18 y/o needs advice on getting pregnant.

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tashalinnxo

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Sorry I have not been on lately to reply to all your posts! First off I'd like to say to Christian, Thank you soo much, your post was really nice and educational for me. It really made me think, as did the other posts but yours really hit home. I apprieciate it. you are correct about alot of things. I do need to adress my feelings and depression with my CF. Maybe after I am better with those things I won't feel like I NEED to have a baby so soon in order to feel like I completed things I wanted to do before I died. My lungs are doing good right now but they are up and down constantly. I find as long as I actually do my treatments my lungs stay well. I only recently started doing them as much as I should though. And my vitiam levels are low. I'm still learning about my CF because I never cared to in my past. Anyways, thank you! you all helped alot and made me realize I need to think things through a little better...
 
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tashalinnxo

New member
Sorry I have not been on lately to reply to all your posts! First off I'd like to say to Christian, Thank you soo much, your post was really nice and educational for me. It really made me think, as did the other posts but yours really hit home. I apprieciate it. you are correct about alot of things. I do need to adress my feelings and depression with my CF. Maybe after I am better with those things I won't feel like I NEED to have a baby so soon in order to feel like I completed things I wanted to do before I died. My lungs are doing good right now but they are up and down constantly. I find as long as I actually do my treatments my lungs stay well. I only recently started doing them as much as I should though. And my vitiam levels are low. I'm still learning about my CF because I never cared to in my past. Anyways, thank you! you all helped alot and made me realize I need to think things through a little better...
 
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tashalinnxo

New member
Sorry I have not been on lately to reply to all your posts! First off I'd like to say to Christian, Thank you soo much, your post was really nice and educational for me. It really made me think, as did the other posts but yours really hit home. I apprieciate it. you are correct about alot of things. I do need to adress my feelings and depression with my CF. Maybe after I am better with those things I won't feel like I NEED to have a baby so soon in order to feel like I completed things I wanted to do before I died. My lungs are doing good right now but they are up and down constantly. I find as long as I actually do my treatments my lungs stay well. I only recently started doing them as much as I should though. And my vitiam levels are low. I'm still learning about my CF because I never cared to in my past. Anyways, thank you! you all helped alot and made me realize I need to think things through a little better...
 
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tashalinnxo

New member
Sorry I have not been on lately to reply to all your posts! First off I'd like to say to Christian, Thank you soo much, your post was really nice and educational for me. It really made me think, as did the other posts but yours really hit home. I apprieciate it. you are correct about alot of things. I do need to adress my feelings and depression with my CF. Maybe after I am better with those things I won't feel like I NEED to have a baby so soon in order to feel like I completed things I wanted to do before I died. My lungs are doing good right now but they are up and down constantly. I find as long as I actually do my treatments my lungs stay well. I only recently started doing them as much as I should though. And my vitiam levels are low. I'm still learning about my CF because I never cared to in my past. Anyways, thank you! you all helped alot and made me realize I need to think things through a little better...
 
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tashalinnxo

New member
Sorry I have not been on lately to reply to all your posts! First off I'd like to say to Christian, Thank you soo much, your post was really nice and educational for me. It really made me think, as did the other posts but yours really hit home. I apprieciate it. you are correct about alot of things. I do need to adress my feelings and depression with my CF. Maybe after I am better with those things I won't feel like I NEED to have a baby so soon in order to feel like I completed things I wanted to do before I died. My lungs are doing good right now but they are up and down constantly. I find as long as I actually do my treatments my lungs stay well. I only recently started doing them as much as I should though. And my vitiam levels are low. I'm still learning about my CF because I never cared to in my past. Anyways, thank you! you all helped alot and made me realize I need to think things through a little better...
 
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bethylove

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So basically I don't want to repeat everyone's post, but I've been in your shoes MANY times before. I know that it's best to wait until you are not only healthy enough, but financially secure enough. I mean, with our CF being so costly, you need to be able to factor in the expense of a baby too.

Anyways, try nannying for a little while. Younger kids, and see what it's like to be with children who need your attention round the clock. That's what I do and some days it's real hard to put on a smile, and go on a treasure hunt. Or climb up the stairs, or even carry a sleeping baby from the rocking chair to his crib, lift him up and put him down. Simple tasks are hard when you have a little one demanding your every second. So if you want a test run definitely give nannying a try. Plus it helps fill that baby void, and you still get to go home afterwards. =)
 
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bethylove

Guest
So basically I don't want to repeat everyone's post, but I've been in your shoes MANY times before. I know that it's best to wait until you are not only healthy enough, but financially secure enough. I mean, with our CF being so costly, you need to be able to factor in the expense of a baby too.

