RE: CF Partner
I certainly have been there! I had to remind my husband (boyfriend at the time) that life is difficult regardless of CF and that inspite of it's difficulties and downsides, CF adds a bit of "flavor". You may want to talk to him (ask but don't push) to see what it is specifically he fels that he can't handle, and is it more his CF or a relationship. My husband had a hard time thinking about how he was going to support a wife (he was brought up in a family that was very much, MAN WORKS AND WOMAN IS IN THE KITCHEN) and it was difficult for him to realize that might not be the way our life works out, and then again it might, but right now I am content supporting him while he gets his degree and after he graduates until he can find a job that satisifies him and doesn't comprimise his health and treatmetns. My husband also though he would only live untik his late teens so he really "closed the door" to marriage, children and the future. There were some very difficult times when we had to talk about, "well you are alive now and it appears you will be for quite a while longer so please figure out what you want". Just remember to let him know you love him, you care for him and you are willing to be there for him and that you want to work through these issues together. Obviously some of these issues are personal and you are going to have to give him a little bit of space, but let him kno that you aren't going far. I had to do similarly with my husband, I would tell him, "well, I am going to give you some space to get this figured out, but I am not going far, I love you and will never leave you so just let me know.."
Hope that helps a bit, if you love him, don't let him go-sometimes all they (men in general) need is some space
Julie (wife to Mark 24 w/CF) Almost 3 years of Marriage!!!!!!!!!! (August 17th)
