CRYING OUT FOR HELP!

[Scarlett81]

i hardly even know what to say. before you start thinking about what will happen/could happen/or may not happen, i think you should give yourself a little time (a day, few days or a week...) to process all this emotionally and let yourself have a good cry about it. you have to let it out.
secondly, i strongly suggest you talk to someone about this, whether its a counselor at the fertility clinic (i'm sure they have nurses or counselors there), or a nurse or social worker at your cf clinic. i know this isn't neccesarily cf related, but to many of us, the cf center is like our family away from home and they have seen all types of situations like this. plus, to talk with them is free and they know your history both cf related and unrelated. i know when i was going through my 2 yr battle of hoping to be a mom, the social worker and whole staff for that matter had many long talks w me about my struggles. they listened, gave suggestions to get through it and gave hugs too.
remember that many of us on this site have been told that we COULDN'T. whether thats couldn't have a child, raise a child, go to college, own a home, make it to 12 yrs old....I firmly believe that anything is possible.
I remember my doctor telling me that she promised she would help me be a mom. One way or another, whether that was adopting a child or bearing a child. I think if you really truly want this, you should make yourself that promise too. It may take longer that you hoped, but promise yourself that you will see your child.

 

[Scarlett81]

i hardly even know what to say. before you start thinking about what will happen/could happen/or may not happen, i think you should give yourself a little time (a day, few days or a week...) to process all this emotionally and let yourself have a good cry about it. you have to let it out.
secondly, i strongly suggest you talk to someone about this, whether its a counselor at the fertility clinic (i'm sure they have nurses or counselors there), or a nurse or social worker at your cf clinic. i know this isn't neccesarily cf related, but to many of us, the cf center is like our family away from home and they have seen all types of situations like this. plus, to talk with them is free and they know your history both cf related and unrelated. i know when i was going through my 2 yr battle of hoping to be a mom, the social worker and whole staff for that matter had many long talks w me about my struggles. they listened, gave suggestions to get through it and gave hugs too.
remember that many of us on this site have been told that we COULDN'T. whether thats couldn't have a child, raise a child, go to college, own a home, make it to 12 yrs old....I firmly believe that anything is possible.
I remember my doctor telling me that she promised she would help me be a mom. One way or another, whether that was adopting a child or bearing a child. I think if you really truly want this, you should make yourself that promise too. It may take longer that you hoped, but promise yourself that you will see your child.

 

[Scarlett81]

i hardly even know what to say. before you start thinking about what will happen/could happen/or may not happen, i think you should give yourself a little time (a day, few days or a week...) to process all this emotionally and let yourself have a good cry about it. you have to let it out.
secondly, i strongly suggest you talk to someone about this, whether its a counselor at the fertility clinic (i'm sure they have nurses or counselors there), or a nurse or social worker at your cf clinic. i know this isn't neccesarily cf related, but to many of us, the cf center is like our family away from home and they have seen all types of situations like this. plus, to talk with them is free and they know your history both cf related and unrelated. i know when i was going through my 2 yr battle of hoping to be a mom, the social worker and whole staff for that matter had many long talks w me about my struggles. they listened, gave suggestions to get through it and gave hugs too.
remember that many of us on this site have been told that we COULDN'T. whether thats couldn't have a child, raise a child, go to college, own a home, make it to 12 yrs old....I firmly believe that anything is possible.
I remember my doctor telling me that she promised she would help me be a mom. One way or another, whether that was adopting a child or bearing a child. I think if you really truly want this, you should make yourself that promise too. It may take longer that you hoped, but promise yourself that you will see your child.

 

[Scarlett81]

i hardly even know what to say. before you start thinking about what will happen/could happen/or may not happen, i think you should give yourself a little time (a day, few days or a week...) to process all this emotionally and let yourself have a good cry about it. you have to let it out.
secondly, i strongly suggest you talk to someone about this, whether its a counselor at the fertility clinic (i'm sure they have nurses or counselors there), or a nurse or social worker at your cf clinic. i know this isn't neccesarily cf related, but to many of us, the cf center is like our family away from home and they have seen all types of situations like this. plus, to talk with them is free and they know your history both cf related and unrelated. i know when i was going through my 2 yr battle of hoping to be a mom, the social worker and whole staff for that matter had many long talks w me about my struggles. they listened, gave suggestions to get through it and gave hugs too.
remember that many of us on this site have been told that we COULDN'T. whether thats couldn't have a child, raise a child, go to college, own a home, make it to 12 yrs old....I firmly believe that anything is possible.
I remember my doctor telling me that she promised she would help me be a mom. One way or another, whether that was adopting a child or bearing a child. I think if you really truly want this, you should make yourself that promise too. It may take longer that you hoped, but promise yourself that you will see your child.

