My boyfriends best friend has CF (i have never met him) and he jus recently said he doesnt want to be around me because we both have CF. This is causing my bf to question our relationship and Im not sure yet whats going to happen. My question is that is it really so bad for two people with CF to be around each other? especially not in close contact and neither patient grows cepacia or pseudomonas and both he and I are extremely healthy.
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My boyfriends best friend has CF (i have never met him) and he jus recently said he doesnt want to be around me because we both have CF. This is causing my bf to question our relationship and Im not sure yet whats going to happen. My question is that is it really so bad for two people with CF to be around each other? especially not in close contact and neither patient grows cepacia or pseudomonas and both he and I are extremely healthy.
My boyfriends best friend has CF (i have never met him) and he jus recently said he doesnt want to be around me because we both have CF. This is causing my bf to question our relationship and Im not sure yet whats going to happen. My question is that is it really so bad for two people with CF to be around each other? especially not in close contact and neither patient grows cepacia or pseudomonas and both he and I are extremely healthy.
It's a tough question to answer and it probably comes down to the individual's discretion. There is always the chance for cross contamination, but you can find Pseudomonas (and increasingly MRSA) almost anywhere (the shower is a great place to find Pseudomonas). Personally, I live life to the fullest. I do have a few CF friends, some of whom I have met in person. These people are healthy as well and if they do culture something, it's generally pan-sensitive P. aeruginosa, which is what I culture as well. I don't think I would spend a great deal of time around someone who cultured a more insidious, hard to treat bacteria.
Unfortunately, it is not always easy to tell exactly what you have growing. Myself, for example. I have never been able to produce a sputum culture on demand. The only time I have a productive cough is if I am getting sick, so we rely on throat swabs. You never know though if you might be growing something deep in the lung and it's just not showing on the throat culture.
Speaking with his doc probably won't help either as they will err on the side of caution.
Unfortunately, it is not always easy to tell exactly what you have growing. Myself, for example. I have never been able to produce a sputum culture on demand. The only time I have a productive cough is if I am getting sick, so we rely on throat swabs. You never know though if you might be growing something deep in the lung and it's just not showing on the throat culture.
Speaking with his doc probably won't help either as they will err on the side of caution.
It's a tough question to answer and it probably comes down to the individual's discretion. There is always the chance for cross contamination, but you can find Pseudomonas (and increasingly MRSA) almost anywhere (the shower is a great place to find Pseudomonas). Personally, I live life to the fullest. I do have a few CF friends, some of whom I have met in person. These people are healthy as well and if they do culture something, it's generally pan-sensitive P. aeruginosa, which is what I culture as well. I don't think I would spend a great deal of time around someone who cultured a more insidious, hard to treat bacteria.
Unfortunately, it is not always easy to tell exactly what you have growing. Myself, for example. I have never been able to produce a sputum culture on demand. The only time I have a productive cough is if I am getting sick, so we rely on throat swabs. You never know though if you might be growing something deep in the lung and it's just not showing on the throat culture.
Speaking with his doc probably won't help either as they will err on the side of caution.
Unfortunately, it is not always easy to tell exactly what you have growing. Myself, for example. I have never been able to produce a sputum culture on demand. The only time I have a productive cough is if I am getting sick, so we rely on throat swabs. You never know though if you might be growing something deep in the lung and it's just not showing on the throat culture.
Speaking with his doc probably won't help either as they will err on the side of caution.
It's a tough question to answer and it probably comes down to the individual's discretion. There is always the chance for cross contamination, but you can find Pseudomonas (and increasingly MRSA) almost anywhere (the shower is a great place to find Pseudomonas). Personally, I live life to the fullest. I do have a few CF friends, some of whom I have met in person. These people are healthy as well and if they do culture something, it's generally pan-sensitive P. aeruginosa, which is what I culture as well. I don't think I would spend a great deal of time around someone who cultured a more insidious, hard to treat bacteria.
