Coping

[Breezy]

Do you think that since you have health issues, or have dealt with a family member(s) that has some, that you cope with other problems better? For myself i find that despite all of my medical issues, i deal with other problems a lot better than my friends my age and parents even sometimes. I know that with having health issues, it causes us to grow up slightly faster and take on responsibility at an earlier age, and i'm starting to feel/realize that b/c of it, i deal with things a lot better.

Could it be that we see that 'problems', no matter how big or small in magnitude, aren't really that bad when there are other issues that concern us that are much more....what's the word....dier?....important?

For myself personally, i don't freak out over anything. I take a very calm approach to things. I've learned not to get worked up over things b/c really, regardless of the outcome, it will eventually be ok.....with other things, that's not always a guaruntee.

Does anyone else feel this way??

 

[Breezy]

Do you think that since you have health issues, or have dealt with a family member(s) that has some, that you cope with other problems better? For myself i find that despite all of my medical issues, i deal with other problems a lot better than my friends my age and parents even sometimes. I know that with having health issues, it causes us to grow up slightly faster and take on responsibility at an earlier age, and i'm starting to feel/realize that b/c of it, i deal with things a lot better.

Could it be that we see that 'problems', no matter how big or small in magnitude, aren't really that bad when there are other issues that concern us that are much more....what's the word....dier?....important?

For myself personally, i don't freak out over anything. I take a very calm approach to things. I've learned not to get worked up over things b/c really, regardless of the outcome, it will eventually be ok.....with other things, that's not always a guaruntee.

Does anyone else feel this way??

 

[Breezy]

Do you think that since you have health issues, or have dealt with a family member(s) that has some, that you cope with other problems better? For myself i find that despite all of my medical issues, i deal with other problems a lot better than my friends my age and parents even sometimes. I know that with having health issues, it causes us to grow up slightly faster and take on responsibility at an earlier age, and i'm starting to feel/realize that b/c of it, i deal with things a lot better.

Could it be that we see that 'problems', no matter how big or small in magnitude, aren't really that bad when there are other issues that concern us that are much more....what's the word....dier?....important?

For myself personally, i don't freak out over anything. I take a very calm approach to things. I've learned not to get worked up over things b/c really, regardless of the outcome, it will eventually be ok.....with other things, that's not always a guaruntee.

Does anyone else feel this way??

 

[NoExcuses]

I think you're dead on. Having CF puts life into perspective.

People I know have drama, troubles, etc. that for me would just roll off my back. Guy drama, work drama, "what should I do with my life" aka quarter life crisis drama.

CF gives you incredible coping skills - and I think your observation shows how very wise you are. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[NoExcuses]

I think you're dead on. Having CF puts life into perspective.

People I know have drama, troubles, etc. that for me would just roll off my back. Guy drama, work drama, "what should I do with my life" aka quarter life crisis drama.

CF gives you incredible coping skills - and I think your observation shows how very wise you are. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[NoExcuses]

I think you're dead on. Having CF puts life into perspective.

People I know have drama, troubles, etc. that for me would just roll off my back. Guy drama, work drama, "what should I do with my life" aka quarter life crisis drama.

CF gives you incredible coping skills - and I think your observation shows how very wise you are. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[MCGrad2006]

I agree exactly too. You put it right when you say that we have to grow up that much faster than others that may be the same age. i feel often times that I am more mature (not in a mean way to my friends) than many of my friends that are the same ages as me. I def. agree with the less drama things. When I am hanging out with my college friends, even the ones I still have from high school...I sometimes find myself sitting back and just taking it all in. I just think wow...if you have that problem, what would you do if you had CF or something worse? Sometimes it bothers me that my friends can be that way especially in front of me, but I try not to be catty, I just take it all in.

I also feel like I put up with a lot more in regards to my friends. This may just be my personality (not due to CF). It probably has something to do with what Amy says, that many of my friends have drama, that I dont really want to deal with...but I feel like I always want to make people happy. I give them the benefit of the doubt and forgive easier than they might do. Like I said, drama isnt one of my 'friends', so if something happens between me and a friend, I forgive them a lot easier...b/c I know that its not a big deal in the scheme of things. There could be a much bigger problem that will affect my life longer, so I just forgive and forget. I hope this makes sense!

 

[MCGrad2006]

I agree exactly too. You put it right when you say that we have to grow up that much faster than others that may be the same age. i feel often times that I am more mature (not in a mean way to my friends) than many of my friends that are the same ages as me. I def. agree with the less drama things. When I am hanging out with my college friends, even the ones I still have from high school...I sometimes find myself sitting back and just taking it all in. I just think wow...if you have that problem, what would you do if you had CF or something worse? Sometimes it bothers me that my friends can be that way especially in front of me, but I try not to be catty, I just take it all in.