 

[Scarlett81]

i hardly even know what to say. before you start thinking about what will happen/could happen/or may not happen, i think you should give yourself a little time (a day, few days or a week...) to process all this emotionally and let yourself have a good cry about it. you have to let it out.
secondly, i strongly suggest you talk to someone about this, whether its a counselor at the fertility clinic (i'm sure they have nurses or counselors there), or a nurse or social worker at your cf clinic. i know this isn't neccesarily cf related, but to many of us, the cf center is like our family away from home and they have seen all types of situations like this. plus, to talk with them is free and they know your history both cf related and unrelated. i know when i was going through my 2 yr battle of hoping to be a mom, the social worker and whole staff for that matter had many long talks w me about my struggles. they listened, gave suggestions to get through it and gave hugs too.
remember that many of us on this site have been told that we COULDN'T. whether thats couldn't have a child, raise a child, go to college, own a home, make it to 12 yrs old....I firmly believe that anything is possible.
I remember my doctor telling me that she promised she would help me be a mom. One way or another, whether that was adopting a child or bearing a child. I think if you really truly want this, you should make yourself that promise too. It may take longer that you hoped, but promise yourself that you will see your child.

 

[Scarlett81]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bonniebaby</b></i>

Right now this is all a shock. You haven't been told it is impossible for you to have a child though. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">



Hugs,

Bonnie</end quote></div>

GREAT point! Jenny, the doctor didn't say that to you! If he thought this wasn't possible for you, believe me, he would have said right out to give up. For him to order further testing and send you to other docs to clear up your issues, he must think there is hope.

 

[Scarlett81]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bonniebaby</b></i>

Right now this is all a shock. You haven't been told it is impossible for you to have a child though. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">



Hugs,

Bonnie</end quote></div>

GREAT point! Jenny, the doctor didn't say that to you! If he thought this wasn't possible for you, believe me, he would have said right out to give up. For him to order further testing and send you to other docs to clear up your issues, he must think there is hope.

 

[Scarlett81]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bonniebaby</b></i>

Right now this is all a shock. You haven't been told it is impossible for you to have a child though. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">



Hugs,

Bonnie</end quote></div>

GREAT point! Jenny, the doctor didn't say that to you! If he thought this wasn't possible for you, believe me, he would have said right out to give up. For him to order further testing and send you to other docs to clear up your issues, he must think there is hope.

 

[Scarlett81]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bonniebaby</b></i>

Right now this is all a shock. You haven't been told it is impossible for you to have a child though. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">



Hugs,

Bonnie</end quote>

GREAT point! Jenny, the doctor didn't say that to you! If he thought this wasn't possible for you, believe me, he would have said right out to give up. For him to order further testing and send you to other docs to clear up your issues, he must think there is hope.

 

[Scarlett81]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bonniebaby</b></i>

Right now this is all a shock. You haven't been told it is impossible for you to have a child though. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">



Hugs,

Bonnie</end quote>

GREAT point! Jenny, the doctor didn't say that to you! If he thought this wasn't possible for you, believe me, he would have said right out to give up. For him to order further testing and send you to other docs to clear up your issues, he must think there is hope.

 

[Keepercjr]

Jenny

I don't have a lot of time to type but I'll try my best. I'm so sorry for that sucky appointment <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> But Bonnie is right - he didn't say "never". It will just take more time and maybe some more effort that you originally thought. I have a question - how does he know your right tube isn't pick up the eggs from your right ovary?? Is there a test for that?

Anyway I need to get going (Logan is sick) but I wanted to let you know I'm always here for you - and I doubt we'll be leaving the house today due to Logan's cold.

