Burden on family

dewgirl · Jan 5, 2009

I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for when you're feeling particularly burdensome on your family. I know we must all go through this and some times are worse but how do y'all get through times like this?

I'm feeling very guilty for my poor husband. He not only has to deal with my health issues and all that entails but now we might have to permanently take in my mother. I don't want this to be too much for the poor man. We are about to start testing for a transplant and I am hospitalized about two weeks out of every two months. This leaves so much on his shoulders with his job, our house, our dog, my health, his family, my mother, etc. I want to lighten the burden on him. Anyone have suggestions?

dewgirl · Jan 5, 2009

I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for when you're feeling particularly burdensome on your family. I know we must all go through this and some times are worse but how do y'all get through times like this?

I'm feeling very guilty for my poor husband. He not only has to deal with my health issues and all that entails but now we might have to permanently take in my mother. I don't want this to be too much for the poor man. We are about to start testing for a transplant and I am hospitalized about two weeks out of every two months. This leaves so much on his shoulders with his job, our house, our dog, my health, his family, my mother, etc. I want to lighten the burden on him. Anyone have suggestions?

dewgirl · Jan 5, 2009

I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for when you're feeling particularly burdensome on your family. I know we must all go through this and some times are worse but how do y'all get through times like this?

I'm feeling very guilty for my poor husband. He not only has to deal with my health issues and all that entails but now we might have to permanently take in my mother. I don't want this to be too much for the poor man. We are about to start testing for a transplant and I am hospitalized about two weeks out of every two months. This leaves so much on his shoulders with his job, our house, our dog, my health, his family, my mother, etc. I want to lighten the burden on him. Anyone have suggestions?

dewgirl · Jan 5, 2009

I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for when you're feeling particularly burdensome on your family. I know we must all go through this and some times are worse but how do y'all get through times like this?

I'm feeling very guilty for my poor husband. He not only has to deal with my health issues and all that entails but now we might have to permanently take in my mother. I don't want this to be too much for the poor man. We are about to start testing for a transplant and I am hospitalized about two weeks out of every two months. This leaves so much on his shoulders with his job, our house, our dog, my health, his family, my mother, etc. I want to lighten the burden on him. Anyone have suggestions?

dewgirl · Jan 5, 2009

I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for when you're feeling particularly burdensome on your family. I know we must all go through this and some times are worse but how do y'all get through times like this?
 
 I'm feeling very guilty for my poor husband. He not only has to deal with my health issues and all that entails but now we might have to permanently take in my mother. I don't want this to be too much for the poor man. We are about to start testing for a transplant and I am hospitalized about two weeks out of every two months. This leaves so much on his shoulders with his job, our house, our dog, my health, his family, my mother, etc. I want to lighten the burden on him. Anyone have suggestions?

beleache · Jan 5, 2009

It can definitely be overwhelming... My only suggestion would be to seek counseling for the feelings of guilt that you are having.. If you are religious maybe seeing your pastor.. Counseling for you, and your husband both together and separate may be a good idea.... Also your social worker at your clinic may have some suggestions for you..

I sometimes feel like my husband got the short end of the stick being married to me.. Then i realize how much he loves me and if it were the other way around, i realize how much i wouldn't want to be w/o him in my life ...

Please keep us posted.. Take care and God Bless ..<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

beleache · Jan 5, 2009

It can definitely be overwhelming... My only suggestion would be to seek counseling for the feelings of guilt that you are having.. If you are religious maybe seeing your pastor.. Counseling for you, and your husband both together and separate may be a good idea.... Also your social worker at your clinic may have some suggestions for you..

I sometimes feel like my husband got the short end of the stick being married to me.. Then i realize how much he loves me and if it were the other way around, i realize how much i wouldn't want to be w/o him in my life ...

Please keep us posted.. Take care and God Bless ..<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

beleache · Jan 5, 2009

It can definitely be overwhelming... My only suggestion would be to seek counseling for the feelings of guilt that you are having.. If you are religious maybe seeing your pastor.. Counseling for you, and your husband both together and separate may be a good idea.... Also your social worker at your clinic may have some suggestions for you..

I sometimes feel like my husband got the short end of the stick being married to me.. Then i realize how much he loves me and if it were the other way around, i realize how much i wouldn't want to be w/o him in my life ...

