning the body. The thing is, most CFers have a bit of a different perspective on this sort of thing, since for a lot of us medicine is the only reason why we're alive. I don't want to start a debate about homeopathic medicine, since that would get messy really quickly. I'm just saying maybe that is why your brother won't speak to you. *cautious smile and then slink away*
Emily65Roses
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If that was her too (which looks completely plausible), I agree with you too, Jarod. Just thought I'd leave a supportive word. Haha.
Mockingbird
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Ha ha, thanks =-) this has turned into a delicate topic all of a sudden. =-)
HELLO..... I TAKE THE ESSENTIAL OILS FOR MYSELF, AND MY BROTHER DOESN'T TAKE THEM. I WAS NOT KNOCKING ANYONE WHO TAKES MEDICINE,,HAVING A BROTHER WITH C/F, I KNOW THE MEDICINE HE TAKES ON A DAILY BASIS SAVES HIS LIFE, THE OILS ARE JUST A PERSONAL PREFERANCE WITH ME, I AM SORRY IF N E ONE GOT OFFENDED.....IT WAS NOT INTENDED! ALL APOLOGIES!
Mockingbird
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Ha ha, there was no offense. =-) I was just guessing, anyway.