Questions about having more then one child

MamatoAlexa · Jan 28, 2007

First I just need to sort through my thoughts. I feel that I would like to have another baby but this time around I want it more for Alexa. Before getting pg with Alexa, I wanted to get pg, I wanted to have a baby and I wanted to be a Mother. Of course all of that is still true while thinking about having another baby but the feeling that is even stronger is that I want a sibling for Alexa. Did you experience this?
How long did it take you to get pg with each pregnancy?
Was the second (or third or fourth...) pregancy harder on you?

Dh and I have not avoided pregnancy since Sept. My plan is if we are not pregnant by Sept. 2007. I will go to my OB to get the infertility testing and such started. We have already been down that road as we were to do IUI the next cycle had I not gotten pregnant when I did.

O.K. thanks for "listening". I really just needed to get my thoughts and ideas out.

Take care,
Anne

MamatoAlexa · Jan 28, 2007

First I just need to sort through my thoughts. I feel that I would like to have another baby but this time around I want it more for Alexa. Before getting pg with Alexa, I wanted to get pg, I wanted to have a baby and I wanted to be a Mother. Of course all of that is still true while thinking about having another baby but the feeling that is even stronger is that I want a sibling for Alexa. Did you experience this?
How long did it take you to get pg with each pregnancy?
Was the second (or third or fourth...) pregancy harder on you?

Dh and I have not avoided pregnancy since Sept. My plan is if we are not pregnant by Sept. 2007. I will go to my OB to get the infertility testing and such started. We have already been down that road as we were to do IUI the next cycle had I not gotten pregnant when I did.

O.K. thanks for "listening". I really just needed to get my thoughts and ideas out.

Take care,
Anne

MamatoAlexa · Jan 28, 2007

First I just need to sort through my thoughts. I feel that I would like to have another baby but this time around I want it more for Alexa. Before getting pg with Alexa, I wanted to get pg, I wanted to have a baby and I wanted to be a Mother. Of course all of that is still true while thinking about having another baby but the feeling that is even stronger is that I want a sibling for Alexa. Did you experience this?
How long did it take you to get pg with each pregnancy?
Was the second (or third or fourth...) pregancy harder on you?

Dh and I have not avoided pregnancy since Sept. My plan is if we are not pregnant by Sept. 2007. I will go to my OB to get the infertility testing and such started. We have already been down that road as we were to do IUI the next cycle had I not gotten pregnant when I did.

O.K. thanks for "listening". I really just needed to get my thoughts and ideas out.

Take care,
Anne

Scarlett81 · Jan 28, 2007

Well Anne,
As you know I only have my 1st on the way so I have no experience here but wanted to add my 2 cents in.
We do plan on having more than 1 child. Of course, it is hard to plan anything in life b/c things come up. But I hope very much that my health will permit me to raise more than 2, whether that be by birth or adoption.
For my kids sake-I want them to have each other to lean on, to help each other get through things. To not be alone when they are going through the hard years, and also to have each other when they have families of their own.
I think its very hard on a kid to be an only child. I realize full well that sometimes b/c of life's circumstances you can't always have more than one and as they say, one is a blessing and better than none. But ideally, it is best for the child to have a sibling or two. Just my opinion. What does comfort me is that if I absolutely can't have more than one, I have my sisters kids right next door, so this one will have cousins their same age next door to be with.

Scarlett81 · Jan 28, 2007

Well Anne,
As you know I only have my 1st on the way so I have no experience here but wanted to add my 2 cents in.
We do plan on having more than 1 child. Of course, it is hard to plan anything in life b/c things come up. But I hope very much that my health will permit me to raise more than 2, whether that be by birth or adoption.
For my kids sake-I want them to have each other to lean on, to help each other get through things. To not be alone when they are going through the hard years, and also to have each other when they have families of their own.
I think its very hard on a kid to be an only child. I realize full well that sometimes b/c of life's circumstances you can't always have more than one and as they say, one is a blessing and better than none. But ideally, it is best for the child to have a sibling or two. Just my opinion. What does comfort me is that if I absolutely can't have more than one, I have my sisters kids right next door, so this one will have cousins their same age next door to be with.

Scarlett81 · Jan 28, 2007

Well Anne,
As you know I only have my 1st on the way so I have no experience here but wanted to add my 2 cents in.
We do plan on having more than 1 child. Of course, it is hard to plan anything in life b/c things come up. But I hope very much that my health will permit me to raise more than 2, whether that be by birth or adoption.
For my kids sake-I want them to have each other to lean on, to help each other get through things. To not be alone when they are going through the hard years, and also to have each other when they have families of their own.
I think its very hard on a kid to be an only child. I realize full well that sometimes b/c of life's circumstances you can't always have more than one and as they say, one is a blessing and better than none. But ideally, it is best for the child to have a sibling or two. Just my opinion. What does comfort me is that if I absolutely can't have more than one, I have my sisters kids right next door, so this one will have cousins their same age next door to be with.

wanderlost · Jan 28, 2007

well, I have two (and three if you count my stepson). I had my son when I was 22 and my husband is not his biological father (but has adopted him). He was an "accident" - a wonderful one, but an accident no less. And a one shot deal - not hard to concieve at all!!

