Can I vent for a minute??

[MamatoAlexa]

It felt really good to get this vent out to others who totally understand! My vent was as much about others not understanding as it was about me being a little pissed at myself for always being upbeat and never wanting to "burden" others with my issues - even if I did not actually write that in the vent. I really appreciate every response because each one was a reminder that there are others who know and understand without me having to spell it all out.
In reality I cannot expect my sister to really understand because she does not see the day to day stuff that goes on. I have two sisters that live 4 hours away, when we get together they always make a comment about my coughing or asking if I need a "beating". While a beating may help it certainly is not going to fix the problem!. I have another sis that lives with us while going to grad school, she sees the day to day stuff and is in school for acupuncture/Chinese medicine so she tends to be more in tune with what is going on and just helps rather than question.
I can totally relate to those of you who said you have to remind your husbands about certain things. My husband sleeps through my coughing so he will think I got a great nights sleep when in reality I was up coughing a lot. Just this morning I said something about being embarrassed about coughing in public and I thought my DH was going to cry! I guess just hearing me say that coughing in public is embarrassing was enough for him to realize how much something he now sees as normal and a part of our life still bothers me.

 

[MamatoAlexa]

It felt really good to get this vent out to others who totally understand! My vent was as much about others not understanding as it was about me being a little pissed at myself for always being upbeat and never wanting to "burden" others with my issues - even if I did not actually write that in the vent. I really appreciate every response because each one was a reminder that there are others who know and understand without me having to spell it all out.
In reality I cannot expect my sister to really understand because she does not see the day to day stuff that goes on. I have two sisters that live 4 hours away, when we get together they always make a comment about my coughing or asking if I need a "beating". While a beating may help it certainly is not going to fix the problem!. I have another sis that lives with us while going to grad school, she sees the day to day stuff and is in school for acupuncture/Chinese medicine so she tends to be more in tune with what is going on and just helps rather than question.
I can totally relate to those of you who said you have to remind your husbands about certain things. My husband sleeps through my coughing so he will think I got a great nights sleep when in reality I was up coughing a lot. Just this morning I said something about being embarrassed about coughing in public and I thought my DH was going to cry! I guess just hearing me say that coughing in public is embarrassing was enough for him to realize how much something he now sees as normal and a part of our life still bothers me.

 

[MamatoAlexa]

It felt really good to get this vent out to others who totally understand! My vent was as much about others not understanding as it was about me being a little pissed at myself for always being upbeat and never wanting to "burden" others with my issues - even if I did not actually write that in the vent. I really appreciate every response because each one was a reminder that there are others who know and understand without me having to spell it all out.
In reality I cannot expect my sister to really understand because she does not see the day to day stuff that goes on. I have two sisters that live 4 hours away, when we get together they always make a comment about my coughing or asking if I need a "beating". While a beating may help it certainly is not going to fix the problem!. I have another sis that lives with us while going to grad school, she sees the day to day stuff and is in school for acupuncture/Chinese medicine so she tends to be more in tune with what is going on and just helps rather than question.
I can totally relate to those of you who said you have to remind your husbands about certain things. My husband sleeps through my coughing so he will think I got a great nights sleep when in reality I was up coughing a lot. Just this morning I said something about being embarrassed about coughing in public and I thought my DH was going to cry! I guess just hearing me say that coughing in public is embarrassing was enough for him to realize how much something he now sees as normal and a part of our life still bothers me.

 

[MamatoAlexa]

It felt really good to get this vent out to others who totally understand! My vent was as much about others not understanding as it was about me being a little pissed at myself for always being upbeat and never wanting to "burden" others with my issues - even if I did not actually write that in the vent. I really appreciate every response because each one was a reminder that there are others who know and understand without me having to spell it all out.
In reality I cannot expect my sister to really understand because she does not see the day to day stuff that goes on. I have two sisters that live 4 hours away, when we get together they always make a comment about my coughing or asking if I need a "beating". While a beating may help it certainly is not going to fix the problem!. I have another sis that lives with us while going to grad school, she sees the day to day stuff and is in school for acupuncture/Chinese medicine so she tends to be more in tune with what is going on and just helps rather than question.
I can totally relate to those of you who said you have to remind your husbands about certain things. My husband sleeps through my coughing so he will think I got a great nights sleep when in reality I was up coughing a lot. Just this morning I said something about being embarrassed about coughing in public and I thought my DH was going to cry! I guess just hearing me say that coughing in public is embarrassing was enough for him to realize how much something he now sees as normal and a part of our life still bothers me.

