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Coping
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Funny you should mention that- I think you are right, for a good many people. I remember being a teenager and something happened that would at least be disconcerting for most people my age, if not upsetting if it happened to them, and my mom told me "I sure am glad you adjust so easily". That did throw me for a loop-LOL. It had just never occurred to me- maybe because nothing really had thrown me, except when they told me I had to have my gallbladder out, and I cried (I think me crying disturbed my mom more than the news that I had to have surgery- she wasn't expecting the crying<img src="">)
I also don't care a whole lot about the things- name brand clothes, fancy car, perfect house, latest gizmo. I think some of it is my personality- I don't get excited about much<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">, and some of it comes from knowing that, in the end, none of that matters<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. An average, "normal" day is a great day.
I also don't care a whole lot about the things- name brand clothes, fancy car, perfect house, latest gizmo. I think some of it is my personality- I don't get excited about much<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">, and some of it comes from knowing that, in the end, none of that matters<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. An average, "normal" day is a great day.
Funny you should mention that- I think you are right, for a good many people. I remember being a teenager and something happened that would at least be disconcerting for most people my age, if not upsetting if it happened to them, and my mom told me "I sure am glad you adjust so easily". That did throw me for a loop-LOL. It had just never occurred to me- maybe because nothing really had thrown me, except when they told me I had to have my gallbladder out, and I cried (I think me crying disturbed my mom more than the news that I had to have surgery- she wasn't expecting the crying<img src="">)
I also don't care a whole lot about the things- name brand clothes, fancy car, perfect house, latest gizmo. I think some of it is my personality- I don't get excited about much<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">, and some of it comes from knowing that, in the end, none of that matters<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. An average, "normal" day is a great day.
I also don't care a whole lot about the things- name brand clothes, fancy car, perfect house, latest gizmo. I think some of it is my personality- I don't get excited about much<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">, and some of it comes from knowing that, in the end, none of that matters<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. An average, "normal" day is a great day.
Funny you should mention that- I think you are right, for a good many people. I remember being a teenager and something happened that would at least be disconcerting for most people my age, if not upsetting if it happened to them, and my mom told me "I sure am glad you adjust so easily". That did throw me for a loop-LOL. It had just never occurred to me- maybe because nothing really had thrown me, except when they told me I had to have my gallbladder out, and I cried (I think me crying disturbed my mom more than the news that I had to have surgery- she wasn't expecting the crying<img src="">)
I also don't care a whole lot about the things- name brand clothes, fancy car, perfect house, latest gizmo. I think some of it is my personality- I don't get excited about much<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">, and some of it comes from knowing that, in the end, none of that matters<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. An average, "normal" day is a great day.
I also don't care a whole lot about the things- name brand clothes, fancy car, perfect house, latest gizmo. I think some of it is my personality- I don't get excited about much<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">, and some of it comes from knowing that, in the end, none of that matters<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. An average, "normal" day is a great day.
I know Mark handles things a lot better than I do! I think some of it has to do with personality types, and the rest has to do with what Mark goes through/has been through regarding all the CF stuff. I am pretty convinced he handles things differently AND better because of the CF.
I know Mark handles things a lot better than I do! I think some of it has to do with personality types, and the rest has to do with what Mark goes through/has been through regarding all the CF stuff. I am pretty convinced he handles things differently AND better because of the CF.
I know Mark handles things a lot better than I do! I think some of it has to do with personality types, and the rest has to do with what Mark goes through/has been through regarding all the CF stuff. I am pretty convinced he handles things differently AND better because of the CF.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>JazzysMom</b></i>
IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.</end quote></div>
You make a good point here Melissa and I am the same....when sick, react more emotionally and with less logic than i normally would. This is the time where small things can get to me...as they all just seem like the last straw.
IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.</end quote></div>
You make a good point here Melissa and I am the same....when sick, react more emotionally and with less logic than i normally would. This is the time where small things can get to me...as they all just seem like the last straw.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>JazzysMom</b></i>
IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.</end quote></div>
You make a good point here Melissa and I am the same....when sick, react more emotionally and with less logic than i normally would. This is the time where small things can get to me...as they all just seem like the last straw.
IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.</end quote></div>
You make a good point here Melissa and I am the same....when sick, react more emotionally and with less logic than i normally would. This is the time where small things can get to me...as they all just seem like the last straw.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>JazzysMom</b></i>
IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.</end quote></div>
You make a good point here Melissa and I am the same....when sick, react more emotionally and with less logic than i normally would. This is the time where small things can get to me...as they all just seem like the last straw.
IF I am really, really sick I tend to be more emotional when having to handle situations. Thats just because I dont have any more to give usually.</end quote></div>
You make a good point here Melissa and I am the same....when sick, react more emotionally and with less logic than i normally would. This is the time where small things can get to me...as they all just seem like the last straw.
