TechLovesTech
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yes he has had it since he was a baby and was diagnosed then. he is taking his meds i watch him. i want to have his baby but i know adoption is an option. thank you all for your info it helped a lot
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Can CF patients have children?
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Scarlett81
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It varies from patient to patient, but infertile is not the accurate word. Cf men's bodies make sperm-the sperm are there, they just lack the vas deferens to carry the sperm outside the body. There are procedures that can be done to acheive pregnancy-as everyone said, Julie is the best person to ask about that. As far as life expectancy goes, it varies from person to person. There are people on this site in their 60s, and some don't make it past 25. I'd make an appointment to sit with him and his doctors and get more facts and info about cf and what it will be like to live with it everyday, as well as discuss your future.
Take care and best wishes.
Take care and best wishes.
Scarlett81
New member
It varies from patient to patient, but infertile is not the accurate word. Cf men's bodies make sperm-the sperm are there, they just lack the vas deferens to carry the sperm outside the body. There are procedures that can be done to acheive pregnancy-as everyone said, Julie is the best person to ask about that. As far as life expectancy goes, it varies from person to person. There are people on this site in their 60s, and some don't make it past 25. I'd make an appointment to sit with him and his doctors and get more facts and info about cf and what it will be like to live with it everyday, as well as discuss your future.
Take care and best wishes.
Take care and best wishes.
Scarlett81
New member
It varies from patient to patient, but infertile is not the accurate word. Cf men's bodies make sperm-the sperm are there, they just lack the vas deferens to carry the sperm outside the body. There are procedures that can be done to acheive pregnancy-as everyone said, Julie is the best person to ask about that. As far as life expectancy goes, it varies from person to person. There are people on this site in their 60s, and some don't make it past 25. I'd make an appointment to sit with him and his doctors and get more facts and info about cf and what it will be like to live with it everyday, as well as discuss your future.
Take care and best wishes.
Take care and best wishes.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>TechLovesTech</b></i>
And what age do you think he will make it to? Thanks</end quote></div>
Average age of death of a CF patient in 2005 was about 38 years old.
Something to consider if you want to have children. Although you may want kids, it's worth considering what the child would go through with a parent that is dead.
This is why I have chosen not to have kids - <b>I will not put my selfish need for a child above the child's welfare of possibly losing a mom at a young age. </b> And for you open minded spastics out there, don't be a hypocrite and instead follow your own advice and be open minded to my opinion.
And no, dying of cancer or a car crash isn't the same as knowing that you have a shortened life expectancy with CF.
And what age do you think he will make it to? Thanks</end quote></div>
Average age of death of a CF patient in 2005 was about 38 years old.
Something to consider if you want to have children. Although you may want kids, it's worth considering what the child would go through with a parent that is dead.
This is why I have chosen not to have kids - <b>I will not put my selfish need for a child above the child's welfare of possibly losing a mom at a young age. </b> And for you open minded spastics out there, don't be a hypocrite and instead follow your own advice and be open minded to my opinion.
And no, dying of cancer or a car crash isn't the same as knowing that you have a shortened life expectancy with CF.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>TechLovesTech</b></i>
And what age do you think he will make it to? Thanks</end quote></div>
Average age of death of a CF patient in 2005 was about 38 years old.
Something to consider if you want to have children. Although you may want kids, it's worth considering what the child would go through with a parent that is dead.
This is why I have chosen not to have kids - <b>I will not put my selfish need for a child above the child's welfare of possibly losing a mom at a young age. </b> And for you open minded spastics out there, don't be a hypocrite and instead follow your own advice and be open minded to my opinion.
And no, dying of cancer or a car crash isn't the same as knowing that you have a shortened life expectancy with CF.
And what age do you think he will make it to? Thanks</end quote></div>
Average age of death of a CF patient in 2005 was about 38 years old.
Something to consider if you want to have children. Although you may want kids, it's worth considering what the child would go through with a parent that is dead.
This is why I have chosen not to have kids - <b>I will not put my selfish need for a child above the child's welfare of possibly losing a mom at a young age. </b> And for you open minded spastics out there, don't be a hypocrite and instead follow your own advice and be open minded to my opinion.
And no, dying of cancer or a car crash isn't the same as knowing that you have a shortened life expectancy with CF.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>TechLovesTech</b></i>
And what age do you think he will make it to? Thanks</end quote></div>
Average age of death of a CF patient in 2005 was about 38 years old.