 

[Keepercjr]

Jenny

I don't have a lot of time to type but I'll try my best. I'm so sorry for that sucky appointment <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> But Bonnie is right - he didn't say "never". It will just take more time and maybe some more effort that you originally thought. I have a question - how does he know your right tube isn't pick up the eggs from your right ovary?? Is there a test for that?

Anyway I need to get going (Logan is sick) but I wanted to let you know I'm always here for you - and I doubt we'll be leaving the house today due to Logan's cold.

 

[Keepercjr]

Jenny

I don't have a lot of time to type but I'll try my best. I'm so sorry for that sucky appointment <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> But Bonnie is right - he didn't say "never". It will just take more time and maybe some more effort that you originally thought. I have a question - how does he know your right tube isn't pick up the eggs from your right ovary?? Is there a test for that?

Anyway I need to get going (Logan is sick) but I wanted to let you know I'm always here for you - and I doubt we'll be leaving the house today due to Logan's cold.

 

[Keepercjr]

Jenny

I don't have a lot of time to type but I'll try my best. I'm so sorry for that sucky appointment <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> But Bonnie is right - he didn't say "never". It will just take more time and maybe some more effort that you originally thought. I have a question - how does he know your right tube isn't pick up the eggs from your right ovary?? Is there a test for that?

Anyway I need to get going (Logan is sick) but I wanted to let you know I'm always here for you - and I doubt we'll be leaving the house today due to Logan's cold.

 

[Keepercjr]

Jenny

I don't have a lot of time to type but I'll try my best. I'm so sorry for that sucky appointment <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> But Bonnie is right - he didn't say "never". It will just take more time and maybe some more effort that you originally thought. I have a question - how does he know your right tube isn't pick up the eggs from your right ovary?? Is there a test for that?

Anyway I need to get going (Logan is sick) but I wanted to let you know I'm always here for you - and I doubt we'll be leaving the house today due to Logan's cold.

 

[rubyroselee]

Oh Jenny! I'm so sorry that it was such a disappointing appointment for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I'm sure it feels like the last two years of trying have been wasted and you weren't prepared to hear all that crappy news. But, like someone said, all hope is not lost. It sounds like you're right side's eggs are still good, they're just not able to get out. So, you still have options. Unfortunately, most of the remaining options are expensive. But maybe you could find some sort of financial assistance (for adoption or IVF) or help from a familiy member (for surrogacy).

I was told the same thing regarding my abdominal surgery. I was told one of my tubes could be blocked due to my meconium ileus surgery and the scar tissue. I never went through with the HSG to find out, but that very well could be the case on my right side. But there's nothing you can do about that. You had to have surgery to survive and you can't control things like that.

Give yourself some time for it to sink in and give yourself time to grieve. You've experienced a sort of "loss" in your life. Not sure what your beliefs are, but maybe this happened for a reason that you can't explain yet.

Keep us updated. It sounds like if the films are clear after your doctor looks at them, you can still go through with medicated IUI. There's still a chance <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Take it easy.
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Leah 26 w/CF, 10 weeks pregnant, mom to non-biological son born 2/4/07
<img src="http://i222.photobucket.com/albums/dd53/rubyroselee/Xmas07-MarieKens-LeahLandon.jpg">

 

[rubyroselee]

Oh Jenny! I'm so sorry that it was such a disappointing appointment for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I'm sure it feels like the last two years of trying have been wasted and you weren't prepared to hear all that crappy news. But, like someone said, all hope is not lost. It sounds like you're right side's eggs are still good, they're just not able to get out. So, you still have options. Unfortunately, most of the remaining options are expensive. But maybe you could find some sort of financial assistance (for adoption or IVF) or help from a familiy member (for surrogacy).

I was told the same thing regarding my abdominal surgery. I was told one of my tubes could be blocked due to my meconium ileus surgery and the scar tissue. I never went through with the HSG to find out, but that very well could be the case on my right side. But there's nothing you can do about that. You had to have surgery to survive and you can't control things like that.

Give yourself some time for it to sink in and give yourself time to grieve. You've experienced a sort of "loss" in your life. Not sure what your beliefs are, but maybe this happened for a reason that you can't explain yet.