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65rosessamurai
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I agree with Lindsey's comment:
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. </end quote></div>
And about perspective.
I may had developed a form of patience, perhaps due to the constant stomach aches I had during my childhood, but I don't think I handled too many things well, like girlfriend troubles and such, because I also considered myself a little bit 'sensitive' at times.
I feel I had a major 'awakening' during the last two years of my previous marriage, which had drastically changed my personal perspective, but I think one thing I may never be able to handle is the MIL, because as long as 'IT IS ALIVE', it'll be one thing I may never overcome. I was very open with the MIL in the early days of meeting her, but after so many obstacles she had 'thrown' in front of me, I found out yesterday that I just no longer have the patience for her. Perhaps it's the downside to some of the things I had to learn from my previous marriage (to which I'm sometimes haunted by), or it's the way I decided not to take any more S*** from someone who shows no respect for me.
I might be a "rare few" who didn't necessarily "grow up" like most others, perhaps because I let too many of the important things go, and got uptight about the things that weren't such a big deal...?
Anyway, I feel for the most part, not only have I learned to cope much better, I had been able to feel the confidence to take the lead in some parts of my life, one major part is in regards to my marriage.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. </end quote></div>
And about perspective.
I may had developed a form of patience, perhaps due to the constant stomach aches I had during my childhood, but I don't think I handled too many things well, like girlfriend troubles and such, because I also considered myself a little bit 'sensitive' at times.
I feel I had a major 'awakening' during the last two years of my previous marriage, which had drastically changed my personal perspective, but I think one thing I may never be able to handle is the MIL, because as long as 'IT IS ALIVE', it'll be one thing I may never overcome. I was very open with the MIL in the early days of meeting her, but after so many obstacles she had 'thrown' in front of me, I found out yesterday that I just no longer have the patience for her. Perhaps it's the downside to some of the things I had to learn from my previous marriage (to which I'm sometimes haunted by), or it's the way I decided not to take any more S*** from someone who shows no respect for me.
I might be a "rare few" who didn't necessarily "grow up" like most others, perhaps because I let too many of the important things go, and got uptight about the things that weren't such a big deal...?
Anyway, I feel for the most part, not only have I learned to cope much better, I had been able to feel the confidence to take the lead in some parts of my life, one major part is in regards to my marriage.
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65rosessamurai
Guest
I agree with Lindsey's comment:
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. </end quote></div>
And about perspective.
I may had developed a form of patience, perhaps due to the constant stomach aches I had during my childhood, but I don't think I handled too many things well, like girlfriend troubles and such, because I also considered myself a little bit 'sensitive' at times.
I feel I had a major 'awakening' during the last two years of my previous marriage, which had drastically changed my personal perspective, but I think one thing I may never be able to handle is the MIL, because as long as 'IT IS ALIVE', it'll be one thing I may never overcome. I was very open with the MIL in the early days of meeting her, but after so many obstacles she had 'thrown' in front of me, I found out yesterday that I just no longer have the patience for her. Perhaps it's the downside to some of the things I had to learn from my previous marriage (to which I'm sometimes haunted by), or it's the way I decided not to take any more S*** from someone who shows no respect for me.
I might be a "rare few" who didn't necessarily "grow up" like most others, perhaps because I let too many of the important things go, and got uptight about the things that weren't such a big deal...?
Anyway, I feel for the most part, not only have I learned to cope much better, I had been able to feel the confidence to take the lead in some parts of my life, one major part is in regards to my marriage.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. </end quote></div>
And about perspective.
I may had developed a form of patience, perhaps due to the constant stomach aches I had during my childhood, but I don't think I handled too many things well, like girlfriend troubles and such, because I also considered myself a little bit 'sensitive' at times.
I feel I had a major 'awakening' during the last two years of my previous marriage, which had drastically changed my personal perspective, but I think one thing I may never be able to handle is the MIL, because as long as 'IT IS ALIVE', it'll be one thing I may never overcome. I was very open with the MIL in the early days of meeting her, but after so many obstacles she had 'thrown' in front of me, I found out yesterday that I just no longer have the patience for her. Perhaps it's the downside to some of the things I had to learn from my previous marriage (to which I'm sometimes haunted by), or it's the way I decided not to take any more S*** from someone who shows no respect for me.
I might be a "rare few" who didn't necessarily "grow up" like most others, perhaps because I let too many of the important things go, and got uptight about the things that weren't such a big deal...?
Anyway, I feel for the most part, not only have I learned to cope much better, I had been able to feel the confidence to take the lead in some parts of my life, one major part is in regards to my marriage.
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65rosessamurai
Guest
I agree with Lindsey's comment:
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. </end quote></div>
And about perspective.
