A question for all you parents of CFers

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Jane

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Yes, with all the disappointments that come with having children with CF, not being a grandparent is on the list. However, like Tammy said, it is more the thought of my kids not having the opportunity to experience parenthood than my own loss. And like Rebecca said, there may very well be a time that my boys will become dads.

I must admit to the selfish thoughts now and then, but like everything else, I try to remember to keep things in perspective and enjoy what we have with the boys NOT what we'll miss. (easier said than done- right?)
 
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Jane

Digital opinion leader
Yes, with all the disappointments that come with having children with CF, not being a grandparent is on the list. However, like Tammy said, it is more the thought of my kids not having the opportunity to experience parenthood than my own loss. And like Rebecca said, there may very well be a time that my boys will become dads.

I must admit to the selfish thoughts now and then, but like everything else, I try to remember to keep things in perspective and enjoy what we have with the boys NOT what we'll miss. (easier said than done- right?)
 
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Jane

Digital opinion leader
Yes, with all the disappointments that come with having children with CF, not being a grandparent is on the list. However, like Tammy said, it is more the thought of my kids not having the opportunity to experience parenthood than my own loss. And like Rebecca said, there may very well be a time that my boys will become dads.

I must admit to the selfish thoughts now and then, but like everything else, I try to remember to keep things in perspective and enjoy what we have with the boys NOT what we'll miss. (easier said than done- right?)
 
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Jane

Digital opinion leader
Yes, with all the disappointments that come with having children with CF, not being a grandparent is on the list. However, like Tammy said, it is more the thought of my kids not having the opportunity to experience parenthood than my own loss. And like Rebecca said, there may very well be a time that my boys will become dads.

I must admit to the selfish thoughts now and then, but like everything else, I try to remember to keep things in perspective and enjoy what we have with the boys NOT what we'll miss. (easier said than done- right?)
 
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Jane

Digital opinion leader
Yes, with all the disappointments that come with having children with CF, not being a grandparent is on the list. However, like Tammy said, it is more the thought of my kids not having the opportunity to experience parenthood than my own loss. And like Rebecca said, there may very well be a time that my boys will become dads.

I must admit to the selfish thoughts now and then, but like everything else, I try to remember to keep things in perspective and enjoy what we have with the boys NOT what we'll miss. (easier said than done- right?)
 
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NoExcuses

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my mom feels the same way.

she is happy that I have decided not to think about my wants, but instead consider the fact that i might not be able to care for a child very well because I have to focus so much on myself to keep myself healthy. also, with the possibility of me dying young, leaving a child without a mother is a devastating event.

so i feel fortunate that my mom and i are both aligned in our beliefs that it's not about what she or i want, but rather what is in the best interest of a child.
 
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NoExcuses

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my mom feels the same way.

she is happy that I have decided not to think about my wants, but instead consider the fact that i might not be able to care for a child very well because I have to focus so much on myself to keep myself healthy. also, with the possibility of me dying young, leaving a child without a mother is a devastating event.

so i feel fortunate that my mom and i are both aligned in our beliefs that it's not about what she or i want, but rather what is in the best interest of a child.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
my mom feels the same way.

she is happy that I have decided not to think about my wants, but instead consider the fact that i might not be able to care for a child very well because I have to focus so much on myself to keep myself healthy. also, with the possibility of me dying young, leaving a child without a mother is a devastating event.

so i feel fortunate that my mom and i are both aligned in our beliefs that it's not about what she or i want, but rather what is in the best interest of a child.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
my mom feels the same way.

she is happy that I have decided not to think about my wants, but instead consider the fact that i might not be able to care for a child very well because I have to focus so much on myself to keep myself healthy. also, with the possibility of me dying young, leaving a child without a mother is a devastating event.

so i feel fortunate that my mom and i are both aligned in our beliefs that it's not about what she or i want, but rather what is in the best interest of a child.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
my mom feels the same way.

she is happy that I have decided not to think about my wants, but instead consider the fact that i might not be able to care for a child very well because I have to focus so much on myself to keep myself healthy. also, with the possibility of me dying young, leaving a child without a mother is a devastating event.

so i feel fortunate that my mom and i are both aligned in our beliefs that it's not about what she or i want, but rather what is in the best interest of a child.
 
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Skye

New member
I am looking forward to having grandchildren<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I believe grandchildren are our crowning glory, even adopted ones<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I hold on to that biblical promise, for me, I find little value in hoping for less than my hearts desire; however, I totally respect others who may not feel that way.
 
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Skye

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I am looking forward to having grandchildren<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I believe grandchildren are our crowning glory, even adopted ones<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I hold on to that biblical promise, for me, I find little value in hoping for less than my hearts desire; however, I totally respect others who may not feel that way.
 
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Skye

New member
I am looking forward to having grandchildren<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I believe grandchildren are our crowning glory, even adopted ones<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I hold on to that biblical promise, for me, I find little value in hoping for less than my hearts desire; however, I totally respect others who may not feel that way.
 
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Skye

New member
I am looking forward to having grandchildren<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I believe grandchildren are our crowning glory, even adopted ones<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I hold on to that biblical promise, for me, I find little value in hoping for less than my hearts desire; however, I totally respect others who may not feel that way.
 
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Skye

New member
I am looking forward to having grandchildren<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I believe grandchildren are our crowning glory, even adopted ones<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I hold on to that biblical promise, for me, I find little value in hoping for less than my hearts desire; however, I totally respect others who may not feel that way.
 
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Rickiesmom

Guest
It did cross my mind when Rickie was diagnosed that he might not be a Father-my husband and I we're sad about that for about two minutes. There are so many ways to become a Father, if that's what he wants...and it's about him, not us. Are main concern is to keep him healthy and happy along with his 5 older siblings.
 
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Rickiesmom

Guest
It did cross my mind when Rickie was diagnosed that he might not be a Father-my husband and I we're sad about that for about two minutes. There are so many ways to become a Father, if that's what he wants...and it's about him, not us. Are main concern is to keep him healthy and happy along with his 5 older siblings.
 
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Rickiesmom

Guest
It did cross my mind when Rickie was diagnosed that he might not be a Father-my husband and I we're sad about that for about two minutes. There are so many ways to become a Father, if that's what he wants...and it's about him, not us. Are main concern is to keep him healthy and happy along with his 5 older siblings.
 
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Rickiesmom

Guest
It did cross my mind when Rickie was diagnosed that he might not be a Father-my husband and I we're sad about that for about two minutes. There are so many ways to become a Father, if that's what he wants...and it's about him, not us. Are main concern is to keep him healthy and happy along with his 5 older siblings.
 
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Rickiesmom

Guest
It did cross my mind when Rickie was diagnosed that he might not be a Father-my husband and I we're sad about that for about two minutes. There are so many ways to become a Father, if that's what he wants...and it's about him, not us. Are main concern is to keep him healthy and happy along with his 5 older siblings.
 
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