cf parents and depression

anonymous

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I was just wondering how many other parents of a cf child fight with there own depression and if so what do they do for it.
 

anonymous

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Well I am the one with CF, but I know my mom has depression issues, but she just denies it and won't go see anyone for it. It's not to the point where she can't do anything or stays in bed or any other big symptoms, but sometimes she gets overwhelmed and gets pretty upset. I don't blame her though, it must be tough.

Nicole 22 CF
 

anonymous

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I'm pretty sure I have some 'issues' with depression. My Mom and both sisters are on meds for depression and I know it helps them. I feel pretty confident that I have more stress than all three of them combined, but I don't want to go on meds yet. I try to control it by loving my kids and playing with them. I do all I can to keep my little CF'er healthy. When I put them to bed at night I love to run on the treadmill. It is a stress reliever for me. I have a dear friend that I can talk openly to and she knows when to listen and when to talk. My step mom in law is a great listener as well. Unfortunately my husband doesn't talk openly about anything and has contributed to some of my issues, but I rely on my kids, faith, friends and exercise to get me through my tough times.
 

anonymous

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Hi, I tend to use meditation and massage etc to release all my stress. Its wonderful to have 1hr every f/night or month to just lie down and let it all go. I decided to then learn massage and now work from home, my daughter loves her massages and she also does the relaxation tapes with me. (actually everyone in the family love doing them). It has me now doing an aromatherapy course so hope to incorporate my own oils etc soon into my little business. Another great stress buster is Reiki.
Good Luck
Paula
mum of Ashleigh 11 w/cf and Connor 13 wo/cf
 

anonymous

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I am a mom of a lovely young lady. I have cf but i was fortunate that my daughter did not get it. But i do know about caring for a sick child. For my daughter did get cancer. When she was 5 i was told that she had bone cancer. We have been through alot and have had to deal with depression. We relied on faith freinds and family to get us through. We enjoyed taking walks(well i walked she rode in her wheel chair). We limited ourselves to things that we knew would depress us And when she would allow me some time alone. I enjoyed my walks and thanked god for the angel he sent me. So my two cents worth take a break for yourself and do something you enjoy. I was always told that God would never put more on you than you could bear, but sometimes i think he was just checking me. I know it is hard but take care of yourself. And i ask not for pity because i still have my angel. I kiss her cheek every night and thank God that he sent me such a precious gift.
 

anonymous

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I am new to the forum...my daughter was diagnosed about 2 years ago. She is now 3 and doing well. I am starting to learn how to deal with my feelings. Talking with my husband helps, since he is truly the only one who knows how I feel. Our little girl is sick, not a niece or a friend, but the little one that we made together. He is a great strength & we lean on each other. He has dove into exercising because he feels if we set the example for our children, then a healthy lifestyle is how they will live (even our older son w/o CF). We try to stay optimistic & look to the future of science for Erin's continued success. We have recently gotten back into church. That has been wonderful and really helped. I try to have some time to myself everyday, but with two kids...not easy! I have also taken my husband's advice & started running again & we both want to do a triathalon. I gained weight after her diagnosis because I was so focused on her & getting her to gain weight, I forgot to take care of myself. The best advice is try to find someone you trust & that can understand how you feel. Keeping things bottled up only hurts. I was told by another cf mother that I will think about cf everday. She was right, now at least I don't think about it every hour! Also, educating myself helps. When she goes for her check-ups or starts another medication, if I am familiar with the terminology, I am not so overwhelmed. We also have decided to be a "cf family" if that makes any sense. We want Erin to know that we are in it together...all of us. We don't want her to be defined by an illness & want to give her the strength & courage she will need to live a full life. If you ever want to talk, you can email me at curecf@adelphia.net

Karon
Mother of Erin(3) w/CF & Jon(8) w/o CF
 
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