I also feel like I put up with a lot more in regards to my friends. This may just be my personality (not due to CF). It probably has something to do with what Amy says, that many of my friends have drama, that I dont really want to deal with...but I feel like I always want to make people happy. I give them the benefit of the doubt and forgive easier than they might do. Like I said, drama isnt one of my 'friends', so if something happens between me and a friend, I forgive them a lot easier...b/c I know that its not a big deal in the scheme of things. There could be a much bigger problem that will affect my life longer, so I just forgive and forget. I hope this makes sense!

 

[MCGrad2006]

I agree exactly too. You put it right when you say that we have to grow up that much faster than others that may be the same age. i feel often times that I am more mature (not in a mean way to my friends) than many of my friends that are the same ages as me. I def. agree with the less drama things. When I am hanging out with my college friends, even the ones I still have from high school...I sometimes find myself sitting back and just taking it all in. I just think wow...if you have that problem, what would you do if you had CF or something worse? Sometimes it bothers me that my friends can be that way especially in front of me, but I try not to be catty, I just take it all in.

I also feel like I put up with a lot more in regards to my friends. This may just be my personality (not due to CF). It probably has something to do with what Amy says, that many of my friends have drama, that I dont really want to deal with...but I feel like I always want to make people happy. I give them the benefit of the doubt and forgive easier than they might do. Like I said, drama isnt one of my 'friends', so if something happens between me and a friend, I forgive them a lot easier...b/c I know that its not a big deal in the scheme of things. There could be a much bigger problem that will affect my life longer, so I just forgive and forget. I hope this makes sense!

 

[coltsfan715]

I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. I know some people with CF that spaz over everything great or small. Then I see myself and there are somethings that are not too big of a deal that I just can't handle, but then there are huge things that I just say okay whatever - I can't do anything to change it so what is the sense in worrying about it. Like you said it will all work out. Then I still see others who let everything roll off their back like nothing happened at all.

I have noticed for myself I have seemed to care less about silly stupid things in recent months - as my health has changed - than I did even 1 year ago. I have realized - as I have said to Kurt a hundred times - I have other more important $h!t to deal with, so petty things just don't bother me anymore. Who cares if someone took my favorite pair of shoes. I may carry on over it for about 2 seconds but really honestly who cares. There are other shoes. That is not to say that I don't have my hang ups cause there are some things that just irk me to no end - always have and always will lol - but in general.

It is all about perspective. That is what I try telling some of my friends who think life is so freaking difficult - it is what you make it most times. If you think it is hard it will be hard, but if you get your head out of your butt and look around you will realize there are more good/great things to be had than bad ones.

You can find peace and happiness in anything if you look hard enough - sometimes it just takes looking a little longer and harder than others.

Take Care,
Lindsey

 

[coltsfan715]

I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. I know some people with CF that spaz over everything great or small. Then I see myself and there are somethings that are not too big of a deal that I just can't handle, but then there are huge things that I just say okay whatever - I can't do anything to change it so what is the sense in worrying about it. Like you said it will all work out. Then I still see others who let everything roll off their back like nothing happened at all.

I have noticed for myself I have seemed to care less about silly stupid things in recent months - as my health has changed - than I did even 1 year ago. I have realized - as I have said to Kurt a hundred times - I have other more important $h!t to deal with, so petty things just don't bother me anymore. Who cares if someone took my favorite pair of shoes. I may carry on over it for about 2 seconds but really honestly who cares. There are other shoes. That is not to say that I don't have my hang ups cause there are some things that just irk me to no end - always have and always will lol - but in general.

It is all about perspective. That is what I try telling some of my friends who think life is so freaking difficult - it is what you make it most times. If you think it is hard it will be hard, but if you get your head out of your butt and look around you will realize there are more good/great things to be had than bad ones.

You can find peace and happiness in anything if you look hard enough - sometimes it just takes looking a little longer and harder than others.

Take Care,
Lindsey

 

[coltsfan715]

I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. I know some people with CF that spaz over everything great or small. Then I see myself and there are somethings that are not too big of a deal that I just can't handle, but then there are huge things that I just say okay whatever - I can't do anything to change it so what is the sense in worrying about it. Like you said it will all work out. Then I still see others who let everything roll off their back like nothing happened at all.

I have noticed for myself I have seemed to care less about silly stupid things in recent months - as my health has changed - than I did even 1 year ago. I have realized - as I have said to Kurt a hundred times - I have other more important $h!t to deal with, so petty things just don't bother me anymore. Who cares if someone took my favorite pair of shoes. I may carry on over it for about 2 seconds but really honestly who cares. There are other shoes. That is not to say that I don't have my hang ups cause there are some things that just irk me to no end - always have and always will lol - but in general.

It is all about perspective. That is what I try telling some of my friends who think life is so freaking difficult - it is what you make it most times. If you think it is hard it will be hard, but if you get your head out of your butt and look around you will realize there are more good/great things to be had than bad ones.

You can find peace and happiness in anything if you look hard enough - sometimes it just takes looking a little longer and harder than others.

