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JennifersHope

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Hey Guys,

You may be getting sick of me talking about telling my boss about me getting a really good deal in SC... but I was wondering since you guys have great ideas if you could help me come up with a way to segway into telling her..

I know she is going to be busy.tomorrow.. I probably will be busy too but I need to try to talk to her.. I would love some ideas of how to start the conversation and also for ideas to make her know how much I appreciate her and how much I love her and how grateful I am for all the support..I feel like telling her that I want her blessing, but I don't know if that is the right thing to say or not....

I think most of you know how much she does for me, how much the whole hospital does for me... so this means a lot to me..

I was even thinking of asking them if I could keep my position PER Diem and coming back up to work every once in a while.. It would be good money, I could write the plane ticket off as a work related tax expense and I could even keep my CF team that way...

My CF nurse thought I could stay with them as my primary center since they do such a good job with me and then use the one in Columbia SC as my local one..

Any advice would be appreciated, but I would never say anything rude to my boss since I love her dearly....

Thanks for the help
 
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JennifersHope

New member
Hey Guys,

You may be getting sick of me talking about telling my boss about me getting a really good deal in SC... but I was wondering since you guys have great ideas if you could help me come up with a way to segway into telling her..

I know she is going to be busy.tomorrow.. I probably will be busy too but I need to try to talk to her.. I would love some ideas of how to start the conversation and also for ideas to make her know how much I appreciate her and how much I love her and how grateful I am for all the support..I feel like telling her that I want her blessing, but I don't know if that is the right thing to say or not....

I think most of you know how much she does for me, how much the whole hospital does for me... so this means a lot to me..

I was even thinking of asking them if I could keep my position PER Diem and coming back up to work every once in a while.. It would be good money, I could write the plane ticket off as a work related tax expense and I could even keep my CF team that way...

My CF nurse thought I could stay with them as my primary center since they do such a good job with me and then use the one in Columbia SC as my local one..

Any advice would be appreciated, but I would never say anything rude to my boss since I love her dearly....

Thanks for the help
 
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JennifersHope

New member
Hey Guys,

You may be getting sick of me talking about telling my boss about me getting a really good deal in SC... but I was wondering since you guys have great ideas if you could help me come up with a way to segway into telling her..

I know she is going to be busy.tomorrow.. I probably will be busy too but I need to try to talk to her.. I would love some ideas of how to start the conversation and also for ideas to make her know how much I appreciate her and how much I love her and how grateful I am for all the support..I feel like telling her that I want her blessing, but I don't know if that is the right thing to say or not....

I think most of you know how much she does for me, how much the whole hospital does for me... so this means a lot to me..

I was even thinking of asking them if I could keep my position PER Diem and coming back up to work every once in a while.. It would be good money, I could write the plane ticket off as a work related tax expense and I could even keep my CF team that way...

My CF nurse thought I could stay with them as my primary center since they do such a good job with me and then use the one in Columbia SC as my local one..

Any advice would be appreciated, but I would never say anything rude to my boss since I love her dearly....

Thanks for the help
 
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lightNlife

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A book I read awhile back about "how to approach the boss" for major info suggested that Thursdays after lunch are the best times to have a conversation like the one you're describing. I always started conversations with my supervisor by catching him at a moment I knew he wasn't swamped and saying :

"Hi ____ you mind if we talk for a bit? I'd like to get your input on something." I've found this approach worked well because it didn't sound like I needed him to help me put out a fire of sorts. Also, this will let her know you value her opinion and think highly of her.

Stress that the change is something that's in your best interest, and something you have the opportunity to do, so you're taking it. It's nothing personal, and in fact, you may say that making the decision was difficult because of the wonderful connection and support you have from her. But the fact remains, it's time for a transition.

Are you SURE you want to stay on as per diem? That sounds like it may be too much to handle and would run you ragged. The new challenges are going to take their toll as it is. Please be wise about how you commit your time and energy.

Good luck, congrats, and best wishes.
 
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lightNlife

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A book I read awhile back about "how to approach the boss" for major info suggested that Thursdays after lunch are the best times to have a conversation like the one you're describing. I always started conversations with my supervisor by catching him at a moment I knew he wasn't swamped and saying :

"Hi ____ you mind if we talk for a bit? I'd like to get your input on something." I've found this approach worked well because it didn't sound like I needed him to help me put out a fire of sorts. Also, this will let her know you value her opinion and think highly of her.

