considering a 3rd - need advice

[NancyLKF]

I'm pregnant with #2 and don't know if she has CF or not. It's hard. I have been able to focus on other things luckily, otherwise the wonder and fear would be eating me alive. She is due in early December so I will let everyone here know what her CF status turns out to be, but in the meantime I am already thinking of a third child but it will depend on this one's CF status.
<br />If you want another child than I fully support you. It is a personal decision, as everyone says, so don't let any fears about what people will say play a part in your decision. At the CF walk last week I wondered what people thought of me all huge and pregnant with a 2 year old with CF. Of course, no one said anything, but I still worry that they judge me. The best part is everyone at clinic is supportive, even the doctors.
<br />So go forward with what decision is best for your family and stand tall in that decision. It is hard to have a kid with CF so I'm guessing it's even harder to have 2 with CF. Tough decision, I know. PM me if you want.

 

[LouLou]

Also just while we are throwing options out there I know some mom's that can conceive easily and don't have alot of moral issues with this get the baby tested through amnio (or maybe it's CVS) and then abort if it has cf....and try again. It's much less expensive than PGD but for me would cut. my. heart. out.

 

[LouLou]

Also just while we are throwing options out there I know some mom's that can conceive easily and don't have alot of moral issues with this get the baby tested through amnio (or maybe it's CVS) and then abort if it has cf....and try again. It's much less expensive than PGD but for me would cut. my. heart. out.

 

[LouLou]

Also just while we are throwing options out there I know some mom's that can conceive easily and don't have alot of moral issues with this get the baby tested through amnio (or maybe it's CVS) and then abort if it has cf....and try again. It's much less expensive than PGD but for me would cut. my. heart. out.

 

[ashmomo]

We had a second. Our first was 4 and had no issues thus far. Our second came out w/ CF, obstruction, surgery, we have been SO busy w/ docs and hospitals since her birth! She has SO many issues. Still some yet to be figured out esp weight gain. Not saying that will be your experience.
I THOUGHT that I would test at 3 months and possibly abort at that point. BUT that is not the case when the baby is in you growing. You change your mind. She is my sweet girl and I would not give her up for anything. I just blame myself sometimes that her health is so messed up. It hurt me to see her go through stuff <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">( Yet, I know I wanted another child. I am happy I had her, just guilty sometimes.
I remember when I was pregnant, we would be doing Ashlee's nebs and ask each other "imagine doing this to 2 of them every day"...we couldn't imagine...but NOW we do 3 times as much for Jordin than our first born! We are BUSY! I NEVER imagined it being this hard. Never imagined that Jordin's health would be SO much worse that Ashlee EVER has been. And Ashlee had her first admission to within the last year. I also never knew a whole lot about CF and what people go through til just before Jordin was born and I started communicating wtih the CF community. I had no idea. It was a state of denial since Ashlee was so healthy her life.

PM me if you want to know anything more specific. I would be more than happy to chat <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">) I hope you make the right choice for yourselves <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">) They are right...some may put you down on this site for having another and risking it...but it is all personal opinions, so don't take anything personally. You ultimitely have to make the decision in the end.

 

[ashmomo]

We had a second. Our first was 4 and had no issues thus far. Our second came out w/ CF, obstruction, surgery, we have been SO busy w/ docs and hospitals since her birth! She has SO many issues. Still some yet to be figured out esp weight gain. Not saying that will be your experience.
I THOUGHT that I would test at 3 months and possibly abort at that point. BUT that is not the case when the baby is in you growing. You change your mind. She is my sweet girl and I would not give her up for anything. I just blame myself sometimes that her health is so messed up. It hurt me to see her go through stuff <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">( Yet, I know I wanted another child. I am happy I had her, just guilty sometimes.
I remember when I was pregnant, we would be doing Ashlee's nebs and ask each other "imagine doing this to 2 of them every day"...we couldn't imagine...but NOW we do 3 times as much for Jordin than our first born! We are BUSY! I NEVER imagined it being this hard. Never imagined that Jordin's health would be SO much worse that Ashlee EVER has been. And Ashlee had her first admission to within the last year. I also never knew a whole lot about CF and what people go through til just before Jordin was born and I started communicating wtih the CF community. I had no idea. It was a state of denial since Ashlee was so healthy her life.

PM me if you want to know anything more specific. I would be more than happy to chat <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">) I hope you make the right choice for yourselves <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">) They are right...some may put you down on this site for having another and risking it...but it is all personal opinions, so don't take anything personally. You ultimitely have to make the decision in the end.

 

[ashmomo]

We had a second. Our first was 4 and had no issues thus far. Our second came out w/ CF, obstruction, surgery, we have been SO busy w/ docs and hospitals since her birth! She has SO many issues. Still some yet to be figured out esp weight gain. Not saying that will be your experience.
<br />I THOUGHT that I would test at 3 months and possibly abort at that point. BUT that is not the case when the baby is in you growing. You change your mind. She is my sweet girl and I would not give her up for anything. I just blame myself sometimes that her health is so messed up. It hurt me to see her go through stuff <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">( Yet, I know I wanted another child. I am happy I had her, just guilty sometimes.
<br />I remember when I was pregnant, we would be doing Ashlee's nebs and ask each other "imagine doing this to 2 of them every day"...we couldn't imagine...but NOW we do 3 times as much for Jordin than our first born! We are BUSY! I NEVER imagined it being this hard. Never imagined that Jordin's health would be SO much worse that Ashlee EVER has been. And Ashlee had her first admission to within the last year. I also never knew a whole lot about CF and what people go through til just before Jordin was born and I started communicating wtih the CF community. I had no idea. It was a state of denial since Ashlee was so healthy her life.
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<br />PM me if you want to know anything more specific. I would be more than happy to chat <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">) I hope you make the right choice for yourselves <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">) They are right...some may put you down on this site for having another and risking it...but it is all personal opinions, so don't take anything personally. You ultimitely have to make the decision in the end.

 

[SadiesMom]

I am pregnant with our second and do not know if he has CF or not (I couldn't bring myself to find out for a variety of reasons). We didn't plan this pregnancy and had we, we probably would have taken a different route to ensure he didn't have CF, but alas, life is what happens when you are busy making other plans. Overall I think this is a personal decision, but you'll probably get lots of advice regardless. For me, had we planned this out better, I think I would want to talk to someone who has more than one child with CF and see how they handle their day-to-day lives, what if anything, they would have done differently, etc.

 

[SadiesMom]

I am pregnant with our second and do not know if he has CF or not (I couldn't bring myself to find out for a variety of reasons). We didn't plan this pregnancy and had we, we probably would have taken a different route to ensure he didn't have CF, but alas, life is what happens when you are busy making other plans. Overall I think this is a personal decision, but you'll probably get lots of advice regardless. For me, had we planned this out better, I think I would want to talk to someone who has more than one child with CF and see how they handle their day-to-day lives, what if anything, they would have done differently, etc.

 

[SadiesMom]

I am pregnant with our second and do not know if he has CF or not (I couldn't bring myself to find out for a variety of reasons). We didn't plan this pregnancy and had we, we probably would have taken a different route to ensure he didn't have CF, but alas, life is what happens when you are busy making other plans. Overall I think this is a personal decision, but you'll probably get lots of advice regardless. For me, had we planned this out better, I think I would want to talk to someone who has more than one child with CF and see how they handle their day-to-day lives, what if anything, they would have done differently, etc.