im 18 years old. with cf and cfrd. lately, im finding it impossible to get the inspiration to gain the weight i need to be healthy. i look disgusting. im a skeleton. its summer and having a feeding tube makes it IMPOSIBLE to feel comfortable in a bathing suit. i dont know what to do. i talk to my friends and family ..i talk to them like im going to die anyday sometimes. i want to get everything done so quickly. im 18.. i expect to have ten years left.. how am i going to graduate college..get married..start a career..and have a family by that time?! im beginning to worry i wont get all that i want to get done..done before i die. i know i was born to be a mother. it sounds weird coming out of a 18 year olds mouth. but i would give up everything to have a family one day. i love kids. i have an extremely large spleen..and a feeding tube- how can it be possible to become pregnant with cf, and all these complications?! the other thing i was thinking about is, well is it selffish bringing a child into this world knowing it has a high chance of having CF? someone please help me out.
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Can i have a baby?!
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im 18 years old. with cf and cfrd. lately, im finding it impossible to get the inspiration to gain the weight i need to be healthy. i look disgusting. im a skeleton. its summer and having a feeding tube makes it IMPOSIBLE to feel comfortable in a bathing suit. i dont know what to do. i talk to my friends and family ..i talk to them like im going to die anyday sometimes. i want to get everything done so quickly. im 18.. i expect to have ten years left.. how am i going to graduate college..get married..start a career..and have a family by that time?! im beginning to worry i wont get all that i want to get done..done before i die. i know i was born to be a mother. it sounds weird coming out of a 18 year olds mouth. but i would give up everything to have a family one day. i love kids. i have an extremely large spleen..and a feeding tube- how can it be possible to become pregnant with cf, and all these complications?! the other thing i was thinking about is, well is it selffish bringing a child into this world knowing it has a high chance of having CF? someone please help me out.
im 18 years old. with cf and cfrd. lately, im finding it impossible to get the inspiration to gain the weight i need to be healthy. i look disgusting. im a skeleton. its summer and having a feeding tube makes it IMPOSIBLE to feel comfortable in a bathing suit. i dont know what to do. i talk to my friends and family ..i talk to them like im going to die anyday sometimes. i want to get everything done so quickly. im 18.. i expect to have ten years left.. how am i going to graduate college..get married..start a career..and have a family by that time?! im beginning to worry i wont get all that i want to get done..done before i die. i know i was born to be a mother. it sounds weird coming out of a 18 year olds mouth. but i would give up everything to have a family one day. i love kids. i have an extremely large spleen..and a feeding tube- how can it be possible to become pregnant with cf, and all these complications?! the other thing i was thinking about is, well is it selffish bringing a child into this world knowing it has a high chance of having CF? someone please help me out.
starstellar
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Rosie, My solution to the feeding tube and bathing suit was a one piece. Luckily they made really cute one pieces nowadays so that worked out for me. As for expecting to have ten years left you never know what cf break through will come so I wouldn't consider talking about death yet. On a baby I am a cf patient and mother. My daughter is 14 months old and I am 26 years old. Your baby will only have cf is you conceive with another carrier of the gene. And cf patients can have babies. It seems to me you are missing key information on the world of cf patients. if you would like to chat you can email me at starstellar3@hotmail.com I counsel young cf patients on coming into adult cf patients.
starstellar
New member
Rosie, My solution to the feeding tube and bathing suit was a one piece. Luckily they made really cute one pieces nowadays so that worked out for me. As for expecting to have ten years left you never know what cf break through will come so I wouldn't consider talking about death yet. On a baby I am a cf patient and mother. My daughter is 14 months old and I am 26 years old. Your baby will only have cf is you conceive with another carrier of the gene. And cf patients can have babies. It seems to me you are missing key information on the world of cf patients. if you would like to chat you can email me at starstellar3@hotmail.com I counsel young cf patients on coming into adult cf patients.
starstellar
New member
Rosie, My solution to the feeding tube and bathing suit was a one piece. Luckily they made really cute one pieces nowadays so that worked out for me. As for expecting to have ten years left you never know what cf break through will come so I wouldn't consider talking about death yet. On a baby I am a cf patient and mother. My daughter is 14 months old and I am 26 years old. Your baby will only have cf is you conceive with another carrier of the gene. And cf patients can have babies. It seems to me you are missing key information on the world of cf patients. if you would like to chat you can email me at starstellar3@hotmail.com I counsel young cf patients on coming into adult cf patients.
lakegirl1915
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Hey, my name is Sheridan and I'm 15. Dont worry about being in a bathingsuit. I'm positive you will look great. I love to be different. And I really want a family to but there is a good chance it wont have cystic fibrosis. So its not selfish. I love kids and hope that I will live to be 90. My boyfriend is 17 and doesnt want kids yet but he wants me to get prego around 20 just incase I die early I will have more time with my baby. He worries alot about having a baby and losing me. So dont worry just keep doing your meds and everything you need to. If God wants you to have a baby you will. As soon or as late as he choses.