Please keep us posted.. Take care and God Bless ..<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

beleache · Jan 5, 2009

It can definitely be overwhelming... My only suggestion would be to seek counseling for the feelings of guilt that you are having.. If you are religious maybe seeing your pastor.. Counseling for you, and your husband both together and separate may be a good idea.... Also your social worker at your clinic may have some suggestions for you..

I sometimes feel like my husband got the short end of the stick being married to me.. Then i realize how much he loves me and if it were the other way around, i realize how much i wouldn't want to be w/o him in my life ...

Please keep us posted.. Take care and God Bless ..<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

beleache · Jan 5, 2009

It can definitely be overwhelming... My only suggestion would be to seek counseling for the feelings of guilt that you are having.. If you are religious maybe seeing your pastor.. Counseling for you, and your husband both together and separate may be a good idea.... Also your social worker at your clinic may have some suggestions for you..
 
 I sometimes feel like my husband got the short end of the stick being married to me.. Then i realize how much he loves me and if it were the other way around, i realize how much i wouldn't want to be w/o him in my life ...
 
 Please keep us posted.. Take care and God Bless ..<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

JenDiS · Jan 5, 2009

I tought myself to take care of myself even more than I was before to try and get over me feeling like a big burden. I bring myself to my doctors appointments, I bring myself to the hospital when I need to be admitted, basically everything my parents did I do now.

In my opinion, any person to marry someone with CF must know what is going to happen within time. It's inevitable. For all this to be sprouted on him is going to be tough but my advice is just to stick by his side help him if you can and if you cannot the worse that can happen is making yourself feel bad about being sick because that just adds stress to you and will make you feel worse.

Im talking from experience. I hope things lighten up for you. Once a routine is in place when your mother comes in then maybe things will get better but for now just hang tough!!

JenDiS · Jan 5, 2009

I tought myself to take care of myself even more than I was before to try and get over me feeling like a big burden. I bring myself to my doctors appointments, I bring myself to the hospital when I need to be admitted, basically everything my parents did I do now.

In my opinion, any person to marry someone with CF must know what is going to happen within time. It's inevitable. For all this to be sprouted on him is going to be tough but my advice is just to stick by his side help him if you can and if you cannot the worse that can happen is making yourself feel bad about being sick because that just adds stress to you and will make you feel worse.

Im talking from experience. I hope things lighten up for you. Once a routine is in place when your mother comes in then maybe things will get better but for now just hang tough!!

JenDiS · Jan 5, 2009

I tought myself to take care of myself even more than I was before to try and get over me feeling like a big burden. I bring myself to my doctors appointments, I bring myself to the hospital when I need to be admitted, basically everything my parents did I do now.

In my opinion, any person to marry someone with CF must know what is going to happen within time. It's inevitable. For all this to be sprouted on him is going to be tough but my advice is just to stick by his side help him if you can and if you cannot the worse that can happen is making yourself feel bad about being sick because that just adds stress to you and will make you feel worse.

Im talking from experience. I hope things lighten up for you. Once a routine is in place when your mother comes in then maybe things will get better but for now just hang tough!!

JenDiS · Jan 5, 2009

I tought myself to take care of myself even more than I was before to try and get over me feeling like a big burden. I bring myself to my doctors appointments, I bring myself to the hospital when I need to be admitted, basically everything my parents did I do now.

In my opinion, any person to marry someone with CF must know what is going to happen within time. It's inevitable. For all this to be sprouted on him is going to be tough but my advice is just to stick by his side help him if you can and if you cannot the worse that can happen is making yourself feel bad about being sick because that just adds stress to you and will make you feel worse.

Im talking from experience. I hope things lighten up for you. Once a routine is in place when your mother comes in then maybe things will get better but for now just hang tough!!

JenDiS · Jan 5, 2009

I tought myself to take care of myself even more than I was before to try and get over me feeling like a big burden. I bring myself to my doctors appointments, I bring myself to the hospital when I need to be admitted, basically everything my parents did I do now.
 
 In my opinion, any person to marry someone with CF must know what is going to happen within time. It's inevitable. For all this to be sprouted on him is going to be tough but my advice is just to stick by his side help him if you can and if you cannot the worse that can happen is making yourself feel bad about being sick because that just adds stress to you and will make you feel worse.
 
 Im talking from experience. I hope things lighten up for you. Once a routine is in place when your mother comes in then maybe things will get better but for now just hang tough!!

JenDiS · Jan 5, 2009