Something to consider if you want to have children. Although you may want kids, it's worth considering what the child would go through with a parent that is dead.
This is why I have chosen not to have kids - <b>I will not put my selfish need for a child above the child's welfare of possibly losing a mom at a young age. </b> And for you open minded spastics out there, don't be a hypocrite and instead follow your own advice and be open minded to my opinion.
And no, dying of cancer or a car crash isn't the same as knowing that you have a shortened life expectancy with CF.
And what age do you think he will make it to? Thanks</end quote></div>
Average age of death of a CF patient in 2005 was about 38 years old.
Something to consider if you want to have children. Although you may want kids, it's worth considering what the child would go through with a parent that is dead.
This is why I have chosen not to have kids - <b>I will not put my selfish need for a child above the child's welfare of possibly losing a mom at a young age. </b> And for you open minded spastics out there, don't be a hypocrite and instead follow your own advice and be open minded to my opinion.
And no, dying of cancer or a car crash isn't the same as knowing that you have a shortened life expectancy with CF.
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marcijo
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It is possible to have children-just like the others have said. Julie is a good example-she has triplets! Its all up to you guys, of course, but it is possible. I have CF (diagnosed at age 20) and I have 2 children myself.
Amy (saksuka)-I have never responded to your remarks before...but this one put me over the edge. Although I think that everyone does and should have their own opinion (which can be a great thing!), it's really sad that you have to express yours in a way that puts other people down. Its really too bad and maybe you should think about what you say before you say it? Just an idea-because I have seen alot of feelings hurt from your remarks.
Anyways-like I said-having children in the world we live in today is possible even if one of the parents have CF. You should probably get tested to find out if you are a CF carrier first though-because if you are your chances of having a child with CF are higher than if you are not. Good luck with everything!
Amy (saksuka)-I have never responded to your remarks before...but this one put me over the edge. Although I think that everyone does and should have their own opinion (which can be a great thing!), it's really sad that you have to express yours in a way that puts other people down. Its really too bad and maybe you should think about what you say before you say it? Just an idea-because I have seen alot of feelings hurt from your remarks.
Anyways-like I said-having children in the world we live in today is possible even if one of the parents have CF. You should probably get tested to find out if you are a CF carrier first though-because if you are your chances of having a child with CF are higher than if you are not. Good luck with everything!
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marcijo
Guest
It is possible to have children-just like the others have said. Julie is a good example-she has triplets! Its all up to you guys, of course, but it is possible. I have CF (diagnosed at age 20) and I have 2 children myself.
Amy (saksuka)-I have never responded to your remarks before...but this one put me over the edge. Although I think that everyone does and should have their own opinion (which can be a great thing!), it's really sad that you have to express yours in a way that puts other people down. Its really too bad and maybe you should think about what you say before you say it? Just an idea-because I have seen alot of feelings hurt from your remarks.
Anyways-like I said-having children in the world we live in today is possible even if one of the parents have CF. You should probably get tested to find out if you are a CF carrier first though-because if you are your chances of having a child with CF are higher than if you are not. Good luck with everything!
Amy (saksuka)-I have never responded to your remarks before...but this one put me over the edge. Although I think that everyone does and should have their own opinion (which can be a great thing!), it's really sad that you have to express yours in a way that puts other people down. Its really too bad and maybe you should think about what you say before you say it? Just an idea-because I have seen alot of feelings hurt from your remarks.
Anyways-like I said-having children in the world we live in today is possible even if one of the parents have CF. You should probably get tested to find out if you are a CF carrier first though-because if you are your chances of having a child with CF are higher than if you are not. Good luck with everything!
M
marcijo
Guest
It is possible to have children-just like the others have said. Julie is a good example-she has triplets! Its all up to you guys, of course, but it is possible. I have CF (diagnosed at age 20) and I have 2 children myself.
Amy (saksuka)-I have never responded to your remarks before...but this one put me over the edge. Although I think that everyone does and should have their own opinion (which can be a great thing!), it's really sad that you have to express yours in a way that puts other people down. Its really too bad and maybe you should think about what you say before you say it? Just an idea-because I have seen alot of feelings hurt from your remarks.
Anyways-like I said-having children in the world we live in today is possible even if one of the parents have CF. You should probably get tested to find out if you are a CF carrier first though-because if you are your chances of having a child with CF are higher than if you are not. Good luck with everything!