Anyways, try nannying for a little while. Younger kids, and see what it's like to be with children who need your attention round the clock. That's what I do and some days it's real hard to put on a smile, and go on a treasure hunt. Or climb up the stairs, or even carry a sleeping baby from the rocking chair to his crib, lift him up and put him down. Simple tasks are hard when you have a little one demanding your every second. So if you want a test run definitely give nannying a try. Plus it helps fill that baby void, and you still get to go home afterwards. =)
 
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bethylove

Guest
So basically I don't want to repeat everyone's post, but I've been in your shoes MANY times before. I know that it's best to wait until you are not only healthy enough, but financially secure enough. I mean, with our CF being so costly, you need to be able to factor in the expense of a baby too.

Anyways, try nannying for a little while. Younger kids, and see what it's like to be with children who need your attention round the clock. That's what I do and some days it's real hard to put on a smile, and go on a treasure hunt. Or climb up the stairs, or even carry a sleeping baby from the rocking chair to his crib, lift him up and put him down. Simple tasks are hard when you have a little one demanding your every second. So if you want a test run definitely give nannying a try. Plus it helps fill that baby void, and you still get to go home afterwards. =)
 
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bethylove

Guest
So basically I don't want to repeat everyone's post, but I've been in your shoes MANY times before. I know that it's best to wait until you are not only healthy enough, but financially secure enough. I mean, with our CF being so costly, you need to be able to factor in the expense of a baby too.

Anyways, try nannying for a little while. Younger kids, and see what it's like to be with children who need your attention round the clock. That's what I do and some days it's real hard to put on a smile, and go on a treasure hunt. Or climb up the stairs, or even carry a sleeping baby from the rocking chair to his crib, lift him up and put him down. Simple tasks are hard when you have a little one demanding your every second. So if you want a test run definitely give nannying a try. Plus it helps fill that baby void, and you still get to go home afterwards. =)
 
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bethylove

Guest
So basically I don't want to repeat everyone's post, but I've been in your shoes MANY times before. I know that it's best to wait until you are not only healthy enough, but financially secure enough. I mean, with our CF being so costly, you need to be able to factor in the expense of a baby too.
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<br />Anyways, try nannying for a little while. Younger kids, and see what it's like to be with children who need your attention round the clock. That's what I do and some days it's real hard to put on a smile, and go on a treasure hunt. Or climb up the stairs, or even carry a sleeping baby from the rocking chair to his crib, lift him up and put him down. Simple tasks are hard when you have a little one demanding your every second. So if you want a test run definitely give nannying a try. Plus it helps fill that baby void, and you still get to go home afterwards. =)
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
Tasha I'm glad to hear from you,
and I'm glad to see that you are feeling a little bit clearer.

I can say those things to you bc its from the heart-and I truly understand how you feel. Most women here do.
You've gotten alot of great posts here-whatever you decide to do in the future please let us all in on it. I'd love to hear updates.
And I say again, you sound like a wonderful mature young woman who would make a great mama some day!
Take care!!
Please feel free to Pm me anytime!
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
Tasha I'm glad to hear from you,
and I'm glad to see that you are feeling a little bit clearer.

I can say those things to you bc its from the heart-and I truly understand how you feel. Most women here do.
You've gotten alot of great posts here-whatever you decide to do in the future please let us all in on it. I'd love to hear updates.
And I say again, you sound like a wonderful mature young woman who would make a great mama some day!
Take care!!
Please feel free to Pm me anytime!
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
Tasha I'm glad to hear from you,
and I'm glad to see that you are feeling a little bit clearer.

I can say those things to you bc its from the heart-and I truly understand how you feel. Most women here do.
You've gotten alot of great posts here-whatever you decide to do in the future please let us all in on it. I'd love to hear updates.
And I say again, you sound like a wonderful mature young woman who would make a great mama some day!
Take care!!
Please feel free to Pm me anytime!
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
Tasha I'm glad to hear from you,
and I'm glad to see that you are feeling a little bit clearer.