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<br />Unfortunately, it is not always easy to tell exactly what you have growing. Myself, for example. I have never been able to produce a sputum culture on demand. The only time I have a productive cough is if I am getting sick, so we rely on throat swabs. You never know though if you might be growing something deep in the lung and it's just not showing on the throat culture.
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<br />Speaking with his doc probably won't help either as they will err on the side of caution.
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<br />Unfortunately, it is not always easy to tell exactly what you have growing. Myself, for example. I have never been able to produce a sputum culture on demand. The only time I have a productive cough is if I am getting sick, so we rely on throat swabs. You never know though if you might be growing something deep in the lung and it's just not showing on the throat culture.
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<br />Speaking with his doc probably won't help either as they will err on the side of caution.
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hillthekhore
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He sounds like a pretty considerate guy.
My feeling is that you shouldn't become any sicker, and nor should his friend, as long as your boyfriend is hygienic in between hanging out with both of you. It's fairly obvious that he shouldn't hang out with both of you at the same time, but as long as he's careful to wash his hands (in fact, showering wouldn't be a bad idea either), he shouldn't transfer any harmful bacteria to you that he wouldn't have transferred even without being exposed to this other person with CF.
If he's willing to put in this small amount of effort, it shouldn't be a problem for both of you to spend time together. If it's still a problem for him and it ends your relationship, remember that there are other men out there; you'll fall in love again. His breaking up with you will not be the end of your dating life. There are a multitude of wonderful people out there, and you'll be able to find someone who can handle this small amount of extra care that a relationship with you requires.
My feeling is that you shouldn't become any sicker, and nor should his friend, as long as your boyfriend is hygienic in between hanging out with both of you. It's fairly obvious that he shouldn't hang out with both of you at the same time, but as long as he's careful to wash his hands (in fact, showering wouldn't be a bad idea either), he shouldn't transfer any harmful bacteria to you that he wouldn't have transferred even without being exposed to this other person with CF.
If he's willing to put in this small amount of effort, it shouldn't be a problem for both of you to spend time together. If it's still a problem for him and it ends your relationship, remember that there are other men out there; you'll fall in love again. His breaking up with you will not be the end of your dating life. There are a multitude of wonderful people out there, and you'll be able to find someone who can handle this small amount of extra care that a relationship with you requires.
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hillthekhore
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He sounds like a pretty considerate guy.
My feeling is that you shouldn't become any sicker, and nor should his friend, as long as your boyfriend is hygienic in between hanging out with both of you. It's fairly obvious that he shouldn't hang out with both of you at the same time, but as long as he's careful to wash his hands (in fact, showering wouldn't be a bad idea either), he shouldn't transfer any harmful bacteria to you that he wouldn't have transferred even without being exposed to this other person with CF.
If he's willing to put in this small amount of effort, it shouldn't be a problem for both of you to spend time together. If it's still a problem for him and it ends your relationship, remember that there are other men out there; you'll fall in love again. His breaking up with you will not be the end of your dating life. There are a multitude of wonderful people out there, and you'll be able to find someone who can handle this small amount of extra care that a relationship with you requires.
My feeling is that you shouldn't become any sicker, and nor should his friend, as long as your boyfriend is hygienic in between hanging out with both of you. It's fairly obvious that he shouldn't hang out with both of you at the same time, but as long as he's careful to wash his hands (in fact, showering wouldn't be a bad idea either), he shouldn't transfer any harmful bacteria to you that he wouldn't have transferred even without being exposed to this other person with CF.
If he's willing to put in this small amount of effort, it shouldn't be a problem for both of you to spend time together. If it's still a problem for him and it ends your relationship, remember that there are other men out there; you'll fall in love again. His breaking up with you will not be the end of your dating life. There are a multitude of wonderful people out there, and you'll be able to find someone who can handle this small amount of extra care that a relationship with you requires.
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hillthekhore
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He sounds like a pretty considerate guy.
