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Adoption Advice Needed
- Thread starter 4blueeyes
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mamaScarlett
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My husband and I have discussed adoption with our Cf team over the years and a huge resource can be the social worker at your husband's Cf center. My social worker has always told me that they have helped many patients with the adoption process. I also know of a lawyer with Cf that has helped with adoption cases if it ever got to that point.
I know at my clinic there's a photo wall of adult patients that have had kids either through adoption or biological means-and there's tons of pictures of Cf parents with kids adopted from over seas, as well as domestic. They've done alot to help their patients adopt.
I think it helps to involve your cf team who should be you advocate and if they aren't willing, I'd shop for one who is (if you are totally committed to adoption at this point).
I know at my clinic there's a photo wall of adult patients that have had kids either through adoption or biological means-and there's tons of pictures of Cf parents with kids adopted from over seas, as well as domestic. They've done alot to help their patients adopt.
I think it helps to involve your cf team who should be you advocate and if they aren't willing, I'd shop for one who is (if you are totally committed to adoption at this point).
mamaScarlett
Active member
My husband and I have discussed adoption with our Cf team over the years and a huge resource can be the social worker at your husband's Cf center. My social worker has always told me that they have helped many patients with the adoption process. I also know of a lawyer with Cf that has helped with adoption cases if it ever got to that point.
I know at my clinic there's a photo wall of adult patients that have had kids either through adoption or biological means-and there's tons of pictures of Cf parents with kids adopted from over seas, as well as domestic. They've done alot to help their patients adopt.
I think it helps to involve your cf team who should be you advocate and if they aren't willing, I'd shop for one who is (if you are totally committed to adoption at this point).
I know at my clinic there's a photo wall of adult patients that have had kids either through adoption or biological means-and there's tons of pictures of Cf parents with kids adopted from over seas, as well as domestic. They've done alot to help their patients adopt.
I think it helps to involve your cf team who should be you advocate and if they aren't willing, I'd shop for one who is (if you are totally committed to adoption at this point).
mamaScarlett
Active member
My husband and I have discussed adoption with our Cf team over the years and a huge resource can be the social worker at your husband's Cf center. My social worker has always told me that they have helped many patients with the adoption process. I also know of a lawyer with Cf that has helped with adoption cases if it ever got to that point.
<br />I know at my clinic there's a photo wall of adult patients that have had kids either through adoption or biological means-and there's tons of pictures of Cf parents with kids adopted from over seas, as well as domestic. They've done alot to help their patients adopt.
<br />I think it helps to involve your cf team who should be you advocate and if they aren't willing, I'd shop for one who is (if you are totally committed to adoption at this point).
<br />I know at my clinic there's a photo wall of adult patients that have had kids either through adoption or biological means-and there's tons of pictures of Cf parents with kids adopted from over seas, as well as domestic. They've done alot to help their patients adopt.
<br />I think it helps to involve your cf team who should be you advocate and if they aren't willing, I'd shop for one who is (if you are totally committed to adoption at this point).
Lilliansmom
New member
We adopted our oldest through CPS. He was 2 months old when he came home. It toook a little over a year to finalize. He is 8 now.
Lilliansmom
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We adopted our oldest through CPS. He was 2 months old when he came home. It toook a little over a year to finalize. He is 8 now.
Lilliansmom
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We adopted our oldest through CPS. He was 2 months old when he came home. It toook a little over a year to finalize. He is 8 now.
TheAmazingBD
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I have Cystic Fibrosis and I was adopted at 3 weeks of age. I do not know my birth parents since it was at a time of CLOSED ADOPTIONS. I am here to encourage you to KEEP TRYING!! The current adoption system is twisted and challenging, but do not let it get you down. COnsider the fact that your husband and you are beating the odds everyday<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
Being adopted was the greatest thing that could have happened to me. For whatever reason my birthmother gave me up, my parents saved my life! I wasn't diagnose till 16 months, so I was already their "little girl" before they found out I had CF. My mother is a nurse and without her and my fathers true love for me, I would haven't made it this far. When i say mother and father (that is what others call my adoptive parents) I mean my parents. My birthmother...bless her for life and the decision to give me to a family who could care for me.
Whatever child you have or adopt, will be blessed by two loving parents<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Don't let the legal system stop you.
Being adopted was the greatest thing that could have happened to me. For whatever reason my birthmother gave me up, my parents saved my life! I wasn't diagnose till 16 months, so I was already their "little girl" before they found out I had CF. My mother is a nurse and without her and my fathers true love for me, I would haven't made it this far. When i say mother and father (that is what others call my adoptive parents) I mean my parents. My birthmother...bless her for life and the decision to give me to a family who could care for me.
Whatever child you have or adopt, will be blessed by two loving parents<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Don't let the legal system stop you.