I may had developed a form of patience, perhaps due to the constant stomach aches I had during my childhood, but I don't think I handled too many things well, like girlfriend troubles and such, because I also considered myself a little bit 'sensitive' at times.
I feel I had a major 'awakening' during the last two years of my previous marriage, which had drastically changed my personal perspective, but I think one thing I may never be able to handle is the MIL, because as long as 'IT IS ALIVE', it'll be one thing I may never overcome. I was very open with the MIL in the early days of meeting her, but after so many obstacles she had 'thrown' in front of me, I found out yesterday that I just no longer have the patience for her. Perhaps it's the downside to some of the things I had to learn from my previous marriage (to which I'm sometimes haunted by), or it's the way I decided not to take any more S*** from someone who shows no respect for me.
I might be a "rare few" who didn't necessarily "grow up" like most others, perhaps because I let too many of the important things go, and got uptight about the things that weren't such a big deal...?
Anyway, I feel for the most part, not only have I learned to cope much better, I had been able to feel the confidence to take the lead in some parts of my life, one major part is in regards to my marriage.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>I think this is true in some respects, but I also think it depends alot on the person. </end quote></div>
And about perspective.
I may had developed a form of patience, perhaps due to the constant stomach aches I had during my childhood, but I don't think I handled too many things well, like girlfriend troubles and such, because I also considered myself a little bit 'sensitive' at times.
I feel I had a major 'awakening' during the last two years of my previous marriage, which had drastically changed my personal perspective, but I think one thing I may never be able to handle is the MIL, because as long as 'IT IS ALIVE', it'll be one thing I may never overcome. I was very open with the MIL in the early days of meeting her, but after so many obstacles she had 'thrown' in front of me, I found out yesterday that I just no longer have the patience for her. Perhaps it's the downside to some of the things I had to learn from my previous marriage (to which I'm sometimes haunted by), or it's the way I decided not to take any more S*** from someone who shows no respect for me.
I might be a "rare few" who didn't necessarily "grow up" like most others, perhaps because I let too many of the important things go, and got uptight about the things that weren't such a big deal...?
Anyway, I feel for the most part, not only have I learned to cope much better, I had been able to feel the confidence to take the lead in some parts of my life, one major part is in regards to my marriage.
thefrogprincess
New member
I dealt with stuff pretty well up until I started having depression. Then I flipped out over a customer yelling at me at work (even though it happens everyday, I'm behind 2 inches of bullet proof glass, and a lot of our customers are drunk or stoned). I swear I cried at anything, even an overdraft fee on my bank account. I felt like I was losing my mind. I went on meds and a couple months later I feel SO much better. The crack heads can yell at me all they want.
thefrogprincess
New member
I dealt with stuff pretty well up until I started having depression. Then I flipped out over a customer yelling at me at work (even though it happens everyday, I'm behind 2 inches of bullet proof glass, and a lot of our customers are drunk or stoned). I swear I cried at anything, even an overdraft fee on my bank account. I felt like I was losing my mind. I went on meds and a couple months later I feel SO much better. The crack heads can yell at me all they want.
thefrogprincess
New member
I dealt with stuff pretty well up until I started having depression. Then I flipped out over a customer yelling at me at work (even though it happens everyday, I'm behind 2 inches of bullet proof glass, and a lot of our customers are drunk or stoned). I swear I cried at anything, even an overdraft fee on my bank account. I felt like I was losing my mind. I went on meds and a couple months later I feel SO much better. The crack heads can yell at me all they want.
lightNlife
New member
I think for some people it does, but not for others. I think it has more to do with what sort of support system a person has in place. Me for example, I have an incredible husband (the respiratory therapists call him Mr. Phenomenal) and a wonderful extended family who has been there to encourage and support at every turn. They do this for me on ALL levels, not just CF. My husband and my relatives were there cheering me on while I finished college; they have been encouraging me every step of the way as I've become a writer.
I think that coping skills are an all or nothing issue. You are either the type of person with faith and fortitude to get you through whatever life hands you, or you're not. I saw first hand once how some people could go through the same crappy stuff that I did, and have it totally devastate them. I've also known people who, based on all the junk they've dealt with in life, should be better at coping with things that don't seem so major, but they aren't.
It's my theory (well, actually my friend Jim's theory) that there are two kinds of people in life. Those who can cope readily, and those whom he calls "toothpaste tube people." Toothpaste tube people are the ones who will never be any more mature about life than to be upset by their spouse who squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle.
CF doesn't make me better able to cope (though it certainly does make me more disciplined). I am able to cope because that's my character. I'm exactly the kind of person I was designed by God to be, and for better or worse, people in my life have continued to grow me in that character.
I think that coping skills are an all or nothing issue. You are either the type of person with faith and fortitude to get you through whatever life hands you, or you're not. I saw first hand once how some people could go through the same crappy stuff that I did, and have it totally devastate them. I've also known people who, based on all the junk they've dealt with in life, should be better at coping with things that don't seem so major, but they aren't.
