I don't think anyone suggested life is suppose to be perfect. But we do what we can in life to avoid trauma to our emotional and physical selves, do we not? I don't know many people who intentionally put themselves at risk for disease or physical harm, and to the contrary most of us go out of our way to avoid it. You can put your trust in God but you cannot expect any God to protect you from yourself. You don't just throw your kids in the back seat and say, "oh well if a bus rear ends me "God" will protect us, or it was just meant to be", or do you? We vaccinate our kids, we put them in seat belts, we watch there every move all day until they are sure to understand the dangers that lerk around every corner. I don't see how you can suggest that having a baby knowing the potential for this disease should be considered a matter that is out of your hands. The choice belongs to no one but the parents that make the decision. You can neither thank God for your baby not having CF nor can you blame him for your baby having CF. YOU made that decision and you will live with it. Otherwise you are insinuating that those of us with CF children or with CF were intentially given this disease by God and what kind of God would give a baby CF? I hate when people suggest that.
This dicision is up to the parents and I believe they will make the right decision what ever that may be. But I completely disagree with putting all of this on God. I admit I wanted another baby after learning I was a carrier as well as my husband and we did have a conversation about it one night after we had been out with friends and had a few drinks in us. My husband said, "lets just do it, we need another baby around here" and that broke my heart, because I wanted to give him another baby but my gut feeling was that we would not be as fortunate and I did not want to risk it, but that is not to say this decision is right or wrong. At the time my career meant a lot to me, I had 6 years on the force and he is active duty Marine Corps, neither one of us wanted to give up our careers to take care of the baby if he turned out to be sick. Now, with the baby coming sometime next month I have put in my resignation. 7 years into a career that means so much to me is gone, because I want to be home with the baby. I don't want to put him in a daycare. I do not blame this on the baby or my husband or God, this just happened. But its still hard to swallow sometimes.
The reason I took the tests was for MY BABY'S HEALTH, Duh. Most of the pregnancy tests that are conducted today have taken us out of the dark ages, having these tests available helps pregnant mothers make decisions about there pregnancy. I recently discovered I have gestational diabetes which is causing my baby to gain a lot of weight, this diagnosis was very helpful, now that I know I have it I can treat it. The amnio and ultrasounds help doctors properly care for my baby and make plans for my delivery. The hospital I am scheduled to deliver at is not capable of performing surgery on my baby and I find it very helpful to be able to plan ahead in case he needs emergency surgery, which he most likely will. And I know this because of the tests that I've had done. Why wouldn't I want my baby to have the best in medical care from the very begining? I personally believe the tests available to women today are fantastic! I don't judge a woman who knows her baby has a 1 in 4 chance and decides not to havie testing done but I think all women are happy about the fact that if they choose to they can. Some women may feel the diagnosis doesn't make a difference to them, but it made a huge difference in my life and the rest of my family. I feel great relief from knowing this baby has CF there was so much I've had to do to prepare for this, and I'm still not completely there, but I'm closer than I would have been if I didn't know.
Jen