Amy (saksuka)-I have never responded to your remarks before...but this one put me over the edge. Although I think that everyone does and should have their own opinion (which can be a great thing!), it's really sad that you have to express yours in a way that puts other people down. Its really too bad and maybe you should think about what you say before you say it? Just an idea-because I have seen alot of feelings hurt from your remarks.
Anyways-like I said-having children in the world we live in today is possible even if one of the parents have CF. You should probably get tested to find out if you are a CF carrier first though-because if you are your chances of having a child with CF are higher than if you are not. Good luck with everything!
I'm happy to answer any male fertility related questions I might have, and my husband Mark is always avaliable (although lately a short delay in response time due to raising children <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">) to answer questions directly from other guys as they feel that is more comfortable most times.
Amy, I absolutely respect your opinion and decision. But is there any way you can relate you feeling sometimes in a less rude way? I mean, I understand it's a touchy subject from both ends but there is no reason to be so nasty, especially when nobody's even "judged" your response in this thread. Just chill...
Amy, I absolutely respect your opinion and decision. But is there any way you can relate you feeling sometimes in a less rude way? I mean, I understand it's a touchy subject from both ends but there is no reason to be so nasty, especially when nobody's even "judged" your response in this thread. Just chill...
I'm happy to answer any male fertility related questions I might have, and my husband Mark is always avaliable (although lately a short delay in response time due to raising children <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">) to answer questions directly from other guys as they feel that is more comfortable most times.
Amy, I absolutely respect your opinion and decision. But is there any way you can relate you feeling sometimes in a less rude way? I mean, I understand it's a touchy subject from both ends but there is no reason to be so nasty, especially when nobody's even "judged" your response in this thread. Just chill...
Amy, I absolutely respect your opinion and decision. But is there any way you can relate you feeling sometimes in a less rude way? I mean, I understand it's a touchy subject from both ends but there is no reason to be so nasty, especially when nobody's even "judged" your response in this thread. Just chill...
I'm happy to answer any male fertility related questions I might have, and my husband Mark is always avaliable (although lately a short delay in response time due to raising children <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">) to answer questions directly from other guys as they feel that is more comfortable most times.
Amy, I absolutely respect your opinion and decision. But is there any way you can relate you feeling sometimes in a less rude way? I mean, I understand it's a touchy subject from both ends but there is no reason to be so nasty, especially when nobody's even "judged" your response in this thread. Just chill...
Amy, I absolutely respect your opinion and decision. But is there any way you can relate you feeling sometimes in a less rude way? I mean, I understand it's a touchy subject from both ends but there is no reason to be so nasty, especially when nobody's even "judged" your response in this thread. Just chill...
Scarlett81
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amy, I guess if you adopt a child, then when you die prematurely as a cf parent (male or female)-that loss doesn't matter, huh, b/c that child was lucky enough to just be adopted in the first place???!?....
As an adopted adult i take great offense to that stupid theory which whether you said it in words or through the lines...doesn't really matter. people like you that say-'oh, you can adopt....b/c its wrong to be selfish and get pregnant and leave a child behind.....well basically you are saying that the loss that an adopted child would face would be less, or justified-at least more so than for a birth child. do you realize that?!
I take no offense to you feelings about not having children. You have a right to think that its not for you, that it is selfish, or whatever you like. But you don't have a right to personally attack anyone else who does chose to have children whether by pregnancy or adoption. Your comments about it being selfish are ridiculous and i won't even address them except to say that they are cruel and you are a sick person.
As an adopted adult i take great offense to that stupid theory which whether you said it in words or through the lines...doesn't really matter. people like you that say-'oh, you can adopt....b/c its wrong to be selfish and get pregnant and leave a child behind.....well basically you are saying that the loss that an adopted child would face would be less, or justified-at least more so than for a birth child. do you realize that?!
I take no offense to you feelings about not having children. You have a right to think that its not for you, that it is selfish, or whatever you like. But you don't have a right to personally attack anyone else who does chose to have children whether by pregnancy or adoption. Your comments about it being selfish are ridiculous and i won't even address them except to say that they are cruel and you are a sick person.
Scarlett81
New member
amy, I guess if you adopt a child, then when you die prematurely as a cf parent (male or female)-that loss doesn't matter, huh, b/c that child was lucky enough to just be adopted in the first place???!?....
As an adopted adult i take great offense to that stupid theory which whether you said it in words or through the lines...doesn't really matter. people like you that say-'oh, you can adopt....b/c its wrong to be selfish and get pregnant and leave a child behind.....well basically you are saying that the loss that an adopted child would face would be less, or justified-at least more so than for a birth child. do you realize that?!
