Boyfriend trouble

nicolaj · Mar 26, 2008

Im having a really tough time with my boyfriend at the moment who i have been with for 5years now, well i say my boyfriend, but hes broke up with me for the 100th time! wenever we break up i never take it to seriously, because it happens so often and is like a game to him really. He broke up with me on monday after he had been drinking all week end. He said we argue all the time (which is true) and hes had enough. I must admit i do moan at him alot but its because he doesnt always put me first. He has a habit of going out drinking without telling me!
He went out sunday,didnt tell me and switched his phone off! I no hes not cheating, hes to busy getting as drunk as possible.
Ever since i was put on the transplant list afew weeks ago, his drinking has got worse and he has been more short tempered with me.This should be a time when were closer than ever,but i feel so alone and scared. I understand it must be hard for him, but hes making things worse by running away and breaking up with me. His way of coping is to go out with his friends and get drunk!
We havnt spoke since yesterday. I asked him to work it out with me but he said he wasnt sure. He can be so immature. Im just not in the mood to be treated like crap for a week or so and then he decides he wants me again, cos hes had enough of the drink for abit. Of course he has a caring side or i wouldnt be with him,but it is so hard.<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

Nicola xx

nicolaj · Mar 26, 2008

Im having a really tough time with my boyfriend at the moment who i have been with for 5years now, well i say my boyfriend, but hes broke up with me for the 100th time! wenever we break up i never take it to seriously, because it happens so often and is like a game to him really. He broke up with me on monday after he had been drinking all week end. He said we argue all the time (which is true) and hes had enough. I must admit i do moan at him alot but its because he doesnt always put me first. He has a habit of going out drinking without telling me!
He went out sunday,didnt tell me and switched his phone off! I no hes not cheating, hes to busy getting as drunk as possible.
Ever since i was put on the transplant list afew weeks ago, his drinking has got worse and he has been more short tempered with me.This should be a time when were closer than ever,but i feel so alone and scared. I understand it must be hard for him, but hes making things worse by running away and breaking up with me. His way of coping is to go out with his friends and get drunk!
We havnt spoke since yesterday. I asked him to work it out with me but he said he wasnt sure. He can be so immature. Im just not in the mood to be treated like crap for a week or so and then he decides he wants me again, cos hes had enough of the drink for abit. Of course he has a caring side or i wouldnt be with him,but it is so hard.<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

Nicola xx

nicolaj · Mar 26, 2008

Im having a really tough time with my boyfriend at the moment who i have been with for 5years now, well i say my boyfriend, but hes broke up with me for the 100th time! wenever we break up i never take it to seriously, because it happens so often and is like a game to him really. He broke up with me on monday after he had been drinking all week end. He said we argue all the time (which is true) and hes had enough. I must admit i do moan at him alot but its because he doesnt always put me first. He has a habit of going out drinking without telling me!
He went out sunday,didnt tell me and switched his phone off! I no hes not cheating, hes to busy getting as drunk as possible.
Ever since i was put on the transplant list afew weeks ago, his drinking has got worse and he has been more short tempered with me.This should be a time when were closer than ever,but i feel so alone and scared. I understand it must be hard for him, but hes making things worse by running away and breaking up with me. His way of coping is to go out with his friends and get drunk!
We havnt spoke since yesterday. I asked him to work it out with me but he said he wasnt sure. He can be so immature. Im just not in the mood to be treated like crap for a week or so and then he decides he wants me again, cos hes had enough of the drink for abit. Of course he has a caring side or i wouldnt be with him,but it is so hard.<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