Keep us updated. It sounds like if the films are clear after your doctor looks at them, you can still go through with medicated IUI. There's still a chance <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Take it easy.
<hr>
Leah 26 w/CF, 10 weeks pregnant, mom to non-biological son born 2/4/07
<img src="http://i222.photobucket.com/albums/dd53/rubyroselee/Xmas07-MarieKens-LeahLandon.jpg">

 

[rubyroselee]

Oh Jenny! I'm so sorry that it was such a disappointing appointment for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I'm sure it feels like the last two years of trying have been wasted and you weren't prepared to hear all that crappy news. But, like someone said, all hope is not lost. It sounds like you're right side's eggs are still good, they're just not able to get out. So, you still have options. Unfortunately, most of the remaining options are expensive. But maybe you could find some sort of financial assistance (for adoption or IVF) or help from a familiy member (for surrogacy).

I was told the same thing regarding my abdominal surgery. I was told one of my tubes could be blocked due to my meconium ileus surgery and the scar tissue. I never went through with the HSG to find out, but that very well could be the case on my right side. But there's nothing you can do about that. You had to have surgery to survive and you can't control things like that.

Give yourself some time for it to sink in and give yourself time to grieve. You've experienced a sort of "loss" in your life. Not sure what your beliefs are, but maybe this happened for a reason that you can't explain yet.

Keep us updated. It sounds like if the films are clear after your doctor looks at them, you can still go through with medicated IUI. There's still a chance <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Take it easy.
<hr>
Leah 26 w/CF, 10 weeks pregnant, mom to non-biological son born 2/4/07
<img src="http://i222.photobucket.com/albums/dd53/rubyroselee/Xmas07-MarieKens-LeahLandon.jpg">

 

[rubyroselee]

Oh Jenny! I'm so sorry that it was such a disappointing appointment for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I'm sure it feels like the last two years of trying have been wasted and you weren't prepared to hear all that crappy news. But, like someone said, all hope is not lost. It sounds like you're right side's eggs are still good, they're just not able to get out. So, you still have options. Unfortunately, most of the remaining options are expensive. But maybe you could find some sort of financial assistance (for adoption or IVF) or help from a familiy member (for surrogacy).

I was told the same thing regarding my abdominal surgery. I was told one of my tubes could be blocked due to my meconium ileus surgery and the scar tissue. I never went through with the HSG to find out, but that very well could be the case on my right side. But there's nothing you can do about that. You had to have surgery to survive and you can't control things like that.

Give yourself some time for it to sink in and give yourself time to grieve. You've experienced a sort of "loss" in your life. Not sure what your beliefs are, but maybe this happened for a reason that you can't explain yet.

Keep us updated. It sounds like if the films are clear after your doctor looks at them, you can still go through with medicated IUI. There's still a chance <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Take it easy.
<hr>
Leah 26 w/CF, 10 weeks pregnant, mom to non-biological son born 2/4/07
<img src="http://i222.photobucket.com/albums/dd53/rubyroselee/Xmas07-MarieKens-LeahLandon.jpg">

 

[rubyroselee]

Oh Jenny! I'm so sorry that it was such a disappointing appointment for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I'm sure it feels like the last two years of trying have been wasted and you weren't prepared to hear all that crappy news. But, like someone said, all hope is not lost. It sounds like you're right side's eggs are still good, they're just not able to get out. So, you still have options. Unfortunately, most of the remaining options are expensive. But maybe you could find some sort of financial assistance (for adoption or IVF) or help from a familiy member (for surrogacy).

I was told the same thing regarding my abdominal surgery. I was told one of my tubes could be blocked due to my meconium ileus surgery and the scar tissue. I never went through with the HSG to find out, but that very well could be the case on my right side. But there's nothing you can do about that. You had to have surgery to survive and you can't control things like that.

Give yourself some time for it to sink in and give yourself time to grieve. You've experienced a sort of "loss" in your life. Not sure what your beliefs are, but maybe this happened for a reason that you can't explain yet.

Keep us updated. It sounds like if the films are clear after your doctor looks at them, you can still go through with medicated IUI. There's still a chance <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Take it easy.
<hr>
Leah 26 w/CF, 10 weeks pregnant, mom to non-biological son born 2/4/07
<img src="http://i222.photobucket.com/albums/dd53/rubyroselee/Xmas07-MarieKens-LeahLandon.jpg">