It's my theory (well, actually my friend Jim's theory) that there are two kinds of people in life. Those who can cope readily, and those whom he calls "toothpaste tube people." Toothpaste tube people are the ones who will never be any more mature about life than to be upset by their spouse who squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle.
CF doesn't make me better able to cope (though it certainly does make me more disciplined). I am able to cope because that's my character. I'm exactly the kind of person I was designed by God to be, and for better or worse, people in my life have continued to grow me in that character.
lightNlife
New member
I think for some people it does, but not for others. I think it has more to do with what sort of support system a person has in place. Me for example, I have an incredible husband (the respiratory therapists call him Mr. Phenomenal) and a wonderful extended family who has been there to encourage and support at every turn. They do this for me on ALL levels, not just CF. My husband and my relatives were there cheering me on while I finished college; they have been encouraging me every step of the way as I've become a writer.
I think that coping skills are an all or nothing issue. You are either the type of person with faith and fortitude to get you through whatever life hands you, or you're not. I saw first hand once how some people could go through the same crappy stuff that I did, and have it totally devastate them. I've also known people who, based on all the junk they've dealt with in life, should be better at coping with things that don't seem so major, but they aren't.
It's my theory (well, actually my friend Jim's theory) that there are two kinds of people in life. Those who can cope readily, and those whom he calls "toothpaste tube people." Toothpaste tube people are the ones who will never be any more mature about life than to be upset by their spouse who squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle.
CF doesn't make me better able to cope (though it certainly does make me more disciplined). I am able to cope because that's my character. I'm exactly the kind of person I was designed by God to be, and for better or worse, people in my life have continued to grow me in that character.
I think that coping skills are an all or nothing issue. You are either the type of person with faith and fortitude to get you through whatever life hands you, or you're not. I saw first hand once how some people could go through the same crappy stuff that I did, and have it totally devastate them. I've also known people who, based on all the junk they've dealt with in life, should be better at coping with things that don't seem so major, but they aren't.
It's my theory (well, actually my friend Jim's theory) that there are two kinds of people in life. Those who can cope readily, and those whom he calls "toothpaste tube people." Toothpaste tube people are the ones who will never be any more mature about life than to be upset by their spouse who squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle.
CF doesn't make me better able to cope (though it certainly does make me more disciplined). I am able to cope because that's my character. I'm exactly the kind of person I was designed by God to be, and for better or worse, people in my life have continued to grow me in that character.
lightNlife
New member
I think for some people it does, but not for others. I think it has more to do with what sort of support system a person has in place. Me for example, I have an incredible husband (the respiratory therapists call him Mr. Phenomenal) and a wonderful extended family who has been there to encourage and support at every turn. They do this for me on ALL levels, not just CF. My husband and my relatives were there cheering me on while I finished college; they have been encouraging me every step of the way as I've become a writer.
I think that coping skills are an all or nothing issue. You are either the type of person with faith and fortitude to get you through whatever life hands you, or you're not. I saw first hand once how some people could go through the same crappy stuff that I did, and have it totally devastate them. I've also known people who, based on all the junk they've dealt with in life, should be better at coping with things that don't seem so major, but they aren't.
It's my theory (well, actually my friend Jim's theory) that there are two kinds of people in life. Those who can cope readily, and those whom he calls "toothpaste tube people." Toothpaste tube people are the ones who will never be any more mature about life than to be upset by their spouse who squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle.
CF doesn't make me better able to cope (though it certainly does make me more disciplined). I am able to cope because that's my character. I'm exactly the kind of person I was designed by God to be, and for better or worse, people in my life have continued to grow me in that character.
I think that coping skills are an all or nothing issue. You are either the type of person with faith and fortitude to get you through whatever life hands you, or you're not. I saw first hand once how some people could go through the same crappy stuff that I did, and have it totally devastate them. I've also known people who, based on all the junk they've dealt with in life, should be better at coping with things that don't seem so major, but they aren't.
It's my theory (well, actually my friend Jim's theory) that there are two kinds of people in life. Those who can cope readily, and those whom he calls "toothpaste tube people." Toothpaste tube people are the ones who will never be any more mature about life than to be upset by their spouse who squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle.
CF doesn't make me better able to cope (though it certainly does make me more disciplined). I am able to cope because that's my character. I'm exactly the kind of person I was designed by God to be, and for better or worse, people in my life have continued to grow me in that character.
I think that CF has made me able to handle bigger issues better. I still freak out over some small pointless issues but unfortunately that is my personality and how I was raised. But when there is a death, or sickness, or some other major issue I am the one who is calm and try to make others get through it. I think that is because I am used to bigger issues so I can cope with them.