rubyroselee
New member
Hello,
Now my situation is a bit different...my parter/wife had our son and she was able to take 12 weeks off and I was able to take 8 weeks. I exhausted all my time off and do not have short-term disability, so I actually went back to work after 5 weeks for financial reasons. I would have chosen to go back at that time anyways because I felt ready to go back to work already.
Now, if I carry the next baby (which is the plan), we will both go back to work after 8 weeks. I want to make sure that I have enough time to rest, recover, and get into a schedule. I'm the type of person that hates to just stay home (I could never be a stay-at-home mom) and I love going to work every day, so I'm sure I'll be ready after 8 weeks if all goes as planned.
I know from my experience with my son (who is now 4 months old) that it takes a lot of work and patience to have a baby. The middle of the night feedings, the crying, the spit up, etc. I can tell you that it is very exhausting. Hopefully you have some family nearby that can help watch the baby if you need some rest. We do not have any family nearby either, so it is just us and it's a lot harder without support.
But all that hard work and exhaustion brings tons of joy in your life. To see that little baby smiling back at you and knowing that you created such a beautiful human being is very rewarding.
My advice is to go back when you're ready...which will probably not be until you absolutely have to. Enjoy that time to bond with your baby.
Leah 26 w/CF, mom to non-biological son, hoping to get pregnant in the near future
Now my situation is a bit different...my parter/wife had our son and she was able to take 12 weeks off and I was able to take 8 weeks. I exhausted all my time off and do not have short-term disability, so I actually went back to work after 5 weeks for financial reasons. I would have chosen to go back at that time anyways because I felt ready to go back to work already.
Now, if I carry the next baby (which is the plan), we will both go back to work after 8 weeks. I want to make sure that I have enough time to rest, recover, and get into a schedule. I'm the type of person that hates to just stay home (I could never be a stay-at-home mom) and I love going to work every day, so I'm sure I'll be ready after 8 weeks if all goes as planned.
I know from my experience with my son (who is now 4 months old) that it takes a lot of work and patience to have a baby. The middle of the night feedings, the crying, the spit up, etc. I can tell you that it is very exhausting. Hopefully you have some family nearby that can help watch the baby if you need some rest. We do not have any family nearby either, so it is just us and it's a lot harder without support.
But all that hard work and exhaustion brings tons of joy in your life. To see that little baby smiling back at you and knowing that you created such a beautiful human being is very rewarding.
My advice is to go back when you're ready...which will probably not be until you absolutely have to. Enjoy that time to bond with your baby.
Leah 26 w/CF, mom to non-biological son, hoping to get pregnant in the near future