Stress that the change is something that's in your best interest, and something you have the opportunity to do, so you're taking it. It's nothing personal, and in fact, you may say that making the decision was difficult because of the wonderful connection and support you have from her. But the fact remains, it's time for a transition.

Are you SURE you want to stay on as per diem? That sounds like it may be too much to handle and would run you ragged. The new challenges are going to take their toll as it is. Please be wise about how you commit your time and energy.

Good luck, congrats, and best wishes.
 
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lightNlife

New member
A book I read awhile back about "how to approach the boss" for major info suggested that Thursdays after lunch are the best times to have a conversation like the one you're describing. I always started conversations with my supervisor by catching him at a moment I knew he wasn't swamped and saying :

"Hi ____ you mind if we talk for a bit? I'd like to get your input on something." I've found this approach worked well because it didn't sound like I needed him to help me put out a fire of sorts. Also, this will let her know you value her opinion and think highly of her.

Stress that the change is something that's in your best interest, and something you have the opportunity to do, so you're taking it. It's nothing personal, and in fact, you may say that making the decision was difficult because of the wonderful connection and support you have from her. But the fact remains, it's time for a transition.

Are you SURE you want to stay on as per diem? That sounds like it may be too much to handle and would run you ragged. The new challenges are going to take their toll as it is. Please be wise about how you commit your time and energy.

Good luck, congrats, and best wishes.
 
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lightNlife

New member
Glad I could help. My husband is in the process of gearing up to tell his boss he'll be leaving for a different job. I'm glad you could benefit a bit from the experiences and conversations we've had on the same topic.
 
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lightNlife

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Glad I could help. My husband is in the process of gearing up to tell his boss he'll be leaving for a different job. I'm glad you could benefit a bit from the experiences and conversations we've had on the same topic.
 
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lightNlife

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Glad I could help. My husband is in the process of gearing up to tell his boss he'll be leaving for a different job. I'm glad you could benefit a bit from the experiences and conversations we've had on the same topic.
 
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65rosessamurai

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Hmm...seems like JennifersHope has the easier task of asking her boss a question.

Definitely start off with asking them for your attention. Another is giving them what your opinion is, then getting feedback from them about it. This way it shows you had given consideration, rather than just ask the question without thinking of a solution from yourself.

As for telling the boss about getting a new job...first off, that's got at least a two week time-limit! I've left many jobs, but can't remember how I approached the boss when telling them I was quitting. Except the last job, which I had 12 years in with the company, but with them shuffling me to a dead-end job the last three years, I went to the source...
Anyway lightNlife, if your husband hasn't geared up, yet, perhaps a few pointers may be helpful.
If your husband is leaving on good terms, then perhaps catching his boss while he's not so busy is one way to start. Next, would probably starting in with the good points of the job and "segue" into why he decided to quit.
Generally, giving points like "the job doesn't utilize the skills I have", or "the job doesn't/no longer give fullfillment", or the old one is "The job doesn't give me a chance to excell any further" would be focusing on your husbands needs and wants, and not direct any blame on the company.
However, if he has any intention of "burning his bridge" the classic statment "Take this job and SH*VE it!" and walk out then, while his boss is swampt with work would definitely light that bridge up, fast!!
One thing I have learned throughout the time in the work force, is that every company has it's problems, just like every person. With that, you try and do what you can do to improve your situation at work, and accept some things that are beyond your control. If it fails, or if what's beyond your conrol is unnaceptable, then move on to something more favorable, in hopes that what's beyond your control is going to be acceptable, or you'll be bouncing from company-to-company and never settle.
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
Hmm...seems like JennifersHope has the easier task of asking her boss a question.

Definitely start off with asking them for your attention. Another is giving them what your opinion is, then getting feedback from them about it. This way it shows you had given consideration, rather than just ask the question without thinking of a solution from yourself.

