As Melissa said, this is a delicate topic. In fact not just the issues of abortion, having children by birth if your doctor doesn't think its a good idea, birth control-all these things are delicate b/c they are all sooo personal and emotional as well. And if you ask 50 different people you will get 50 different opinions.
I can't comment on abortion b/c I never have had one and my husband and I were extremely serious about birth control, meaning we took steps to ensure that we wouldn't get pregnant bc we went into our relationship actually planning to not have children by birth ever. (b/c my health changed later, that changed)
As far as what you said about getting pregnant vs not getting pregnant when your doctor reccomended you to not-if you are asking for an opinion on this, mine would be to not get pregnant. And I can only give my personal experience in this-my husband and I had decided when we started considering pregnancy that if the doc said no, we wouldn't do it. When we first approached her, she did say no. She wanted my pfts alot higher for a long period of time. So we had to put our plans off almost 2 years until my health did drastically improve. For me it did, and now I am pregnant with my doctor's backing and approval. I think its much better when you go into it that way. With cf pregnancies, you need your docs so much and there are so many scenarios that can come up, I wouldn't want to go into without their support.
I am not making these viewpoints a judgement or condemnation in anyway, they're just my opinions is all. But I think the more responsible and emotionally healthy thing for you-would be to plan on not conceiving until you are sure of what you and your doctor want. Why leave it to chance and then put yourself in a situation where you even have to consider abortion?-No one would chose that for themselves, but sometimes unexpectedly that comes up in life. But I'm sure if you asked women that have been through that, they'd wish they have never had to have been put in that situation in the first place. They'd rather plan on not getting pregnant in the first place, if they could. It sounds like you can plan on not getting pregnant. The real issue is what do you want. It is such a hard decision to make-whether or not to take that jump and have children-regardless of whether or not you have cf. Now add cf and complications, it is a million times harder.
I would discuss this further with your doctor, and ask what are the specific complications of pregnancy for you? How would it affect your diabetes? Are they more worried about the pregnancy, or the lifestyle of raising children? Would you be open to adoption or surrogacy? Does the doc think that if your health improved you could possibly have a pregnancy?
This requires so much planning, not leaving to chance, and a tight, open relationship with your doctor. Many of us with cf planned our pregnancy for several years and worked up to it. I speak to my cf team weekly, updating them on how I am and coordinating them with my OB visits.
It sounds like you need more information. Information is the best thing in these decisions. Speak to more moms here-moms by birth and moms by adoption. Gather as much info as you can. And ask your doc for more specifics. In the meantime-I'd do yourself a favor and be diligent with your birth control.
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