Nicola xx

nicolaj · Mar 26, 2008

Im having a really tough time with my boyfriend at the moment who i have been with for 5years now, well i say my boyfriend, but hes broke up with me for the 100th time! wenever we break up i never take it to seriously, because it happens so often and is like a game to him really. He broke up with me on monday after he had been drinking all week end. He said we argue all the time (which is true) and hes had enough. I must admit i do moan at him alot but its because he doesnt always put me first. He has a habit of going out drinking without telling me!
He went out sunday,didnt tell me and switched his phone off! I no hes not cheating, hes to busy getting as drunk as possible.
Ever since i was put on the transplant list afew weeks ago, his drinking has got worse and he has been more short tempered with me.This should be a time when were closer than ever,but i feel so alone and scared. I understand it must be hard for him, but hes making things worse by running away and breaking up with me. His way of coping is to go out with his friends and get drunk!
We havnt spoke since yesterday. I asked him to work it out with me but he said he wasnt sure. He can be so immature. Im just not in the mood to be treated like crap for a week or so and then he decides he wants me again, cos hes had enough of the drink for abit. Of course he has a caring side or i wouldnt be with him,but it is so hard.<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

Nicola xx

nicolaj · Mar 26, 2008

Im having a really tough time with my boyfriend at the moment who i have been with for 5years now, well i say my boyfriend, but hes broke up with me for the 100th time! wenever we break up i never take it to seriously, because it happens so often and is like a game to him really. He broke up with me on monday after he had been drinking all week end. He said we argue all the time (which is true) and hes had enough. I must admit i do moan at him alot but its because he doesnt always put me first. He has a habit of going out drinking without telling me!
 He went out sunday,didnt tell me and switched his phone off! I no hes not cheating, hes to busy getting as drunk as possible.
 Ever since i was put on the transplant list afew weeks ago, his drinking has got worse and he has been more short tempered with me.This should be a time when were closer than ever,but i feel so alone and scared. I understand it must be hard for him, but hes making things worse by running away and breaking up with me. His way of coping is to go out with his friends and get drunk!
 We havnt spoke since yesterday. I asked him to work it out with me but he said he wasnt sure. He can be so immature. Im just not in the mood to be treated like crap for a week or so and then he decides he wants me again, cos hes had enough of the drink for abit. Of course he has a caring side or i wouldnt be with him,but it is so hard.<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">
 
 Nicola xx

lightNlife · Mar 26, 2008

Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. I'm sorry you're feeling alone and scared. You need to be with someone who not only respects you, but respects health and life enough to behave himself and not drink so much.

Stop putting yourself in harm's way. You're worth FAR MORE than how you're being treated. You may feel worried that no one else will take you because of CF, but that's simply not true.

His "caring side" is not enough of a reason to stay involved with him. Based on the behavior you've described, it's like saying "I have a piranha in the bathtub, but he only bites if you tease him." A piranha is still a piranha and is not a good choice of pet, or boyfriend for that matter. GET OUT of this UNhealthy relationship and focus on taking care of yourself. Attractive, quality men go for women who take themselves seriously and aren't wimps when it comes to expecting a man to treat her like a jewel.

lightNlife · Mar 26, 2008

Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. I'm sorry you're feeling alone and scared. You need to be with someone who not only respects you, but respects health and life enough to behave himself and not drink so much.

Stop putting yourself in harm's way. You're worth FAR MORE than how you're being treated. You may feel worried that no one else will take you because of CF, but that's simply not true.

His "caring side" is not enough of a reason to stay involved with him. Based on the behavior you've described, it's like saying "I have a piranha in the bathtub, but he only bites if you tease him." A piranha is still a piranha and is not a good choice of pet, or boyfriend for that matter. GET OUT of this UNhealthy relationship and focus on taking care of yourself. Attractive, quality men go for women who take themselves seriously and aren't wimps when it comes to expecting a man to treat her like a jewel.

lightNlife · Mar 26, 2008

Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. I'm sorry you're feeling alone and scared. You need to be with someone who not only respects you, but respects health and life enough to behave himself and not drink so much.

Stop putting yourself in harm's way. You're worth FAR MORE than how you're being treated. You may feel worried that no one else will take you because of CF, but that's simply not true.

His "caring side" is not enough of a reason to stay involved with him. Based on the behavior you've described, it's like saying "I have a piranha in the bathtub, but he only bites if you tease him." A piranha is still a piranha and is not a good choice of pet, or boyfriend for that matter. GET OUT of this UNhealthy relationship and focus on taking care of yourself. Attractive, quality men go for women who take themselves seriously and aren't wimps when it comes to expecting a man to treat her like a jewel.

lightNlife · Mar 26, 2008

Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. I'm sorry you're feeling alone and scared. You need to be with someone who not only respects you, but respects health and life enough to behave himself and not drink so much.