TheAmazingBD
New member
I have Cystic Fibrosis and I was adopted at 3 weeks of age. I do not know my birth parents since it was at a time of CLOSED ADOPTIONS. I am here to encourage you to KEEP TRYING!! The current adoption system is twisted and challenging, but do not let it get you down. COnsider the fact that your husband and you are beating the odds everyday<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
Being adopted was the greatest thing that could have happened to me. For whatever reason my birthmother gave me up, my parents saved my life! I wasn't diagnose till 16 months, so I was already their "little girl" before they found out I had CF. My mother is a nurse and without her and my fathers true love for me, I would haven't made it this far. When i say mother and father (that is what others call my adoptive parents) I mean my parents. My birthmother...bless her for life and the decision to give me to a family who could care for me.
Whatever child you have or adopt, will be blessed by two loving parents<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Don't let the legal system stop you.
Being adopted was the greatest thing that could have happened to me. For whatever reason my birthmother gave me up, my parents saved my life! I wasn't diagnose till 16 months, so I was already their "little girl" before they found out I had CF. My mother is a nurse and without her and my fathers true love for me, I would haven't made it this far. When i say mother and father (that is what others call my adoptive parents) I mean my parents. My birthmother...bless her for life and the decision to give me to a family who could care for me.
Whatever child you have or adopt, will be blessed by two loving parents<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Don't let the legal system stop you.
TheAmazingBD
New member
I have Cystic Fibrosis and I was adopted at 3 weeks of age. I do not know my birth parents since it was at a time of CLOSED ADOPTIONS. I am here to encourage you to KEEP TRYING!! The current adoption system is twisted and challenging, but do not let it get you down. COnsider the fact that your husband and you are beating the odds everyday<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
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<br />Being adopted was the greatest thing that could have happened to me. For whatever reason my birthmother gave me up, my parents saved my life! I wasn't diagnose till 16 months, so I was already their "little girl" before they found out I had CF. My mother is a nurse and without her and my fathers true love for me, I would haven't made it this far. When i say mother and father (that is what others call my adoptive parents) I mean my parents. My birthmother...bless her for life and the decision to give me to a family who could care for me.
<br />
<br />Whatever child you have or adopt, will be blessed by two loving parents<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Don't let the legal system stop you.
<br />
<br />Being adopted was the greatest thing that could have happened to me. For whatever reason my birthmother gave me up, my parents saved my life! I wasn't diagnose till 16 months, so I was already their "little girl" before they found out I had CF. My mother is a nurse and without her and my fathers true love for me, I would haven't made it this far. When i say mother and father (that is what others call my adoptive parents) I mean my parents. My birthmother...bless her for life and the decision to give me to a family who could care for me.
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<br />Whatever child you have or adopt, will be blessed by two loving parents<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Don't let the legal system stop you.
cogitofire
New member
My wife and I made the decision a little over a year ago that we wanted children. My wife has cystic fibrosis and her doctor told us that child birth would be too great of a strain on her body and would take years off of her life at best. We considered ignoring his advice but after careful research and a few more conversations with her pulmonologist, we decided that she should not carry.
We talked about adoption with each other and some friends who had gone through it already. We determined that private adoption would be the only way so we researched the costs, benefits, and downfalls of private adoption. When cost was discussed, we learned that surrogacy had about the same cost as private adoptions.
Then we talked about surrogacy and decided that it was the best option for us. Fast forward to today and we are 9-1/2 weeks pregnant with twins. Our surrogate is healthy and the babies seem to be happy and growing.
Surrogacy has many challenges and emotional strain but we made it through to this point and could not be happier. If you or anyone else has questions about surrogacy, please let me know and I will help out if I can.
We talked about adoption with each other and some friends who had gone through it already. We determined that private adoption would be the only way so we researched the costs, benefits, and downfalls of private adoption. When cost was discussed, we learned that surrogacy had about the same cost as private adoptions.
Then we talked about surrogacy and decided that it was the best option for us. Fast forward to today and we are 9-1/2 weeks pregnant with twins. Our surrogate is healthy and the babies seem to be happy and growing.
Surrogacy has many challenges and emotional strain but we made it through to this point and could not be happier. If you or anyone else has questions about surrogacy, please let me know and I will help out if I can.
cogitofire
New member
My wife and I made the decision a little over a year ago that we wanted children. My wife has cystic fibrosis and her doctor told us that child birth would be too great of a strain on her body and would take years off of her life at best. We considered ignoring his advice but after careful research and a few more conversations with her pulmonologist, we decided that she should not carry.
We talked about adoption with each other and some friends who had gone through it already. We determined that private adoption would be the only way so we researched the costs, benefits, and downfalls of private adoption. When cost was discussed, we learned that surrogacy had about the same cost as private adoptions.
