I AM 26 YEARS OLD I AM STILL VERGIN I AM SO SCARED TO TRY THIS EXPERIENCE CAUSE MY DOCTOR TOLD ME IT S BETTER NOT TO DO EFFORT SPECIALLY SEX HE TOLD ME TO DO SOFT SPORTS LIKE STRETCHING,WALKING,....AND I WANT TO KNOW ALSO IF THE ORGASM OF A CF PERSON IS THE SAME AS THE OTHERS???? PLEASE I NEED HELP CAUSE I AM SO SCARED FROM THIS ISSUE AND I NEED ADVICES....
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CFperson and SEX!!!!!!!!!!!
- Thread starter lamita
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Well speaking as one who has been sexually active for some time I will give you MY experience. Not every CFer is the same. I dont know why your doctor would tell you such a thing. I personally have had problems with overexertion during intercourse & have even had hemoptysis, but that was during a very bad time in my health. As a rule I dont have problelms. If I become short of breath or cant do a lot of exerting then we experiment to find a mutual way that satisfies both of us. As far as orgasm.....I wouldnt know if it is the same for a CFer as anyone else since I have always had CF. I really dont see why not. The activities leading up to such might need to be a bit different because of various things associated with CF. Such as vaginal dryness, yeast infections & plain old exhaustion. Consider the sexual activities like any type of exercise. You have to pace yourself according to what you need. I also know that after making love that I am much more relaxed and breath better. Since you are still a virgin.....I wouldnt rush anything. I ??? why you are bringing this up at this point. If its because you have found someone you are willing to share that experience with, then in addition to the CF I would be concerned about making sure this is indeed what you want. If I could turn back time, I would have waited for my first experience. If you have additional questions, please feel free to ask!
Purplelungz
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What is your lung functoin like? I ask because maybe that will give some insight into why your doctor said you cant do any exersise but walking and streching. Most cf people I have talked to said their cf doctors all encourage any kind of exersise as long as you can tolerate it. They encourage exersising because it helps keep the lungs in shape for as long as possible, we need the extra help in that area.
As for sex the same rule applies as for exersise, do what you can as you can tolerate it. Are you asking about sex because your in a realationship and its at that point now? I say if your ready for sex and you have someone special to do it with, then do it. Talk to your partner and explain you havent done this before so you dont know how it will affect your breathing. While starting the act or in the middle even and your having problems tell your partner and you can figure out something else to "finish" the act. With the right partner you will find different ways to get around the cf aspects, such as shortness of breath, gettting tired fast, even dryness. I say the right partner because it takes someone you are going to be with for a while to help figure these things out. Just going randomly from person to person they might not understand why your getting short of breath so easy or why you need to rest for a little bit. (before anyone jumps on me im not saying its bad to randomly sleep with people I am saying for a cf person that has more lung involvement its easier if they have someone that their with to help and that understands).
As for orgasms i would think they are the same as anyone elses. I have a theory that every single person has their own unique orgasm thats just theirs and it feels different for everyone. Dont ask why I have this theory its just what I think because its something special that happens. Anyway I do think that it might be harder for a cf person to have an orgasm when their not feeling well, I think this from my own expeiriences.
**********Now I am going to suggest something that people will probably get offended by. So I warned you. If your already offended by the sex talk dont read any more. *******
Have you ever had an orgasm? You dont have to answer that, just in your mind. I suggest maybe experiementing with yourself and your body. That way you know what to expect and what feels good to you. After all you wont know how it will affect your breathing wise, or if you get tired unless you try. And if your experiementing with yourself your not having someone wait on you or anything. Then you will know for yourself if you can handle the act or not.
Let me just say that there are many positions that are easy on cfers, even other "things" that you and your partner can do to please one another without actually having sex. Again it just takes experience with experiementation with you and your partner.
Sorry if this was to much detail
As for sex the same rule applies as for exersise, do what you can as you can tolerate it. Are you asking about sex because your in a realationship and its at that point now? I say if your ready for sex and you have someone special to do it with, then do it. Talk to your partner and explain you havent done this before so you dont know how it will affect your breathing. While starting the act or in the middle even and your having problems tell your partner and you can figure out something else to "finish" the act. With the right partner you will find different ways to get around the cf aspects, such as shortness of breath, gettting tired fast, even dryness. I say the right partner because it takes someone you are going to be with for a while to help figure these things out. Just going randomly from person to person they might not understand why your getting short of breath so easy or why you need to rest for a little bit. (before anyone jumps on me im not saying its bad to randomly sleep with people I am saying for a cf person that has more lung involvement its easier if they have someone that their with to help and that understands).
