CF and adoption

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ladybug

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Hello,
I'm just wondering if anyone with CF here has looked into, tried, or done a successful adoption? I have been told by one national agency that with CF I would probably be turned down because I don't have a "normal" life expectancy. However, I have also met a woman who says that she's adopted and knows others who have adopted with no problems. Any info? Thanks.

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anonymous

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Have you tried the following website: ReachingOutFoundation.org ? The young lady that started this organization has an adopted child & may be able to help you.
 
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ladybug

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I did just check out that website, and I didn't find anything saying that she adopted a child. Do you know that she has and how did you find out? How would I contact her? That is a good site overall though. Thanks.
 
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anonymous

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There is a man who has CF and has adopted I believe its two children, but maybe just one. So it is possible. I know he had an international adoption and I am not sure, but maybe international is easier to get approved. Sorry I know I am not a lot of help, but I just wanted you to know it CAN be done. I am hoping to adopt someday too.
 
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ORTONSGIRL84

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i have always thought that wen i am ready for a baby an dcan provide it a home i might adopt cos i am so scared to have baby from jo
 
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Dea

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Just from my own personal opinion...I do not believe it is legal. But...I do know a CF man and his wife who have adopted 2 children from another country...so it is possible! Good luck!
Dea
 
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idajune

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I have always heard too that it would be difficult if not impossible to be accepted to adopt a child in this country. International adoptions are another story all together. I think there are a lot of people who adopt out of country - even those without issues to stop them in this country - because it is easier, less red tape. I had a friend (w/o CF) adopt a girl from China, where there are just thousands of girls waiting to be adopted. I wonder what we as a CF community could do with the Government to help them understand we can take care of a child, maybe they feel it is better to keep a child in foster care or where ever rather than put them in our care - i think that is silly. As a single person with CF I would never adopt, but as a couple I would certainly consider it. I think of my future too, and I know that it could be considerably shorter than those without CF, but the chance of death is there for everyone - its just hard to get others to understand that.
 
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matthew

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I work in adoptions and yes it is illegal to discriminate based on race, ethnicity, sex, medical issues, etc. We do evaluate every family and match families to children based on their individual needs. We have many families with medical issues that have been matched and have successful adoptions. It is something that you should continue to pursue if it is your desire to have children. We do not do international adoptions so I cannot answer to that type of adoption, only us adoptions. I do have a son with CF and have also considered adoption as the route for our second child. My husband and I are at odds with this, so no final decision has been made as of yet.
 
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anonymous

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There are two people who write for the CFRoundtable that have adopted children. You might go to cfroundtable.com and look up Beth Sufian or Paul Feld (I might be mistaken, it could be Alex Maish). But I've wondered about the same things myself.
 
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ladybug

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I've spoken with Beth and she said she'd never heard of anyone being turned down for a child based solely on CF. She too was surprised that I had been told that by an agency.

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anonymous

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I was looking up other cf info and came across this site.
http://www.adoption.org/adopt/cystic-fibrosis-adoption.php
Not sure if it will help or not because I didn't spend any time on it.
 
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anonymous

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I am the first responder again and I'm pretty sure that I saw that she had adopted a girl in an article in the Roundtable newsletter/magazine a few years ago. which, by the way is an excellent newsletter if you guys do not get it. It's a magazine for adult PWCF written by adult PWCF. website: www.cfroundtable.com
 
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ladybug

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Thank you for the website.... I checked it out, but its for people adopting children with CF, not CFers adopting children. I appreciate you looking and letting me know about it though!

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anonymous

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I know this is an older thread, but I know how important this issue can be. My husband has CF and we adopted one child. It's possible, but I'm sure you have to pursue all avenues (we did) state, private, religious, and you have to start NOW because even though you'll hear stories about have fast others have received a child, it will more than likely take quite some time. We planned on adopting more, but the situations all fell through for one reason or another (one was a private adoption, and about two months before delivery the birth mother ended up getting her own attorney, who told our attorney there was NO WAY he would let her place her baby with us because of the CF). We finally decided God just wanted us to have one and count our blessings. I wish you the best and my prayers are with you. Don't give up and don't get discouraged.
 
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AbsintheSorrow

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I know this won't help.. and is pretty useless information, but the last post REALLY pissed me off. Not because of the poster or anything, just what the birth mother said. I understand the point, but it really pisses me off.
 
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anonymous

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Sadly, that's the way it is though Emily. I know one couple (neither have cf) who are trying to adopt. They were meeting with the birthmother again to finalize arrangements and brought family photos for her to see. She saw a distant relative of theirs whom she knew and did not like. She refused to place her child with that couple. PRetty stupid reasons for determining who will or won't be a good parent to your child...
 
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anonymous

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This is a big reason why my hubby and I have always wanted to adopt overseas. Not that it doesn't come with its own red tape, but I've never heard of a birthmother asking for a child back or refusing to give a child to a couple from the US. It seems so wrong to do that to people. But, I guess they have that right. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
 
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