Take Care,
Lindsey

 

[KrazyKat]

Hmmm, interesting post and got me thinking. I'm a mixture of both relaxed/calm and staunch/take no ***** - as a result of having CF i think, although I was reasonably staunch as a child too before I knew about my CF...so perhaps Lindsay is correct that basic nature factors into this also.
I don't stress over stupid stuff and actively avoid drama queens in my life...they annoy me, tax my emotional strength and wear me out - they are blood suckers and I avoid them like the plague. I actively avoid stress on a daily basis - if someone is abslutely firing me up and i can't smack em one <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">, i'll walk away and leave them to it.
I also don't take any sort of constant bad treatment from my friends, my family or my lovers. Every one stuffs up, everyone has bad days, I will never flick somebody off over an isolated incident - but if somebody repeatedly treats me badly, is selfish, uncaring, rude or lazy and they expect me to put up with it? More fool them, i'll cut them outta my life and never look back. I have enough to deal with, more so than any of my friends, I never treat others badly and simply won't tolerate anybody doing it to me. My mum put it nicely by saying i was always a 'willful' child....i'm also a 'wilfull' adult hehe <img src="i/expressions/devil.gif" border="0">

 

[KrazyKat]

Hmmm, interesting post and got me thinking. I'm a mixture of both relaxed/calm and staunch/take no ***** - as a result of having CF i think, although I was reasonably staunch as a child too before I knew about my CF...so perhaps Lindsay is correct that basic nature factors into this also.
I don't stress over stupid stuff and actively avoid drama queens in my life...they annoy me, tax my emotional strength and wear me out - they are blood suckers and I avoid them like the plague. I actively avoid stress on a daily basis - if someone is abslutely firing me up and i can't smack em one <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">, i'll walk away and leave them to it.
I also don't take any sort of constant bad treatment from my friends, my family or my lovers. Every one stuffs up, everyone has bad days, I will never flick somebody off over an isolated incident - but if somebody repeatedly treats me badly, is selfish, uncaring, rude or lazy and they expect me to put up with it? More fool them, i'll cut them outta my life and never look back. I have enough to deal with, more so than any of my friends, I never treat others badly and simply won't tolerate anybody doing it to me. My mum put it nicely by saying i was always a 'willful' child....i'm also a 'wilfull' adult hehe <img src="i/expressions/devil.gif" border="0">

 

[KrazyKat]

Hmmm, interesting post and got me thinking. I'm a mixture of both relaxed/calm and staunch/take no ***** - as a result of having CF i think, although I was reasonably staunch as a child too before I knew about my CF...so perhaps Lindsay is correct that basic nature factors into this also.
I don't stress over stupid stuff and actively avoid drama queens in my life...they annoy me, tax my emotional strength and wear me out - they are blood suckers and I avoid them like the plague. I actively avoid stress on a daily basis - if someone is abslutely firing me up and i can't smack em one <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">, i'll walk away and leave them to it.
I also don't take any sort of constant bad treatment from my friends, my family or my lovers. Every one stuffs up, everyone has bad days, I will never flick somebody off over an isolated incident - but if somebody repeatedly treats me badly, is selfish, uncaring, rude or lazy and they expect me to put up with it? More fool them, i'll cut them outta my life and never look back. I have enough to deal with, more so than any of my friends, I never treat others badly and simply won't tolerate anybody doing it to me. My mum put it nicely by saying i was always a 'willful' child....i'm also a 'wilfull' adult hehe <img src="i/expressions/devil.gif" border="0">

 

[JazzysMom]

I have gotten better over the years. I do think much of it is ones personality & environment raised in as well as the maturity factor. I still tend to nit pick at little things, but I thinks thats more of a control issue (easier to bitch about the little things I can do something about then things like CF that are harder to control) then it is coping. Although I guess they can be intertwined. Compared to many other people that dont have any "real" issues in life even with my nit picking I handles things pretty good. IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.

 

[JazzysMom]

I have gotten better over the years. I do think much of it is ones personality & environment raised in as well as the maturity factor. I still tend to nit pick at little things, but I thinks thats more of a control issue (easier to bitch about the little things I can do something about then things like CF that are harder to control) then it is coping. Although I guess they can be intertwined. Compared to many other people that dont have any "real" issues in life even with my nit picking I handles things pretty good. IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.

 

[JazzysMom]

I have gotten better over the years. I do think much of it is ones personality & environment raised in as well as the maturity factor. I still tend to nit pick at little things, but I thinks thats more of a control issue (easier to bitch about the little things I can do something about then things like CF that are harder to control) then it is coping. Although I guess they can be intertwined. Compared to many other people that dont have any "real" issues in life even with my nit picking I handles things pretty good. IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.

 

[nicolaj]

i agree also. whenever im worried about something small,i always think to myself that i have bigger problems, like my health to focus on.

nicola xxxx

 

[nicolaj]

i agree also. whenever im worried about something small,i always think to myself that i have bigger problems, like my health to focus on.

nicola xxxx