40% does seem a bit low, that's around where mine is right now and I feel pretty bad. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> (you probably feel better because of exercising more than me, I would guess - keep it up!) So sorry about your loss on your previous attempt with a surro, I am sure you'll find someone willing to help.
Sorry I cannot offer to help you personally, I just wanted to wish you the best of luck and welcome you to our community. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">