Stop putting yourself in harm's way. You're worth FAR MORE than how you're being treated. You may feel worried that no one else will take you because of CF, but that's simply not true.

His "caring side" is not enough of a reason to stay involved with him. Based on the behavior you've described, it's like saying "I have a piranha in the bathtub, but he only bites if you tease him." A piranha is still a piranha and is not a good choice of pet, or boyfriend for that matter. GET OUT of this UNhealthy relationship and focus on taking care of yourself. Attractive, quality men go for women who take themselves seriously and aren't wimps when it comes to expecting a man to treat her like a jewel.

lightNlife · Mar 26, 2008

Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. I'm sorry you're feeling alone and scared. You need to be with someone who not only respects you, but respects health and life enough to behave himself and not drink so much.
 
 Stop putting yourself in harm's way. You're worth FAR MORE than how you're being treated. You may feel worried that no one else will take you because of CF, but that's simply not true.
 
 His "caring side" is not enough of a reason to stay involved with him. Based on the behavior you've described, it's like saying "I have a piranha in the bathtub, but he only bites if you tease him." A piranha is still a piranha and is not a good choice of pet, or boyfriend for that matter. GET OUT of this UNhealthy relationship and focus on taking care of yourself. Attractive, quality men go for women who take themselves seriously and aren't wimps when it comes to expecting a man to treat her like a jewel.

shallowwaters · Mar 26, 2008

i agree with lightnlife. it does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. i had a rough spot at one point with my now husband, he got stressed out and was doing drugs and thats not something i wanted to be around and i gave him a choice. drugs or me. and he chose me. after a long three months battle. it was hard to make that choice but i was prepared to let go of him if he couldnt handle my illness and our relationship in a different way. a drink here and there isnt a problem but it sounds like there is a deeper issue. i know its all easier said than done. we are here to support you. but right now it sounds like you need to be focusing on staying healthy. do you have family you can turn to for some support? as nice as it is to have a significant other to turn to and be with, you can live with out it. there are other people out there...... gosh i remember when people told me all of this and i hated lol. but all in all we are here for you

shallowwaters · Mar 26, 2008

i agree with lightnlife. it does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. i had a rough spot at one point with my now husband, he got stressed out and was doing drugs and thats not something i wanted to be around and i gave him a choice. drugs or me. and he chose me. after a long three months battle. it was hard to make that choice but i was prepared to let go of him if he couldnt handle my illness and our relationship in a different way. a drink here and there isnt a problem but it sounds like there is a deeper issue. i know its all easier said than done. we are here to support you. but right now it sounds like you need to be focusing on staying healthy. do you have family you can turn to for some support? as nice as it is to have a significant other to turn to and be with, you can live with out it. there are other people out there...... gosh i remember when people told me all of this and i hated lol. but all in all we are here for you

shallowwaters · Mar 26, 2008

i agree with lightnlife. it does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. i had a rough spot at one point with my now husband, he got stressed out and was doing drugs and thats not something i wanted to be around and i gave him a choice. drugs or me. and he chose me. after a long three months battle. it was hard to make that choice but i was prepared to let go of him if he couldnt handle my illness and our relationship in a different way. a drink here and there isnt a problem but it sounds like there is a deeper issue. i know its all easier said than done. we are here to support you. but right now it sounds like you need to be focusing on staying healthy. do you have family you can turn to for some support? as nice as it is to have a significant other to turn to and be with, you can live with out it. there are other people out there...... gosh i remember when people told me all of this and i hated lol. but all in all we are here for you