 

[MamatoAlexa]

It felt really good to get this vent out to others who totally understand! My vent was as much about others not understanding as it was about me being a little pissed at myself for always being upbeat and never wanting to "burden" others with my issues - even if I did not actually write that in the vent. I really appreciate every response because each one was a reminder that there are others who know and understand without me having to spell it all out.
In reality I cannot expect my sister to really understand because she does not see the day to day stuff that goes on. I have two sisters that live 4 hours away, when we get together they always make a comment about my coughing or asking if I need a "beating". While a beating may help it certainly is not going to fix the problem!. I have another sis that lives with us while going to grad school, she sees the day to day stuff and is in school for acupuncture/Chinese medicine so she tends to be more in tune with what is going on and just helps rather than question.
I can totally relate to those of you who said you have to remind your husbands about certain things. My husband sleeps through my coughing so he will think I got a great nights sleep when in reality I was up coughing a lot. Just this morning I said something about being embarrassed about coughing in public and I thought my DH was going to cry! I guess just hearing me say that coughing in public is embarrassing was enough for him to realize how much something he now sees as normal and a part of our life still bothers me.

 

[mom2lillian]

Anne-I agree there is a fine balancing act there, I find it 'extra' difficult because on top of being upbeat about it and trying not to let it interfere I also was diagnosed so late that others assume sometimes that it is just a 'thing' no big deal etc. We were talking about 401K and life insurance witha close friend and they were amazed that my life expectancy would be impacted, little things like that make me realize perhaps I am not doing a true service to those people. I like to educate peopel but since when peopel are educated about 'typical' cases they cant relate it to me they assume I am more different than I am. I think that is probablythe case with you and others who appear to lead a normal life, especially once you start doing thing like college and children etc. Even my mom has no idea what I actually do since I was already out of the house though she is more than sympathetic, worries about meand offers to help.

so all that to say that I understnad you and I have no idea what best ot do about it! LOL

I have a new group I am workign with, small 15 of us, so I try to take little moments to do little bits of info/education. Perhaps this is the way I should treat everyone--new?

 

[mom2lillian]

Anne-I agree there is a fine balancing act there, I find it 'extra' difficult because on top of being upbeat about it and trying not to let it interfere I also was diagnosed so late that others assume sometimes that it is just a 'thing' no big deal etc. We were talking about 401K and life insurance witha close friend and they were amazed that my life expectancy would be impacted, little things like that make me realize perhaps I am not doing a true service to those people. I like to educate peopel but since when peopel are educated about 'typical' cases they cant relate it to me they assume I am more different than I am. I think that is probablythe case with you and others who appear to lead a normal life, especially once you start doing thing like college and children etc. Even my mom has no idea what I actually do since I was already out of the house though she is more than sympathetic, worries about meand offers to help.

so all that to say that I understnad you and I have no idea what best ot do about it! LOL

I have a new group I am workign with, small 15 of us, so I try to take little moments to do little bits of info/education. Perhaps this is the way I should treat everyone--new?

 

[mom2lillian]

Anne-I agree there is a fine balancing act there, I find it 'extra' difficult because on top of being upbeat about it and trying not to let it interfere I also was diagnosed so late that others assume sometimes that it is just a 'thing' no big deal etc. We were talking about 401K and life insurance witha close friend and they were amazed that my life expectancy would be impacted, little things like that make me realize perhaps I am not doing a true service to those people. I like to educate peopel but since when peopel are educated about 'typical' cases they cant relate it to me they assume I am more different than I am. I think that is probablythe case with you and others who appear to lead a normal life, especially once you start doing thing like college and children etc. Even my mom has no idea what I actually do since I was already out of the house though she is more than sympathetic, worries about meand offers to help.

so all that to say that I understnad you and I have no idea what best ot do about it! LOL

I have a new group I am workign with, small 15 of us, so I try to take little moments to do little bits of info/education. Perhaps this is the way I should treat everyone--new?

 

[mom2lillian]

Anne-I agree there is a fine balancing act there, I find it 'extra' difficult because on top of being upbeat about it and trying not to let it interfere I also was diagnosed so late that others assume sometimes that it is just a 'thing' no big deal etc. We were talking about 401K and life insurance witha close friend and they were amazed that my life expectancy would be impacted, little things like that make me realize perhaps I am not doing a true service to those people. I like to educate peopel but since when peopel are educated about 'typical' cases they cant relate it to me they assume I am more different than I am. I think that is probablythe case with you and others who appear to lead a normal life, especially once you start doing thing like college and children etc. Even my mom has no idea what I actually do since I was already out of the house though she is more than sympathetic, worries about meand offers to help.

so all that to say that I understnad you and I have no idea what best ot do about it! LOL

I have a new group I am workign with, small 15 of us, so I try to take little moments to do little bits of info/education. Perhaps this is the way I should treat everyone--new?