I didn't think I wanted more kids for a long time - mainly becuase it is hard being a single momma. But then I met my husband and after a few years together my old clock started ticking. I don't think CF really even affected my desire to have a baby, but I do think it affected my feeling of racing against the clock...anyway, I knew I wanted to have a baby with him. It took is 15 months and a miscarriage to get pregnant. I don't know why we had trouble conceiving as we both have kids, but I think stress had a lot to do wtih it. My doc thinks maybe in the 7 years since my son my cm had gotten thicker - but I don't know about that. Anyway, we had to use clomid and IUI for this babe.

this pregnancy was only harder I think due to my age and to the fact that I had another one to care for. My health did not suffer at all, only that I was more tired more achey, etc.

I would like one more. We have decided not to TTC but not to TTA either....I don't want 7 years between my babies this time, as I am not getting any younger!

Keep us posted on your journey.

wanderlost · Jan 28, 2007

well, I have two (and three if you count my stepson). I had my son when I was 22 and my husband is not his biological father (but has adopted him). He was an "accident" - a wonderful one, but an accident no less. And a one shot deal - not hard to concieve at all!!

I didn't think I wanted more kids for a long time - mainly becuase it is hard being a single momma. But then I met my husband and after a few years together my old clock started ticking. I don't think CF really even affected my desire to have a baby, but I do think it affected my feeling of racing against the clock...anyway, I knew I wanted to have a baby with him. It took is 15 months and a miscarriage to get pregnant. I don't know why we had trouble conceiving as we both have kids, but I think stress had a lot to do wtih it. My doc thinks maybe in the 7 years since my son my cm had gotten thicker - but I don't know about that. Anyway, we had to use clomid and IUI for this babe.

this pregnancy was only harder I think due to my age and to the fact that I had another one to care for. My health did not suffer at all, only that I was more tired more achey, etc.

I would like one more. We have decided not to TTC but not to TTA either....I don't want 7 years between my babies this time, as I am not getting any younger!

Keep us posted on your journey.

wanderlost · Jan 28, 2007

well, I have two (and three if you count my stepson). I had my son when I was 22 and my husband is not his biological father (but has adopted him). He was an "accident" - a wonderful one, but an accident no less. And a one shot deal - not hard to concieve at all!!

I didn't think I wanted more kids for a long time - mainly becuase it is hard being a single momma. But then I met my husband and after a few years together my old clock started ticking. I don't think CF really even affected my desire to have a baby, but I do think it affected my feeling of racing against the clock...anyway, I knew I wanted to have a baby with him. It took is 15 months and a miscarriage to get pregnant. I don't know why we had trouble conceiving as we both have kids, but I think stress had a lot to do wtih it. My doc thinks maybe in the 7 years since my son my cm had gotten thicker - but I don't know about that. Anyway, we had to use clomid and IUI for this babe.

this pregnancy was only harder I think due to my age and to the fact that I had another one to care for. My health did not suffer at all, only that I was more tired more achey, etc.

I would like one more. We have decided not to TTC but not to TTA either....I don't want 7 years between my babies this time, as I am not getting any younger!

Keep us posted on your journey.

Jennifer1981 · Jan 31, 2007

Hey Anne,

I don't have any comforting advice for you, but I wish you the best of luck! I'm sharing the baby dust with you. LOL! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Jennifer1981 · Jan 31, 2007

Hey Anne,

I don't have any comforting advice for you, but I wish you the best of luck! I'm sharing the baby dust with you. LOL! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Jennifer1981 · Jan 31, 2007

Hey Anne,

I don't have any comforting advice for you, but I wish you the best of luck! I'm sharing the baby dust with you. LOL! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

momtoReaghan · Feb 1, 2007

I am in your same exact situation. I have a two year old little girl, Reaghan. My husband and I have been talking about another one. I really would like to have one more. I am scared about my health. Although I am doing well, I want to stay that way. I would love for Reaghan to have a sibling. She would be so happy. We are taking one day at a time. My projected time is to start try in the summer, but that is not definite. I am working out every day to strentghen my lungs. My first pregnancy was great. She was delivered at 39 weeks. Good luck with your decision. I am praying about mine and hoping to get an answer. Take care.

momtoReaghan · Feb 1, 2007

I am in your same exact situation. I have a two year old little girl, Reaghan. My husband and I have been talking about another one. I really would like to have one more. I am scared about my health. Although I am doing well, I want to stay that way. I would love for Reaghan to have a sibling. She would be so happy. We are taking one day at a time. My projected time is to start try in the summer, but that is not definite. I am working out every day to strentghen my lungs. My first pregnancy was great. She was delivered at 39 weeks. Good luck with your decision. I am praying about mine and hoping to get an answer. Take care.

momtoReaghan · Feb 1, 2007

I am in your same exact situation. I have a two year old little girl, Reaghan. My husband and I have been talking about another one. I really would like to have one more. I am scared about my health. Although I am doing well, I want to stay that way. I would love for Reaghan to have a sibling. She would be so happy. We are taking one day at a time. My projected time is to start try in the summer, but that is not definite. I am working out every day to strentghen my lungs. My first pregnancy was great. She was delivered at 39 weeks. Good luck with your decision. I am praying about mine and hoping to get an answer. Take care.