shallowwaters · Mar 26, 2008

i agree with lightnlife. it does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. i had a rough spot at one point with my now husband, he got stressed out and was doing drugs and thats not something i wanted to be around and i gave him a choice. drugs or me. and he chose me. after a long three months battle. it was hard to make that choice but i was prepared to let go of him if he couldnt handle my illness and our relationship in a different way. a drink here and there isnt a problem but it sounds like there is a deeper issue. i know its all easier said than done. we are here to support you. but right now it sounds like you need to be focusing on staying healthy. do you have family you can turn to for some support? as nice as it is to have a significant other to turn to and be with, you can live with out it. there are other people out there...... gosh i remember when people told me all of this and i hated lol. but all in all we are here for you

shallowwaters · Mar 26, 2008

i agree with lightnlife. it does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. i had a rough spot at one point with my now husband, he got stressed out and was doing drugs and thats not something i wanted to be around and i gave him a choice. drugs or me. and he chose me. after a long three months battle. it was hard to make that choice but i was prepared to let go of him if he couldnt handle my illness and our relationship in a different way. a drink here and there isnt a problem but it sounds like there is a deeper issue. i know its all easier said than done. we are here to support you. but right now it sounds like you need to be focusing on staying healthy. do you have family you can turn to for some support? as nice as it is to have a significant other to turn to and be with, you can live with out it. there are other people out there...... gosh i remember when people told me all of this and i hated lol. but all in all we are here for you

bittyhorse23 · Mar 26, 2008

I agree with the other posters. It just doesn't sound good at all. The "breaking up" game gets really old, especially when one of the parties grows up and wants something serious. Take time for yourself. Turn the tables around on him and tell him that you are happy it is over this time so you can focuse on your health and your transplant. Maybe he will come around and be more supportive, but don't hold your breath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> You need all the support you can get during this time and wishy-washy support is counterproductive. You will spend more time wondering if he is gonna bail then on the important things like "can my body handle the transplant".

I hope things work out, maybe not exactly with him but for the better on all accounts!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23 · Mar 26, 2008

I agree with the other posters. It just doesn't sound good at all. The "breaking up" game gets really old, especially when one of the parties grows up and wants something serious. Take time for yourself. Turn the tables around on him and tell him that you are happy it is over this time so you can focuse on your health and your transplant. Maybe he will come around and be more supportive, but don't hold your breath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> You need all the support you can get during this time and wishy-washy support is counterproductive. You will spend more time wondering if he is gonna bail then on the important things like "can my body handle the transplant".

I hope things work out, maybe not exactly with him but for the better on all accounts!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23 · Mar 26, 2008

I agree with the other posters. It just doesn't sound good at all. The "breaking up" game gets really old, especially when one of the parties grows up and wants something serious. Take time for yourself. Turn the tables around on him and tell him that you are happy it is over this time so you can focuse on your health and your transplant. Maybe he will come around and be more supportive, but don't hold your breath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> You need all the support you can get during this time and wishy-washy support is counterproductive. You will spend more time wondering if he is gonna bail then on the important things like "can my body handle the transplant".

I hope things work out, maybe not exactly with him but for the better on all accounts!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23 · Mar 26, 2008

I agree with the other posters. It just doesn't sound good at all. The "breaking up" game gets really old, especially when one of the parties grows up and wants something serious. Take time for yourself. Turn the tables around on him and tell him that you are happy it is over this time so you can focuse on your health and your transplant. Maybe he will come around and be more supportive, but don't hold your breath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> You need all the support you can get during this time and wishy-washy support is counterproductive. You will spend more time wondering if he is gonna bail then on the important things like "can my body handle the transplant".

I hope things work out, maybe not exactly with him but for the better on all accounts!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23 · Mar 26, 2008

I agree with the other posters. It just doesn't sound good at all. The "breaking up" game gets really old, especially when one of the parties grows up and wants something serious. Take time for yourself. Turn the tables around on him and tell him that you are happy it is over this time so you can focuse on your health and your transplant. Maybe he will come around and be more supportive, but don't hold your breath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> You need all the support you can get during this time and wishy-washy support is counterproductive. You will spend more time wondering if he is gonna bail then on the important things like "can my body handle the transplant".
 
 I hope things work out, maybe not exactly with him but for the better on all accounts!
 
 <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

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