I can say those things to you bc its from the heart-and I truly understand how you feel. Most women here do.
You've gotten alot of great posts here-whatever you decide to do in the future please let us all in on it. I'd love to hear updates.
And I say again, you sound like a wonderful mature young woman who would make a great mama some day!
Take care!!
Please feel free to Pm me anytime!
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
Tasha I'm glad to hear from you,
<br />and I'm glad to see that you are feeling a little bit clearer.
<br />
<br />I can say those things to you bc its from the heart-and I truly understand how you feel. Most women here do.
<br />You've gotten alot of great posts here-whatever you decide to do in the future please let us all in on it. I'd love to hear updates.
<br />And I say again, you sound like a wonderful mature young woman who would make a great mama some day!
<br />Take care!!
<br />Please feel free to Pm me anytime!
 
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kathyw

New member
Tasha,
I am yet another to weigh in on your desire to get pregnant. I have to say you have already had some great advice. So, I'll reiterate a few and add my two cents. First, being in a stable, supportive relationship is key. I'm a bit old fashioned, so I would say be married. Secondly, continue to work on getting your lungs stable, being consistant with the treatments etc. Third, which I don't think was mentioned, SLEEP. When your body is rested, your immune system can work better. That will be harder once a baby is here, but oh so important. And, if you have to work, try not to work a lot. Maybe now is the time to train for a kind of work you can do part time or at home to help maximise the rest/sleep level and still have some income. Or maybe your fiance is working towards being able to support you and your future family well.
And as far as getting pregnant, when the time is right.... know that we make thicker mucus everywhere, including the cervix. And so it will often act as a barrier, making it harder to get pregnant. I am now 57, and had my son when I was 28. I remember those days of feeling an urgency to want to start a family, not wanting to wait so I could survive to raise my child. Well, it took several years to become pregnant. And that wait was hard. I worked part time as a medical technologist, which paid well, and was able to be home with my son more than not. Anyway, it is a challenge and lots of work to keep our bodies functioning well. But, lots of wonderful rewards too. And you probably have a pretty special fiance since he is willing to take on someone with cf. But, he will be blessed by what he will get in return I have no doubt. You do sound like a wonderful person. I do think one thing that having cf does, is it causes us to cherish the moments in life more than we might otherwise. Oh, and to add to my story, not only did I get to be a wife and a mom, a big deal for us. But I am now a grandmother. I never thought I'd be here. I have two little granddaughters, aged 3 and 1!
I am sure you will do well.
 
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kathyw

New member
Tasha,
I am yet another to weigh in on your desire to get pregnant. I have to say you have already had some great advice. So, I'll reiterate a few and add my two cents. First, being in a stable, supportive relationship is key. I'm a bit old fashioned, so I would say be married. Secondly, continue to work on getting your lungs stable, being consistant with the treatments etc. Third, which I don't think was mentioned, SLEEP. When your body is rested, your immune system can work better. That will be harder once a baby is here, but oh so important. And, if you have to work, try not to work a lot. Maybe now is the time to train for a kind of work you can do part time or at home to help maximise the rest/sleep level and still have some income. Or maybe your fiance is working towards being able to support you and your future family well.
And as far as getting pregnant, when the time is right.... know that we make thicker mucus everywhere, including the cervix. And so it will often act as a barrier, making it harder to get pregnant. I am now 57, and had my son when I was 28. I remember those days of feeling an urgency to want to start a family, not wanting to wait so I could survive to raise my child. Well, it took several years to become pregnant. And that wait was hard. I worked part time as a medical technologist, which paid well, and was able to be home with my son more than not. Anyway, it is a challenge and lots of work to keep our bodies functioning well. But, lots of wonderful rewards too. And you probably have a pretty special fiance since he is willing to take on someone with cf. But, he will be blessed by what he will get in return I have no doubt. You do sound like a wonderful person. I do think one thing that having cf does, is it causes us to cherish the moments in life more than we might otherwise. Oh, and to add to my story, not only did I get to be a wife and a mom, a big deal for us. But I am now a grandmother. I never thought I'd be here. I have two little granddaughters, aged 3 and 1!
I am sure you will do well.
 