As for orgasms i would think they are the same as anyone elses. I have a theory that every single person has their own unique orgasm thats just theirs and it feels different for everyone. Dont ask why I have this theory its just what I think because its something special that happens. Anyway I do think that it might be harder for a cf person to have an orgasm when their not feeling well, I think this from my own expeiriences.
**********Now I am going to suggest something that people will probably get offended by. So I warned you. If your already offended by the sex talk dont read any more. *******
Have you ever had an orgasm? You dont have to answer that, just in your mind. I suggest maybe experiementing with yourself and your body. That way you know what to expect and what feels good to you. After all you wont know how it will affect your breathing wise, or if you get tired unless you try. And if your experiementing with yourself your not having someone wait on you or anything. Then you will know for yourself if you can handle the act or not.
Let me just say that there are many positions that are easy on cfers, even other "things" that you and your partner can do to please one another without actually having sex. Again it just takes experience with experiementation with you and your partner.
Sorry if this was to much detail
supermanfan
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Melissa your answers are always with such patience... Love'm... but now it's my turn.
Come on people... your doctor told you not to have sex because it's over exerting? I can't see a doctor saying that... and I honestly can't see a grown woman asking such a question. Sorry if that seems rude, but really...
...and now I have to go laugh at myself because this is too funny for me... sorry if it's really true. What can I say? I can be a horrible horrible person <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
Come on people... your doctor told you not to have sex because it's over exerting? I can't see a doctor saying that... and I honestly can't see a grown woman asking such a question. Sorry if that seems rude, but really...
...and now I have to go laugh at myself because this is too funny for me... sorry if it's really true. What can I say? I can be a horrible horrible person <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
Im glad this issue was brought up. I'd like to add my opinion.... For the past 4 years, I've been having sex on a regular basis and I find that my lung function is way higher then it's ever been in my life! So I think whatever doctor told you not to do anything strenuous is full of it, its all about what you can handle.
Purplelungz
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well supermanfan the way i look at it is, even if she isnt the age she is saying, or its just someone trying to start something, or even if its real.... there is no harm in answering the questions because someone else might be wanting to know the same thing but to scared to ask. and its not as uncommon as you think that grown women havent had sex or know anything.
sex is good for you and will be good for your lungs to exercise!
Just be careful with choosing a partner and using some protection so you can have 'safer sex' no such thing as safe sex. So good luck, have fun with it and knock yourself out (and your partner too.)
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Just be careful with choosing a partner and using some protection so you can have 'safer sex' no such thing as safe sex. So good luck, have fun with it and knock yourself out (and your partner too.)
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As long as you have safe sex, there's no problem. At least that's what I've found. My FEV1 is somewhere in the lower fifties to upper fourties, and I have no problem doing 'the deed', even though sometimes I do get short of breath. As far as an orgasm...without getting too personal, I've never had an issue with it, and I imagine it's the same as any other 'normal' woman's. I usually have a short coughing fit afterwards because of the strain on my body, but other than that, no issues. The only advice I can offer is to do your therapy beforehand (if possible) to make it easier on yourself. If you can't do the whole thing, take a puff from an albuterol inhaler to open up your lungs. Plus, it's a good workout, so don't be afraid to try it. Heck, it might actually HELP your lung function instead of hurting it!
I don't find it unusual for someone to ask their doctor this question. Especially if this person is possibly newly diagnosed and is still trying to cope with their illness and find out everything they can. CF does affect the lungs & heart - as well as many other organs. Would you find it inappropriate/strange if someone with a heart condition would ask their doctor about sex?
supermanfan
New member
<blockquote>Quote<br><hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>Purplelungz</b></i><br>well supermanfan the way i look at it is, even if she isnt the age she is saying, or its just someone trying to start something, or even if its real.... there is no harm in answering the questions because someone else might be wanting to know the same thing but to scared to ask. and its not as uncommon as you think that grown women havent had sex or know anything.<hr></blockquote>
I totally agree with you, and like I said, I love Melissa's response <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
I was just in a devilish mood lol but I saw melissa's other thread that put some names together, so it does look suspicious <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
I totally agree with you, and like I said, I love Melissa's response <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
I was just in a devilish mood lol but I saw melissa's other thread that put some names together, so it does look suspicious <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
thelizardqueen
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I don't usually have problems with overexerting myself during sex - that being said I have a mild case of CF in my lungs and its more focused in my digestive tract. I have on occasion though had hemoptysis. Its nothing I usually worry myself over though because its only happened a couple of times. I guess it all depends on how advanced your CF is in your lungs.
<blockquote>Quote<br><hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>SeanDavis</b></i><br>The only time I overexert myself during sex is when they run farther away than usual...I wish they wouldn't do that <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"><hr></blockquote>
Now that's funny...good stuff!
Now that's funny...good stuff!