lakegirl1915
New member
Hey, my name is Sheridan and I'm 15. Dont worry about being in a bathingsuit. I'm positive you will look great. I love to be different. And I really want a family to but there is a good chance it wont have cystic fibrosis. So its not selfish. I love kids and hope that I will live to be 90. My boyfriend is 17 and doesnt want kids yet but he wants me to get prego around 20 just incase I die early I will have more time with my baby. He worries alot about having a baby and losing me. So dont worry just keep doing your meds and everything you need to. If God wants you to have a baby you will. As soon or as late as he choses.
lakegirl1915
New member
Hey, my name is Sheridan and I'm 15. Dont worry about being in a bathingsuit. I'm positive you will look great. I love to be different. And I really want a family to but there is a good chance it wont have cystic fibrosis. So its not selfish. I love kids and hope that I will live to be 90. My boyfriend is 17 and doesnt want kids yet but he wants me to get prego around 20 just incase I die early I will have more time with my baby. He worries alot about having a baby and losing me. So dont worry just keep doing your meds and everything you need to. If God wants you to have a baby you will. As soon or as late as he choses.
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bethylove
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Hi Rosie8,
you sound exactly like me. (except I dont' have a gtube yet). I struggle with the fear of not accomplishing anything I want to in my 'short time here'. I, too, was born to be a mother. I could have not said it better myself. I mothered everything from the time I could walk. It is my nature, my knack, its just what I do. I know the feeling of being heatbroken just even thinking about not being able to have a child to call your own. I also know the guilt trips and the worry of brining a child in, is it selfish? Am I doing it for the wrong reasons? Would they even remember me when I'm gone? Would they resent me for having CF? etc. etc. I hardly talk about this, because it;s such a tender topic. I finally had the courage the other day to bring it up in therapy because it was beginning to consume me. My therapist is goign to help me have a conversation with my doctors about having children, and the steps I need to take, etc. Its terrifying, but the reward will be well worth this torment. So right now, it seems to me you need to also gather that courage and talk to your doctors about it. And I want to let you know, you're not alone! I'm right there with you.
Please email me if you need anything, even if its just to vent!! my email is ewhelan89@gmail.com
you sound exactly like me. (except I dont' have a gtube yet). I struggle with the fear of not accomplishing anything I want to in my 'short time here'. I, too, was born to be a mother. I could have not said it better myself. I mothered everything from the time I could walk. It is my nature, my knack, its just what I do. I know the feeling of being heatbroken just even thinking about not being able to have a child to call your own. I also know the guilt trips and the worry of brining a child in, is it selfish? Am I doing it for the wrong reasons? Would they even remember me when I'm gone? Would they resent me for having CF? etc. etc. I hardly talk about this, because it;s such a tender topic. I finally had the courage the other day to bring it up in therapy because it was beginning to consume me. My therapist is goign to help me have a conversation with my doctors about having children, and the steps I need to take, etc. Its terrifying, but the reward will be well worth this torment. So right now, it seems to me you need to also gather that courage and talk to your doctors about it. And I want to let you know, you're not alone! I'm right there with you.
Please email me if you need anything, even if its just to vent!! my email is ewhelan89@gmail.com
B
bethylove
Guest
Hi Rosie8,
you sound exactly like me. (except I dont' have a gtube yet). I struggle with the fear of not accomplishing anything I want to in my 'short time here'. I, too, was born to be a mother. I could have not said it better myself. I mothered everything from the time I could walk. It is my nature, my knack, its just what I do. I know the feeling of being heatbroken just even thinking about not being able to have a child to call your own. I also know the guilt trips and the worry of brining a child in, is it selfish? Am I doing it for the wrong reasons? Would they even remember me when I'm gone? Would they resent me for having CF? etc. etc. I hardly talk about this, because it;s such a tender topic. I finally had the courage the other day to bring it up in therapy because it was beginning to consume me. My therapist is goign to help me have a conversation with my doctors about having children, and the steps I need to take, etc. Its terrifying, but the reward will be well worth this torment. So right now, it seems to me you need to also gather that courage and talk to your doctors about it. And I want to let you know, you're not alone! I'm right there with you.