Then we talked about surrogacy and decided that it was the best option for us. Fast forward to today and we are 9-1/2 weeks pregnant with twins. Our surrogate is healthy and the babies seem to be happy and growing.
Surrogacy has many challenges and emotional strain but we made it through to this point and could not be happier. If you or anyone else has questions about surrogacy, please let me know and I will help out if I can.
We talked about adoption with each other and some friends who had gone through it already. We determined that private adoption would be the only way so we researched the costs, benefits, and downfalls of private adoption. When cost was discussed, we learned that surrogacy had about the same cost as private adoptions.
Then we talked about surrogacy and decided that it was the best option for us. Fast forward to today and we are 9-1/2 weeks pregnant with twins. Our surrogate is healthy and the babies seem to be happy and growing.
Surrogacy has many challenges and emotional strain but we made it through to this point and could not be happier. If you or anyone else has questions about surrogacy, please let me know and I will help out if I can.
cogitofire
New member
My wife and I made the decision a little over a year ago that we wanted children. My wife has cystic fibrosis and her doctor told us that child birth would be too great of a strain on her body and would take years off of her life at best. We considered ignoring his advice but after careful research and a few more conversations with her pulmonologist, we decided that she should not carry.
<br />
<br />We talked about adoption with each other and some friends who had gone through it already. We determined that private adoption would be the only way so we researched the costs, benefits, and downfalls of private adoption. When cost was discussed, we learned that surrogacy had about the same cost as private adoptions.
<br />
<br />Then we talked about surrogacy and decided that it was the best option for us. Fast forward to today and we are 9-1/2 weeks pregnant with twins. Our surrogate is healthy and the babies seem to be happy and growing.
<br />
<br />Surrogacy has many challenges and emotional strain but we made it through to this point and could not be happier. If you or anyone else has questions about surrogacy, please let me know and I will help out if I can.
<br />
<br />We talked about adoption with each other and some friends who had gone through it already. We determined that private adoption would be the only way so we researched the costs, benefits, and downfalls of private adoption. When cost was discussed, we learned that surrogacy had about the same cost as private adoptions.
<br />
<br />Then we talked about surrogacy and decided that it was the best option for us. Fast forward to today and we are 9-1/2 weeks pregnant with twins. Our surrogate is healthy and the babies seem to be happy and growing.
<br />
<br />Surrogacy has many challenges and emotional strain but we made it through to this point and could not be happier. If you or anyone else has questions about surrogacy, please let me know and I will help out if I can.
imported_Momto2
New member
We adopted both our daughters. (I have CF DDF508 and husband is clear of the major mutations) Our eldest (now 10) was adopted at age 11 months from Azerbaijan. Our youngest daughter, now 5.5) was adopted as a newborn domestically from CA. The domestic adoption was by far the quickest and easiest, took us about 3 weeks. Yes, the CF was an issue, but I had a doctors letter in my file, we had a tight knit support structure, backup plans, and were in a good place financially. More importantly, we had a whole lot of love and opportunities to offer a child. A lot of people were willing to step forward and say we'd make terrific parents. Our kiddos are amazing, both whips in school and competitive gymnasts. Interestingly, our youngest daughters bio uncle has CF. DD tested clean at the newborn screen, but my guess is that she is a carrier.
imported_Momto2
New member
We adopted both our daughters. (I have CF DDF508 and husband is clear of the major mutations) Our eldest (now 10) was adopted at age 11 months from Azerbaijan. Our youngest daughter, now 5.5) was adopted as a newborn domestically from CA. The domestic adoption was by far the quickest and easiest, took us about 3 weeks. Yes, the CF was an issue, but I had a doctors letter in my file, we had a tight knit support structure, backup plans, and were in a good place financially. More importantly, we had a whole lot of love and opportunities to offer a child. A lot of people were willing to step forward and say we'd make terrific parents. Our kiddos are amazing, both whips in school and competitive gymnasts. Interestingly, our youngest daughters bio uncle has CF. DD tested clean at the newborn screen, but my guess is that she is a carrier.
imported_Momto2
New member
We adopted both our daughters. (I have CF DDF508 and husband is clear of the major mutations) Our eldest (now 10) was adopted at age 11 months from Azerbaijan. Our youngest daughter, now 5.5) was adopted as a newborn domestically from CA. The domestic adoption was by far the quickest and easiest, took us about 3 weeks. Yes, the CF was an issue, but I had a doctors letter in my file, we had a tight knit support structure, backup plans, and were in a good place financially. More importantly, we had a whole lot of love and opportunities to offer a child. A lot of people were willing to step forward and say we'd make terrific parents. Our kiddos are amazing, both whips in school and competitive gymnasts. Interestingly, our youngest daughters bio uncle has CF. DD tested clean at the newborn screen, but my guess is that she is a carrier.