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<br />My feeling is that you shouldn't become any sicker, and nor should his friend, as long as your boyfriend is hygienic in between hanging out with both of you. It's fairly obvious that he shouldn't hang out with both of you at the same time, but as long as he's careful to wash his hands (in fact, showering wouldn't be a bad idea either), he shouldn't transfer any harmful bacteria to you that he wouldn't have transferred even without being exposed to this other person with CF.
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<br />If he's willing to put in this small amount of effort, it shouldn't be a problem for both of you to spend time together. If it's still a problem for him and it ends your relationship, remember that there are other men out there; you'll fall in love again. His breaking up with you will not be the end of your dating life. There are a multitude of wonderful people out there, and you'll be able to find someone who can handle this small amount of extra care that a relationship with you requires.
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<br />My feeling is that you shouldn't become any sicker, and nor should his friend, as long as your boyfriend is hygienic in between hanging out with both of you. It's fairly obvious that he shouldn't hang out with both of you at the same time, but as long as he's careful to wash his hands (in fact, showering wouldn't be a bad idea either), he shouldn't transfer any harmful bacteria to you that he wouldn't have transferred even without being exposed to this other person with CF.
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<br />If he's willing to put in this small amount of effort, it shouldn't be a problem for both of you to spend time together. If it's still a problem for him and it ends your relationship, remember that there are other men out there; you'll fall in love again. His breaking up with you will not be the end of your dating life. There are a multitude of wonderful people out there, and you'll be able to find someone who can handle this small amount of extra care that a relationship with you requires.
@ hillthekhore,
You make a good point. If he is unwilling to take a little extra care, or even give up some time with his best friend for the sake of the relationship, it makes you wonder how he will react if the OP's health declines to the point where much more effort is required to sustain the relationship.
You make a good point. If he is unwilling to take a little extra care, or even give up some time with his best friend for the sake of the relationship, it makes you wonder how he will react if the OP's health declines to the point where much more effort is required to sustain the relationship.
@ hillthekhore,
You make a good point. If he is unwilling to take a little extra care, or even give up some time with his best friend for the sake of the relationship, it makes you wonder how he will react if the OP's health declines to the point where much more effort is required to sustain the relationship.
You make a good point. If he is unwilling to take a little extra care, or even give up some time with his best friend for the sake of the relationship, it makes you wonder how he will react if the OP's health declines to the point where much more effort is required to sustain the relationship.
@ hillthekhore,
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<br />You make a good point. If he is unwilling to take a little extra care, or even give up some time with his best friend for the sake of the relationship, it makes you wonder how he will react if the OP's health declines to the point where much more effort is required to sustain the relationship.
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<br />You make a good point. If he is unwilling to take a little extra care, or even give up some time with his best friend for the sake of the relationship, it makes you wonder how he will react if the OP's health declines to the point where much more effort is required to sustain the relationship.
thanks guys. well we ended up breaking things off, not because he doesnt want to take the time but its too hard for him to always have to choose between his gf and best friend and end up hurting one of us. And this is his lifelong best friend so I cant ask him to pick me over him.
he is a very considerate guy and is only looking out for the health of two people who are close to him I guess.
anyways thanks for the replies <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
he is a very considerate guy and is only looking out for the health of two people who are close to him I guess.
anyways thanks for the replies <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
thanks guys. well we ended up breaking things off, not because he doesnt want to take the time but its too hard for him to always have to choose between his gf and best friend and end up hurting one of us. And this is his lifelong best friend so I cant ask him to pick me over him.
he is a very considerate guy and is only looking out for the health of two people who are close to him I guess.
anyways thanks for the replies <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
he is a very considerate guy and is only looking out for the health of two people who are close to him I guess.
anyways thanks for the replies <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
thanks guys. well we ended up breaking things off, not because he doesnt want to take the time but its too hard for him to always have to choose between his gf and best friend and end up hurting one of us. And this is his lifelong best friend so I cant ask him to pick me over him.
<br />he is a very considerate guy and is only looking out for the health of two people who are close to him I guess.
<br />anyways thanks for the replies <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
<br />he is a very considerate guy and is only looking out for the health of two people who are close to him I guess.
<br />anyways thanks for the replies <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">