As for telling the boss about getting a new job...first off, that's got at least a two week time-limit! I've left many jobs, but can't remember how I approached the boss when telling them I was quitting. Except the last job, which I had 12 years in with the company, but with them shuffling me to a dead-end job the last three years, I went to the source...
Anyway lightNlife, if your husband hasn't geared up, yet, perhaps a few pointers may be helpful.
If your husband is leaving on good terms, then perhaps catching his boss while he's not so busy is one way to start. Next, would probably starting in with the good points of the job and "segue" into why he decided to quit.
Generally, giving points like "the job doesn't utilize the skills I have", or "the job doesn't/no longer give fullfillment", or the old one is "The job doesn't give me a chance to excell any further" would be focusing on your husbands needs and wants, and not direct any blame on the company.
However, if he has any intention of "burning his bridge" the classic statment "Take this job and SH*VE it!" and walk out then, while his boss is swampt with work would definitely light that bridge up, fast!!
One thing I have learned throughout the time in the work force, is that every company has it's problems, just like every person. With that, you try and do what you can do to improve your situation at work, and accept some things that are beyond your control. If it fails, or if what's beyond your conrol is unnaceptable, then move on to something more favorable, in hopes that what's beyond your control is going to be acceptable, or you'll be bouncing from company-to-company and never settle.
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
Hmm...seems like JennifersHope has the easier task of asking her boss a question.

Definitely start off with asking them for your attention. Another is giving them what your opinion is, then getting feedback from them about it. This way it shows you had given consideration, rather than just ask the question without thinking of a solution from yourself.

As for telling the boss about getting a new job...first off, that's got at least a two week time-limit! I've left many jobs, but can't remember how I approached the boss when telling them I was quitting. Except the last job, which I had 12 years in with the company, but with them shuffling me to a dead-end job the last three years, I went to the source...
Anyway lightNlife, if your husband hasn't geared up, yet, perhaps a few pointers may be helpful.
If your husband is leaving on good terms, then perhaps catching his boss while he's not so busy is one way to start. Next, would probably starting in with the good points of the job and "segue" into why he decided to quit.
Generally, giving points like "the job doesn't utilize the skills I have", or "the job doesn't/no longer give fullfillment", or the old one is "The job doesn't give me a chance to excell any further" would be focusing on your husbands needs and wants, and not direct any blame on the company.
However, if he has any intention of "burning his bridge" the classic statment "Take this job and SH*VE it!" and walk out then, while his boss is swampt with work would definitely light that bridge up, fast!!
One thing I have learned throughout the time in the work force, is that every company has it's problems, just like every person. With that, you try and do what you can do to improve your situation at work, and accept some things that are beyond your control. If it fails, or if what's beyond your conrol is unnaceptable, then move on to something more favorable, in hopes that what's beyond your control is going to be acceptable, or you'll be bouncing from company-to-company and never settle.
 
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batteredNfried

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Thanks for the advice about my hubby's situation. It's all very good info. I agree about it only needing to be a 2 weeks notice kind of thing. However, the job he's in is unusual in the fact that it's mostly a family run thing (not our family though, thank goodness!) and it's a publishing business. He can't exactly walk out on a project he's editing with only 2 weeks notice. he has to assess the situation well before hand because it will affect how the job load gets shifted later.

All your advice was great though, so I'm sure we'll find a way to tailor it to fit our needs <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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batteredNfried

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Thanks for the advice about my hubby's situation. It's all very good info. I agree about it only needing to be a 2 weeks notice kind of thing. However, the job he's in is unusual in the fact that it's mostly a family run thing (not our family though, thank goodness!) and it's a publishing business. He can't exactly walk out on a project he's editing with only 2 weeks notice. he has to assess the situation well before hand because it will affect how the job load gets shifted later.

All your advice was great though, so I'm sure we'll find a way to tailor it to fit our needs <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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batteredNfried

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Thanks for the advice about my hubby's situation. It's all very good info. I agree about it only needing to be a 2 weeks notice kind of thing. However, the job he's in is unusual in the fact that it's mostly a family run thing (not our family though, thank goodness!) and it's a publishing business. He can't exactly walk out on a project he's editing with only 2 weeks notice. he has to assess the situation well before hand because it will affect how the job load gets shifted later.

All your advice was great though, so I'm sure we'll find a way to tailor it to fit our needs <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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JennifersHope

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Thanks Guys.. It went amazing.. it was better then I could have imagined it... See my blog .. Honestly I could not have asked for a better conversation.

My boss is so amazing..
 
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JennifersHope

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Thanks Guys.. It went amazing.. it was better then I could have imagined it... See my blog .. Honestly I could not have asked for a better conversation.

My boss is so amazing..
 
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