Wendy · Feb 1, 2007

I felt exactly the same way. I really wanted another baby because I enjoy being a mother and I love the time I spend with my son. Just as much as that, I didn't want him to be an only child. My husband wasn't so sure at first. We talked about it for a long while. We decided together to try for another one. Since it took a year and a half to conceive my son, we agreed to try for one year and if it didn't happen, then it wasn't meant to be for us. This time, we conceived exactly one year after we began trying (although there were a few months in that year where, due to a couple other things, we didn't try or the timing was off). I am now 21 weeks and doing well. I just wanted you to know, we went through the same thing. Whatever you decide is what is best for your family. Good luck.

Wendy · Feb 1, 2007

I felt exactly the same way. I really wanted another baby because I enjoy being a mother and I love the time I spend with my son. Just as much as that, I didn't want him to be an only child. My husband wasn't so sure at first. We talked about it for a long while. We decided together to try for another one. Since it took a year and a half to conceive my son, we agreed to try for one year and if it didn't happen, then it wasn't meant to be for us. This time, we conceived exactly one year after we began trying (although there were a few months in that year where, due to a couple other things, we didn't try or the timing was off). I am now 21 weeks and doing well. I just wanted you to know, we went through the same thing. Whatever you decide is what is best for your family. Good luck.

Wendy · Feb 1, 2007

I felt exactly the same way. I really wanted another baby because I enjoy being a mother and I love the time I spend with my son. Just as much as that, I didn't want him to be an only child. My husband wasn't so sure at first. We talked about it for a long while. We decided together to try for another one. Since it took a year and a half to conceive my son, we agreed to try for one year and if it didn't happen, then it wasn't meant to be for us. This time, we conceived exactly one year after we began trying (although there were a few months in that year where, due to a couple other things, we didn't try or the timing was off). I am now 21 weeks and doing well. I just wanted you to know, we went through the same thing. Whatever you decide is what is best for your family. Good luck.

JazzysMom · Feb 1, 2007

OK Anne....when Jazz was about 2 I went for a checkup & the doc asked if we planned on having anymore. I said absolutely NOT. We have a beautiful little girl, my pregnancy was great. I dont want to chance anything. She "harped" on me so much during that checkup that I asked her if she took a pregnancy test or something because she was riding my a$$. She laughed & said no, but at this age the moms tend to want others & she would like to know AHEAD of time. So here I was sure that we didnt want more, but now I was confused. For the next 3 weeks I debated. She said if I was to have another I should do it while I was stable etc. Then Jazz got sick. Really sick & I was up all night with her for days. Thats when I realized I couldnt do it! WHen she was a baby & I worked it didnt phase me to be up all night with her then go to work. It was quite easy actually. Those 2 years made a difference for me & I no longer had enough in me to do that. And that is assuming that the pregnancy went well again etc. Granted I was 32 at the time instead of your age, but the general idea is there. We (well "I") decided it wouldnt be fair to me, my husband, Jazz or the new baby plus anyone else that was in my support system. Its a big decision. One that needs to be taken much more seriously then someone with no heatlh issues. Search your heart and your head, stand with Geoff & decide what works for YOU!

JazzysMom · Feb 1, 2007

OK Anne....when Jazz was about 2 I went for a checkup & the doc asked if we planned on having anymore. I said absolutely NOT. We have a beautiful little girl, my pregnancy was great. I dont want to chance anything. She "harped" on me so much during that checkup that I asked her if she took a pregnancy test or something because she was riding my a$$. She laughed & said no, but at this age the moms tend to want others & she would like to know AHEAD of time. So here I was sure that we didnt want more, but now I was confused. For the next 3 weeks I debated. She said if I was to have another I should do it while I was stable etc. Then Jazz got sick. Really sick & I was up all night with her for days. Thats when I realized I couldnt do it! WHen she was a baby & I worked it didnt phase me to be up all night with her then go to work. It was quite easy actually. Those 2 years made a difference for me & I no longer had enough in me to do that. And that is assuming that the pregnancy went well again etc. Granted I was 32 at the time instead of your age, but the general idea is there. We (well "I") decided it wouldnt be fair to me, my husband, Jazz or the new baby plus anyone else that was in my support system. Its a big decision. One that needs to be taken much more seriously then someone with no heatlh issues. Search your heart and your head, stand with Geoff & decide what works for YOU!

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