 

[mom2lillian]

Anne-I agree there is a fine balancing act there, I find it 'extra' difficult because on top of being upbeat about it and trying not to let it interfere I also was diagnosed so late that others assume sometimes that it is just a 'thing' no big deal etc. We were talking about 401K and life insurance witha close friend and they were amazed that my life expectancy would be impacted, little things like that make me realize perhaps I am not doing a true service to those people. I like to educate peopel but since when peopel are educated about 'typical' cases they cant relate it to me they assume I am more different than I am. I think that is probablythe case with you and others who appear to lead a normal life, especially once you start doing thing like college and children etc. Even my mom has no idea what I actually do since I was already out of the house though she is more than sympathetic, worries about meand offers to help.

so all that to say that I understnad you and I have no idea what best ot do about it! LOL

I have a new group I am workign with, small 15 of us, so I try to take little moments to do little bits of info/education. Perhaps this is the way I should treat everyone--new?

 

[Keepercjr]

Sorry for the 4 posts.... I was posting from a dial up connection and it kept saying the internet wasn't responding. So I'd press the back button and try again. It never did tell me it went through and I couldn't go to anymore sites afterwards. So... sorry! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

About DHs... I have started telling DH that all the coughing I'm doing (and I'm doing A LOT right now due to the pregnancy asthma) is VERY exhausting. Because otherwise I don't think he knows how tired I get just from a few minutes of coughing. Sure he knows I'm impacted during the cough attack but I should be fine right afterwards. But then I feel like I'm complaining. When I've been hospitalized he came by daily after work to see me, etc. But from the way he acts you'd think he figured I was/am just fine. I have asked him before why he acts that way and he said that he knows that something bad could happen to me so he just doesn't think about it. Denial? Anyway, its good to talk about these things to people around us so they have some kind of window into our experiences.

 

[Keepercjr]

Sorry for the 4 posts.... I was posting from a dial up connection and it kept saying the internet wasn't responding. So I'd press the back button and try again. It never did tell me it went through and I couldn't go to anymore sites afterwards. So... sorry! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

About DHs... I have started telling DH that all the coughing I'm doing (and I'm doing A LOT right now due to the pregnancy asthma) is VERY exhausting. Because otherwise I don't think he knows how tired I get just from a few minutes of coughing. Sure he knows I'm impacted during the cough attack but I should be fine right afterwards. But then I feel like I'm complaining. When I've been hospitalized he came by daily after work to see me, etc. But from the way he acts you'd think he figured I was/am just fine. I have asked him before why he acts that way and he said that he knows that something bad could happen to me so he just doesn't think about it. Denial? Anyway, its good to talk about these things to people around us so they have some kind of window into our experiences.

 

[Keepercjr]

Sorry for the 4 posts.... I was posting from a dial up connection and it kept saying the internet wasn't responding. So I'd press the back button and try again. It never did tell me it went through and I couldn't go to anymore sites afterwards. So... sorry! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

About DHs... I have started telling DH that all the coughing I'm doing (and I'm doing A LOT right now due to the pregnancy asthma) is VERY exhausting. Because otherwise I don't think he knows how tired I get just from a few minutes of coughing. Sure he knows I'm impacted during the cough attack but I should be fine right afterwards. But then I feel like I'm complaining. When I've been hospitalized he came by daily after work to see me, etc. But from the way he acts you'd think he figured I was/am just fine. I have asked him before why he acts that way and he said that he knows that something bad could happen to me so he just doesn't think about it. Denial? Anyway, its good to talk about these things to people around us so they have some kind of window into our experiences.

 

[Keepercjr]

Sorry for the 4 posts.... I was posting from a dial up connection and it kept saying the internet wasn't responding. So I'd press the back button and try again. It never did tell me it went through and I couldn't go to anymore sites afterwards. So... sorry! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

About DHs... I have started telling DH that all the coughing I'm doing (and I'm doing A LOT right now due to the pregnancy asthma) is VERY exhausting. Because otherwise I don't think he knows how tired I get just from a few minutes of coughing. Sure he knows I'm impacted during the cough attack but I should be fine right afterwards. But then I feel like I'm complaining. When I've been hospitalized he came by daily after work to see me, etc. But from the way he acts you'd think he figured I was/am just fine. I have asked him before why he acts that way and he said that he knows that something bad could happen to me so he just doesn't think about it. Denial? Anyway, its good to talk about these things to people around us so they have some kind of window into our experiences.