I take no offense to you feelings about not having children. You have a right to think that its not for you, that it is selfish, or whatever you like. But you don't have a right to personally attack anyone else who does chose to have children whether by pregnancy or adoption. Your comments about it being selfish are ridiculous and i won't even address them except to say that they are cruel and you are a sick person.
As an adopted adult i take great offense to that stupid theory which whether you said it in words or through the lines...doesn't really matter. people like you that say-'oh, you can adopt....b/c its wrong to be selfish and get pregnant and leave a child behind.....well basically you are saying that the loss that an adopted child would face would be less, or justified-at least more so than for a birth child. do you realize that?!
I take no offense to you feelings about not having children. You have a right to think that its not for you, that it is selfish, or whatever you like. But you don't have a right to personally attack anyone else who does chose to have children whether by pregnancy or adoption. Your comments about it being selfish are ridiculous and i won't even address them except to say that they are cruel and you are a sick person.
Scarlett81
New member
amy, I guess if you adopt a child, then when you die prematurely as a cf parent (male or female)-that loss doesn't matter, huh, b/c that child was lucky enough to just be adopted in the first place???!?....
As an adopted adult i take great offense to that stupid theory which whether you said it in words or through the lines...doesn't really matter. people like you that say-'oh, you can adopt....b/c its wrong to be selfish and get pregnant and leave a child behind.....well basically you are saying that the loss that an adopted child would face would be less, or justified-at least more so than for a birth child. do you realize that?!
I take no offense to you feelings about not having children. You have a right to think that its not for you, that it is selfish, or whatever you like. But you don't have a right to personally attack anyone else who does chose to have children whether by pregnancy or adoption. Your comments about it being selfish are ridiculous and i won't even address them except to say that they are cruel and you are a sick person.
As an adopted adult i take great offense to that stupid theory which whether you said it in words or through the lines...doesn't really matter. people like you that say-'oh, you can adopt....b/c its wrong to be selfish and get pregnant and leave a child behind.....well basically you are saying that the loss that an adopted child would face would be less, or justified-at least more so than for a birth child. do you realize that?!
I take no offense to you feelings about not having children. You have a right to think that its not for you, that it is selfish, or whatever you like. But you don't have a right to personally attack anyone else who does chose to have children whether by pregnancy or adoption. Your comments about it being selfish are ridiculous and i won't even address them except to say that they are cruel and you are a sick person.
I am a 33 year old female with cf and am married to the love of my life, matt without cf. My brother, Chad no cf, died almost a year and a half ago from mental illness. He left behind a three year old boy and a wife who was 12 weeks pregnant. I have personally seen what death of a parent does to a child and it is terribly sad...excruciating actually. My sister-in-law and best friend is having a hell of a time raising those precious children....she is truly my hero. As hard as it has been on everyone involved, we all feel like Chad's life was a gift, and these boys are a gift. The oldest talks about his dad all the time and he misses him so much..... I can'y imagine life without my nephews....can't imagine it. Chad's legacy is his fight and those boys.
It is sad that we are having a discussion like this......what is right for one is not always right for someone else. I do not think I am able to take care of myself, my husband and a child...not to mention be a great aunt to my nephews. I would love to and maybe one day yes, but for now it is a no. Of course, for many years I refused to fall for anyone because I didn't want to hurt them in the end..when I passed. Now, I am married. And I believe with all of my heart, I will be here in my sixties. Love finds a way..hope finds a way. I applaud those of you who are parents and I applaud those of you who have chosen not to....
Amy-
no one disagrees with your decision not to have children. Most of us are open-minded. Have a little sensitivity...why is it sooooo hard for you????? Damn.
It is sad that we are having a discussion like this......what is right for one is not always right for someone else. I do not think I am able to take care of myself, my husband and a child...not to mention be a great aunt to my nephews. I would love to and maybe one day yes, but for now it is a no. Of course, for many years I refused to fall for anyone because I didn't want to hurt them in the end..when I passed. Now, I am married. And I believe with all of my heart, I will be here in my sixties. Love finds a way..hope finds a way. I applaud those of you who are parents and I applaud those of you who have chosen not to....
Amy-
no one disagrees with your decision not to have children. Most of us are open-minded. Have a little sensitivity...why is it sooooo hard for you????? Damn.