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kathyw

New member
Tasha,
I am yet another to weigh in on your desire to get pregnant. I have to say you have already had some great advice. So, I'll reiterate a few and add my two cents. First, being in a stable, supportive relationship is key. I'm a bit old fashioned, so I would say be married. Secondly, continue to work on getting your lungs stable, being consistant with the treatments etc. Third, which I don't think was mentioned, SLEEP. When your body is rested, your immune system can work better. That will be harder once a baby is here, but oh so important. And, if you have to work, try not to work a lot. Maybe now is the time to train for a kind of work you can do part time or at home to help maximise the rest/sleep level and still have some income. Or maybe your fiance is working towards being able to support you and your future family well.
And as far as getting pregnant, when the time is right.... know that we make thicker mucus everywhere, including the cervix. And so it will often act as a barrier, making it harder to get pregnant. I am now 57, and had my son when I was 28. I remember those days of feeling an urgency to want to start a family, not wanting to wait so I could survive to raise my child. Well, it took several years to become pregnant. And that wait was hard. I worked part time as a medical technologist, which paid well, and was able to be home with my son more than not. Anyway, it is a challenge and lots of work to keep our bodies functioning well. But, lots of wonderful rewards too. And you probably have a pretty special fiance since he is willing to take on someone with cf. But, he will be blessed by what he will get in return I have no doubt. You do sound like a wonderful person. I do think one thing that having cf does, is it causes us to cherish the moments in life more than we might otherwise. Oh, and to add to my story, not only did I get to be a wife and a mom, a big deal for us. But I am now a grandmother. I never thought I'd be here. I have two little granddaughters, aged 3 and 1!
I am sure you will do well.
 
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kathyw

New member
Tasha,
I am yet another to weigh in on your desire to get pregnant. I have to say you have already had some great advice. So, I'll reiterate a few and add my two cents. First, being in a stable, supportive relationship is key. I'm a bit old fashioned, so I would say be married. Secondly, continue to work on getting your lungs stable, being consistant with the treatments etc. Third, which I don't think was mentioned, SLEEP. When your body is rested, your immune system can work better. That will be harder once a baby is here, but oh so important. And, if you have to work, try not to work a lot. Maybe now is the time to train for a kind of work you can do part time or at home to help maximise the rest/sleep level and still have some income. Or maybe your fiance is working towards being able to support you and your future family well.
And as far as getting pregnant, when the time is right.... know that we make thicker mucus everywhere, including the cervix. And so it will often act as a barrier, making it harder to get pregnant. I am now 57, and had my son when I was 28. I remember those days of feeling an urgency to want to start a family, not wanting to wait so I could survive to raise my child. Well, it took several years to become pregnant. And that wait was hard. I worked part time as a medical technologist, which paid well, and was able to be home with my son more than not. Anyway, it is a challenge and lots of work to keep our bodies functioning well. But, lots of wonderful rewards too. And you probably have a pretty special fiance since he is willing to take on someone with cf. But, he will be blessed by what he will get in return I have no doubt. You do sound like a wonderful person. I do think one thing that having cf does, is it causes us to cherish the moments in life more than we might otherwise. Oh, and to add to my story, not only did I get to be a wife and a mom, a big deal for us. But I am now a grandmother. I never thought I'd be here. I have two little granddaughters, aged 3 and 1!
I am sure you will do well.
 
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kathyw

New member
Tasha,
<br />I am yet another to weigh in on your desire to get pregnant. I have to say you have already had some great advice. So, I'll reiterate a few and add my two cents. First, being in a stable, supportive relationship is key. I'm a bit old fashioned, so I would say be married. Secondly, continue to work on getting your lungs stable, being consistant with the treatments etc. Third, which I don't think was mentioned, SLEEP. When your body is rested, your immune system can work better. That will be harder once a baby is here, but oh so important. And, if you have to work, try not to work a lot. Maybe now is the time to train for a kind of work you can do part time or at home to help maximise the rest/sleep level and still have some income. Or maybe your fiance is working towards being able to support you and your future family well.
<br />And as far as getting pregnant, when the time is right.... know that we make thicker mucus everywhere, including the cervix. And so it will often act as a barrier, making it harder to get pregnant. I am now 57, and had my son when I was 28. I remember those days of feeling an urgency to want to start a family, not wanting to wait so I could survive to raise my child. Well, it took several years to become pregnant. And that wait was hard. I worked part time as a medical technologist, which paid well, and was able to be home with my son more than not. Anyway, it is a challenge and lots of work to keep our bodies functioning well. But, lots of wonderful rewards too. And you probably have a pretty special fiance since he is willing to take on someone with cf. But, he will be blessed by what he will get in return I have no doubt. You do sound like a wonderful person. I do think one thing that having cf does, is it causes us to cherish the moments in life more than we might otherwise. Oh, and to add to my story, not only did I get to be a wife and a mom, a big deal for us. But I am now a grandmother. I never thought I'd be here. I have two little granddaughters, aged 3 and 1!
<br />I am sure you will do well.
 
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