 

[Keepercjr]

Sorry for the 4 posts.... I was posting from a dial up connection and it kept saying the internet wasn't responding. So I'd press the back button and try again. It never did tell me it went through and I couldn't go to anymore sites afterwards. So... sorry! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

About DHs... I have started telling DH that all the coughing I'm doing (and I'm doing A LOT right now due to the pregnancy asthma) is VERY exhausting. Because otherwise I don't think he knows how tired I get just from a few minutes of coughing. Sure he knows I'm impacted during the cough attack but I should be fine right afterwards. But then I feel like I'm complaining. When I've been hospitalized he came by daily after work to see me, etc. But from the way he acts you'd think he figured I was/am just fine. I have asked him before why he acts that way and he said that he knows that something bad could happen to me so he just doesn't think about it. Denial? Anyway, its good to talk about these things to people around us so they have some kind of window into our experiences.

 

[JazzysMom]

ANNE!

I UNDERSTAND! My family doesnt understand or gets upset/surprised when I go into the hospital thinking its a "fluke", but meanwhile I am struggling everyday not just the times I am sick enough to get admitted. Much of it is my fault. I hold alot in. I have opened up more to one of my SIL with details of what my daily life is like because she seems to really care and get it.

My sisters who I adore & care just dont get it. My Mom (god love her) I cant tell the truth to because she gets too emotional. So I withhold most from her!

I also think when we decide to become parents & things go "normal/ok/well" that it reinforces that things are "good" for us when it could turn out the opposite just as easily.

HUGS to you my friend. I hope the next few weeks (if you last <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">) go well & I look forward to seeing another beautiful little girl in your signature!

 

[JazzysMom]

ANNE!

I UNDERSTAND! My family doesnt understand or gets upset/surprised when I go into the hospital thinking its a "fluke", but meanwhile I am struggling everyday not just the times I am sick enough to get admitted. Much of it is my fault. I hold alot in. I have opened up more to one of my SIL with details of what my daily life is like because she seems to really care and get it.

My sisters who I adore & care just dont get it. My Mom (god love her) I cant tell the truth to because she gets too emotional. So I withhold most from her!

I also think when we decide to become parents & things go "normal/ok/well" that it reinforces that things are "good" for us when it could turn out the opposite just as easily.

HUGS to you my friend. I hope the next few weeks (if you last <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">) go well & I look forward to seeing another beautiful little girl in your signature!

 

[JazzysMom]

ANNE!

I UNDERSTAND! My family doesnt understand or gets upset/surprised when I go into the hospital thinking its a "fluke", but meanwhile I am struggling everyday not just the times I am sick enough to get admitted. Much of it is my fault. I hold alot in. I have opened up more to one of my SIL with details of what my daily life is like because she seems to really care and get it.

My sisters who I adore & care just dont get it. My Mom (god love her) I cant tell the truth to because she gets too emotional. So I withhold most from her!

I also think when we decide to become parents & things go "normal/ok/well" that it reinforces that things are "good" for us when it could turn out the opposite just as easily.

HUGS to you my friend. I hope the next few weeks (if you last <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">) go well & I look forward to seeing another beautiful little girl in your signature!

 

[JazzysMom]

ANNE!

I UNDERSTAND! My family doesnt understand or gets upset/surprised when I go into the hospital thinking its a "fluke", but meanwhile I am struggling everyday not just the times I am sick enough to get admitted. Much of it is my fault. I hold alot in. I have opened up more to one of my SIL with details of what my daily life is like because she seems to really care and get it.

My sisters who I adore & care just dont get it. My Mom (god love her) I cant tell the truth to because she gets too emotional. So I withhold most from her!

I also think when we decide to become parents & things go "normal/ok/well" that it reinforces that things are "good" for us when it could turn out the opposite just as easily.

HUGS to you my friend. I hope the next few weeks (if you last <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">) go well & I look forward to seeing another beautiful little girl in your signature!

 

[JazzysMom]

ANNE!
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<br />I UNDERSTAND! My family doesnt understand or gets upset/surprised when I go into the hospital thinking its a "fluke", but meanwhile I am struggling everyday not just the times I am sick enough to get admitted. Much of it is my fault. I hold alot in. I have opened up more to one of my SIL with details of what my daily life is like because she seems to really care and get it.
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<br />My sisters who I adore & care just dont get it. My Mom (god love her) I cant tell the truth to because she gets too emotional. So I withhold most from her!
<br />
<br />I also think when we decide to become parents & things go "normal/ok/well" that it reinforces that things are "good" for us when it could turn out the opposite just as easily.
<br />
<br />HUGS to you my friend. I hope the next few weeks (if you last <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">) go well & I look forward to seeing another beautiful little girl in your signature!