Please email me if you need anything, even if its just to vent!! my email is ewhelan89@gmail.com
you sound exactly like me. (except I dont' have a gtube yet). I struggle with the fear of not accomplishing anything I want to in my 'short time here'. I, too, was born to be a mother. I could have not said it better myself. I mothered everything from the time I could walk. It is my nature, my knack, its just what I do. I know the feeling of being heatbroken just even thinking about not being able to have a child to call your own. I also know the guilt trips and the worry of brining a child in, is it selfish? Am I doing it for the wrong reasons? Would they even remember me when I'm gone? Would they resent me for having CF? etc. etc. I hardly talk about this, because it;s such a tender topic. I finally had the courage the other day to bring it up in therapy because it was beginning to consume me. My therapist is goign to help me have a conversation with my doctors about having children, and the steps I need to take, etc. Its terrifying, but the reward will be well worth this torment. So right now, it seems to me you need to also gather that courage and talk to your doctors about it. And I want to let you know, you're not alone! I'm right there with you.
Please email me if you need anything, even if its just to vent!! my email is ewhelan89@gmail.com
B
bethylove
Guest
Hi Rosie8,
<br />
<br />you sound exactly like me. (except I dont' have a gtube yet). I struggle with the fear of not accomplishing anything I want to in my 'short time here'. I, too, was born to be a mother. I could have not said it better myself. I mothered everything from the time I could walk. It is my nature, my knack, its just what I do. I know the feeling of being heatbroken just even thinking about not being able to have a child to call your own. I also know the guilt trips and the worry of brining a child in, is it selfish? Am I doing it for the wrong reasons? Would they even remember me when I'm gone? Would they resent me for having CF? etc. etc. I hardly talk about this, because it;s such a tender topic. I finally had the courage the other day to bring it up in therapy because it was beginning to consume me. My therapist is goign to help me have a conversation with my doctors about having children, and the steps I need to take, etc. Its terrifying, but the reward will be well worth this torment. So right now, it seems to me you need to also gather that courage and talk to your doctors about it. And I want to let you know, you're not alone! I'm right there with you.
<br />
<br />Please email me if you need anything, even if its just to vent!! my email is ewhelan89@gmail.com
<br />
<br />
<br />you sound exactly like me. (except I dont' have a gtube yet). I struggle with the fear of not accomplishing anything I want to in my 'short time here'. I, too, was born to be a mother. I could have not said it better myself. I mothered everything from the time I could walk. It is my nature, my knack, its just what I do. I know the feeling of being heatbroken just even thinking about not being able to have a child to call your own. I also know the guilt trips and the worry of brining a child in, is it selfish? Am I doing it for the wrong reasons? Would they even remember me when I'm gone? Would they resent me for having CF? etc. etc. I hardly talk about this, because it;s such a tender topic. I finally had the courage the other day to bring it up in therapy because it was beginning to consume me. My therapist is goign to help me have a conversation with my doctors about having children, and the steps I need to take, etc. Its terrifying, but the reward will be well worth this torment. So right now, it seems to me you need to also gather that courage and talk to your doctors about it. And I want to let you know, you're not alone! I'm right there with you.
<br />
<br />Please email me if you need anything, even if its just to vent!! my email is ewhelan89@gmail.com
<br />
WitheredBlackRose
New member
Here's a suggestion: If you love children so much and want to be a mother, offer that love to broken children who really need it: adopt from the foster care system!! Seriously, it is so crowded; look up some statistics, there's thousands of children stuck in the system. Thousands of broken children who need a loving family, a loving mother. It's so sad when a kid ends up spending their whole childhood in foster care, and then just ending up on the street upon reaching adulthood. So instead of worrying whether or not you'll get pregnant, and instead of risking passing CF on to a child, adopt from the foster care system.
WitheredBlackRose
New member
Here's a suggestion: If you love children so much and want to be a mother, offer that love to broken children who really need it: adopt from the foster care system!! Seriously, it is so crowded; look up some statistics, there's thousands of children stuck in the system. Thousands of broken children who need a loving family, a loving mother. It's so sad when a kid ends up spending their whole childhood in foster care, and then just ending up on the street upon reaching adulthood. So instead of worrying whether or not you'll get pregnant, and instead of risking passing CF on to a child, adopt from the foster care system.
WitheredBlackRose
New member
Here's a suggestion: If you love children so much and want to be a mother, offer that love to broken children who really need it: adopt from the foster care system!! Seriously, it is so crowded; look up some statistics, there's thousands of children stuck in the system. Thousands of broken children who need a loving family, a loving mother. It's so sad when a kid ends up spending their whole childhood in foster care, and then just ending up on the street upon reaching adulthood. So instead of worrying whether or not you'll get pregnant, and instead of risking passing CF on to a child, adopt from the foster care system.
thankyou all for your replies, they do make me feel better<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> im glad im not the only one bethylove! i will be sure to email you, im glad to have found someone with the same exact thoughts. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
thankyou all for your replies, they do make me feel better<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> im glad im not the only one bethylove! i will be sure to email you, im glad to have found someone with the same exact thoughts. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
thankyou all for your replies, they do make me feel better<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> im glad im not the only one bethylove! i will be sure to email you, im glad to have found someone with the same exact thoughts. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">